Family Almost Found Out

[brandi141]

few nights ago i was tryin to put new pics on here to show you girls and i couldn't figure it out so i went to my myspace and put them on there and tried to copy paste here. while doin so my cousin that i live with was at another cousins house and just happend to be lookin at my pics the exact same time i was doin the pics. he called me right away and said "dude i just saw the gayest thing you ever done wtf." i said that girls from my work dressed me up and took pics and i dont mind it at all.he was still not convinced and thought i was gay. i reasured him im not n that i actually had sex with couple of them.lol i did it dressed and loved it. I told him dressin as a girl has nothin what so ever with bein gay.nothin. he didnt care what i had to say at that point.i have all family livin with me now and my dressin days might be over which is sad cause i just bid on new breast forms and really lookin forward to them. if you girl have advice please help.:hugs:

[Shelly67]

Get youre own apartment. And as for the gayest thing ............well , perhaps some folks need to realize - gay , straight , bi , whatever , we all have feelings .
I still fear that in certain parts of this materialistic world there maybe some who still throw rocks at a full moon .........

Just be you , enjoy life , and be proud .

Good luck with those forms !!!

[DemonicDaughter]

Don't let other people discourage you! As long as you know who you are, that's all that really matters. Though you might be limited for the time being, once you have your own place, you can do as you wish and what they say won't matter. Keep your chin up hunnie, we're all here for you.

:love:

[Joan Merrie]

Tell him ,Yes I had a gay ol time. Rember the flintstone's theme song, Gay as in happy, fun, great.:hugs::)

[RobertaFermina]

A little pushback is a fine alternative to cringing in fear !

My sense is he is really embarrassed, uncomfortable with his own sexuality, or relishing the opportunity to needle you, or all the above.

Time for some Dorky Fun?

So do what guys do to needling dorks....Poke them with the same needle, of course !

"So are you afraid you might be gay ?" (....not that there's anything wrong with that!)
"Would putting on a pair of high heels make you tumble for the guys?"
if he says "no", say "not me either".

etc.


also this futile attempt to reason with a dork:

"Hey, gay men like men, manly men....like you and me when we're not wearing high heels." (that might rattle him).
"gay men do not seek out straight men wearing women's clothes, its like trolling for women with beards. No Soap!"

somewhere in there "I for one prefer women and I'm not nervous at all around gay people or anyone, because I know who I am."

and if he's really being a dork, "you better hope I'm not gay cause, buddy, it takes one to know one!"

this is all crap, but since he's being so juvenile, he probably couldn't tell the difference.

It could be fun if you get into the spirit of it. If yo put him into an uncomfortable place, and establish a little "dominance" doing it, he will see you more as an "alpha male" alongside the part he can't deal with. That measure of respect could be the difference between being thought of as "really gay, wtf", and "simply odd."

bear in mind, "really gay, wtf" is HIS language and state of mind, NOT MINE! I chalk using this language up to , "being able to think like a dork if you are going to fight with a dork."

The best you can hope for is he will think you are strange, and leave it be.

If his buddies saw your pictures too, and he identified you to them as his cousin....well think about it, he will have to make you out to be such an extreme "wuss" that his buddies won't think that he could be infected with the same germ. You know, the juvenile art of beating the "different one" to a pulp to prove you are not like them....

Hope for the Best!

:rose: Good Luck! :rose:

[deja true]

Yeah, brandi... You're big mistake was putting pics on MYspace, the MOST public forum in the universe. And the one with the most dorks and pervs, too.

Read up on the instructions on posting photos to the secure place here (most forget about the size limit, that's what makes it hard.).

If you left those pics on myspace, you'll probably find a couple hundred 'friend requests' that you haven't bargained for. Oooops.

deja

[brandi141]

i took them off myspace. i didnt know any other way to transfer the photos to here. i still havent put them on here yet. want to bad. kinda want feedback on how i look. thank you all for the advice. he actually left it alone so im not sayin anything either. ya when i get my own place i hope to be dressed as much possible.i have no problem bein round gay people either i have a friend that came out after highschool and been to gay club with him and my x and wore makeup. was way fun the x girlfriend had the idea of makeup.lol people in there kept sayin you not gay huh, why are you in here i just said cause im with friend and want to check it out. i would feel way comfortable goin there as brandi.