Coming out

[Jada Rose]

Tonight, I came out to one of my brothers. I must say, I was terrified to, because not only is he family, but he is also my best friend.( aside from my wife) He said that he didn't think any less of me, but he would rather not see it. I told him that I could respect that and wouldn't. He doesn't need to know that I always wear panties or hose.:heehee: I was pretty sure that he would say something to that effect, but I'm so glad that he still values our friendship. Was I wrong for feeling that I should tell him?

[Amy Hepker]

No, you were not wrong. It is better that people find out from you then from someone else. They can handle it better that way. Could you see your brother fighting someone because they said you wear girls clothes, and then find out they were right.

[susan2010]

You were not wrong. I wish I had the nerve to tell my family and a few friends. Sounds like your brother will be okay with it, and that's great; one less person to hide that part of you from. I often wonder... if I told my brothers and sister would they say "I thought something was going on with you when you were young." Did your brother have any clues?

[Deborah Jane]

I think you were right to tell him if you felt the need. I,m glad it went well for you. I,m still trying to pluck up the courage to tell my sister.

[Carly D.]

Jada Rose: balls is what you've got.. that will probably be deleted but I wish I could do that.. I'm close to my older brother but have never had the inkling to tell him that I crossdress, and just like you, I dress or did dress is some form for the better part of the last decade into the first three years of this decade.. I would wear at least a thong (I'm a thong guy/grrl) and would wear pantyhose or tights to work in the winter, they're like long johns (not really but that's what I would have told anyone had they found out I was wearing them)...

[Mary Morgan]

People tend to change their opinion about issues when they have more information, when it becomes personal, when it is family. I believe that ultimate acceptance of transgendered people will come from talking first to family then friends, and removing the mystery. congratulation on promoting your own freedom as well as that of all of us.

[Seville]

Plenty of stories abound on this forum about
being disowned by siblings and parents,
myself included.

I hope it goes well for you, my friend!

[Myojine]

hmmm my parents called the cops on me when i was 16 and had my removed from there home...but they didnt know i was a crossdressor and they still dont know...

[DemonicDaughter]

It takes a great deal of courage to tell anyone intimate details about yourself, much less something they may not readily understand. I give you a lot of credit and respect for telling your brother. You go, hunnie!!!

:love:

[Shelly Preston]

Telling anyone is always a difficult choice

I am glad it all worked out to a happy ending

[Kate Simmons]

Who you decide to tell ot not tell is always a personal decision. As far as family, you know them better than anyone else.:)

[TerriM]

I think before you tell anyone, especially a family member, you should ask yourself why are you telling them? What purpose does it have? Is it just to make you feel more excepted? I have often thought of telling a family member. The only one who knows is my wife. You must also remember that when you tell someone you are placing the burden of keeping a secret on that person, unless you don't care who the person tells. I am very close to my brother and we have gone through a lot of things together. But I don't want to lose or damage that realtionship I have with him or at least take the chance of that happening.
Yours Terri