Talked to wife

[Paula1950]

Hi Girls

Yesterday I got the courage to talk to my wife. I sat her down and held her and told her how I felt about her. Then I told her about me. I told her I felt like a woman was in me and sometimes I would let her out. I told her I would do it when she was not around and did not see me. I told her I would like to let my fem side out a little more if she did not mind. I told her I would like to dress as a woman around the house more. And if she would not mind sharing myself with her. She was shocked when I told her. She had a surprised look on her face and at first did not say a word. I thought she was mad at fist for me telling her. Then she told me she thought i would ask her one day. She told me she found my clothes and was wondering when I was going to tell her. She told me that I could wear womans clothes around the house but no wig or make up. I hugged her very close and told her how much I loved her. I showered and I but on a very sexy night gown and panties that night. I am so happy that I talked to her. Now I keep my fem things in the open I am so thrilled. Thank you all for the help. I don't know if I did not have you girls to give me advise that I could do it. Thank you all so very much.


Hugs
Love you all
Paula

[Lora Olivia]

Good for you Paula and good on your wife. Go slow and let her set the limits a bit and by all means buy her some flowers or chocolates or something nice.

[Alana65]

Paula,

I agree with Lora.....take it slow, let your SO set the pace. If you push too hard, you may go beyond your SO's "comfort zone" and her support will fade. Good luck being Paula.

:hugs:

Alana

[Michelle-NC]

Way to go Paula! It takes courage to tell someone, especially someone as close to you as your wife. We all fear rejection, and mostly from those we love.

[debbeelee1]

Good going! Just like the others say, take it slow and easy!:fairy1:

[Ana5551]

Good for you, do take it at her pace. Number one thing though...make sure she knows she still has a husband and show her numerous ways how much you love her. There is another woman in your life and she might begin to feel that she is in competition. Good luck.

[deja true]

And very important....Bring Her Here!


Show her that she is not alone either. There are scores of women here she can talk to about her misgivings and fears. She can share in what this has meant to hundreds of folks just like you and she.

In fact, your low post count can show her that supportive conversation like you found here can help her, too.

blessings on you both...

respect & love

deja

[DemonicDaughter]

That is absolutely wonderful! I agree with Deja, bring her here and let her get a good understanding of CDing, the community, etc. :D We'd love to meet another understanding SO.
:love:

[SherriePall]

Paula -- Good for you. You are very lucky to have your wife so understanding. Especially, since she already knew and hadn't exploded before you told her. Take it slow and let her know how special she is.

[O2B Barbara]

I am happy for you, talk about a major stress reduction!

[Angie G]

That's great news Paula I so happy for you wife is one of a very special few.
I know how happy you are my wife is also one of them. :hugs:
Angie

[Tammy298]

Congratulations Paula!

It's great that you can share this very important part of who you are with your wife. I agree with what others have already said. Go slow with the CDing and don't stop being a man, and in my opinion for now, continue to be a man most of the time. See how she reacts to "Paula" verses "Paul". If you're lucky, she might even warm up to Paula and ask where she is. If not, wait awhile and ask her if she misses Paula, or just ask who she might want to be with for the day/evening/night, "Paul" or "Paula".

I'm luck, my wife who knew and accepted my CDing before we were married, buys me panties occasionally. She really enjoys it when I wear stocking to bed. That's the best part! :o

[kateyk]

That is wonderful - encourage her to join the loved ones section - I find it very informative and nice to read\talk to other loved ones about things going on in my own mind with my own feelings.:hugs:

[gennee]

:hugs:That's so wonderful, Paula. It will take time for your wife to digest it all but I think you're going to be fine.

Gennee

[Paula1950]

Hi Girls

Thank you all for the support. I don't think I could have asked my wife about dressing with out you girls on me side.
I have to tell all you girls that my wife when shopping today and came home with a surprise for me. I looked at her and she gave me a package all wrapped up and a bow on it. She had a gleam i her eyes. I open the package and it was from Victoria Secret. I did not know what to expect. I opened it and it was a very sexy night gown and panties. When I saw it I had tears in my eyes. I could not believe she did that for me. She told me to wear it to bed tonight. And she also told me I will have more surprises to come. I think she accepts me dressing. I hope she is doing this because she approves and not just to make me happy. I can't wait to shower tonight and put it on.

Hugs
Paula

[paulap]

That is a wonderful story and congratulations on your gift!

[DanaR]

Hi Girls

Thank you all for the support. I don't think I could have asked my wife about dressing with out you girls on me side.
I have to tell all you girls that my wife when shopping today and came home with a surprise for me. I looked at her and she gave me a package all wrapped up and a bow on it. She had a gleam i her eyes. I open the package and it was from Victoria Secret. I did not know what to expect. I opened it and it was a very sexy night gown and panties. When I saw it I had tears in my eyes. I could not believe she did that for me. She told me to wear it to bed tonight. And she also told me I will have more surprises to come. I think she accepts me dressing. I hope she is doing this because she approves and not just to make me happy. I can't wait to shower tonight and put it on.

Hugs
Paula

My guess is she probably doesn't totally understand or isn't totally accepting, but she loves you and is trying to show it.

I've had the similar reaction from my wife. Deep down my wife would probably prefer that I didn't crossdress, but has come to realize that it is a part of me. My wife isn't a lesbian, but is treating more like a girlfriend all of the time. Sometimes when we are out (just having fun and I'm not dressed) and I'll do something like not carry her bag, she'll say a girlfriend would do that. Anyway we joke around about some things and try to have fun.

Remember to be considerate and show her some compassion as well. It sounds like she loves you very much.

Take care,

[Amy Hepker]

I would still be careful and ask her again how she feels about it since you have been dressing around her. She may have second thoughts about it, now that she has seen it. The biggest thing is keep her happy since you are happy. Don't forget her and do not let your dressing get in the way of your relationship, meaning don't plan on dressing some night and then she says let's go out and you don't want to because you wanted to dress. That is the fastest way to make a good thing bad. Remember she come 1st!!! Do the cleaning and the cooking. Be gentle, understanding and caring.

[Tammy298]

Great news Paula!
By her reaction, it sounds as if she likes the idea of seeing the girlie side of you!:battingeyelashes:
I hope you keep us posted on what else she buys for you or otherwise, supports seeing more of Paula!:D