Thinking of removing chest hair?

[paulaluvssz8]

Hi gurls, Years ago my wife told me she hated men with hairy chest and backs. Thankfully my back isn't hairy, but my chest is. So she knows that I like to wear womens cloths but thinks that its in our past. But lately the urge to dress has gotten stronger and I would like to remove the chest hair. What would you do?

Just do it, and hope she approves?
or
Ask her if she would like for me to clean it up?
or
Leave it alone?

Thanks for your help..

[DeeDeeB]

It's always hard to know how someone else will respond in any situation. We can see from many other postings that SOs vary from totally accepting to total intolerance, with most somewhere in between.

Having said that, what works best for my relationship is to discuss things first. My SO often surprises me with what is ok as long as I don't try to hide things from her. Of course, shaving one's chest is hard to hide. I started a little at a time, face, torso, legs, arms over the course of a year. I've been shaving all since and don't plan to go back.

My best advice, say something like you were thinking about what she said about shaving and you were thinking you were ready to give it a try, what does she think? Do keep in mind that it can be quite a commitment. I need to shave at least every other day or I start breaking out. I really hate it when that happens.

Dee :doll:

[bEEb]

I would utilize ANY excuse I could get to remove hair. Suggestions from the wife would especially welcome.

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

I would ask her how she feels about it and hope for the best. Mine has been shaved for 2 years now and I will never go back.

[JoAnnDallas]

I started shaving my chest, legs, and arms back in 2005. Wife never asked me why. Then too, I am part native american, so don't have a lot of hair on my chest,legs, or arms anyway. LOL I can get by shaving these areas once a week.

[Charona]

I think I would find out if she still disliked chest/back hair, and if so, I'd ask her to help me shave it off. That way there are no secrets, and you are "doing it for her." It might even turn into a fun experience.

[Amy Hepker]

Be honest with her, true will either make or break a good relationship, but if she truly LOVEs you she should not care as long as you are both happy. You may have to do things for her to keep her happy. You will have to be honest though and talk, talk, talk.

[KeriB]

I'm at the point new where legs, arms, pits are shaven.... partially the chest. My wife has told me she's going to do my back - it's a mess - but she also said she loves chest hair - gah - so I guess it won't all be coming off. Oh and when I told her I'm checking out laser for my face... woah... one of those "invisible" boundaries I sometimes run into... hehe

[ChristineRenee]

I'd definitely approach the subject with her. Say that you've been thinking about doing it for awhile and how would she feel about it if you did it now? Given, as you said, that she doesn't prefer hairy chests and backs anyway she probably is going to be ok with it and I'm sure that she will definitely appreciate that you were considerate enough to ask her about doing it first. Good luck! :)

[cinderellaman]

Just my:2c:Since she already told you she doesn't like hairy chests, ask her if she still feels the same way. If she does then ask her if she would mind if you got rid of your chest hair. Then, you have your answer. I wouldn't shave it though. I would get waxed first. It may hurt the first time, but after that it's easy. Ask her first though. I am hairless from the shoulders down & my wife LOVES IT!!!

[KathrynCleve]

Just do it. I started shaving my chest about 20 years ago and now the rest of the world has caught up with me.

[sinead]

Sorry, not much help but as your so seems to prefer a clean chest then go 4 it, I;m lucky in that my so does it for me she keeps me hair free uses an epilator so am always smooth

[dominique]

Shaved my chest hair once to wear more plunging tops. Wife found out about chest hair asked why I shaved it replied just wanted to see what it looked liked. Haven't done it since, but would love to do it. It means I could wear more tops.

[KimberlyS]

It is usually best to discuss it with your wife. But of course will depend on your relationship.

How were you thinking of doing it? I remove the hair from my chest. I use to tweeze just a bit in the middle but one day my wife says to just remove it all and we get an eppilator for the both of us. I had a fair amount of problems with ingrown hairs at the start but it has gotten better. Exfoliate and moisturize morning and night helps a lot. I also use an after shave product called PrimaShave for at least several days afterwards. Can tell when I back off on doing things morning and night as much.

[kristinacd55]

Hi gurls, Years ago my wife told me she hated men with hairy chest and backs. Thankfully my back isn't hairy, but my chest is. So she knows that I like to wear womens cloths but thinks that its in our past. But lately the urge to dress has gotten stronger and I would like to remove the chest hair. What would you do?

Just do it, and hope she approves?
or
Ask her if she would like for me to clean it up?
or
Leave it alone?

Thanks for your help..

I removed the top part of mine where it shows if I wear certain dresses and it doesn't look too bad either. I don't think my wife even noticed, she now knows I cd.

[Carly D.]

I think tell her " I think I'm gonna try to shave my chest hair for the summer, what do you think?".. and see what she says... me, I shave or have shaved my chest hair in April (most every year) and it feels funky at first (just like shaving the legs and armpits and other places) and when it comes in it is the worst itch.. but does make wearing those clothes feel like everything else fem...

[AKAMichelle]

I am in the process of having my chest / back / top of arms lasered off. It is a long process and very expensive, but I can't wait until the results are complete.

I shave my legs in true female fashion. Why lose the thrill? :D

P.S. The laser process is how everything came out again to my wife about my crossdressing. I now don't have to hid, but my wife isn't the most accepting at the moment. We are on don't ask - don't tell policy.

Making a decision like this may have some far reaching consequences. Think long and hard about any decision you make here.

[Corsetted Nikki]

My wife has been playing a few times recently saying that we should shave my chest and other areas.

Never considered it before.

Told her I would I she shaved too.

What say you folks? Is it nice?

[cinderellaman]

Getting rid of ALL body hair is OK in my book. If you or your SO doesn't like it, let it grow back.

[Rachel Morley]

Hi Paula,

You said:

Years ago my wife told me she hated men with hairy chest and backs. ....... But lately the urge to dress has gotten stronger and I would like to remove the chest hair. What would you do?
Err..... I think you already have a green light here girlfriend. If your wife isn't that crazy about it and you don't want it for yourself, this has gotta be a "no brainer" in my world.

I don't meant to be forward or offensive but it looks to me that you should just go ahead and shave your chest ..... however, I would recommend that before you actually do it, you let your wife know that it is about to happen. That way if I or you are mistaken in what she does or doesn't like there's time to talk about it and come to a solution. :)

[angela52]

hi girl im angela52 just got back with my x/wife who is a hairdresser and wax is the way to go it lasts around 3/weeks and easy to shave after that and besides its your hair to do what you want with as for myself i have no choice but to keep it cleane because of my 38/c breast witch my x/has come to terms with its hard to be you and then again its hard not to be also so be happy with yourself and go for it girl love ya angie

[paulaluvssz8]

Thanks girls. My wife :heehee: got a hair caught in her teeth last night. And the hair removal is in the near future. I don't mean to be to detailed. But I thought now is my chance. :battingeyelashes: