So much to let out

[Bethany38]

Hi all,

I have posted a few times and now am starting to explore even more of my alter self. My wife is very supportiveso no problems there. I am having problems with my overall look, I would truly like to improve there. I just left the pics section and wish I looked as stunning as a lot of you. I was wanting to know if any of you enjoy sex while dressed? My wife and I do and I find this lots of fun. Also how can I work on my voice? Is there anyone I can talk with to help with my many ?'s about my new other half? I feel very confused today it could just be the rainy day. My wife makes an excellent confidont, but since we are both new neither one of us have much experience. I really wish I knew more who are like me. I only have this place to talk and vent. I guess all I can really do for the moment is than all of you girls for being here and listening to the ramblings of a newbee. Thank all of you sooo much.

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

You are not alone Bethany. Every woman and every man has things about the way they look that they would love to change. Anyone that says they don't are just fooling themselves. If I had the ability to look like some of the beautiful woman we see on TV I would become a full time Cd because it would be wonderful to look like a real GG that is "hot". Instead I am just me with all the flaws and that will have to be OK, the same goes for you. just enjoy who you are and have fun with the way you look, love yourself, it is the only way that you can ever be truly happy.

[DemonicDaughter]

There are TONS of amazing threads with fabulous advice right here in forums. Its a bit of reading but a lot of it is worth it.

Then there's YouTube. Videos on make, crossdressing, voices, etc. Nothing like a good visual to help cement an idea.

There's also a section in forums about links to other sites such as TGLife.com. Just the right place for a budding CDer.

Best of luck and let us know how it goes. :D

[1950sclothes]

I don't care if I look like an old woman. In fact, I can't wait till I am older when I think it's harder to tell a man from a woman when dressed.

[deja true]

Since it's a rainy day, Bethany, just sit your little butt down and start reading the years and years worth of threads in the archives that cover all your questions and more.

Visit lots of other sites, especially those linked by some of our girls here.

Take your time, your new found "alter" is not gonna go away any time soon. In fact, you and your wife have another "life partner" to deal with.

Respect her, treat her well, she'll reward you both with a relationship that'll make you all closer than any you've ever known...

Got a bookstore in your town? Go get "My husband Betty" by Helen Boyd. Your wife, especially, will appreciate the wisdom and information in that little book.

Above all, "to thine own self be true".

respect & love,

deja


(in Japan, crossdressers often refer to their femme side as "my new half".)

[melissacd]

Bethany,

I agree with the others that this is a great site and resource for learning, dealing with feelings, getting new ideas and making new friends, some of whom you will eventually meet face to face.

So much of this is just experimenting, trying things to see what works and what does not. Put together an outfit and take a picture and if you are comfortable enough post it and ask for an honest response and you will get many.

I have made many friends and met many people face to face and that has helped me immensely. I have joined a local cross dresser club and gone to their dinners and week-ends away and that has been great for building friendships, gaining confidence in going out in public and getting honest feedback.

The good thing is that you seem to have a partner who will help you move forward in these steps, many of us have to do this on our own.

Take it baby step at a time, build your confidence, find what works for you and what makes you happy. It will all work out just fine.

Huggs
Melissa

[DanaR]

Bethany,

There have some excellent suggestions made with idea's that you might be able to try. Another thing that you might try is a convention. The cost of the conventions might make them hard to reach, but if you have a chance, go. You'll have a chance to meet a lot of very nice people from all over the world and be a girl every day. They also have classes or seminars for you and your SO. If you live somewhere where there is a local group, check them out as well.

[slamddoger]

yes there is a lot to leren on crossdressing so it is best to work on one thing at time