has anyone else had this problem

[shirley1]

hi what it is - is that as a predominantly in the closet dresser up to recently at least i have still managed to aquire a full amount of femme clothes - in fact i reckon i've got more femme clothes than male clothes now (scary!) but the problem is that now that i have started to go out all be of an evening i am now starting to think about what i can actually get away with wearing out - trying to put outfits together as you dont really have to worry about things neccessarily matching or fitting just right when you stop indoors

because i have never been able to try things on before buying sometimes the fit isnt perfect - but if you go out you need things to fit and look right - some of the stuff i like the best i dont think i would be brave enough to wear out ie shorter skirts, lower cut tops ect

god i cant wait for the day when i can actually shop en femme and be able to try on first and see how things look on me before purchasing ! i mean no gg would buy stuff before trying on would they - well not unless they were taking a chance ordering on line - you can waste a lot of money on things sometimes !

[TGMarla]

Yes, I have had this same problem. I'm not planning on going out all dressed up, but the problem of having clothes fit that I have not yet had the chance to try on has cropped up on several occasions. Most recently, I bought a beautiful dress that I just barely squeeze into, and then have very restricted movement in it. So that sucks. But it is what it is. I have a lot of stuff that fits me fine, and I just deal with it.

[Nicki B]

So, buy stuff from places you can take it back and exchange? :)

That's a pretty normal thing for guys to do, if they're buying on spec for their other halves?

[shirley1]

your right nicki - but i also now see why so many cders buy their femme clothes from department stores like m & s and even asda that way they can use the male changing rooms - if youd got the nerve to do it in drab could you try on in say dorothy perkins or do you have to be dressed en femme to do so ? is using the womens changing rooms a bit like using the rest room ie you have to use the one you are presenting yourself as ?

[jennifer41356]

its the best thing to go and try on the outfits first..I have saved a bunch of cash, by trying it on first, sometimes things look better on the rack than on me:eek:

[Dalece]

I did that with a pair of gaucho pants they didn't fit right at home I took them back and got a smaller size. That felt great.:heehee: I have gone shopping in both Modes.

[Rachel Morley]

Hi Shirley,

Ah ... yes .... now this is a problem that I think is not immediately obvious to many. At least it wasn't to me. When I was a closet CD who never went out at all, I had lots of lovely clothes that were totally fun for me to wear at home. However, outside in the big wide world .... they were totally inappropriate!

Going out is a whole new world that needs a lot of thought about what you're going to wear. What's the answer? ... I went to the mall and checked out the clearance section and sale racks. You'll get some great bargains, it'll also be stuff that you can wear in daylight public outings without feeling self consciousness about what you're wearing. You'll already going to have plenty of other self conscious thoughts as it is (if it's your first few times out) you don't need any more! I assume it's the same in the UK, (you are from the UK - right?) but here in the US you can take pretty much take anything you don't like back for a refund ... with no questions asked, just as long as you have the receipt .... in fact, you don't always even need that!

Good luck and have a great time ...out!

[sissystephanie]

First of all, before you go shopping take the time to figure out your sizes. There are plenty of places on line that will tell you how to measure yourself properly. That is still not going to assure you of getting the proper fit, since the companies that make clothes don't all use the same basic measurements. But it will defininetly help.

Secondly, many stores will let you try things on, even if you are in drab. I don't know where you are located, but Avenue and Catherine's both will let men try on women's clothes. I know because I have done it in both stores. I have also tried on things in Victoria's Secret, Nordstrom's and Macy's. In each store I was directed to a ladies dressing room. I usually shop wearing womens clothes, but no makeup or wig. So I am defininetly a man enfemme!

In fact, earlier today (Saturday) I bought some new panties at a local Nordstrom. The SA took me to a dressing room so I could try them on, after finding out that I was wearing panties at the time.(Health reasons!). I actually was dressed totally enfemme in a pants suit with a deep v-neck sweater with revealed my lacey camisole.

As far as quantity of clothes go, I have 1 1/2 closets of male clothing, and 3 1/2 of female clothing. Plus I have more feminine things in storage. I know, way too many things!!:D I see it, I like it, and I buy it!

Sissy/Stephanie

Girl on the outside, man underneath!

[tricia_uktv]

This may be a big step Shirley, but go out in drab to a boutique, when its quiet. Specialist boutiques are better than department stores. Explain to them that you are cd upfront and need help because you want to go out. They will help you I promise - and on most occasions I have been able to use the changing rooms.

[Theresa9]

Here's what I do whether I am in thrift store like goodwill or a regular dep't store. I take 2 o3 guy items into dressing room with 1 or 2 girl items. The people that count how many items you take into the dressing rooms see the fem clothes and never say anything.

Some dep't stores don't even count your stuff they unlock dressing room and don't see the fem clothes.:daydreaming:

[Angie G]

I don't understand why they don't make sizes like a 12. I've seen 2 size 12's fit and not fit. what's up wityh that. :hugs:
Angie

[jessielee]

figuring out the trickines of sizing has wasted my money too. i'm grateful some of my misses could be shared with other dressers who they work for. but others were written off as experience. i'm not going to try things on in drab nor go shopping dressed!
out here, them's lynchin' offenses.
chicken,
jessie

[RitaCD]

I learned long ago what a hassle it is to return fem items because of incorrect sizing. Now whether I'm dressed en femme or en drab I just ask the SA if I can try on the item I am interested in. Most of the time they say yes. I have even had the SA bring other sizes or even suggest other items on occasion. Just ask. They might say yes.

[CharleneT]

NOT to hijack this thread over to the dark side of discussing women's clothing sizes ... but ...

When buying clothes via mail/internet, be careful if they are "vintage", the sizes can be VERY different that todays !! Right now I'm in a hippie chick kinda groove, so old Gunne Sax dresses would work. In today's sizes, I wear a 10, in Gunne Sax (1970's) I would wear around a 15 or larger.

[EveMarie]

I wish I had that kind of wardrobe as to not know what to wear! Sheesh:daydreaming:

I know this may not sound appropriate but my step-daughter (16 years 6' tall and a size 12, shoes size 11) is kinda like my shopping mall. When she's away for a weekend I sometimes try on her clothes to see what looks good and what size fits me, I'm 5'9" 180 and most of what she owns fits perfectly, 'cept the chest area, shes a 36D and I can fill a 38B so some things fit a bit odd, but our waist and hips are almost the same.

Just wish I could ask her sometime, "can I borrow that dress?"…
or "those shoes would go great with my new slacks…"

Oh well at least I know what to look for at the stores:o