Where has the romance gone out of life??

[Felix]

Ok the thing is I seem to be coming across many bi bexual or bi curious woman all of a sudden thing is im not sure about this which may seem strange cos it might be a good option for me. I have thought about this a lot believe you me. Thing is many of them who like me seem to have baggage of one type or another so they don't want romance they just want fun lol what ever that is. It's quite confusing as a trans man I can tell ya. All these feelings and emotions going around in my head about sexuality and gender, types and what not. Roll on the councelling!!!!! I feel I break many rules and that I am indeed a contradiction in terms which makes it impossible at times for me and others. I know what is wrong with me right now I am so frustrated if ya know what I mean :o it's been such a long time. So when I get interest it is so hard not to let my feelings get carried away with me and be overtly romantic and flirtatious which is my nature anyways.Oh hum the joys of being single not and trans lol!!! xx Felix :hugs::hugs:

[Stargirl]

Find a mature, healthy, stable woman who likes "fun" and also cares about you, and whether your practical needs are met. It would be a bonus to find a good cook, and conversationalist who may not jump your bones every day, but when she does, you wear a smile for a long time. Find things you can do together. Confusion is a pesky companion at times, but you are also aware of yourself, and admit to things. That's something a lot of people never do. They just keep blanketing their emotions, and having the same problems. Your enthusiasm is refreshing. Many of us can relate to the frustration you feel. Admitting it does not diminish our stature in any way.

[Felix]

Thanx Stargirl very sound advice I like ya style Hun xx Felix :hugs::hugs:

[ZenFrost]

I know many (but not all) bi-curious women are just looking for a little experimentation to see if they are indeed bisexual or not. And since sexual experimentation and romance are generally two very different things you might have better luck with people who are a little more sure of themselves with what they want who don't just want to experiment, but want a relationship.

[Felix]

Lol yeah Zen ya got a good point there Bro but the ones that are interested are not the ones looking for relationships lol :doh: it's a crazy old world and things seem so different out there. Oh well at least I know I'm still attractive to women if nothing else right now. It does piles for ya self esteem I can tell :) xx Felix :hugs::hugs:

[Melanie85]

Aaaahhhhh.... you're so cuuute Felix! A loving flirtatious romantic... how could anyone not want you?


Anyways there are 2 large aspects of dating: Sexuality and intimacy.

You do not have to be having sex with someone to be intimate... you can have a platonic fbest friend that you bare your soul to.

And you do not need intimacy for sex (but a little does make the sex better)... i.e. casual sex partners, and people who are experimenting which seems to be the types you meet.

As for flirting and romance... well okay I can't easily fit that into my little dichotomy that I have created.

Well, relationships are about give and take. She wants to experiment. You want romance. Solution: Do both. Take her out to dinner, woo her (even if she's already wooed both of you pretend this is a first date or blind date or something; roleplay is fun!), flirt with her... or do whatever you do that you enjoy and find romantic.

She might end up enjoying it. And if she refuses, tell her how important it is to you, how happy it would make you feel and if you think there's no point in continuing the relationship without it tell her so.


When they say they want fun, I read it as, they want a sexual partner but not someone they picture marrying, not necessarily even a boyfriend. If you want the same thing it's perfectly fine. But like some want no strings attached sex, or just want a f--- buddy, you could ask for no strings attached romance, and get a flirt buddy. Seriously. If flirting is what you enjoy (I think I know what you mean I'm kinda like that).

If you want serious relationships... hmm okay find other dating venues or weed those girls out somehow, and find the good ones........I dunno.... online dating?

[Felix]

Hi Mel I like ya advice and I can see where ya coming from on all points. I am having fun at the mo and I guess really thats ok for now. Thought I'd lost what it takes but I've learned that I haven't just that the peeps I'm meeting seem to want something totally different than when I was there age lol!! No strings just good fun a casual bit of flirting and maybe a snog :o but thats ok I can handle that for now I guess its better than nothing and at least I know I'm still attractive and not ready to throw on the scrap heap yet which I thought I was not so long ago :eek: Thanx for the compliments too :hugs::hugs: xx Felix

[Melanie85]

Thanx for the compliments too :hugs::hugs: xx Felix

They're not compliments they're the truth. :o If only you lived near Ottawa/Montreal :love:

[Felix]

:o awwww thanx Mel :hugs::hugs: xx Felix

[Melanie85]

:o awwww thanx Mel :hugs::hugs: xx Felix

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Random comment: Your name reminds me of Flexi Felix - do you know what that is? :heehee: