What is an acceptable level of acceptance?

[Emily Anderson]

In a recent question, I asked about your biggest worries as a CD, and I would like to thank everybody who responded to that question. Ref: http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=82791


As a follow-up, and considering that the overwhelming number of you who cited the theme of being caught and/or not being accepted, I would like to ask the following:

What would you consider an acceptable level of acceptance toward your CD'ing?

a) From your SO
b) From your family
c) From your friends
d) From society

[Kate Simmons]

I think it depends a lot on the individual person and their own level of confidence and self acceptance.:)

[Emily Anderson]

Indeed, I'm not looking for an absolute answer, but individual's thoughts on what they think is a good level of acceptance.

[tricia_uktv]

Emily, can you drop down just a bit, my brain hurts with other questions as well? Are you talking about acceptance by society or acceptance by family and friends?

Hugs

[Emily Anderson]

Tricia,

Good point, it's a bit vague. I really meant all four: SO, family, friends, and society, but I guess that's a lot to answer in one question.

Anybody want to write a dissertation? :)

[KandisTX]

An acceptable level of of acceptance for me would be that I could wear what I wanted, when I wanted, without fear of any sort of negative reaction from anyone, anywhere. ;)

Kandis:love::rose2:

[CharleneT]

For me, in a perfect world, I would consider just ignoring us fine. I do not expect everyone to agree or approve, but I do want them to just leave us alone. NO weird comments, asking us to leave, beating people up etc... Treat us as they now treat most gay people. They are just there, very few people in the US now point at obviously gay people or stare in disbelief. When I was young they still did that. I realize that there is a lot yet to go in the road to fully accepting gays ( what happened to Mathew Sheppard being a good example of how far we haven't come) I believe that our society (USA) will get there. From what I've read, in europe and some other places, they really do not bother CD's. That's all I want, let us live and prosper on out own.

C.

[tricia_uktv]

Emily, I'll try,

I think, for me, that the only way forward is total acceptance by everyone. I am out and accepted (mostly) by society so thats a start.

Friends all know and, to be frank, couldn't care

Work colleagues - thats an interesting one. Am in the process of slowly and carefully coming out there. No hitches as yet but its early days.

Family - adult relatives including Mother all know but never want to see me dressed (they may get a shock one day). Children all know - I have sixteen year old twins who seem to be getting used to the idea - but I'm their Dad and a 19 year old who thinks its cool.

So can only dress away from home but that also gives it an extra edge.

Is that enough for a dissertation?

[Roberta Lynn]

If your talking friends and family. They don't have to like it. they don't have to participate.

Just accept that it's who I am, Accept that it is an integral part of me. Accept that I'm not going to change.

To me that is acceptance, it's a solid foundation to build on, anything beyond that is a plus.

[bobi jean]

Live and let live
to each his/her own/
Basically,, just to be accepted as much so as anyother human.
I know that there are peopls in the world that would kill or mame or otherwise do harm just because you are (you choose) anything. You name it: just because you are
black,
white,
yellow, or any of the other colors associated with the human race, but not of their race.
How many differant religions are there that have been at war with each other since the beginning of time?
I have even wittnessed a man years ago that crushed another mans esphogis (sp) just because he looked at his girlfriend.
We will never be totally accepted in this world but neither will anyother form of life, but I would like to see us all GET ALONG.

[RebeccaLynne]

Emily, these are my thoughts on the subject.

I will speak only to the matter of an SO's acceptance, given that person is the only one with which I'm intimate, and knows of my CD'ing proclivity.

I'd classify her as tolerant. By that I mean, she has seen me en femme, doesn't object to my doing it, but doesn't feel comfortable with me doing so in her presence.

I feel that she is less than accepting, as my desire to enjoy at least some of our time together while I'm dressing remains unfulfilled.

So what I seek is accomodation. We spend our leisure time playing chess, watching DVD's, preparing and enjoying meals, and just plain being companions.

And I'd really appreciate her accomodating my preference for CD'ing while so engaged.

Is it really too much to ask?

I don't think so.

[Veronica 1]

An acceptable level of of acceptance for me would be that I could wear what I wanted, when I wanted, without fear of any sort of negative reaction from anyone, anywhere. ;)

Kandis:love::rose2:

I agree.

[Bilinda]

I would only care about my SO. Anyone else I don't need, want or expect any understanding at all.

[Deborah Jane]

Being able to go out anywhere, anytime and no one taking much notice.
Just being able to go out and be myself!!

[DanaR]

I would only care about my SO. Anyone else I don't need, want or expect any understanding at all.

I feel the same as Bilinda. My SO is accepting, so I can do almost anything that I would like to do.

[Sandygal]

I would like to accepted in society. That way my SO wouldn't be embarresed if anybody found out.

[Ayame]

A, B, and C even though I only have A at the moment I could care less what strangers think of me. However I strongly doubt B would happen and C could probably only happen to a certain degree.

[jenalex]

What would you consider an acceptable level of acceptance toward your CD'ing?

a) From your SO
b) From your family
c) From your friends
d) From society

acceptance from family and friends
tolerance from society
love from SO (acceptance isn't enough)

:battingeyelashes:

[boy2girl31]

I used to live in the back woods of Pennsylyania and in the three city area I lived there were maybe 4-5 african american families and most of the people around simply ignored them. I was not one of those people not only did I not ignore them they were close friends. Being that I have seen and hated that type of predjudice I would have to say D I have come to believe that if everyone accepted everyone else then we would all have a better world. I don't delude myself in thinking it will ever happen but total acceptance of everyone is a major part of my world.


(To get to my world make a right at the rainbow if you see the unicorn you have gone too far)

[boy2girl31]

Another thought

If we don't expect total acceptance how will we ever get it.