Odd thing life.....

[Rachaelb64]

I've come to a point with my crossdressing.

Its not that I want to stop, its that my crossdressing seems to have taken on a different aspect for me.

I just to crossdress to help me release my stress, a need to become someone else if you want.

Now I dress because I'm comfortable and like woman's clothes. I think because I'm happier with myself and my life (at the moment :) )

Its like i've reach a sort of balance. I think one of the resons this has happen is that I've decided to be me and not try and copy the hollywood/tv/socity's version of what it is to be male.

I've always been slightly odd/weird, not your 'natural male', and think I've just stop trying to be 'macho' :)

[Holly]

What you've found is peace and balance, somethings that many struggle to acquire unsuccessfully their entire lives. Cherish it! There is nothing quite so empowering as discovering who you really are and being content with it. Congratulations!

[Sinthia]

I get the feeling that you live alone, so you can dress at your choosing, not when you can find time alone. Since my divorce, 4 yerars ago, I have also found that I am at peace with myself, and the whole world, when I can do as I please, whenever I want to, and not worry that someone will have a fit because I am wearing a dress. I am the same person, no matter what clothes I have on, but my wife could not see it that way, and that caused a lot of friction in our marriage.

I feel that this mostly true n all aspects of life. When you get to do something that you like, or enjoy, whenever you like, instead of when you can find the time to do it, you are much happier all around. Not just crossdressing. Playing sports, doing gardening, working on a car, doing projects at home, etc. So enjoy your peace with yourself. If you cannot please yourself, nothing else matters.

[Tomara]

Hi Rachel , I have to agree with Holly and add that I have also come to the same point in my life recently and I`m loving the way I feel about myself . :daydreaming: Tomara

[linnea]

When I dress, I feel very good, very comfortable, and very happy. I have some sadness that I cannot dress whenever I want. But I'm happy for you and appreciate your sharing.

[Shelly67]

I can totally reflect on this issue . I too have become so used to my dressing , well , its totally me . I have realised just who I am . The worrying aspect of it however is that of late I've said things without thinking ......and recieved some very strange looks from certain people . I think , all in all it'll only result in me having to come out fully .
I don't really feel ready for that yet so , I'll have to watch what I say and indeed in front of certain folks the way I act .
I don't relish the idea of confrontation.
Good thread.

[SweetCaroline]

Hey Rachel, I've been going through much of the same feelings in the last year. In the process of coming out I've pretty much forfeited my masculinity. I've never been "macho" either. While I doubt I'll ever stop dressing, in fact I LOVE IT. It's like I don't need to dress up any more to feel I'm "Caroline". Going out in the open, sharing myself with my family and friends, and releasing the woman with-in has really completed me. I still plan on remaining a man and presenting myself primarily as a male, the woman is no longer a hidden thing. I'm not two people. I wasn't born the wrong sex. I was taught the wrong gender. Now that I know who I am and the world has seen me, I'm never ever going to let "her" go.

Good for you!

[Deanna2]

Now I dress because I'm comfortable and like woman's clothes.


Welcome to the club!

[Suzy Harrison]

I'm exactly the same.

Years ago I used to do it for a sexual rush. Now I just feel content and happy. It's almost like a spiritual experience these days where the other person has vanished and I'm just me. So you're not alone.

[Kate Simmons]

Being comfortable being one's self is what it is all about my friend.:)

[vivianann]

you are experiencing the same thing that I am, I am complete when I am dressed as a woman, it feels like I belong.

[Chari]

You have found the Yin-Yang of life, thereby being content, comfortable, and completely accepting who you are.
Enjoy life, Chari

[MJ]

balance is a wonderful thing to have . when you find it enjoy it, there is nothing wrong with that .

[Angie G]

I've just loved dressing form the time it started almost 50 years ago I don' think I ever did it to release stress and more just to be more feminine and just love wearing woman's clothes And I don;t feel the need to be all macho. I love being Angie. And I happy where i am. :hugs:
Angie

[DeeDeeB]

Isn't it such a wonderful release to give yourself acceptance for who you are? I know it has been for me. I likewise dress because I'm more comfortable as Dee, and more fulfilled.

Dee :fairy1:

[Rachaelb64]

I get the feeling that you live alone, so you can dress at your choosing, not when you can find time alone. Since my divorce, 4 yerars ago, I have also found that I am at peace with myself, and the whole world, when I can do as I please, whenever I want to, and not worry that someone will have a fit because I am wearing a dress. I am the same person, no matter what clothes I have on, but my wife could not see it that way, and that caused a lot of friction in our marriage.

I feel that this mostly true n all aspects of life. When you get to do something that you like, or enjoy, whenever you like, instead of when you can find the time to do it, you are much happier all around. Not just crossdressing. Playing sports, doing gardening, working on a car, doing projects at home, etc. So enjoy your peace with yourself. If you cannot please yourself, nothing else matters.

No I'm in a relationship, my SO knows I dress and tends not to mind :)

[Joy Carter]

I'm so there with you kiddo.

[Toni_Lynn]

Way ta go Rachael! You have reached a wonderful point in your crossdressing that I see as a natural progression. I have felt tis way for years now.

One of the other posters said something about at one time it was a sexual thrill, and I agree. Certainly when we are younger (in not only age) it seems like everything is :D.

And then as the years go by and we begin to learn more about who we are as people, we begin to understand who we are. And this applies no matter what you are, crossdresser or not.

And with that comes incredible enjoyment in life's pleasures - simple pleasures. For me, that's putting on a skirt, and top, and just looking like every other girl out there -- and just being me!

Huggles

Toni-Lynn

[Sharon B.]

I can understand, whenever I am completely dressed as a woman, it feels so natural, wonderful and calming for me to dressed as a woman.
I don't get anything sexual out of it it just relives the stress of everyday living with the prices of everything.