Kate Simmons
03-04-2008, 07:57 PM
Everyone seems to have the need to fit in somewhere. It's natural and as social creatures, humans are no different. We go to great lengths to please others sometimes because we want to be liked and well received.If we are "followers", we do our best to be like those we admire, sometimes losing ourselves in the process(i.e. Wow, if Sally did this, I should too). If we are "leaders", we may like the fact that others see fit to copy what we do and even though it may not go to our head per se, we have satisfaction knowing we are admired.
Cultures and sub cultures alike follow the same "formula" it seems and the TG community is no different fom the rest of "society" in this respect. While I realize it's nice to find others who share our particular passtime, just where does one draw the line between being "in the group" as it were and being an individual?
There is nothing wrong with posting pictures, telling experiences and adventures of going out en femme but I sometimes wonder what the point of it all is myself and most of the stuff I do or have done will never see print because it has meaning to myself and myself only. My main reason for being here is to see how my friends are doing and to encourage others in a positive way if possible.
Being positive to me includes being an individual, very much so and I encourage that as much as possible as well as truely getting in touch with the feelings that drive this whole thing, even if we do not fully understand them. That does not mean we have to be a "loner" though. We can be an individual and still be with our friends at the same time. What it does not mean is that we have to compromise who we are as a person to fit in. Diversity is what it is all about to me and my greatest joy is seeing a friend enjoying being themself and that is the very reason I do not expect nor do I want anyone to copy what I do. You hang out with me, you learn very quickly to pull your own "weight" and to be your own person. It's the only real way to do it and is fun in the process, fun I would never take away from anyone.
I'm all for helpful advice but in all reality it's our show, our sandbox, our playground. We are producer and director and call the shots and we move at our own pace and we make all the decisions. It's great to want to fit in but the best way to do it is to be ourselves.:)
Cultures and sub cultures alike follow the same "formula" it seems and the TG community is no different fom the rest of "society" in this respect. While I realize it's nice to find others who share our particular passtime, just where does one draw the line between being "in the group" as it were and being an individual?
There is nothing wrong with posting pictures, telling experiences and adventures of going out en femme but I sometimes wonder what the point of it all is myself and most of the stuff I do or have done will never see print because it has meaning to myself and myself only. My main reason for being here is to see how my friends are doing and to encourage others in a positive way if possible.
Being positive to me includes being an individual, very much so and I encourage that as much as possible as well as truely getting in touch with the feelings that drive this whole thing, even if we do not fully understand them. That does not mean we have to be a "loner" though. We can be an individual and still be with our friends at the same time. What it does not mean is that we have to compromise who we are as a person to fit in. Diversity is what it is all about to me and my greatest joy is seeing a friend enjoying being themself and that is the very reason I do not expect nor do I want anyone to copy what I do. You hang out with me, you learn very quickly to pull your own "weight" and to be your own person. It's the only real way to do it and is fun in the process, fun I would never take away from anyone.
I'm all for helpful advice but in all reality it's our show, our sandbox, our playground. We are producer and director and call the shots and we move at our own pace and we make all the decisions. It's great to want to fit in but the best way to do it is to be ourselves.:)