sandra-leigh
03-20-2008, 01:17 AM
In the MTF crossdressing forum, about once a week or so, someone challenges MTF CD'ers (and TS) with an argument that goes roughly,
"Suppose one day you came home and your wife told you she wanted to dress as a guy and be called by a male name" (etc., other behaviours or transformations akin to those of MTF.)
And several people usually reply along the lines of "Oh, wow!" -- and no serious development of the premise ever seems to occur. It is sort of as if just by presenting the premise, we MTF are supposed to "smarten up", or grok our wives' complete feelings, or Know What To Do, or something like that.
I imagine the same sort of "turning the tables" premise must get raised in transmen discussions as well?
In the interests of actually going somewhere with the premise, I would like to ask here, "Did something akin to that premise actually happen to some of the people here" (that is, a wife "coming out" to her husband or long term male partner as wanting to be treated as male at least part time)? (I've read some of the histories here, but did not happen to see this particular GG+GM situation mentioned.)
And taking the logical step beyond that: are there some GM readers here that this particular situation (normal seeming relationship, then the wife declares a FTM interest), who might be willing to post in the FTM forum about their experiences when it happened to them?
"Suppose one day you came home and your wife told you she wanted to dress as a guy and be called by a male name" (etc., other behaviours or transformations akin to those of MTF.)
And several people usually reply along the lines of "Oh, wow!" -- and no serious development of the premise ever seems to occur. It is sort of as if just by presenting the premise, we MTF are supposed to "smarten up", or grok our wives' complete feelings, or Know What To Do, or something like that.
I imagine the same sort of "turning the tables" premise must get raised in transmen discussions as well?
In the interests of actually going somewhere with the premise, I would like to ask here, "Did something akin to that premise actually happen to some of the people here" (that is, a wife "coming out" to her husband or long term male partner as wanting to be treated as male at least part time)? (I've read some of the histories here, but did not happen to see this particular GG+GM situation mentioned.)
And taking the logical step beyond that: are there some GM readers here that this particular situation (normal seeming relationship, then the wife declares a FTM interest), who might be willing to post in the FTM forum about their experiences when it happened to them?