Done for the summer

[Diana L]

Today is the last day I will dress until after Labor day. Part of the agreement I have with my spouse is that I won't dress between Memorial day and Labor day. It is too hot in the summer anyway so it is usually no problem for me. My daughter is coming home in a couple days so I took the day today to dress for the last time. Only 3 months and 1 week until I dress again.

Diana

[celeste26]

I dont find the summer too hot but I do live in the Northwest and we have reasonably warm summers. Do you live in some tropical climate? Your profile doesn't indicate where it is you live.

In my closet is some of the nicest summer weight blouses and clothes, for me summer is the best of times.

I don't want to you break your agreement but isn't it possible to renegotiate it?

[windycissy]

Poor baby! Oh well, your wife sounds very supportive so you are wise to respect her boundaries. I love summer clothes as a girl, nthing cooler on a hot day than a tee shirt and skirt with sandals, but fall fashions are fun too, bet you're counting the days!

[Alice B]

That is an interesting arrangement with your wife and I'm sure it will be a long summer for you. Does your wife allow you to dress in her presence when you can dress?

[victoriamwilliams1]

Enjoy your summer. It is good to get a break every so often.

[Diana L]

We have a written agreement. When we set it up I asked for more dressing in the winter than I thought I needed. I can dress 2 nights a week and every other weekend. I usually only dress on the weekend. The agreement is fairly flexible. Family always comes first so I don't always dress when it is my weekend. In return sometimes I dress 2 or 3 weekends in a row but I always discuss it with her first. She has become much more comfortable when I do dress around her. We go shopping together although she stays a little distant so it doesn't look like we are together.
I think her comfort level has improved because of the agreement and that I stick to the agreement. She has even talked of taking a trip with me en femme the whole time. I live in Montana so we would have to go out of state to do this.
Diana

[jaina]

Do you get to control her for months at a time too? or is this a one sided agreement?

[Diana L]

This is NOT a one sided agreement! When we wrote the agreement we both listed what we wanted then we discussed everything. My post only talks about a small part of it. The agreement provides a foundation for a loving relationship that includes Diana. It is also a living document in that we discuss it and revise it as our situation changes.

Diana

[jaina]

We go shopping together although she stays a little distant so it doesn't look like we are together.



when will she stop being embarassed of you and be willing to seen together?
Has she put that in writing?

[Diana L]

We live in a relatively small city. When we go out we almost always see people we know. I also am relatively well known in the community. Together if people recognize her they would also recognize me. by myself people might see me as a man in a dress but for some reason don't connect a name to it. I once stood right next to a former girl friend looking through a rack of clothes, she should have recognized me but didn't. When we see people we know when out together she stops and socializes while I continue shopping. Quit often we will look at items together and converse just like any 2 women shopping.

Diana

[mudanjel]

I think it's neat that you and your wife worked something out. Too many times this situation ends in divorce!

[Tomara]

Hi Diana I think it is great that you and your wife have an agreement that you both are comfortable with . It sounds like you have very good relationship. Can you at least wear panties in the summer ? I dont think I could live without at least that little luxury. Anyway enjoy your summer and I hope you can still visit us here. :hugs: Tomara

[linnea]

I think that it's great that you have an agreement too! Although we could all offer ways to make it more equitable or more this or more that, I believe that it is a very good step to take with a spouse. I would like any supportive agreement, written or otherwise. And for me not dressing in the summer would not be too bad; my favorite times to dress are the other seasons anyway.