Crossdressing-Private or Public?

[Stephanie]

I was kind of curious about how everybody enjoys their crossdressing, specifically is it satisfying enough for most people here to dress up privately at home or do most people here feel like they have to dress in public and be able to "pass" to better enjoy their crossdressing? I have yet to actually summon up the courage to actually go out crossdressed and I used to think that it would be enough for me to just dress up at home but recently I've started thinking more and more about wanting to actually go out in public eventually. Dressing up is nice, don't get me wrong, but yet it feels somehow vaguely unsatisfying just hanging around dressed up at home, especially by myself. It may be awhile before I actually do venture out in public and I'll probably need to discuss it with my wife first but, at least to me, part of the thrill of crossdressing is being able to show oneself off and attempt to "pass" as a woman. What does everybody else think?

[Sissy Stephanie]

I dress at home. I haven't been out in public in quite a while.

[caroline_cd_99]

I also dress at home, for now. I have told my wife I plan on going to a tri-ess meeting in September, and intend to dress and go out in public once a month.

[Sophie Haworth]

I ocasionally go out dressed, but for me passing is very important, if I go out and I am read, then it really does spoil my CD enjoyment, and it makes me stop dressing, because there seems no point to it if I cannot pass.

This is a link to my last time out, about 3 weeks ago today.

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=7617

[Mia lynn]

I'm very much a newbie girl and just coming out as a girl. Up to now I've worn sexy lingerie and babydoll nighties at home. I do want to go out completely en femme and hope to do that soon. I do want to be able to pass as best I can so I've benn dieting and working on my makeup skills.
Hugs
Mia Lynn :)

[mand]

Hello Stephanie, I always used to think there was no way I could go out in public and show the world I'm a Tranny.
That was what I thought years ago anyway, but times change and so did my mind and now I am living as a woman virtually full time, the only time I dress as a man is if I go out with the wife, she asked me if I would do that so I agreed, but I hate it ;) , that is however the only restriction on my dressing I allow. I say dressing but it's more than that it's my lifestyle, I simply live as a girl there is no man anymore.

As for passing, we all like to think we can pull off the passing in public thing, however in all honesty how many trannies have you seen that can actually pass. I have met a lot that think they do but they don't ;) .
Don't get me wrong there are a lot of trannies around that are actually more attractive than some real girls but even so they still don't pass :)

If you want to go public Stephanie then do it and I promise once you get over the inital nerves you will love it, but don't rush it, take it step by step and small ones at that and prehaps the most important thing is to be carefull on the areas you go dressed, always be aware of you're safety.

love mand xxx

[Samantha Jane]

I stay dressed at home all the time, but would love to out in public, but I worried about not passing.

Did go out dressed once whilst away from home, but it was out driving. It was dark and the streets were virtually deserted. I briefly stopped at a park, where given the time of night, even the wild life were asleep and had a quick 5 minute walk. So I don't think that this outing really counts.

Samantha xx

[RachelDenise]

I think that at some point going out in public or at least interacting with another person is necessary for the pschye. I believe many of us need to share this side of ourselves to let out the "real" us. Keeping the feminine side hidden isn't what we want. Wehter passing in public satisfies that need depends on the individual. I would prefer more understanding from another who knows about my crossdressing rather than going out in public.

[Nisha]

I was kind of curious about how everybody enjoys their crossdressing, specifically is it satisfying enough for most people here to dress up privately at home or do most people here feel like they have to dress in public and be able to "pass" to better enjoy their crossdressing? ................ at least to me, part of the thrill of crossdressing is being able to show oneself off and attempt to "pass" as a woman. What does everybody else think?

I stepped into the outside world slowly. But by now, I have a compulsion to go out. If I am not seen by others, I don't enjoy it, I am not satisfied.

Shopping is my thing when en femme. I have gone shopping en femme in all kinds of shops. Interacted with people without any problems. Grocery shopping is my favorite.

Nisha.

[sara_also]

Going out in public, for me has two different meanings for me. I have been out several times in five years.I have always been with my wife and she has given me great support. We started with taking long drives up and down the hiways, Then graduated to a small group of wonderful people meeting once a month at one of their homes, for BBQ,s and some holiday gatherings. Most were members of GLBT. Not a lot of crossdressers, but that was ok because they always made us feel welcome. After moving to Sin City (Vegas) we have gone to the Casinos and have been out in the evening where the lights make everything as bright as day on the streets. It seems fairly easy tp pass here, as most are turist and in their own world, and there is no problem with blending because you will see people dressed in everything from short mini's to evening gowns. We have never had a problem, and if I have been read, we have never noticed.
Now, to the second meaning. I can go where there are a lot of people and do most things. "BUT" I can not go to my mail box to get the mail, I can not pull weeds in the yard, I can not sun bathe on my patio, I can not wash my car in my driveway while enfem. All of these things I can not do, because I dare not go out in public.
Just wondering if others are living in these two different worlds, as I am.
Have a great day, and enjoy what makes you Happy.

Sara_Also

[Wendy me]

the last time i went out was late sunday night /monday morning.. to a all night grocery store . when the mood hits me yes i go out , but for the most part being at home every day and dressing up is ok with me .... i can rember when a walk in the back yard at night was a rush....mostly now the only rush i get abought crossdressing is when i find that must have heels or outfit...... i think that most of the thirll of going out is we think that we are getting away with something.....once you get that so you just are going out dressed .... it's not that big of a thing ...till the blue lights come on behinde you....and the bigest thing to think abought is not weather or not you might pass...but rather if you are read ... just how safe you are ....before you stroll out the door think safty frist.....

[MelissaAndProudOfIt]

Crossdressing indoors does tend to be a lonely affair, as I endured it for a long time, though the thought of going out scared me... what would the local residents say. One night I was laying on my bed and thought if i wasn't to wake in the morning, would i have been happy with the way i lived my life ... to that point the answer was a definitive nope! My favourite quote " Life is not a rehearsal" I think how true is that. If you feel the woman within, goodness sakes let her out, apply comon sense and dress the best you can, overcome obstacles by facing them head on. If you cannot or don't want to dress locally, then have a weekend break away and spend it dressed! Lifes to be enjoyed, make the best of your life, as life is not a rehearsal ok.. hope this message helps... Otherwise there will come a time that you'd say to yourself "I wish I did!" :)

[BonnieJG]

I stay dressed at home all the time, but MAYBE would go out in public, but I worried about not passing.
I some times but on a bra only and go driveing at night

[Vivian Best]

Each of us have our individual needs and desires. As mentioned above some girls have the need to be seen and interact with people and probably do a good job. Others are just as thrilled to "just" go out of the house and I'm one of the latter. I think I'd probably be read in a heartbeat for several reasons. Therefore, I try to limit my exposure to people by doing things such as going to the drive through places to get something to eat or places where there are not many people. I love to go out, there is a thrill about doing it. Maybe it's the thought of someone recognizing me or just the mystery of being somebody other that who you are. It's fun and I love it and I would like to do it more.

Vivian :p

[MelissaAndProudOfIt]

When I was sort of new to dressing, obviously passing successfully was 110% on my mind. Well one particular day i was out dressed in town, I heard someone pass a rather un-polite comment, oops I had been read...Oh Oh.. thought I... I didn't know what to do... running was an option.. but message from brain never got to my legs and i froze. Then after that it dawned on me that the comment was aimed at some lady not at me ...phew relief.. some chap thought a woman walking behind me looked less convincing than me. only i knew this woman and she was a real one ok... So even real women get mistaken and don't always look convincing. So us crossdressers should worry less about passing, just do as good a job as we can. Not be complacent, just make as positive effort about appearance and start enjoying life to the full. After all heres another thought.. I reckon us crossdressers who go out are only the tip of the iceburg... many, many more men crossdress to some degree within the privacy of their own homes..... and try to hide it when out and about. there you have it in a nut shell..

[kammi]

I always dress at home never go out

[Jennifer_Ph]

Public or private - either way, there is never enough time!

[Katie Ashe]

I am perfecting my self in private and desire to go public, my first stop is the mall when I get a wig and some nerves. My wife says I got the make up thing going on, I now do both of our, it's easier for her. Do I need to go out for self grat, starting to feel so. I don't want to hide, it's starting to bother me. I think the mall is a good place to start, window shop and try on some shoes :D

Katie

[obsessedwithpantyhose]

i myslef have been wearing suntan pantyhose with shorts in public for a few yrs now,,, but for me i just want to wear skirts and heels all the time and the only way to do that around all those small minds is if u look like a female,

well for starters i HATE to shave my face so i always have some growth on it,, and why should we as cds always have to make sure we look nice when the real females dont give a shit about how they look in public,,
i would wear some lipstick and perfume and that would be it unless i was goin to the bar or out to dinner, then i would make myself look better..

[sammyd]

just private dressing here
someday... perhaps someday... but for now i'll stay in the closet

[Kimberly]

I have yet to actually summon up the courage to actually go out crossdressed and I used to think that it would be enough for me to just dress up at home but recently I've started thinking more and more about wanting to actually go out in public eventually.
That sounds exactly like me!!

I wanna go to college in the stuff the girls wear to it: a nice tight blouse, a jacket, a suit skirt, some tights and a nice pair of black pumps. But I can't. Why? Well..... other people.

I was actually dying to just go out in clothes the other day, I don't know why. But I just get so frustrated at not being able to express myself truly using the clothes I desire.

Coming out to everyone, and then dressing, probably isn't an option. Would cause far more sadness than it would happiness. Plus, I have a feeling the college would not let me wear that, as it is not in the dress code for my gender. (I had daydreams about taking it to the European Court for Human rights... blanket press coverage etc... Never gonna happen thoough. It will one day, and it will be just like the women's rights marches of the sixties, except less bra burning.)

[deanh22]

Just panties for me so can go out in public without fear

[Tina P Hose]

Just me and my pantyhose in the apartment, along with my other gear, skirts, dresses, soft silky panties and all the other girly stuff.

[pantywearer208]

first off i cant pass. i wasnt blessed with the ability to make myself look like a woman even with a ton of make up. i learned to accept this and sleep in nightgowns and wearing skirts or dresses i stay in. i do however wear panties 99.9% of the time (only wear mens going to doctors) so i am kind of dressed all the time. i have had on teddies under my clothes along with pantyhose. in winter, i wear nylon body suits and pantyhose as "long johns" as they keep the cold out and are not bulky and uncomfortable. people can see the sleeves of the body suit but dont realize what it is. i personnally feel like i read in a previous post that i wish i could wear what i want and not be considered a sicko. would love to be able to wear a beautiful dress and soft frilly petticoats all the time.
just something to add. some people are too critical of themselves and can be made up to pass. maybe not look like miss america but enough to make people see a woman. if you can do it go for it :) .

[eileen1969]

I was at home and done my dressing there but today I can choose to be either male/female! I go with my heart when I fist wake and if I choose to be Eileen or Ron! Its how I feel inside! The Power of chioce makes all the differance in my life and the world we share.... ;) :)

[racheal]

Private for now (except for undergarments at work - he he), but will be a goin' public sometime soon. :)

[Amelie]

Just panties for me so can go out in public without fear

Wow! You must be brave to go out in just your panties. you must have nerves of steel. Lol

I have to go out dressed, even if it's just to a park bench at night or a front stoop talking with my boyfriend or one of his friends.

I think Veronica fron AZ has made a good point. Sometimes it is nice not to get all done up, but to just wear a few fem items. I sometimes go out in jeans and a t-shirt, with make-up and wig. Not totaly fem but similar to what a GG might normaly wear.

[Deeaz]

I agree whole heartedly with Mand very few are truly passable so just go for it. I went out my second time dressed and now go out everytime I dress, I can't imagine staying in after all that work. :)

[Shy]

I was kind of curious about how everybody enjoys their crossdressing, specifically is it satisfying enough for most people here to dress up privately at home or do most people here feel like they have to dress in public and be able to "pass" to better enjoy their crossdressing? I have yet to actually summon up the courage to actually go out crossdressed and I used to think that it would be enough for me to just dress up at home but recently I've started thinking more and more about wanting to actually go out in public eventually. Dressing up is nice, don't get me wrong, but yet it feels somehow vaguely unsatisfying just hanging around dressed up at home, especially by myself. It may be awhile before I actually do venture out in public and I'll probably need to discuss it with my wife first but, at least to me, part of the thrill of crossdressing is being able to show oneself off and attempt to "pass" as a woman. What does everybody else think?

Once I get all the pieces for my wardrobe assembled, I plan on being somewhat of a drag queen - so I'll be going to the clubs quite a fair bit. I don't dress to pass; I enjoy over-the-top looks and outfits from the cybergoth side of the fashion world. Basically, the way I dress would turn heads regardless of gender.

[Melissa A.]

And you call yourself Shy exactly why?....

Hugs,

Melissa :)

[gender_blender]

I go into public dressed as female on a regular basis. Last summer at my job, I followed the female dress code and no one complained. 3+ years of hormones allow a rather gender-fluid existance.
Before my graduation from college less than a week ago, I went to class as female occasionally.

Charlie

[rhannicd]

I am in the public eye very often because of my profession. I know I am not at the point where I can pass in public yet, that is the ultimmate goal. I would have to say I'm a private cd, BUT, I have been known to go to adult bookstores on occasion and come out dressed in the arcades! Being a trucker also allows me the cover of night driving which is never a problem being read because other drivers can only get a quick glance. There was one occasion in Iowa one night where I stopped at a picnic area/ rest stop and was sitting at a table near my truck. A car pulled up with a guy driving who didn't seem to pay any attention to me. I guess because he really had to pee!! :p

[Stephanie]

Thanks for all of the interesting replies. I think that I will definitely try crossdressing sometime once I get all of my "gear" assembled and if my wife is o.k. with it. As to whether I'll be able to be "passable" or not, I don't know. I seem to take a lot after my mother in terms of my facial features and I have a fairly small build so I think that I will be able to "pass" o.k. in terms of appearance. I do have a fairly deep voice and there is the ever-present "adam's apple," although I'm not sure exactly how noticeable it is. My primary concerns about crossdressing in public tend to be mostly logistical such as figuring out to pay for things (if I go out shopping or out to eat by myself), using the restroom (if absolutely necessary), and how to handle it if I were ever required to present identification.

[Sabrina1575]

I love to go out in public but it only a few times a year, I wish it could be more. Far as passing, I do not even come close to passing while, but it's half of the fun seeing the reactions on people.

Sabrina,

[Jonien]

If I could only just get past the front door would be some thing ! but it's just a dream, I have all the gear I need. allthough I need to improve my make up skills and speech is something I don't think i'll ever get right

[Ariel]

I have ventured out into my back yard, dressed. At first, staying near the back door, incase one of the neighbors should be out :o . Now, not so worried about it. As for going out the front door, wellllllll now, that's a different story. I ventured out to go to the garrage wearing jeans, white t shirt, breast forms and bra. Went well, but very nervious. Think tha I was seen by neighbor :o :o . Eventually, I would like to venture out dressed, but still haven't got the nerve up, yet, anyway. I am still trying to get that make up thing right (hate the racoon eye thing that keeps happening). Eventually some day will make it out, though. Even if it is just for a quiet walk along the beach some night.

Hugs,
Ariel

[eileen1969]

I was once very private and today I can come and go as I please! I am decked out right now and at a local community place! the sweetness of being girls!
take care stay sexy Eileenxoxo ;)

[flicka]

I'm not "out" to anyone other than John. My crossdressing is exclusively private and I have no compelling desire to appear in public - though I dog-sat for a period and we would walk the dog in the evenings; it felt nice but I guess it was the novelty factor of walking arm in arm with my man. I am lucky, I know, and have no need for the appreciation or admiration of others - I make a hit with John and that is all I need. I don't dress every day - domestic circumstances don't permit - but I'm always en-femme at bedtime; nails, nightie and a bracelet or two.

I never dress in front of John - preferring to maintain the feminine mystique (if he wonders what is underneath he has to find out!!) Often I will allow him to select my wardrobe, which he will lay out on the bed, with items of jewellery. Underwear is my choice (sometimes I feel naughty - if you know what I mean!) When I come downstairs he is usually starting to prepare the evening meal, and I take great pleasure in presenting myself to him dressed completely for the evening. He never fails to compliment me on my turnout, and I revel in his admiration. My role is to look nice and get the pre-dinner drinks.

For the record I do the housework, dusting, vacuuming, mopping and ironing - which is my favourite; I even iron the teatowels and enjoy ironing my man's boxers!

He's been reading over my shoulder as I've been typing this and I've just been reminded of an unfulfilled wifely duty so I must go!

[Mia lynn]

I do want to go out en femme, still have alot to do and learn before I'm ready. I'm not worried about passing. I just want to a cute t girl. I much rather go out clubbing with a couple of other girls. To be just one of the girls would be wonderful. Planning on joining a cd support group soon. I need advice about clothes and makeup.
Hugs
Mia Lynn

[GypsyKaren]

I always did my dressing at home for years and years, but a few months ago I finally bought a wig and got make-up down, so now I go out. I find it to be much more satisfying. I pass to most of the people most of mthe time, and I really don't worry about being made. If it happens, it happens.So what? Life goes on.

[Donna Delite]

I've been getting dressed at home for years but am going to go public soon. Looking for more these days

[linda glam]

i have to dress in private because of circumstances re family

[AbbyLee]

Always at home and when my wife is not present. I dream someday of being accepted and going out. Maybe if I am in a city away from the small town I live in, I wii try going out.

AbbyLee

[pantiesfortwo]

I wear mt panties,garterbelt and stockings under my pants when I go out but that is as far as I have gone!!!

[Stacie Stockman]

Want to be public... My closet is my prison.....And besides Im usually a nudist while stuck at home, in male mode... Had to be a CD to enjoy dressing...

[Diane T]

Been Dressing for a long time. I have gone out fully dressed a number of times. I still get nervous, but find most people do not notice. Love going out dressed up but have been it private for a while as I have not been able to shave my hands which have hair on them.

[nikki]

Always in private and not as often as i wish.I have, once after a bottle of wine ventured out into my garden,which is overlooked,it was 1am and that was in the days before them dam security lights.It gave me a real buzz,to hear the sound of my heels on the path.Other than that i've worn stockings and suspenders under my jeans to go to the local shop.
Nikki

[karen marie]

going out isn't as big a deal as it used to be.
living in the country i can pretty much dress when i want.
i can be outdoors enfem as we have no close neighbors.
a lot of times going out wearing women's jeans or a pair
of girly shorts is enough.
hugs,karen.

[Crystal Harmony]

Im only dressed up at home,I would love to go out in publc one day but like all the other girls passing is my main problem.I think if i did oxford st would be the best place to do it.I was at a gay bar with my brother the other week(im not gay,but my brother is) and a cd came into the bar and she looked fantastic i could not take my eyes of her,10 points for her. :D

[Gemma]

I dress in private but having been out the once the feeling it gave me was fantastic and since then I don't believe I dress at home as much, I have full support from my lady and my daughter is at school and stays at her friends a lot, I also have a good job where I am off a lot, but to dress up at home does'nt give me the same excitement as it did when I went out. It should do really as I hav'nt anybody to go out with now :(

[Imogen_Mann]

Dressing out of doors.... My own safety means nothing but the public must be protected. I think what it comes down to is, I know my limitations. :)

[Dawn]

just private dressing here
someday... perhaps someday... but for now i'll stay in the closet

I'm with Sammyd....for right now.
I hope to someday go out fully dressed.
I'm just getting my groove thing on again after 5 years of being a guy full time....so baby steps for this girl.

Dawn

[JoannaDees]

Dressing out of doors.... My own safety means nothing but the public must be protected. I think what it comes down to is, I know my limitations. :)

Ha, Ha! Berry punny.

This thread kind of ties into some of my feelings the last week or so. I am again dressing, staying at home, and this time the feelings of isolation and futility are setting in so soon. That's what drove me away and not so nice many months ago. So it appears I need to go out. A late night/early morning walk in the darkness is not enough, I've done that a few times. What is enough? And I feel wasteful, living in the Bay Area CA, the "TG Mecca" according to Rachel Ann, as opposed to some of the more isolated and conservative places many of you reside.

Joanna

[Daniel]

I'm private for sure. I'm neck-down. I would not really want to pass, since I like to wear clothes that would be considered ****ty if not indecent.

[tgirlkari]

I used to stay at home all caged up from the rest of the world when I would dress but that was a long time ago.
When I started giong out dressed it was a liberating feeling that I didn't have to hide I could be free to be me no matter how I was dressed partially to fully crossdressed but I don't think its a matter of showing off or flaunting anything I think the thrill feeling for me at least is the exhilerating feeling of freedom!

[Elysia]

I dress in private. I only get fully dressed at home but I almost always have some article of feminine clothes on, usually panties.

[Deidra Cowen]

I enjoy public and private. When at home I love to get dressed and then do chores like cleaning or laundry. I get a huge thrill everytime I pass a mirror and see myself carring a basket of laundry or whatever I'm doing while dressed. Its not private nor is it really going out...but also while at home dressed if I have time I log on to yahoo and do the Chat/Cam thing in a CD chat room.

I'm a fairly new crossdresser but I have been bar hopping twice as a CD. That was a huge thrill....I really enjoyed it.

[Amelia Moxon]

I have never been out dressed, yet as I'm still building my gear up, I need a wig makeup etc, but I am starting to dress a bit more girly even when I’m in male mode, girls shoes/boots/trainers, sometimes panties and socks/tights too. I have recently started to wear pink nail varnish one my toenails too. I have a pair of jeans that I'm going to start wearing too, I guess I'm a bit of a Tom Girl (if that’s the right way of putting it) as a male, but I also can't wait to get everything sorted and start dressing fully for Saturday nights weekends away etc.
I guess being out to my parents make this easier but they both hate that fact that I’m a CD (no emotional support on the subject from either of them). My mum though I was gay at first, I told her I’m not (Dunno if she believes me), why do people most people seem to think that CD’s TV’s what ever you want to label us as are gay, beats me??!!
I love dressing up and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Michelle xxx

[Glenda]

I go out dressed often. I usually put on full make up and wig about three days a week. It does take practise to be able to do a good job and the extra shaving and lotions does take a lot of time most guy guys don't have to worry about. But I have found my friends very accepting and many who have heard of my crossdressing but never seen me dressed are looking forward to the day they see me. I accept friends and visitors in my home, visit other friends homes and run errands and go out for occasional drinks dressed en femme. I don't know if I pass, but that is not really the point. Glenda is a real part (not all) of me and if someone has a problem with it then it is their problem, not mine. By the way, most comments I receive are very complimentary. Others say it must take a lot of self confidence to be able to be open and honest about my feminine side. Confidence helps a lot and who doesn't like to be told, "My you look so good, or beautiful or natural."?

[Niya W]

For me I go out , hang with the girls, go for night of dancing. I find my self going any were from 4 -12 times a month. Drssing at home is boring. vI dont dress for sexual excitement or for the thrill of it , I dress cause I feel thats who I am. Some time I wish I could just shed this boy shell :(

[Tristen Cox]

Private. I'm a private person really. Even if I am out somewhere I prefer the company of nature, not humans.

[Sindy]

I also only dress in private. I would love to go out dressed but don't want to do it alone.

[Mandy Salamander]

I am always dressed when at home and do go out quite a bit, at least once or twice a week, but then I don't really get out that much in general. I can usually pass, but occasionally draw flies, To me passing hardly seems to be the point, I feel I'm expressing my true self and THIS IS S'POSED TO BE FUN!!!. Certainly none of us ever asked for this blessing, BUT it is who we all are, might as well ENJOY IT (as best suits each individual). And Stephanie, Darling I live close (in Cincy), when the time is right for you, feel free to contact me, I'd consider it an honor to accompany you on your Maiden Voyage, do call,

[Mia lynn]

Knowing that I'm a Girl at heart really helps me. I'm so much happier now that I've accepted my girly side. I still have alot of things to do before I go out dressed as a girl. Right now I'm still learning how to do my makeup and buying lingerie. My goal for the year is to go out en femme.
Hugs
Mia Lynn

[MelindaC]

I dress primarily at home. I have been out in public fully dressed a few times, and I always dress for Tri-Ess meetings (which I'm not able to do anymore, as my chapter is 200 miles away...). The times I have been out I felt so free and wonderful. I know on one occasion around several other people --- complete strangers --- I think I passed OK, as no one indicated I had been read. I know for sure my girdle helped me there, in forcing me to walk in a ladylike manner. I had 3 inch heels on at the time --- I guess all the practice at home helped!! To me it is very important to pass when I go out.

[MelissaAndProudOfIt]

It's strikes me as very odd these people who feel that because they hold high status jobs are worried that their crossdressing if revealed would do them harm. Here's a thought what do all these people have in common:

Judges, Vicar's, politicians, policemen, soldiers etc...


They are all human like me and you.

They all do exactly like me and you.

They have private lives like me and you

Some xdress like me and you

Loads advertise on sites crossdressed, like me and you

Loads these days go out in public like me and most of you.

I have met a policeman I know, crossdressed in town.. He's a great guy.. real pleasant character.. living his life.. like me and you... But he's going out dressed... as he says, one day he will be too old, so while he's younger he will indulge in his crossdressing. He said after all i am only human.

It's fastenating to know that avast multitude of transgendered people are actually more intellectual, than non transgendered counterparts. As loads actually hold down very prominent careers in very high positions, high stress jobs. At the end of the day some like to relax and indulge in crossdressing for their own reasons. Some have exactly the same reasons as us. So the next time you see a crossdresser in town in the daytime or night... just think he could actually be a policeman off duty, or a bank manager... you never know.


Regards

Melissa

[Jesse69]

It's strikes me as very odd these people who feel that because they hold high status jobs are worried that their crossdressing if revealed would do them harm. Here's a thought what do all these people have in common:

Judges, Vicar's, politicians, policemen, soldiers etc...


Well, whenever I worked at any company and they found out I was a crossdressor through gossip or spying on me I never lasted long. And my career has been ruined by people knowing that I crossdress. As for going out in public - I would never do this in drag except maybe Halloween. So my crossdressing is mostly private and for me only.

I'm a mechanical engineer / technical writer.

[FionaAlexis]

I have always had the need to present as a female in public and it dates back to my mid teen years. I used to go out dressed in my mother's clothes with a scarf on my head. When I think back I'm sure I looked totally bizarre but I thought I was really good.

I can't think of any period in my TG life when I was content just to dress in private. Going out dressed is really emotionally satisfying and sometimes thrilling. However you would think that by now I would have developed to the stage where I was confidently interacting with all and sundry - but that is not the case. Confidence is a fragile thing.

Fiona xx

[MarinaTwelve200]

Ive been CDing to various degrees since I was 13, but i have NEVER gone out--Even on Halloween, in drag---Untill LAST Halloween (2004)

What prompted me was the need to really top the previous year's(2003) costume at our adult sunday school halloween party. A man and his wife, who actually own the local newspaper, arrived dressed as "cave men" wearing only skins thrown over them and dragging clubs. It was a hoot :-) by 2003 I had lost my 'inspiration" and could only manage a rubber skull mask. Then and there I promised myself I would do something for the next party that would blow them out of the water.

Of course I though "come dressed as a woman"---THAt would certianly do it, but NO WAY--I concider my CD, a private habbit and STILL do---It wasnt till a month or two later that I was strck by an inspiration---Do a GYPSY FORTUNE TELLER! I couldnt stop laughing for several minutes. I did some research on the web to get the stereotype right, and dressed up for a test run.----AMAZING, i was totally unrecognizable, and I looked REAL--The costume was so COOL that i HAD to do it--even if it was a "FEMALE" character.

Actually it was perfect, I got to wear exotic makeup, the shawls hide my "unladylike" aspects of my body build, and it really was a "Character" with a Halloween theme--and not "A woman" as such--so I could psychologically handle being seen in public.

Nedless to say I was a hit (even though I was recgnized)---Its a good way to meet ladies by the way ;-) they all wanted me to "read their fortunes". I won the costume contest too.

THAT was the only time I went out in public in a dress---And I cant see myself doing it any time in the future (unless asked to) I have been, and still am happy to stay at home when I CD.

Marina Twelve

[MarinaTwelve200]

I guess being out to my parents make this easier but they both hate that fact that I’m a CD (no emotional support on the subject from either of them). My mum though I was gay at first, I told her I’m not (Dunno if she believes me), why do people most people seem to think that CD’s TV’s what ever you want to label us as are gay, beats me??!!

Michelle xxx

That is one of MY personal pet peeves. I am of the opinion that many, if not MOST people don't have a clear idea of what "gay" (Homosexual) means. Most seem to think its "A man who wants to be a woman"---or have a vague idea that it has to do with a guy lacking some subjective, elusive quality of "manhood". --- and oh yeah, some of them have sex with other men. I try to get through to these knuckleheads that the LATTER is the determinant factor of homosexuality, and how one dresses or what skills he has or lacks has NOTHING AT ALL to do with it.

Ive always kept my CD tendancys secret, but have STILL been called "gay" because I am a good artist, read books and am not all that great at sports---And I see it happen to others too--People THAT stupid make me want to litterally ring their ignorant knecks :mad: So you may see a lot of my rants on these matters posted here. :D

[Cindy K]

At one time I thought I could only dream of going out en fem, but help from more experienced friends that I met on line made that dream come true, my first outing put me on such a high it lasted a whole month, after that I was like a drug addict, I couldn’t wait for my next fix. Dressing at home became less and less till the point now I don’t dress at home unless I am going out.

I owe my freedom to two girls who coaxed me out of the closet, took me under their wing, and installed confidence in me.

[geegee2]

I was kind of curious about how everybody enjoys their crossdressing, specifically is it satisfying enough for most people here to dress up privately at home or do most people here feel like they have to dress in public and be able to "pass" to better enjoy their crossdressing? I have yet to actually summon up the courage to actually go out crossdressed and I used to think that it would be enough for me to just dress up at home but recently I've started thinking more and more about wanting to actually go out in public eventually. Dressing up is nice, don't get me wrong, but yet it feels somehow vaguely unsatisfying just hanging around dressed up at home, especially by myself. It may be awhile before I actually do venture out in public and I'll probably need to discuss it with my wife first but, at least to me, part of the thrill of crossdressing is being able to show oneself off and attempt to "pass" as a woman. What does everybody else think?
well girlfriend, ya just gotta go out in da public, how else are ya gonna find out :) if people stare,let them,if they make remarks ignore them,they are just showing how stupid they are, mainly cause they dont understand, just be yourself and youll discover the inner you and it will feel great, I go out all the time dressed as GeeGee, my gg friends enjoy going shopping with me cause we shop in the same stores, you know victorias secrete, fredricks of holloywood and son , dont be afraid just do it. luv,kisses.hugs,GEEGEE2

[geegee2]

It would have to be in private, with or without someone else. Apart from the fact that I couldn't pass as female (especially from the neck up), even in a darkened room, I don't think I could ever get the confidence to go out in public. I'd probably end up making a fool of myself by spraining my ankle in my 6 inch high-heels! Besides, I can just see the looks on the faces of some of my Neanderthal neighbours, as I wobble out the front gate in my favourite 'Little Black Number" !! :o
yes dear take a good look your not that bad you should see me ha ha,its what you feel inside, does it make you feel good? if it does then do it aand go out you will never know until you try it luv kisses hugs GEEGEE2

[geegee2]

the first itme I went out I had my gg friends with me now I go alone, if people stare I ask if they want my autograph and do you want to take pictures, and they usally respond with Im sorry, but I dont let them dicourage me from being who I want to be GEEGEE, god people in this world are so stupid and naieve whatevere they dont understand they are afraid of to all you girls get out and go for it just be youselves and enjoy life to the fullest
my fsavorite sayig is anyone can pretend to be a woman but try being a girl first,I love being a girl cause of all the fun I have love to all of you cders
luv,kisses, hugs GEEGEE2

[jenniferluv]

Absolutely, i want to go out dressed...and soon.. my wife is not so enthused about it tho. but, then, she at least doesn't make faces when i mention it either!!

[Cindy K]

Absolutely, i want to go out dressed...and soon.. my wife is not so enthused about it tho. but, then, she at least doesn't make faces when i mention it either!!
My wife was a little apprehensive about going out at first till I booked us in on a weekend cross dressers event. There was that many TV’s with their wives she couldn’t believe it, before that she thought she was the only woman in the world married to a TV, she enjoyed it so much she wants to go every year now.

[Clare]

I wear femme clothing as often as possible at home and underwear in drab outdoors all the time now.

The next step of going outside enfemme is on the agenda for the future, i just need to get a wig and perfect the makeup.

I'm ready emotionally to let Christine loose on society, but a few more adjusments are required on the physical form yet.

Christine

[geegee2]

I wear femme clothing as often as possible at home and underwear in drab outdoors all the time now.

The next step of going outside enfemme is on the agenda for the future, i just need to get a wig and perfect the makeup.

I'm ready emotionally to let Christine loose on society, but a few more adjusments are required on the physical form yet.

Christine
christine i go out all thje time and i still have trouble doing make up,it dont always look right but i still go maby some day i will get it right, but i dont over do it luv,kisses,hugs GEEGEE2

[joni-alice]

Don't know if I've seen a "tranny" here at the local mall, guess I will have to start looking harder, huh?

[alisongirly]

I have yet to go out dressed in public for anything other than wearing a costume. I have gone to Rocky Horror performances, a good excuse to dress up all out. I have yet to go out on Halloween dressed up.
I do wear underthings under my clothes, like unpadded bras and panties, as often as possible, but thats about it.

[MelissaAndProudOfIt]

Well, whenever I worked at any company and they found out I was a crossdressor through gossip or spying on me I never lasted long. And my career has been ruined by people knowing that I crossdress. As for going out in public - I would never do this in drag except maybe Halloween. So my crossdressing is mostly private and for me only.

I'm a mechanical engineer / technical writer.


Well I am sorry to learn this about you, but as far as i know, you cannot be sacked on such a revelation. True life might be made uncomfortable though, but waves can be rode out, let them have their lil jokes, i put up with a few lol but works issues were far more important.

besides if they had carried on with me, I would have decided enough was enough and I would have come to work dressed to the nines the next day lol. OK lads tease me now, I'd have shut there mouths once and for all, i had the guts to face them now who's the joke on. I have been told i look fairly convincing mind you... In fact some guys thought me to be a real girl and asked me out... so who know's i might have been promoted to receptionist.. at least the wage would have improved then...

Melissa

[CJFMix]

...after reading this thread .

I've always had my hair medium to long , so ,
I never wore a wig . Also , never wore heels .

I've never passed for a woman , I also
didn't care if I did .

But , despite theese obstacles , I was unable to fight
the urge of showing off in public .
I've started occasional outings in public at 17 .
Then , progressivily , to the point ,
beeing fulltime CD from 26 to 31 .

At nightime ,
The kinkyest I've dressed , was a frilly and puffy white shirt ,
under witch I wore size A padded bra , small leather vest ,
black leather mini-skirt , fishnet pantyhose and flat short boots

I went everywhere : shopping , restaurants , movies , bars ,
concerts , friends place's ...etc...

Today , at 49 , I still go around , but my skirts are a couple
inches longer and I wear tights more often .

__________________________________________________ _

To all CD'ers & TV'ers ,
not to be shy to go out , in public .
It's time to get visible .

[Alexa 1960]

Skirts and dresses I only wear at home because of my masculine view and voice :o . I have no problem to wear jeans in combination with women
twinsets or blouses and cardigans out in public too. I love the classic style with round necks and nice shiny buttons. :love:
Bye. Alexa

[Tia]

Private.. really private. Meaning, just me...

I've thought how it would feel to go public, but at the moment I'm really happy just to dress behind closed curtains. I think it's a bit hard to make myself passable, because I'm almost 2 meters long.

Ok, sometimes use full set of lingerie while taking dogs out and once went to pickup burgers with pink nail polish :eek: (that was rush for me...).

Actually, waiting to go home... I have 4 hours for myself, so atlast I have time to really try what I bought a month ago! :D

[paulacd]

Hi there, after months of reading all your posts I thought it was about time I got my finger out my tights & joined in the chat!!

I love being Paula as much as possible and have done for about 10 years now, but unfortunately she only appears at home. I've been out a couple of times, but both times were fancy dress (once as a nun & once as a schoolgirl - what a buzz!!).
My gf is accepting with me as Paula, but isn't overly approving of it and wouldn't be happy with going out with her.

I wish I could get her to a TV event or club sometime so she could meet other TV's & wives/gf's for a chat.

[Raychel]

I only dress in private, :( I don't think that my wife knows about my dresses and I am sure that my 3 boys would have questions. I only dress from the neck down. No Makeup or wigs for me, and until the public is ready for a man in an evening gown, I think that it should stay in the house :cry:

[cosmolovesph]

mostly private with several outings as well (other than Halloween!)

Love the feeling of the breeze on my pantyhosed legs with my heels clicking and getting out.

Am i read? probably? ever had an issue...? NOPE

[Lisa Golightly]

I dress all the time.

[Julie]

It's an evolutionary process. At first it's okay to dress in your room. Then you need to walk around the house. Then you want to take a step outside. Then another step until you venture out into a public arena and interact with others, typically other CDs. But once you are out in public, especially in 'normal' environments, dressing up and staying your room or even in your home is like being in jail.

I now see it as a waste of time getting fully dressed (makeup, wig, etc.) when I'm not going out someplace.

[JayeEdgar]

Sometimes I need to feel feminine but just have a few minutes--I put on nylons and heels in the privacy of the den and enjoy them

If I have more time, I put on lingerie and sit at the computer (also in the den) and browse through the forum.

At least once a week, I dress completely with my wig and a bit of makeup (which I still do badly--but I am practicing on it) and enjoy being a woman in the privacy of my home.

Once or twice a year, I pack up my femme things and make a trip into Los Angeles, where I rent a hotel room, go to a boutique for a professional makeover, and then head to a CD club to enjoy an evening out. (Of course, I am 3 hours away from home and in a congenial environment.). Due to the expense involved, I limit this activity to a couple of weekends a year.

Do I pass? No, not really, even with professional help. Do I enjoy it? You bet!! The area to which I travel, has the CD club, a couple of boutiques, a TG-friendly restaurant, and a hotel which has been the site of at least one Tri-Ess convention. The residents are used to seeing transgendered people--I feel comfortable enough there to be out on the street, and find it a very liberating experience.

So, my experience is private most of the time, with an occasional very-controlled public appearance. I am not sure if I will ever get up the courage to be in the mainstream closer to home, or if I even want to, for that matter.