Finding a fling

[LilDolly87]

O.k. so it's been about 1year and 6 months since my ex and I parted ways. I feel like it's for the better because I need this time to really learn about my sexuality and who I really am, as... well me. But in order to lean a little more about my sexuality. I've got to see for my self how I would do in a relationship with a guy. Huge problem is 1st off I don't know how to meet guys I've only dated girls before. I've always thought some of them were pretty cute but out of fear of getting the crap bet out of me or rejection I've said nothing. Can any of you ladies help please? What do I say? what do I do?

[Angie G]

Sorry not a clue hun. :hugs:
Angie

[twistedcody1]

where do u live

[LilDolly87]

I live in Raleigh North Carolina.

[CharleneT]

Might be easier to start with your local GLBT bars, surely there is one nearby? You can try the national ad sites, but it can be pretty frightful there.... (AFF is better because of numbers, look for a local one if possible).

Good luck !

[Julie York]

Go to a gay club dressed as a man.

[DonnaT]

Are you just exploring, or do you find men to be sexually attractive?

If you are just explooring your sexuality, I would ask, why? What's wrong with staying with women?

If you find men to be sexually attractive, then you could go to a trans friendly bar, which is usually a gay bar. Not all the gay men are resistant to relationships with someone who is trans/CDs. I've seen quite a few who find CDs appealling.

Or you could put an ad on Craigslist (http://raleigh.craigslist.org/). See the men seeking men listing, or the trans forum. (http://raleigh.craigslist.org/forums/?forumID=97)

[unclejoann]

I have found gay men to be no more accepting than women. Some I have met are downright rude. But it is possible to meet someone, I finally came into a relationship that lasted several years with a gay man that really wasn't interested in CDs but he was nice about it anyway and we liked each other.

You will find some men who think you want to be degraded, some who just want a one-nighter, some who might just want 15 minutes of your time. So be sure to be aware of your own needs, respect yourself, and don't hurry into anything.

I am not into bars, so I couldn't give any advice.

[MJ]

in as much as i would love to find out myself . i don't think i could do that .
there is nothing wrong with a wonderful accepting gg . now were are they .

[danielle_from_cal]

Dating a man is no different than dating a woman. Except that the percentage of men that are losers (and not obvious) seems to be higher. But don't just approach any guy. You are right about getting the crap beat out of you. Go to a place where gay men hang out (a gay bar or restaurant or book store, or a gay event on a campus, if you are younger). There is nothing easy about it. But, if you keep looking, you will find the right person (male or female).

[Chrissy8888]

You have gotten a lot of great advise. You do have to put yourself out there. Of course be careful. The wrong approach and you will end up getting the crap beat out of you. Set your standards and stick as close to them as possible. Men are sexual creatures by nature. Like stated in other posts some just want a sex buddy, others are players. I am noticing a growing trend in married men wanting a relationship but not telling their wives. This really scares me because how many other men are they with? So just like you would finding a woman go slow and smart. You will find somebody out there for you. Just take your time and be smart.

[LilDolly87]

I find men very sexually attractive. I just don't really want a relationship right now I don't want it to get in the way of school. I guess my biggest problem with going to a gay bar is I just move here and I don't really like doing things like that alone. But I guess there's a first for everything right?

Even though I'm not looking for a serious relationship I don't want to be taken advantage of. I'm pretty smart about that so I don't think that will me much of an issue.