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RhondaLynn
05-08-2005, 01:54 AM
Hello Ladies,

I've been sitting around the house tonight evening reflecting on the evenings events and scrutinizing my new possessions, and felt compelled to share my conclusions with everyone in case anyone else may be intgerested in, but have limited experience with: Buying Ladies Shoes.

I haven't really been out shopping for footwear since the 80's - I still have one of the 3 pair of leather pumps I bought back then, as well as two pair of used shoes I picked up online within the last year or so. Until today, I had a pair of black classic 3" pumps (12), a pair of 2" pumps, and a pair of flats - all solid leather body. I had decided about a month ago that it was time for new footwear, and today, I put on a pair of thigh-highs under my jeans & sent the guy out to acquire shoes. I found myself all up in a shoestore for far over an hour - bargain shoes, nothing quite like i was looking for, but hey, quite an assortment of things i didn't expect to find or consider. I strolled around, picking out one of each of the style/styles I was intested in, lining them up in the back near a bench to test-fit. One of the employees was 'taking inventory' (read: kept showing up back there asking if i'd found everything ok) - only a few customers wandering through the ladies sandals & pumps size 11 and above.

I finally sat down to try a few on for size. I slipped off my shoe, exposing the black nylons on my feet. I was both surprised and impressed when I realized I had forgotten my toenails were polished, and it stood out quite well. Other than in the car, it's probably the only time i've seen them exposed in public. After awhile i just let it all go and went into shopping mode - if a guy is shopping for ladies shoes, why would anyone be surprised that he also had on hose and nailpolish (oh - those 2 fingers on my right hand w/ the clearish polish on - i forgot about them too).

Anyway, I left the store owning 3 new pair of leather heels - none were classic pumps or flats as I had hoped to find. All three were open-toe strapped sandal-like heels with ankle straps. I've never worn open-type heels before, and this was a new experience.

After several hours spent evaluating my new wardrobe items, I've made some mental notes of specific facts regarding women's shoes, solid vs. strapped, sizes, etc.

1. A Classic Pump does not breathe well, and your feet get uncomfortable after awhjile. The open-sided strapped heels are quite the opposite. I considered this while shoppig, but had no idea how nice it would feel as the breeze blew across my feet in them. A definite plus, unless you end up walking in damp grass (like me).

2. Unlike pumps, the strappers DON'T fall off your foot. This could be good or bad, depending on whether you like to let your shoe's heel to fall away & dangle from your toe like the gg's do. I like the dangle thing (cools my foot off) and their ease of slipping into/outof, but the STRAPPED TO YOUR FOOT is a definite advantage.

3. Since the uppers aren't solid but some combination of straps and/or heel panel, they will stretch to fit your feet much more than pumps, so you can downsize a bit. I didn't, so I see another trip over there my future - I DEFINITELY like one style. The other two are acceptable. Even though they are all a bit large for me, they DON'T COME OFF unless I want 'em to.

4. The styles with metal inserts in the ankle strap holes are PREFERABLE to the ones without them - after bending over for 10 minutes trying to ght the fastener through the strap (although I really enjoyed the view & feel of the hose on my legs), the pair with the wide ankestrap & metal inserts were MUCH easier to put on & take off. And the wider strap gave them more stability.

I thought of most of this at the store, but didn't truly embrace how much it would impact my next shoe purchase until now. My only regret is that I didn't spend more time comparing the sizes of the styles I selected - if I had worn them longer, looked @em in the mirror and paced in them a bit, I would've seen that a size 11 in all 3 would've probably worked ok. But there I was, in stocking feet w/ dark reddish toenails, trying on strapped heels, so I decided that the 12s would do.

The guy usually wears a 10.5 or 11 male shoe, and based on the older pumps I have, the 11W was both too short & a bit tight in width, and the 12s were a bit oversized & tended to fall off or slide off while walking. The strapped styles, although obviously a size larger than I could wear, still feel good and don't come off. I only went with the 12s because I thought the 11s felt too snug in width & they had verrrry few 11W styles, and NO half-sized.

If my camera was up, I'd post photos of them. Coincidentally, I found a long-lost dress last night that I'd outgrown years ago, and was delighted to find that it now fits perfectly (I've lost a bit of weight this year). I bought one paif of the heels EXPLICITLY to wear with this dress - they match the dress' color pattern farrr too perfectly - they should've been sold w/ the dress.

Anyway, I'll close this novel for now. If i find my webcam, I'll post photos of new footwear for those who may be interested. I'm off for a walk, or perhaps a night-drive. Hmmm.

Love ya,
rhonda.

AnnaMaria
05-08-2005, 03:17 AM
RhondaLynn,

I had a similar experience a couple months ago when I bought my new white sandles for spring. They are open toe slides and you ar eright they are a lot cooler on the feet than a closed shoe. I also found that I could wear a size smaller than I origionally thought that I would be able to wear. They have a 2in heel and look nice with lighter colors and even jeans in contrasting colors if the top is the right color. I haven't tried a pair of strappy sandles yet but plan to when I can find a pair that has a low enough heel since I am 6 ft tall and don't really care for a heel over 2 in.

huggs
anna

Kimberly
05-08-2005, 04:11 AM
Gratz, Rhonda, on your new purchases!

I just wanted to ask, as you've had experience of this, how well received you are by both the GGs also buying shoes in that shop and by the staff... I've never tried anything on whilst buying heels and I doubt I will for a while. Often, I'm so nervous about someone seeing me that I make rash decisions about my purchases, and I own a couple of pairs of shoes where I think I could have made a better choice if I had had more time, but my stomach turns with nervous energy whenever I go around a women's department or shop, just from the fear of someone I know seeing me - If I could have a magic button which garanteed no one would see me that I know, then I wouldn't have such a problem.

PM me if you like, or reply. I'm just asking for a bit of advice really...

hugs xx

RhondaLynn
05-08-2005, 10:22 AM
AnnaMarie - I'm just under 6' myself, so I never thought much of shoes until my first pair of pumps. I spent months learning to walk in them, but back then I didn't venture outside the bounds of 'the closet' and never developed a taste for wearing heels. I loved the way they shaped my legs and how well they looked with a dress or skirt & hose - A distinctively feminine finish for an outfit, but walk a block in them - hah!

As I began to venture into 'their' world as Rhonda though, I learned the proper stride characteristics to walk in heels - stepping a bit further forward, toe extended at an angle for proper heel-toe landing. The rhythmic sound and body movement of the stride enhances the experience for me. My only problem was until now, I would occasionaly misstep and wobble off a heel - not good if you're out in public. The heels and soles of these are wider than my pumps, giving much more stability while walking. I can walk as I never have before, without worrying about rolling off a heel and/or losing a shoe.

In the last few months I've kept my flats or pumps in my car, sliding them on while driving. I've been taking progressive 'steps' to step out in them, seeing how well strangers react to, or if they'd even notice that I was wearing heels. I've pumped gas and used an ATM in them lately. It's not the rush of potentially being seen that's driving me, it's just that I like the way they look & feel when I wear them, so why should I change shoes every time i get out of the car? The catharsis of 'letting go' of that little inhibition & just stepping out and doing it - the inner acceptance of my choice in shoes is fulfilling to me.

Kimberly - I was (and still am in many aspects) apprehensive of being spotted when in public. I choose my situations carefully (well, mostly) and haven't had many BAD experiences - mostly indifferent, some positive, some negative. At the shoestore yesterday, the employee was well-composed - he did make several trips by checking item #s against his clipboard at first, but seemed to realize I wanted some space and disappeared until I checked out. The other customers were mostly indifferent - only got a couple second glances.

I've found that the "magic button" you speak of, at leat for me, doesn't make me "disappear", it's an "acceptance" button, as I stated above. Once I 'let go' of the fear of something and just do it, I've found that usually the initial fear was unfounded, and the calmness that replaces it allows me to relax and actually enjoy what I wanted to do, where before I found my button I would sometimes still do whatever it was, but was on edge the entire time and never really had a chance to enjoy the experience. Ha - typing that sentence gave me a flashback of the first time I rode my motorcycle in a skrit & hose (at 2am in a neighborhood-type area) - talk about a rush!

I've never really had a BAD shopping experience - a cold look or so at times, but mostly indifferent, inquisitive, or sometimes a gg will have a warm smile. A girl working the window at Taco Bell one night spotted my skirt and was immediately short & cold, but not rude. Oh well. But every step helps tear down the wall & exposes the button you spoke of.

An unfortunate event years ago (well, a sequence of them) lead to many of my co-workers knowing of my after-work activities. None of them actually KNOW of Rhonda, but I'm sure they've heard a few wild rumors of something I never did or would never do. If they knew how little of it is/was true, their shallow lives would be shattered - they'd have nothing else to talk about. You know, that may have been the beginning of my really not caring anymore, and just 'letting go and do it' when the moment was right & enjoying the moments without fear. I'll have to reflect back awhile on that note.

Love ya,
rhonda

Kimberly
05-08-2005, 11:19 AM
Thanks for sharing that :)

I suppose an old adage of this forum is: baby steps. That's what I'll have to take.

Yesterday I bought a top, (strapless... ooh. now I need a bra!) and hid it under some t shirts I was buying along with it. The female cashier was nice about it, though I think the male bag packer guy looked twice and had to think to himself, "two t shirts, and a strapless top?? hmm... does he know it's for women?" Yes it is, but it's for the female me. heh. I actually tried to think of a reply to this question before going up to the cashier, but thankfully that question never came :)