The thrill is gone!!!!

[AmyH]

I came out to a good friend of mine (she's a GG) in September 2004 about my crossdressing. She said somehow she has always known. Well anyway she was the first and only person to know. Ever since then I have not had even an urge to dress. I still come to the site and read posts. My question is: Have any of taken a break and come back? i do have a small collection of clothes and shoes - should I sell or just pack and store them away?

AmyH

[AbbyLee]

I purged and stopped for quite awhile, I wish I hadn't gotten rid of all my clothes, especially shoes (I had an extensive collection) I have known several CDs who have stopped then returned to dressing. For goodness sake store them instead of getting rid of them, you will probably want to return to dressing sooner than you think. :)

AbbyLee

[Chrissycd]

you store them, you'll be wishing you hadn't. For some girls, cding is about getting a thrill from something that is considered taboo by them. By coming out to your friend, you may have inadvertantly caused yourself to fall into denial b/c you are ashamed of yourself now that you've told someone important who you care about, and now you may not realize it, but you may be trying to prove something to her, or to yourself.
I'm just offering ideas, though. Only you know the true reason for the lapse. My only advice is to do what is true to yourself. If you truly have lost interest, don't dress. I highly doubt that you'll never dress again though.
Good luck with it.
Hugs,
Chrissy

[StephanieCD]

I go through phases. I get it out of my system and I feel better for a while - it would seem. I'd imagine coming out to someone could relieve some of the 'pressure'.

[Cissy Suzie]

I have come out to a few female friends and even my girlfriend, and had no really bad problems.

The urge to purge and get rid of your grrly things is one of the few "normal" behaviours we engage in, I imagine we keep the lingerie industry in business? :rolleyes:

You will be buying new things very soon if you do purge ... just rent a storage locker and put your things away, it is cheaper than starting over when the urge hits you.

[Tristen Cox]

The excitement will return but store what you have for now, and once you know they're gone you'll start wanting them back. The next phase will be stronger I bet, you're just going through the low spot. Be patient. This sort of thing never truly goes away.

[Jadeanne]

I stopped dressing (mother's bras, nightgowns, occasionally dresses) at age 18 when I began college (I started from boredom) and started again at age 51, but told my wife right away and she accepted it.

My advice is to store your femme clothing away.

I didn't have any femme clothing of my own in my teens, but I started again several months after she passed away and still have a number of her dresses I wear sometimes, including a few she made herself, and I may have worn one or more of them as a teen.

Jadeanne

[NICOLETV]

Do Not Get Rid Of Nothing.because You May Have Stuff That Can't Be Replaced.like Everybody Else Has Said,just Put It Up Because You Will Wanna Dress Again. I've Been There Done That Before And There Are Clothes That I Loved That You Can't Find Anymore.

[Wendy me]

i amlost purged a little while ago ... don't do it save them ..put them away when your ready like a old freind thay will be there....

[Elysia]

Put them away. What’s the down side? If you never have the urge again you can toss them out ten years from now. If you do, they’ll be there and that will save you a good deal of money. From a financial perspective keeping them is a cheap insurance policy. If you’re hoping that by getting rid of them you will reduce the likelihood that the desire will return, all I can say is, it’s never worked for me.

[Linda-x]

Don't force yourself to dress, just go with the flow. Oh, and by the way, there are more 'Thrills' ahead for you. :)

[Mandy Salamander]

OK, yeah, yeah, save it don't purge or you'll hate yourself in the morning, yeah, that's a given. My thought is this; Why does something like this cause such a reaction, when major catastrophe does not? I've lost a previous job when outed but rather than purge I went en femme 24/7 for the next 6 mos. till I finally got off my dead ass and went back to work, and have been at it ever since, I date, shop, go out socially and spend as much time as possible as a woman save for this; when I came out to my teenage daughter,(we live apart) I completely lost the urge for about 3 weeks(saved everything) and it's not like she probably didn't already know, or at least strongly suspect AND she's my strongest supporter, and I always knew she would be, in fact she thinks it's COOL. Hark, yet another thought: I really wish she wouldn't for her own sake but, she likes to brag about it at school, AND her friends also think it's cool!! I'm happy to see there's great hope for this generation!!! gtg now thats too many thoughts, my head hurts

[salem]

Similar comments to some of the others.

If you get rid of your collection, when the desires reappears and you again start to purchase just an item or two ..............and soon it grows to several items............ and then you realise the hard work of rebuilding your collection, you'll be thinking............ why didn't I keep my collection.

Salem

[TinaSparks]

Same here.
I've thrown 'Tina' in the bin 4 times during my life.
I mean EVERYTHING in the skip!!
Thats about 200 pairs of shoes Ive bought in 40 years!!
DONT throw anything away.
Love,
Tina xxx

[Katie Ashe]

I agree, don't toss anything. I have done it and tried to forget about CDing, it doesn't work and become very costly to replace everything over the years. I agree, store your items away until your ready/need to dress. If you don't dress anytime soon thats ok, at least your not out the cash again. I wish you the best :)

Katie

[ChristineRenee]

Resist the urge to purge! Store them away. There will no doubt come a time when you will want to dress again...then you'll have them there available to you. Rebuilding your wardrobe after purging can really add up. Like was said earlier...it's a good insurance policy...it's also sound advice!;)

Love,
Chrissie:)

[stephanie1000]

Don't throw anything away way to expensive and in your heart you know that you enjoy it and want to do it again. Good luck Stephanie ;)

[Krissi]

I agree with the girls, keep your things if you can. I've never really purged myself. When I was a teen, my mom found a bag of her clothes that I had claimed as mine in the closet and threw those out thinking they were old things she didn't wear anymore, that was tragic enough on me.

Right now I've only dressed a handful of times in the past 3 years, and those have been this year. Its funny how even though I haven't dressed, I still feel my feminine persona has grown. Take a break, or if your looking for a spark, do something different. Go dress in a motel or change up your look, or something to put a lil spice in it for you. You can do whatever you want, I've checked the bylaws and theres no rule that says you have to dress constantly.

[eileen1969]

;) poeple either decide to put there girl things away for many reason! could be that maybe you found something other than cd ing? God knows this answer! and so do you my freind! I was a part time most of my life and thought maybe I should be more manly? thats a whole different cookie! my piont is that when you are ready to be! you are who you define yourself to live within! I hope that makes sense for you! and take care Eileen :)

[GypsyKaren]

I've purged many times over the years, which I vow to never do again. It's really a waste of time and a nice wardrobe. It's okay to take a step back from things and see what happens.I would hold on to everything and not worry about it. What's gonna be will be.
GypsyKaren

[MelissaAndProudOfIt]

Hiya I too have purged my clothes in the past, and oh how i regretted that mad moment, I got rid of a lovelly black silk dress I really liked... but at that time i guess i was in self denial, that dressing wasn't me.. it was just a phase, how could i have been so wrong about someone who i personally love and know incredibly well (Me! lol) well I have long regretted that moment.

This is my personal opinion.. please write to me, please don't be offended as I have this to say. Sometimes, if men lack female company they look to find an alternative of sorts, some find it in dressing female and seeing this woman they so much like to see.. and gain satisfaction from this experience... sort of self love... which i have to say is in no way wrong.... we all should love ourselves in whole for who and what we are.. So I am not trying to say here that you did this for this reason alone, but it could have been one reason. With the fact you have found a female (GG) this urge to dress has subsided, which leads me to think one of two things... either your on a clothes purge.. which if your are a genuine xdresser you will wholefully regret doing this as i did. Secondly, maybe my view regards lacking female company might have been right... again I do not wish to offend.. sometimes i get things wrong.. hey I am only human, like we all are... Thats my view with the Thrill is gone.

[Donna Delite]

Just about everone says to keep your things, not to throw them out. Most lilely good advice. Could it be that since confessing that deep down you feel guilty now that your secret is out?

[AmyH]

When I first started this thread a month ago, I did not ever think I would dress again - It had been almost 9 months. Tonight when I got home from work, I decided that I wanted to dress again. Glad I did not get rid of anything. So tonight I am typing you fully dressed and I just want to say THANK YOU to all of you for being very supportive.

AmyH

[Tristen Cox]

Wow that really is a long time. Bet you feel fab now and back in action. Good for you :clap: :bow:



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[Cissy Suzie]

Woo Hoo!!

Good for you! You go grrl!

I hate to say I told ya so, but, I told ya so! :D

[ilovpanties]

provided i havent been doing this very long @ all...
(dont even have my own full sets of clothes yet)
but yes i have found myself needing a break and acting "normal" again. *shrugs* i just do it when the ugre arises...when its gone, im done till the next one comes.
as for the clothes, perhaps you have a trusting friend who will hold on to them for you (preferably a girl i would think)

[Stephenie]

Save some, get rid of some. But don't throw them all out. For now just be you, some day you may be her.