Who wouldda thunk?

[Emily Anderson]

I was inspired by Silky Pleasures thoughtful post on "How would you like to be buried?", and particularly tickled by bEEb's response "With a woody... so they can't close the lid" because I love that kind of humour. Well done, bEEb! I'm looking forward to more gems like that...

Anyway, on to more serious matters... Several of us responded that the SO/family etc. would not approve of burying us as a girl for whatever reason, but what I am wondering is how we might feel about them finding the "stash". That is, girly clothes, somewhat ****ty clothes, really ****ty clothes... letters, pictures, porn, toys etc. (your world, your imagination).

To be fair, I have to answer first... I'm not all that worried because all the people I care about know that I CD and I suspect would expect to find some such things...

Your thoughts?

[Deborah Jane]

I,ll be dead!!!

[DeeDeeB]

I,ll be dead!!!

Yeah, what she said...

Dee

[Julie York]

I would hope to not go too quickly and tell someone I trusted to have a clear out. Then only they would be put in an awkward situation.

[Jilmac]

The people I care about most already know I dress. I have already said how I wanted to be buried in that same thread. The ones that don't know of my dressing will be in for a huge surprize when they see me all decked out in my casket. After I croak it won't matter what they find because I'll be in the ground. Maybe I'll will all my clothes to the first person who opens my closet.
Luv and :hugs: Jill

[Sarah V]

Emily, you beat me to asking the very same question.

After I logged off last night after posting to the "How would you like to be buried" post, I got to thinking of the very question you pose. While not the most pleasent thing to talk about, I guess we all have to deal with this question one day.

Quite recenlty, another sister that I know very well, had to have major surgery on sudden/short notice, (she came out fine BTW). She called me from the hospital the evening before her surgery and asked me if I would be willing and so kind as to go to her storage unit to dispose of her "things" (her family does not know of her enfemme life) if her surgery had a bad outcome. So, one thing I can reccomend is that it is good, I guess, to develop some understanding friendships with other sisters or anyone else you wuold choose and trust enough to understand and value your privacy and your need to be discreet.

Plan ahead of time. This is easy for those girls with understanding/ accepting/participating wives, S/O, or family members. Likewise, if you are living fully out as a transgendered person or you have transitioned then this should not be a problem. Also, if one knows in advance that their days are numbered then I would think there would be time to "tidy" up your affiars. Put your final instructions in a Will if you are able to.

But what's a girl to do if she should meet her demise being hit courtesy of the proverbal Mack truck? :eek: or do if she does the litteral drop dead?....don't laugh, it happens! :sad: What's a girl to do if she is single and lives alone? Again, a Last Will and Testement might come in handy here.

One of the nationally syndicated advice columns just had a letter recently that asked what to do when a loved one passes away and the family goes through the deceased's things and stumbles across various -- you name it---"compromizing materials" The readers who wrote back responded with comments that ranged from laughter at the fact that...mom/dad had the last laugh...all the way to extreem shock and anger that scard the surviver's, (esp. spouces) long after the persons death. Most of us have families we will leave behind and we do need to think about these things. Again, planning ahead is the best course of action.

This situation leads me to ask another question, which is: Do you think there will ever come a time in your life when you will have to stop dressing, not because you don't want to, dress anymore (never will happpen) but becasue you just physically can't do it anymore. Have you thought about what you would do if you could not take care of yourself any longer?

For myself, unless I have my ticket puched for me by suprise, I intend to keep on dressing and enjoying my femme self until such a time when my health will begin to fade or when I start to get to where I can no longer take care of myself. Then I plan to just give all Sarah's stuff away while I am still able to do so. Then that will be it, aside for the pleasent memories that I will carry with me till the end. Hopefully another sister will be able to find my stuff in a thrift store somewhere and will benefit from it.......assuming thrift stores are still around @ thirty years from now! :)

Sorry, if this is a little long but this is really a very important subject that we all will have to deal with someday.

[Rachaelb64]

I,ll be dead!!!



:iagree:

[JoAnnDallas]

Now that my wife knows, she would dispose of all it for me. It would only be a problem if the CD is single and living alone and was not out to anyone. Then I expect family members would just quitely pack up everything and either put it all in the trash or take to a goodwill or like place. Then pretend after that that their departed never did anything like that.