They stole my damn name...

[kaitlyna]

Well, I just returned from visiting my family. My father told me that my step-brother and his wife (can't stand them at all) are having a baby girl and are going to name her Kaitlyn...grrrr :Angry3::Angry3::Angry3::Angry3::Angry3:

I've just recently come up with my fem name and now it's been stolen. Not only that, but this was a name I wanted to name my next daughter, if I had the chance.....:Angry3: for more on the "origin" of my name: http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?p=1260721#post1260721

So, my question to you out there is how should I react? My gut says to change my name and never associate that name with the people that bring me such grief (Long story, nothing to do with dressing)? Should I then ask my wife to pick out a name for me, if she would? Should I say to hell with them, and just keep Kaitlyn?

I've yet to ask for support here girls, but I'm asking now. Please help....

Kaitlyn (For now at least)

[moses]

First of all, do they know you as Kaitlyn? Did they know you wanted to use it for your next daughter (are y'all even pregnant)? If the answer to both of those is no, then just chalk it up to coincidence. If the answer is yes, then just think of it as flattery (which imitation almost always is).

Just a little side story...when my son was 3 years old, we called him Tony. We had called him Tony ever since he was born, even though his name was Anthony. He came home from day care one day and said he wanted to be called Anthony. Who knows where that came from, but he didn't give up so we all started calling him Anthony. I couldn't believe that the day care teachers told him he COULDN'T be called Anthony because there were already two other Anthonys. WHAT? My mom got it right...if the child wants to be called Anthony, call him Anthony.

So from my mom to you...if you want to be called Kaitlyn, then we'll call you Kaitlyn, no matter how many others there are.

[kaitlyna]

First of all, do they know you as Kaitlyn? Did they know you wanted to use it for your next daughter (are y'all even pregnant)? If the answer to both of those is no, then just chalk it up to coincidence. If the answer is yes, then just think of it as flattery (which imitation almost always is).

Just a little side story...when my son was 3 years old, we called him Tony. We had called him Tony ever since he was born, even though his name was Anthony. He came home from day care one day and said he wanted to be called Anthony. Who knows where that came from, but he didn't give up so we all started calling him Anthony. I couldn't believe that the day care teachers told him he COULDN'T be called Anthony because there were already two other Anthonys. WHAT? My mom got it right...if the child wants to be called Anthony, call him Anthony.

So from my mom to you...if you want to be called Kaitlyn, then we'll call you Kaitlyn, no matter how many others there are.

Didn't mean to come off as angry. If I was a GG, maybe I'd blame it on PMS. Just hit me at the wrong time, I guess. To answer your questions, no they don't know me as Kaitlyn. The only person that knows me as that outside of the internet is my wife. The answer to the other is yes, it's pretty well known that was the intended name of my next daughter... :sad:

[StephanieC]

I think if you like the name, you should keep it.

I had a similar situation. My brother-in-law had a daughter about two years after my daughter. He ended up using the exact same name. At the time, I was pretty pissed since we obviously had a "lock" on the name for some time before their child. However, as time went on, I felt less strongly about it. Of course, there was the inevitable confusion at family gatherings; and I refused to use both first and last names when I addressed my daughter. In time, he started to use the first and middle names to distinguish from my daughter's name.

Some names tend to be popular for periods of time. So it's quite common to have bunches of children with the same first names, depending on when those names were in fashion.

[kaitlyna]

Some names tend to be popular for periods of time. So it's quite common to have bunches of children with the same first names, depending on when those names were in fashion.

Damn you for putting things in perspective! :heehee: Guess my narcasism is showing.

[Roberta Lynn]

Keep your name.
If you want them to change just tell them how 'thrilled' you are that they are naming their baby after you fem personality. :heehee:

[Shannen]

Keep it... perhaps some day in the future you can let them know you had it first! :heehee:

[kaitlyna]

Keep your name.
If you want them to change just tell them how 'thrilled' you are that they are naming their baby after you fem personality. :heehee:

More indirectly, I could tell them that I knew a crossdresser named Kaitlyn. Maybe that'd be enough to freak them out. :daydreaming:

[Joann0830]

You know, that you could look at it as something different then they stole it,
Think of it as an admiration for their Aunt Kaitlyn. You can look at it that way in your favor. Joann0830:battingeyelashes::heehee::love:

[lisalove]

If it were me, I would tell them I'm Kaitlyn and she ain't. But that's just me lol

[TGMarla]

Don't take your dislike for your step-brother and his wife out on their little baby girl. The fact that they named their daughter something that you really like suggests that there's at least one redeeming characteristic about them. And she didn't pick her parents. You should be glad that she got that name. Maybe she'll be the one on that side of the family that you'll end up liking. After all, you have something in common now, don't you?

[Melora]

This is up to You And Your Wife...

[jaina]

Well, I just returned from visiting my family. My father told me that my step-brother and his wife (can't stand them at all) are having a baby girl and are going to name her Kaitlyn...grrrr :Angry3::Angry3::Angry3::Angry3::Angry3:

I've just recently come up with my fem name and now it's been stolen. Not only that, but this was a name I wanted to name my next daughter, if I had the chance.....:Angry3: for more on the "origin" of my name: http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?p=1260721#post1260721

So, my question to you out there is how should I react? My gut says to change my name and never associate that name with the people that bring me such grief (Long story, nothing to do with dressing)? Should I then ask my wife to pick out a name for me, if she would? Should I say to hell with them, and just keep Kaitlyn?

I've yet to ask for support here girls, but I'm asking now. Please help....

Kaitlyn (For now at least)

Thats the most self absorbed thing I've ever read. Seriously, grow up.

[Chiana]

You like your name so keep it. It doesn't seem like you will be spending a lot of time with each other anyway. Besides, you might eventually come to love their daughter inspite of the parents. You will have a secret bond that only you know about.

[Angela-Russell]

Keep your name, & if you have a daughter, why not give her the same name if you want to. I come from quite a large family & have a few relatives with the same names, so it's no big deal.

[crusadergirl]

I say keep the name i'm not changing my name b/c someone else uses it.
But i get where your coming from. I use to go by Coda and one of my friends desided to name there son coda after me. It was shocking but still a honor.:)

[victoriamwilliams1]

Keep your name.

[Priscilla Ann]

The choice is yours. Me, I have many many names and like them all. I like to think that I am not defined by what name I use.

[Emily Ann Brown]

Oh geesh....give me a break.

Would you change your name because another sister on here had it? Are you Kaitlyn or not?

OR...look at it this way.....how p***ed would these people you don't like be if they knew their daughter shared a family crossdresser's name? What a way to smile every time you're around them...you know the joke is on them but they don't..GIGGLE GIGGLE.

And what says you will HAVE a daughter??? I know plenty of couples how wanted a particular gender for their unborn child but didn't succeed even after 3-4 tries.


Emily Ann

[JoAnnDallas]

Here is a little bit about my own family. Because of a mistake on my birth certificate, I ended up with the same first and middle name as my father. Now this is not uncommon, but I am not a jr, II,III, or etc. Did make for a interesting time when I got my Top Secret Clearance. They would asked people about me and the first response was Father or Son? LOL Anyway there used to be four men in out family all with the same first name. John. Myself, my father, my brother-in-law, and his father. We used to all go hunting together, so got comical at times with everyone calling each other John all the time. The women in out family used to call us 1st,2nd,3rd John, and St. John. Dad was 1st John, Brother-in-law's father was 2nd John, I was 3rd John, and brother-in-law was St. John.

[KIRA ANN]

have to agree with TGMARLA KEEP YOUR NAME.:)

[MJ]

keep your name . if you like it . don't get upset because people you don't like took the same name.

i am full time as Marissa ...but my children still call me dad :doh:.. i don't care as long as they call me

[Jocelyn Quivers]

Keep it, picking a femme name was a very long and important process for me. I would not change it for anything.

[tamarav]

I wouldn't get too upset over the use of the name you use. Try doing a google search for your drab name and be prepared to find out just how non-unique you actually are.

My make name I thought was pretty unique, until I did just that. Just met a guy with "my" exact same name that is 3 months younger than me, we look nothing alike and we both had a great laugh over it. All this time we thought we were the tru owner of that name...

Your sis,

Tami

[kaitlyna]

First, thanks for most of your replies. I think through this forum and chatting with my wife (mostly) that I'm sticking with Kaitlyn. As I mentioned in my other forum, it's pretty special to me.

For those of you that chastized me for venting, sorry that you can't hear or understand my tone of the message. Guess I didn't really convey correctly the lack of intensity of my frustration. Was much more Steven Wright than Dennis Leary, if ya get my drift. Nothing intense at all, just a slight inconvienance.

Anywho, thanks for the discussion and for those of you that shared your stories.

Kaitlyn (For Good)

[putz0611]

I know how this can really tick someone off, but you have to ask yourself some questions.
1. Do you feel like you are Katelyn?
2. Does it really matter if your neice is Katelyn as well?
3. Do you really feel like trying to indentify as another name?