question for cds

[icequeen]

I am a gg and I am looking for advice. My cd is gorgeous, she dresses so sexy and looks amazing in everything. I've always been kind of a tomboy and I'm wanting to be more girly, have prettier things, be sexy for my cd. I know that all of you know a lot more about being femme and gorgeous than I do probably, can you give me some advice on where to start?

[leslie ann]

all women are sexy to start with(your all so lucky) even tomboy girls, i think its the attitude that makes the difference and just take care of yourself lipstick allways looks good even with no makeup

[charlie]

Sounds to me that you admire how your CD dresses. As such perhaps you should take lessons from her as to what to wear, how to do your makeup, and where to buy clothes. Check out a few glamor magazines for ideas. Perhaps you could go shopping together and have fun dressing yourselves!

[Sara Olivia]

Its so nice that you want to dress up more to please your partner. I know that the clothes I choose for myself also tend to be the kind of clothes / style that I love to see my wife dress in. For example I love dresses and stiletto heel. So I would much prefer to see my wife wearing stiletto heels than chunky heels or flats. I don't know if that helps but I hope it does.

[caryn m]

it is so nice of you to want to dress to please your cd in so proud of you. you deserve a medal for wanting to please your cd is so very fortunate to have you. enjoy each other caryn

[Kayla Shadows]

Some of the advice here is a good start for you.If you like the way your cd dresses dont be afraid to ask for help.I agree,you can check out magazines or beauty sites online too.Wear some hot makeup,keep your nails painted,find some nice earrings and things you might like.Theres a whole world of stuff out there that you could take advantage of.Develope your own style out of it all and have fun with it :)

[Nicole Erin]

We have no idea what you look like but that is not a problem.

First, have a feminine hairstyle, long or short. Eyebrows done. Body hair gone. Manicure and pedicure would not hurt. If you have dry skin, maybe start using lotion on a daily basis.

For style, this is a personal choice but take note of what pretty women your age and size are wearing.

AND, if you have a "bad ass" attitude, might want to soften that.

You didn't give us any real info about your looks, attitude, or anything so these are just assumptions.

But like I said, start by making your own skin and hair as pretty as you can.

One other thing - some CDs dress the way they think it attractive on women, so maybe get some ideas on clothes based on your S.O. CD's wardrobe.

[Celeste]

It's possible he likes you just the way you are,I know that I would be very appreciative of someone who wanted to look good for me.Just the thought alone is special.What if you start off by visiting tons of clothing websites together,try to get a feel for what he likes and be open ,ask "would you like to see me in that"?Maybe you can get matching outfits if you both like a style.Also you might find out more about his likes or dislikes from Friends or family without being to personal.Whatever changes you make I hope you take your time and make them because your happy with them also.

[TGMarla]

Ice, if, as a woman, you're not already attracted to feminine things, I'm not sure how to tell you to procede. If it's just the feminine trappings you're shooting for, all you can do is find out what your CD finds feminine, and embrace these things yourself. But would that make you uncomfortable? Would you be trying to be someone you're not?

As a CD, I find feminine things very attracting to me. I'm drawn to them. I like dresses, and pantyhose, and high heels, and pretty fingernails, and long pretty hair, and lipstick, and lacy underwear, and lingerie.....and on and on and on. My wife likes all this stuff, but rarely, if ever, uses it. She's got terrific fingernails, but she tends much more now towards the casual than she used to.

So if you want to be more femme for your CD, and your CD likes foofy, get prepared to do foofy once in a while, if that's what you want.

[Alice B]

You may call yourself the "icequeen", but your anything but. You are a very special lady and your CD is very lucky. I would suggest that the two of you go shopping together and have fun helping select things for each other. It will be a lot of fun for both of you and then you can dress up together.

[MeraLehanga]

the most magnificient femme attribute given by the almight to a woman is her hair. Unfortunately the world has gone insane not realising this. Just grow them to bring backforth all your fem·i·nin·i·ty. Good for you!

[AmandaM]

Make the journey together!

[JenniferR771]

Another vote for long beautiful hair. Double your budget at the hairdresser--let the salon do their thing. Blonds have more fun for a reason.

[Angela-Russell]

You are a very special lady, & your cd is very lucky. I would suggest something that I would love to do with my wife. Buy completely matching outfits, underwear, dresses or skirts & tops, shoes, & even wigs if your hair is different. Then get dressed together as twins, with everything matching, nails, make-up, jewellery etc. When you're finished you will both look gorgeous. Maybe it sounds a bit silly, but I would love to have a cuddle while we are both wearing lovely matching satin dresses. Maybe one day!

[Farrah]

More skirts, accessories, get your hair and nails done regularly.

[Sedona]

icequeen,

Some good suggestions so far. Since you are asking, the only thing I can suggest, that hasn't been suggested, is get comfortable with thong panties (if you're not already). Frankly, if you are in even reasonable shape, they drive most guys NUTS. Provided you get the right size, and a comfy brand, they will take less than a week to get used to, and you may come to really love them.

[sterling12]

Your CD chose you! Chose you for the person you are, not what you might become. Maybe that's a good definition for love!

OK, but you want practical advise. If you choose to be more feminine, why not glom on to some other gal's style and incorporate what you need and what fits for you. Surely, you know a girly-girl, perhaps you know a couple of them. They are somewhat rare, but they do still exist.

I have dated several of them, and oddly enough they all shared one common trait; I'm just not sure why they shared the trait, but they did. They all religiously shopped The Newport News Catalog. Now they were all petite, and maybe that's the reason. Maybe Newport offers a lot of things that petite girls favor....but, It gives you a starting point to find your "feminine model." Look for the gals who LOVE to dress up, never speak of it as a bother, favor heels, and "enjoy being a girl." If you want a style to emulate, and you want feminine, I think that's the way to go.

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Kate Simmons]

Well Hon from one tomboy to another I will say it's mostly innate. Everyone, regardless of genetic sex has inborn sensuality, it just has to be activated. What that means is that we can be sexy regardless of what we are wearing even if it is scrubs. A lot depends on overall bearing and delivery and accentuating our best features, a little shadow or mascara or trying a new hairstyle. We talk about makeovers, etc. but I have found a lot of creative looks by just playing around with the wardrobe, makeup and wigs I have.

The main thing though is the self confidence level which is no different for CD's or women and the beauty inside is the main thing. No doubt in my mind you are there already. Enjoy my friend.:)

[prettyinpink]

huggz for you ice
u win S.o. of the year award. i think it's great how supprotive and accepting you are. like the othergirls have said talk to her about what she finds sexy go shopping together ask you're gf's for advice.maybe have a makeover party.if you both the same size maybe she has clothes she'd like on you.

[Alayna]

You ought to go and have a makeover done, and let the professionals give you some tips based on what you want and what works best for you. If both of you go you can make a date out of it:)

[WendyCD]

I'm a closet CD, my wife may suspect, she knew I did years ago. Disapproves.

BUT!!

Some of the fun girly things we can do together is shop for her. While I am no fashion expert, I know her, I know what has looked good on her, and what has looked awesome on her...and being interested in clothing myself :battingeyelashes: I can pick out clothes on the rack that she says she would have never thought of...and often (not always) if she'll try them on, they look great on her!! And it's fun for both of us and, most important, the shopping trip is about her - she deserves it. (The SAs are often amused -she's in the changing room and I'm about the store picking out something else for her to try on) These shopping trips are always guilt free for me!!

We also like to watch "What not to wear" and we will share admiration for wardrobe choices when we watch (mostly older) movies.

[Chari]

All the posts have given great advice and ideas, but I feel you already have exceptional beauty within you for accepting and understanding your CD partner! You just have to find the packaging that you feel comfortable in. Remember to add your smile!
Enjoy life, Chari

[LilSissyStevie]

Forgetaboutit! Just be yourself. There's nothing sexier than that.:love:

[docrobbysherry]

Great advice already posted. A few adds for u:

Look at other women to find out what looks U find attractive/sexy. Then try those looks yourself.

Enphasize your GOOD points. Long legs? Wear nylons and heels! Nice bust and/or waist lines? Buy things that show off your ASSets! Lol

Start with the basics. Flattering, but simple. With your makeup, hair and outfits. Keep it all simple, but flattering.

Finally, ask your partner. He knows u, and may have better ideas than all of our suggestions, put together!

[jking90]

some others spoke my thoughts: get clothes which will work best for you. if you have a negative image of yourself, get rid of it; whatever other people have told you works best (for you) is good to start with. then, accent that with what your partner likes. he's already with you and likes you (for you!) so if you do something that adds to what he likes, it will work.

also, one of the sexiest things my wife did was buy matching outfits for us. and when we're wearing identical items underneath, it works even better.

and sorry to disagree with an above post, but thongs do nothing at all for me.

[Sweet Jane]

Hi.....be yourself....your partner is with you because he loves you, and thats what really matters........theres a fine line between what clothes one person sees as sexy, and another sees as ****ty???? sexy is an attitude and a state of mind, not baubles, lace and flesh...oh well thats my view anyway!!

[Claire3]

Its alays going to be a two way thing.My ex worked out the clothes i wore,id have liked to see her wearing too,she dressed a little drab at the time.But as far as the things i like,its up to you both to have fun and have a great life.good luck:love:

[Ellen Ross]

I agree with JKing90 – keep the self image at bay. For example, if your SO likes to see your legs, then show them off, even if you don’t think you should ever wear a miniskirt.

And a sexy thong is....well its sexy! You may think your butt is too ( insert some reason here) for a thong. But if your SO likes it, go for it.

[Taffy]

Generally, men marry expecting their wife to remain the same as they consider her perfect as is, while women marry expecting to change their husband, thinking of him as a "work in progress." Both will be disappointed...

[Sally24]

I find that most girls that call themselves tomboys tend to wear cotton and loose, comfortable clothing. You might try wearing tops or dresses that are fitted to you. Notice I didn't say "tight", there is a difference. Silk and stretchy synthetics tend to cling to the shape of your body and move with you. Whatever you think your best feature is, accentuate! If it's your breasts than wear a wrap dress or slight plunging top. If you have a tiny waist then make sure you wear something that follows your curves and shows that off.

Don't be afraid of your body. Many women wear clothing to hide their body instead of showcasing it! And get some cute, dainty shoes if you don't already own some. My favorites have always been strappy sandal type heels.

Good luck!

[Emeralddragon]

Being yourself is enough. Your SO will think youre the most beautiful person in the world regardless of what you wear.

If you must remake your image then my advice is see what your SO would like to see you in and then wear something a little less revealing :P Hey guys in skirts are still guys.

[María José]

Many crossdressers like very femenine look. Do you know how to distinguish in a group of ladies genetic girls from crossdressers? Crossdressers wear skirts.

[Sedona]

icequeen,

By now, you've gotten every variety of "just be yourself!" answers. Not trying to start a fight, but IMHO, that is always practical advice in ANY relationship, professional or personal.


Something else to consider:

Guys play a game all the time with GGs, filled with white lies, largely encouraged by females:

GG: "Honey, does this burlap sack and mud smeared in my hair look good on me?"
SO: "Why yes baby, I love it."

there can be only one appropriate answer, forcing us to lie. we know that she expects some variation of this answer, and anything negative will label us as being a jerk (or worse).

Unless your boyfriend is a jerk, he likely won't give you a straight answer.

My practical advice (besides the thong): Check out what the "hotties" in your age group are wearing (hair, makeup trends, clothes, nails). I'm not saying dress like a skank (well, that's okay sometimes, :devil:), but nothing wrong with a cute fitted top and pants/skirts that flatter your figure. Sally24, and others have some great advice.

Also, eating right, and a regular exercise program (if you aren't doing this already), will help out ALL parts of your life, not just the parts in the bedroom.

Best,

[maid phylis]

dear ice.i have friends that are a married couple she is the gg and he is the cd.they always compliment each other ,she buys him clothes and they go out toghether all the time.you are very lucky that you can share all the lovely clothes and have a great time doing it .enjoy yourself..love phylisanne:love:

[cdisgood]

You've already started!! Caring about how you look is the first(and most important) step.

[icequeen]

A little about myself...I'm about 5'9, I have brownish/auburn hair down to middle of my back. I keep my nails pretty long, etc...I love lingere. It's clothes I need help with, I tend to hide my figure, I wear jeans with tshirts, tank tops...etc. I have great breasts and long legs, but I get shy on showing them...I want to figure out what would look good on me, and I guess I do need to do some research.

[Angela-Russell]

I think anything will look good on you Icequeen, you just need to be a bit more confident in yourself. You are definitely a lovely lady on the inside, & I'll bet you are even lovelier on the outside. Won't your cd partner let you try some of her nice things? xx

[icequeen]

I wish i could try her things, they r gorgeous! Problem, she like 5 sizes smaller than me.

[Pamela Julie]

Find a business that does a truly complete makeover, hair ( grow it long enough to work with first), makeup, clothes, shoes, and consultation on poise. The cost will be in the hundreds of dollars or more for the complete package.

A less expensive approach was mentioned by Alice, and most likely will be the most fun for the two of you, go on a major outing with your cd. Visit a hair salon and have her choose your style and color. The two of you get your nails done together, and makeup too. Then shop together for a couple of new outfits. End the day with dinner in a nice restaurant followed by a show or concert.

Pamela:)

[Patti Girl]

What has your SO indicated that she likes or would like from you?

I think it is fairly typical that CDs dress more feminine than most GGs. It's an overcorrection needed to express how we feel. Heck, most women these days don't look all that feminine except for their natural endowments ;-)

Maybe he likes you just the way your are (or maybe not, you two need to communicate).

IMO, sexiness is more attitude than dress.

I know my wife doesn't (and never has) dressed all that feminine. But she still is very sexy. But in our family, she wears the pants, I wear the panties :) We are very compatible.

Patti

[icequeen]

I'm learning and trying. As soon as I have a little extra money I want her to take me and pick me something amazing out to wear..I'd love to buy her something too if I have enough money, it's been tight lately.
thank you for all your help and input, I am just trying to learn to do this as great as all of you do.

[jking90]

some suggestions on clothing:

outerwear, check out the local secondhand stores. periodically people will drop off clothes which seem far too sexy / fashionable for those shops, that will be your opportunity!

lingerie: if money is tight, go to an area flea market. the LARGE ones. there will usually be knockoffs there and you can get some. or, you can use ebay or other sites: i bought matching colored panties for my wife and i on there which feel and look good, and were inexpensive.

good luck!