spy duty

[CharleneT]

I am just learning, having only recently tried going out dressed. I find myself watching GG's with a different perspective now. I look very carefully at how they are dressed and why I think they look feminine. I call it spying - but without the normal negative aspect. This morning I went to our farmer's market (wonderful thing) and found myself making an extra couple of rounds of the stalls, just so I could see the sandal styles for the year and try and figure out which one I liked for me. A lot of this has to do with the idea of "blending in", I am learning what the "look" of area women is and how I can fit into it. How I should look if I want someone to read me as "just another woman". Rather than just pick what I like regardless of what is popular to wear. I feel rather silly, but it is fun too !

Anyone else do this ?

[Chiana]

I find I am a "girl watcher". While my macho friends think I am looking at them lustfully, I am really checking out their clothing, mannerisms, hair, nails and style. And usually thinking, "Gee, I wish I could look that good".

[Fab Karen]

You could say we have it easier here- the "look" of women in the area is in category a, category b, category c, category d, category e...:)

[VirginiaX23]

I find I am a "girl watcher". While my macho friends think I am looking at them lustfully, I am really checking out their clothing, mannerisms, hair, nails and style. And usually thinking, "Gee, I wish I could look that good".

Ha! So many times my wife has caught me looking at another woman and I honestly can answer her that I was admiring the lady's clothes and wishing I could look that good in them or wondering who dressed her and why she was clinically insane :D

Yeah, I'm straight and find women beautiful, but I find my wife to be the most wonderful, beautiful woman in the world and see no reason to look at women lustfully. Actually, on occasion, I lust after a pair of knee high boots or a cute skirt...on occasion.

[Paulette]

Observation is the one of the skills that we need to develop in order to blend with all of teh GG's. If they are wearing formals or club wear to the mall then we had better do the same or we will sick out. I have always tried to blend and thus there are times when I just can not wear thazt killer dress and heels if I am going to the mall shopping. But hey what wrong with wearing cropped pants and a nice top and some cute sandals.

[Karren H]

A friend and I go to the mall to walk at lunch... we both check out the girls too... me for a different reason then m friend... I've been "Taking Notes" my whole life it seams... lol

[Annie D]

If you watch very carefully, you can see GG's spying too! Because of their experienced and trained eye, they can take in the whole picture in a very short time.

We never had the opportunity, growing up, to have girlfriends over and exchange outfits or to go to the mall with "best friends" and go from store to store and try all sorts of colorful and exotic clothes on. My teenage daughter does these things and gets to experience and experiment with all the different styles and looks currently out there.

The only thing that most of us have to do is "spy". When we look at another women for any longer than a few seconds, the people around us think that we are oogling or lusting but when in reality we are trying to take in as much of the look as we possibly can. I have always been a watcher and I form impressions based upon what I see as the window of observation closes rapidly. The only thing that has changed is the age of the women that I try to copy.

[Sallee]

I love looking at women Like a fine work of art They are all beautiful in their own way. Whether it is lust or just checking style it is fun
"To Look and Dream":daydreaming:

[Tomara]

I am also always checking out the way women dress and the way they do there makeup , hair styles , and of course what they are wearing on there feet . I think it is a good way to learn what I might or might not look good wearing . I`m single so I dont have to worry what a SO might think about my casual spying :battingeyelashes: Tomara

[waspookie6]

Most gg's are trying to play 'fashion police' but when you look at how they are dressed, you have to wonder if they got caught and were given a handbook on "how to use clothing" :heehee:

It really isn't spying, as mentioned it's more observation. Nothing wrong with that!

Q: When you are observing, do you notice if a gg has larger upper arms or body style and if what they are wearing fits right? If not, it could be a good way to figure out what would look good on you with your body build.
Just a thought....

[Kate Simmons]

Who watches the watchers? It's reciprocal as well I'm sure.:heehee:

[Veronica 1]

I love to people watch. It is fun to try to guess the occupation of the person from the way they are dressed.

[JoAnnDallas]

On one of first outings in the public, I was exiting a store as this GG was entering. We both came to a halt in front of each other. She looked me up and down and then smiled. I too looked her up and down and then smiled. Guess we both were looking each other over.

[CharleneT]

yah, spying may be a harsh word, just could not think of another. I love looking, places like the farmer's market are a great place to do some people watching. A large crowd of randomly associated people. Of course, it is a "casual" dress crowd, but I live in a college town, so what they wear to the club is also what they wear to the market !

I try to be very careful about not staring. Today I was looking at sandals, so I was looking down ... very safe ! In that case you can stare all you want, no one notices that point of view.

I'm glad to see some of the very experiences girls here saying that they still scan the "looks". I figured most were past this as an early phase. I guess in a way, I knew that women do this, just hadn't thought about it till I was "in the act". Some have commented, very accurately, that GG's can look at another woman and take in a lot in a glance. For me it takes a longer look !!

In a strange way it gives me hope and peace to look around. I see a lot, I learn what is working etc... but most importantly I see the average woman as just that: not idealized as I think we CD's too often view them.

C.