Embarrasment....

[lycra legs]

Hi, Im new to this forum, I thought you people might be able to help me with something. I need some help buying clothing. I am far too embarassed to buy my pantyhose from shopping centres, so i thought the internet would suit me. The problem is, I share me eBay account with my mother (i have only turned 18 recently) and i still live with my parents (technically) so if i were to have them delivered, they would start asking about what was in the package. I was thinking of having a female friend buy clothing for me but Im not too sure she would understand, to say the least... Any ideas please?

[Crystal_sub]

Hi, Im new to this forum, I thought you people might be able to help me with something. I need some help buying clothing. I am far too embarassed to buy my pantyhose from shopping centres, so i thought the internet would suit me. The problem is, I share me eBay account with my mother (i have only turned 18 recently) and i still live with my parents (technically) so if i were to have them delivered, they would start asking about what was in the package. I was thinking of having a female friend buy clothing for me but Im not too sure she would understand, to say the least... Any ideas please?

Go to Mall, baby. If you just pick a pantyhose and get it on the counter. Any clerk would not be suspicious of your buying pantyhose. Be Brave girl. That is the part of being a woman.

[trinity24]

If you're like me, and getting enough courage to go and buy stuff in person is too much for you - internet is definitely the way to go. Your situation seems complicated, but if I were you I would do the following, to get some pantyhose. I don't know about you, but I lift weights, and often buy supplements - I usually do that over the internet at drugstore.com. What does it have to do with pantyhose? The nice thing about drugstore.com, is that they always pack their shipments the same (brown box with a big drugstore.com sign on it). There is also nothing on the label that indicates contents of the box. I've tried it many times, and it's always the same. Sure they don't have the greatest selection of makeup, and pantyhose, but what good is great selection - if you can't force yourself to go to a place and buy it. Anyways - you can tell your parents you want to get some lifting supplements/acne medicine (think of something I don't know), at drugstore.com, and simply add pantyhose to the order. And by the way - get your own e-bay account. At 18 you can easilty get a credit card - try capital one.

[Selina]

I agree with Crystal. [minor edit for clarity]

In your situation forget eBay - go shopping.
There's far too many things that could go wrong with the eBay approach, especially with a shared account, the shops are much simpler and easier.

Pantyhose (tights for us brits) are far too splendid to not have, so you're going to have to get some... :)

If you're too scared to do it, imagine to yourself that what's actually happened is that your girlfriend has just phoned you and asked you to buy her a pair because she needs some for your date tonight, and she won't get a chance to go buy any herself in time. In fact, it's actually kind of true.

So, that's great - you've now got a perfectly reasonable explanation for why you're buying them.

Don't say any of this to the cashier, but just have it in your mind that that's what you're doing. And don't panic and rush!

It does get easier in time...

Good luck, and let us know how you get on!


If you can't bring yourself to do it, then Trinity's suggestion is fair enough - but if you can get yourself to use a store then you've got more flexibility in what you can buy.


Selina.

[Milla]

I’m very new to this to, but I have researched my situation very extensively .Your still very young, please tread carefully. I really prey you have researched your own personal situation with an open mind and enlightened soul, if not please do so. Fortunately for you the power of the internet is at your grasp. True fully I’m new to this too, there for I’m one not to question others. Before you venture forth, if you haven’t taken this online test , please do so.

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But even after you have taken the test other questions will be opened up before you. Research your own situation more. After I took the test, I spent several months of research both on the internet and into introspective thought to come to peace with a conclusion.

[Deanna2]

Like Crystal says, just go to a store.

With Mother's Day coming up you could go to a fancy store and ask a sales assistant what's best as a present and get great service and advice. Otherwise, just go to Safeway and put a packet of pantyhose in your basket and get it checked with all your other stuff.

Luvya

[sarah]

Heres an idea because i am in tassie and pretty much a shopaholic tell me what you need and your size and i can organise to buy anything you want ...until you are brave enough to face shopping on your own ..Ialso have a lot of clothes to good to throw out that obviously shrank in the wash (girls never put on weight)...so feel free to to ask i remember what it was like when i was eighteen..xxx

[Elysia]

I agree with Selina. You will find that a guy picking up a pair of pantyhoses for a wife or girl friend is really not that uncommon. I've had to do it for my wife more than once... really... getting them for her. Just wait till you're married lol. Now buying a bra is a bit more nerve racking but even that isn't so bad once you've done it a few times. The stores are there to sell you things... you're money is green. You will find that the store clerks generally just do their job in a professional manner. They're not there to judge you, they're there to serve you. Just go for it.

[Holly]

Lycra... first welcome to the forum. Here's the way it is, hon... nobody at the stores cares if you buy pantyhose. It's true! Just pick out a color you like and BUY them. They're not going to hand you a questionaire to fill out. I know it's a little scarey the first time but A GIRL HAS TO SHOP. Really, you can do this. It's really a great first step. You have it within yourself to make tis happen. Go for it, girl!

[mmandy31]

Don't be embarressed about buying hose just go and get them.
I was worried that somebody might see me but now i have no problem buying lingerie.
Nobody cares anymore what you buy so go for it.

[SissyPanties]

The first time I bought some lingerie at a store I was nervious but I started liking it with time. Once I was looking through some panties at a department store and picked out two pairs. I noticed a sales clerk moving some clothes around but I made my selections anyway. I stood in a line of about 5 others to check out when the sales clerk came directly to me and said she could check me out at another register. Apparently, she had been watching me pick out my panties wanted to sell them to me. I felt really special! I have found most sales clerks just want to sell you something.

[lycra legs]

Thanks for the support people, I really apreciate it :)

[AbbyLee]

Honey, I agree with the other girls with regard to lingere especially pantyhose, 'just do it'. My goodness, I have had to buy tampons for my wife, nobody cares.

Hugs Abby Lee

[veronica]

We all have had a first time buying, it is not as bad as you might thjnk.

I know myself as long as the cashier/sales person is a female I enjoy it as much as if not more than wearing it.


HAVE FUN!!!!!!

[stefanie]

I really don't believe anyone really cares or notices. I went on a small shopping spree about a week ago on separate occassions.... low rider jeans, shoes, panties, makeup... i didn't notice any stears. I even tried on clothes. Cashier didn't even blink an eye.

Its almost always our sensitivity and not the reality. Good luck.

[Sigrid]

I agree, just go in and buy em. I realized that I'm going to deal with the clerk for all of two minutes, tops, then I'll never see them again. So why would I care what they think?

I've have bought countless pairs of stockings and have never once got "the look" from anybody. In fact I usually now get pleasant smiles, and even some friendly small talk.

Still nervous? I know here in my area there are large stores (e.g. Walmart) which have started installing self checkout registers - no need to interact with a sales clerk at all.

~Sigrid

[obsessedwithpantyhose]

TRUST ME the sales people dont give a rats azz who buys anything so long as they make money,,, :D

[Sharon]

Just remember that men buy clothing all the time for their wives and girlfriends, not only at Christmas and Valentine's Day, but for their birthdays also, which is anytime during the year. Just go to the store and behave as cool and nonchalant as you can and no one will think twice about it, unless of course you ask to try something on. :)
If it helps you, ask a salesperson for help and tell them that you need assistance in selecting just the right thing for your "friend." Maybe you could even have a slip of paper in your hand with the sizes written on it and ask about return policies in case the gift isn't what your SO is looking for.

Good luck!

[MaxineF]

Hey there Gal!

If you are going to be buying a fair amount of stuff isn't it time you rewarded yourself with a private mail box? I've had my since I was 16 and have never looked back. That way no one knows where you live as well if they were to share your address! (or if you were to have some pen friends).

There are dirt cheap and well worth the privacy.

Maxine

[cdsue999]

hi babes,instead of buying some tights,why dont you raid your mums undie draw,she must have loads of tights you could "borrow".
if not do as the rest of then are saying....just go in a super store put some in a basket with a few other items and bobs your uncle...lol.i do sometimes,but usualy get my wife to get them for me.
sue xxx

[sheiligh]

hi sunshine! just get out and go tothe store and do it! it seems little hard at first but after you have done the shopping trip a few times it will seem natural in time, if you're worried some one will see you or you might run into some one you know go to a near by town or city and try that, that might take a littl of the nervousness out of it.good luck! let me know how you did!remember, we are friends! luv sheiligh :) ;)

[lycra legs]

hi babes,instead of buying some tights,why dont you raid your mums undie draw,she must have loads of tights you could "borrow".
if not do as the rest of then are saying....just go in a super store put some in a basket with a few other items and bobs your uncle...lol.i do sometimes,but usualy get my wife to get them for me.
sue xxx

i probably should have mentioned, at one stage when i was about 14, my mother must have wondered were all her hosiery was going and she eventually found it all under my bed.. or wherever i was hiding it, i cant really remember. I noticed, when i got home that day all my pantyhose was missing..... gives a new meaning to the word "stress" But ever since that day my mother never bought pantyhose again... :(

[Paula A]

After being married with two children, I can go into any store and buy any thing, because I'm just "another dumb husband" with a list. Of course its my list but still a list, I don't want to go back. OH you better give me the reciept because You just never know if I got the right thing.

I find that it is harder to buy make up, than anything else, since I am usually the only guy in that part of the department store. AND I shop, make color selections, read the packages and converse with the curious women also shopping there. It was very stressfull at first. But after a few trips, it ant nothing.

Just go out and get what you want, the clerks don't care as long as you pay them. They just want your money.

[Christine Hanes]

Just remember that men buy clothing all the time for their wives and girlfriends, not only at Christmas and Valentine's Day, but for their birthdays also, which is anytime during the year. Just go to the store and behave as cool and nonchalant as you can and no one will think twice about it, unless of course you ask to try something on. :)
If it helps you, ask a salesperson for help and tell them that you need assistance in selecting just the right thing for your "friend." Maybe you could even have a slip of paper in your hand with the sizes written on it and ask about return policies in case the gift isn't what your SO is looking for.

Good luck!

I used Sharon's method when I first started. I would just write down what I was looking for on a piece of paper. Then when I got to the hosiery department I would ask the clerk for help finding it. Asking for help broke the ice, I didnt have to wonder what she was thinking or if she was looking at me. And if I happened to see something else I liked I would ask if they were the same size etc. And I would always ask for the reciept to be placed in the bag so it could be returned.

Now I just go in and look for what I want and get it. And seriously, on this side of the globe, the clerk never even looks twice.

Just go for it!

[Ariel]

Go shopping, it is the only way to get over the fear. Three months ago, I started with panty hose, and since then, have bought dresses, skirts, shoes, panties, bras, etc.... and all with no difficulty. I even went to Fredricks of Hollywood, and bought a padded panty. After the first purchase, it gets easier, and easier, and easier, until it is no big thing. Uesd to hate shopping, now rather enjoy it.

Ariel

[Selina]

i probably should have mentioned, at one stage when i was about 14, my mother must have wondered were all her hosiery was going and she eventually found it all under my bed.. or wherever i was hiding it, i cant really remember. I noticed, when i got home that day all my pantyhose was missing..... gives a new meaning to the word "stress" But ever since that day my mother never bought pantyhose again... :(

Hi again,

Unlucky, and a slightly odd reaction from her.
Did she ever say anything to you about it?

Sel.

[Melissa A.]

Hi Lycra,

First I want to say that almost every girl here has felt the way you do, at one point, especially when your age. Second, I want to say...get over it. Really, no one cares what you buy. And if they do, they aint gonna say a word! I know I am repeating alot of what has already been said, but I want you to understand, WE ALL HAVE BEEN THERE! And as we got older we realized...NO ONE CARES! And the ones that do aren't worth worrying about. I buy anything I want. Bras, wigs, lingerie, shoes, clothes, makeup... The more you do it, the less of an issue it becomes. This may sound a little snooty, but if it helps, great: They're RETAIL CLERKS! Any work is admirable, but they're no better than you. And have no right to judge you. In years of shopping, I have NEVER been openly confronted. Maybe you are not where I am yet, but that's OK.(If anyone asked me if it was for me, I'd look right at them and say yes. But I don't want you to forget that I once had your very same fears) Just remember that you are a consumer, and it is your right to shop....for anything. If you can get there younger than alot of us did, it is something you should be proud of...It means you are not going to let a few strangers who are just doing their jobs affect how YOU feel about yourself. Really, most of 'em just don't care anyway.

Get out there and shop! It's your right!

Hugs,

Melissa :)

[Julie York]

As a member of The Retaill Clerks Union I object!!

[Melissa A.]

Sorry, Julie :( But I'd bet you'd sell me a bra.

Hugs,

Melissa :)

[Jill]

I can and do understand how you feel. I buy every single item online and use a private PO Box to recieve them in. I did that from the very beginning. I personally don't have the courage to shop in the store, I suppose if I had to, I might be able to work up the courage but I would rather do it in the comfort of my own home. I recommend doing what I did. Get your own ebay account and a private PO Box.

[Wendy me]

ok shopping for fem things is only embarrasmeing if you let it be .. ok like you think that you are doing something wrong so you feel like every one is watching you ..most could not care less.... just if it helpes wright what you need on a papper then go in and make like your wife or girlfreind sent you and what a chore it is for yiu to get them .....it works ... then the more you shop the easyer it gets till you just do it with out thinking... today i went into cvs to get some vittimens and wow panty hose on sale .....got 6 pair and no vitemens oh well next time ... to cd is to shop so just go out and plow right in and soon we can be seeing you crashing through the malls shopping your heart out............

[Katrina]

I was scared when I first started buying stuff in a store too. I actually bought several items when I was about 19 including trying on several pairs of shoes in the stores. I was super scared, but it was such a rush though.

When I started buying stuff again this last year, I was quite scared again as well, but it does get easier. Now, I care less about what people think so its not as scary, but it is still a rush. Somehow, buying stuff from Fredericks.com was not as much fun though. I have a sudden urge to go shopping...

[Melissa A.]

Wendy we gotta get together and do that shopping thing girl...

I don't care...you don't care...let's raise a few eyebrows...

Hugs,

Melissa :)

[Wendy me]

good i would love that ... yes i have no time to worry abought people closed minds when i am shopping ........lets shop girlfreind...............

[trinity24]

Just to throw a little counterblanace to all the "JUST DO IT" posts - don't feel bad if you can't work up the courage to shop in person. That's why Al Gore invented internet. For some of us it is an insurmountable obstacle, which doesn't necessarily disappear with practice. I've shopped a few times in person, and it never got easier - I'm just not comfortable doing it - and I couldn't care less if the people know that the stuff is for me or not (I usually went to malls far away from my area). I accepted this flaw of mine, just as I accepted the fact that I am a CD.

[Wendy me]

not saying it goes away for every one but we do what we can the intrrnet or what ever you can ... we make do if you can go out and shop greate go if you shop on line greate...... which ever you do is good... for me i have a hard time shopping on line so see it hold it buy it works well ....

[Annabel Girlie]

We all have had a first time buying, it is not as bad as you might thjnk.

I know myself as long as the cashier/sales person is a female I enjoy it as much as if not more than wearing it.


HAVE FUN!!!!!!


I agree with Veronica - the shopping, choosing, buying is just such a delightful thrill - I love it!

Who knows, in time you may even progress to trying somethings on, which for me took lingerie shopping to a new high

Love

Annabel

[norbie]

;) Hi,
just go to big stores like Woolworth or K-Mart and so on, nobody cares, also don't buy it as a single item, like in Woolworth buy food too and it goes just together.
B.T.W. in Grace Brothers in Newcastle I tried on size 10 shoes and no question asked (it only had 2'' heels then).
Anyway no worries in big shops in Aussie Land enjoy your shoping,
Norbie from Newcastle/New England Highway, you can P.M.me if you need help. :D

[miss Zaskia]

Usually have no problem shopping in the real world, but how comfortable i am does depend on what the salesperson is like. In the end, if i really like something ,i will just go in and buy it anyway. And if people start acting weird towards me i usually get a bit obnoxious and i tend to go in the offense. I do tend to confront salespeople who don't cooperate or talk behind my back full-on.Hey,if i'm paying good money for stuff i want to be treated as a regular customer. :cool:

[azure]

When going into boots, carry a pre written list, as already stated on this thread, its a great prop, and turns you from "that guy sleezy man over there near the stockings" to "awwww hes shopping for the wife , shes sent him out with a list the poor thing, he's bound to get it wrong, mine does". You can find what you need as long as you remember the obligitory confused expression, and take the list with you to the counter incase god forbid your boss or best mate in work is stood behind you in the queue as you pay for foundation and tights. Ive got a PO box its very very handy, costs £50 a year(ish) and is perfect for recieving things via ebay, oh you'll have to have a little excuse ready"oh the wife set it up, says she doesnt want the world knowing the home address,I pay for it and we're all happy, women eh, luv em"
next time you go round,its " hello Mr___ po box ___ is it couple of parcels for you, ta!" (as you try to hide the smile of utter bliss).
I found the clothes at transformation very expensive, but that was about 10 years ago now, maybe its better now, Matalan is good, a nice range of sizes, and plenty of stores if you feel uncomfortable near home. Asdsa george range too, but that can be busier, and more likely to bump into your neighbour while carrying a skirt suit to the till.
hope thats of help!

[KarenXDR]

Beyond what the Lovely Holly and Lovely Stefanie have said, let me tell you a little story that might give you courage.

A good 15 years ago I went into the Filene's Basemenet store in Framingham, MA,(USA - for you Colonists) and found a lovely teddie and "jacket" lacey set. Since i had passed the stage of mumbling, stumbling and making assinine excuses to clerks who really didn't give a poop about anything but check-out time, I walked to the register with great confidence and my purchase draped over my arm. In front of me was a typical 32yo+/- Yankee, Episcopalian-type Yuppie frump with a blond page-boy hair style, 4" above-the-ankle skirt, London Fog raincoat and Talbot's slip-on shoes. The absolute walking characterization of a Yuppie Church Lady.

Her purchase? A pair of flannel pajamas!!! She looked over her shoulder and spotted my nighty. Her jaw dropped - which put a s**t-eating grin on my face. She turned red! So I put my nighty on the check-out counter, almost under her nose. She went to pieces - couldn't get her wallet out of her Talbot's straw bag! I had all I could do to keep from laughing out loud.

So - who was embarrassed?

Suck it up - go into the store like you own the place. There are millions of US.

Lipstick kisses

Karen

[miss Zaskia]

The suggestion of the shopping list and shopping for the wife is usually so unbelievable. Just give up being embarassed. In some situations i show the shopkeepers some of my girly-pics. Really pisses them off when i look better than they do! :D

[miss Zaskia]

And i'm tally with Karen on going in there as if you own the place. You are in fact paying for their salary,aren't you? Love your attitude, :p Karen.

[Kimberly]

I'm going to have a massive shopping trip on saturday, and am also slightly scared of what might happen when the parents ask what I've got in the bag... (I'm 18 too,) but I'll just tell them that I've bought a t shirt or a jumper or something (I will actually buy one... as a decoy :D) Slip it out of the bag and say look.... The rest of your stuff will be neatly inside the carrier bag you took the male item from.

And with the issue of face to face shopping: it's much much easier than your parents asking questions! I've bought 5 pairs of shoes, (over the years,) and not one sales person has asked me about why I'm buying high heels! I think one gave me a funny look, but I didn't see and my friend told me she did. And anyway - you don't care what a cashier thinks! You'll probably never see them again!

[Jonien]

ok so it was a few years ago now I was in a store with my wife and sister
thay were bying for my sisters wedding well I landed up outside the changing rooms holding two wedding dresses.
I was offered a private room kept asside, I declined, and the assitant sead her sorrys and told me that it hapends all the time and feel free if you ever need the room I did't need it then but I have now the assitant give as much help as would a GG.
so i'll say go for it shop shop shop.

Hugs to you all

Jonein

[Cathe TV]

I can easily understand how you could be intimidated by all this, but there is really no need to be.

I buy makeup all the time - usually for my wife - but for myself too. Yeah - I sometimes get a few looks from GG's in the makeup department, but who cares? It used to be embarrassing to go to the druggist and buy condoms, right? I have after all these years no qualms at all about going into a lingerie department, dress department or shoe department and buying anything. Why should I? Don't women buy mens clothes for their husbands - or themselves?

The easiest answer if it really is too much for you to handle right now is to use your ebay account and have your items delivered to another address, like one of your GG friends, or even your place of business if they have a large mail department. I have yet to find an ebay seller who won't be perfectly happy to mail anything discreetly. If you have the resources, maybe your own post office box is easier.

Don't let a little thging like momentary embarrassment deter you from having fun! You'll grow out of it soon enough:)

[Alie]

I went to a Fredericks once to buy my wife a gift.

The ladies at the counter made the remark that I seem to like the clothes for me rather than her. BUT I was really buying them for my wife. (In my thoughts for me)

At another time I bought some silk under garments and the clerk asked me if I wanted a gift reciept. I said no, she is here with me, which she was.

Just look as inocent as you can!

[Sweet Jeanette]

Hi, Im new to this forum, I thought you people might be able to help me with something. I need some help buying clothing. I am far too embarassed to buy my pantyhose from shopping centres, so i thought the internet would suit me. The problem is, I share me eBay account with my mother (i have only turned 18 recently) and i still live with my parents (technically) so if i were to have them delivered, they would start asking about what was in the package. I was thinking of having a female friend buy clothing for me but Im not too sure she would understand, to say the least... Any ideas please?

Just go to Walmart and buy them!!!-------Nobody cares!!! :rolleyes:

[Elysia]

These days I shop for women's clothes with general ease; I’ve just gotten used to it and I’ve never yet had an unpleasant experience. I’ll tell you about the experience that changed my feelings about it.

I’d spent so much time worrying about what people might think when I bought women’s clothes. I’d envisioned all these horrible scenarios and wondered how I’d explain myself. In my imagination I could see myself being arrested or banned for life from a store… I could see the posters hanging in the store window, my picture over the words, ‘don’t serve this weirdo.’ But I knew this just wasn’t logical.

One day I decided that I needed to experience what it felt like when a shop clerk really knew why I was buying the clothes. I figured they’d be contemptuous and belittling but I also figured I’d live through it and then I’d know. Reality is rarely as bad as I imagine it will be.

So, I went to a Bergner’s department store and started looking through some very pretty cocktail dresses. With in a few minutes a store clerk asked me if I needed any help. She was young (I’d guess around 19) and pretty, just the sort I figured most likely to show contempt. I was nervous but determined to perform my experiment.

I started be asking what size a particular dress was. Then I asked what dress size she thought someone say… about my size would be. This is where I expected quizzical looks, maybe some backing away. But to my surprised, she cheerfully looked me up and down and declared that I’d be a 12. I’m a 14, so not only is that a good guess but a tactful one also.

Then she asked me “is this for someone who’s around here” and she began looking around to see if there were any women close by. I guess she figured I was thinking of getting it as surprise for a wife or girlfriend, one who might be spied on and assessed from afar. “No,” I said, taking the plunge, “it’s for me.”

“Oh,” said the clerk. Then, with almost no hesitation, she held the dress up against my body and said, “I think this will fit.” She checked the hem length against my legs then put the dress back and pulled out another one. This one she laid against me and asked me to hold while she took a step back.

“I think this one will fit you a bit better. Is this for a special occasion?”

“No,” I replied “just for at home, just for fun.”

“Ok, well maybe you’d like…” and she proceeded to show me at least a half a dozen dresses. She was incredibly helpful, cheery and enthusiastic.
She even asked me if I’d like to try them on. I chickened out on that. I told her I didn’t want to disturb any other customers. She said ok but she didn’t seem to think it would bother anyone.

And that is true story. After that, my expectations of store clerk’s reactions changed. I’m still in the closet when it comes to family, friends and co-workers (except for my wife) but when it comes to store clerks, I don’t mind if they know.

[Holly]

...One day I decided that I needed to experience what it felt like when a shop clerk really knew why I was buying the clothes. I figured they’d be contemptuous and belittling but I also figured I’d live through it and then I’d know. Reality is rarely as bad as I imagine it will be...

I started be asking what size a particular dress was. Then I asked what dress size she thought someone say… about my size would be. This is where I expected quizzical looks, maybe some backing away. But to my surprised, she cheerfully looked me up and down and declared that I’d be a 12. I’m a 14, so not only is that a good guess but a tactful one also.

Then she asked me “is this for someone who’s around here” and she began looking around to see if there were any women close by. I guess she figured I was thinking of getting it as surprise for a wife or girlfriend, one who might be spied on and assessed from afar. “No,” I said, taking the plunge, “it’s for me.”

“Oh,” said the clerk. Then, with almost no hesitation, she held the dress up against my body and said, “I think this will fit.” She checked the hem length against my legs then put the dress back and pulled out another one. This one she laid against me and asked me to hold while she took a step back.

“I think this one will fit you a bit better. Is this for a special occasion?”

“No,” I replied “just for at home, just for fun.”

“Ok, well maybe you’d like…” and she proceeded to show me at least a half a dozen dresses. She was incredibly helpful, cheery and enthusiastic.
She even asked me if I’d like to try them on. I chickened out on that. I told her I didn’t want to disturb any other customers. She said ok but she didn’t seem to think it would bother anyone.

And that is true story. After that, my expectations of store clerk’s reactions changed. I’m still in the closet when it comes to family, friends and co-workers (except for my wife) but when it comes to store clerks, I don’t mind if they know.
Heartwarming! Thank-you for sharing this wonderful story!

[Stormgirl]

How come I have never gotten lucky with a salesperson like that?Sheesh some girls have all the good luck.

[Like2BAspen]

aspen has always picked out her own clothes. But I guess it depends on the type of store you go to. I would imagine that if I went to a more intimate type of store rather then larger ones. Shopping has gotten much easier my next step is to shopping dressed up. The glamour shots has given me the confidence for that. Maybe i'll start with a makeover and manacure then strut around the mall. Wearing RED DOOR perfume

[Lois82]

You need to just be a brave girl and buy them at the mall. Trust me half of the salesgirls could care less ;) . Just do it hon.

Hugs,

Lois

[Susancd]

I agree with everyone else, it's a bit scary the first time but now i find it exciting going into a store and buying hosiery or clothes etc.

ENJOY! :)

[Deidra Cowen]

I bought a couple of outfits at the thrift store here this week. I walked right up to the checkout. Two men were there buying guy stuff. I just threw my stuff on the counter...waited my turn...and then checked out. I did not act nervous and no one even looked at my skirts and blouses or payed any attention to me. Well except for the check out lady who had a twinkle in her eye when bagging my new loot.

But I was way nervous the first few times. The only thing I'm careful about is looking around to make sure no one I know is in the store. Have to be sneaky cause of my job.

[GypsyKaren]

Just go to the drug store when they first open in the morning and you'll have the whole place to yourself. Believe me, the clerks could care less. You don't know what you're missing, so just go SHOPPING!