Screwing up my cross dressing time!

[TxKimberly]

I usually get a lot of time to cross dress because I travel for a living as a Field Service Engineer. When my company sells some of the larger and more complicated systems, I go set them up and train the customer, and when our stuff breaks, I go fix it. Well, my company is in the process of hiring someone in the Detroit area to start "taking some of the load off" of me, and reduce our travel expenses. When they get him on board (like days from now), I'm supposed to take him everywhere I go and give him on the job training.
This is gonna be awful. The only redeeming point in having a job that keeps me away from my family so much was that I DID get to be me so much. So the next few months are out while I train him. After he's trained, I will presumably travel a lot less too, so I guess I better get used to being a guy! lol
Of course now I'm also scared because just why would they keep me around if they have someone to do all the work I've been doing?

[Casey Morgan]

:hugs: Aw, look on the bright side: maybe you'll be more valuable after you've done a good job of training the new guy. And I'm sorry this will cut down on your dressing time, especially when you're away from home. Does underdressing do anything for you?

Keep your chin up. Maybe things won't be as bad as you think.

[TxKimberly]

:hugs: Aw, look on the bright side: maybe you'll be more valuable after you've done a good job of training the new guy. And I'm sorry this will cut down on your dressing time, especially when you're away from home. Does underdressing do anything for you?

Keep your chin up. Maybe things won't be as bad as you think.

Thanks for the hugs.
Nah, under dressing is pretty much just a torture to me. It would be like a constant reminder of what I want to be, and how I want to present myself.

It would seem that maybe the good news is that I might be home with my family more often, but I worry about my job security now. Why keep me if they have some new guy close to the customers to do all of the work I've been doing for the last three or four years?
Sigh . . .

[Sally2005]

hmmm.... maybe the new guy will not be such a great student and you will still have to visit customers for anything but the most trivial task. I hope you find some other way to get out.

[happygirl]

Just dont tell him everything you know. I've been there, train a replacement. I will not go down that road again. Just give him the basics and nothing else. Kind of showing my claws here. Keep yourself valuable to the company. :devil:

[Chiana]

He probably won't look forward to all of the travel and time away from home, like you have. He probably won't last and you will be back having fun in a short time.

[MJ]

well this could be a start of something better for you in the long run . and who knows he maybe a cd'r too :heehee:

[Annie D]

Only you know if your job is in jeopordy, just go over and read your job reviews and poll some of your customers. I'm sure that they are with your service and expertise. How do I feel this way? Because of the great stories that you share with us about your adventures in all the great cities where you do your job. I look forward to your posts and replies. Don't let the fact that you won't be as active in your crossdressing stop you from keeping in touch.

[Tedi]

Kimber... I know some "people" in Detroit.. Just say the word.. everything will be taken care of.
Of course that wouldn't stop the company from hiring somebody else.
It all kinda sucks.. hope it all works out for you.

[Stephanie Scott]

Ahh, my dear, it means they are going to promote you! They do not want talent such as yours wasted in the field. Welcome to CORPORATE! :D

Perhaps your new position will also involve travel? What kinds of jobs are "ahead" of you? How much input do you have?

I know this has to be a potentially frustrating development, so I'll pray for you. I have found that God's plan always ends up being even better than mine, so maybe this is the same kind of deal.

[Cristi]

OK... here's your solution!

1) find some reason to get rid of this guy

2) I'll come waltzing it with a resume that is PERFECT for the job (with your help)

3) You train ME on the job. Every night we go shopping then hit the clubs.

4) We both live happily ever after. You spend Summers up here in VT, my SO and I come to TX to visit you when the nights get too long and cold in the Winter.

So... what should I start learning how to do? (I'm a quick learner).

[KarenCDFL]

Hi Kimberly,

I always hated having to train someone for a lot of different reasons, but honestly I would not worry about being replaced. If business is that good for your firm, you could not possibly do it all yourself anyway. I know, I used to be the "ONE" My ex-boss used to joke that if I wanted to take a vacation I would have to leave my brain in a jar on his bookshelf. And besides this also gives you more chances to being able to plan a real vacation and now you will have converge.

I once went four years without a vacation. I was a basket case by the time I go to take one.

Best of luck!

[Staci K]

Hiya Kim...

Try to keep in good spirits & keep an open mind. When you first start training him evaluate how quickly he catches on and if it appears he'll be big threat - sabotage his success. His success will only be as good as you allow it to be. Let the bosses see that your travel expenses will be less expensive in the long run than having to correct his mistakes.

Ethically & morally it may be wrong, but lets face it, having good morals don't always pay the bills.

Nicole

[AKAMichelle]

They could be preparing you for management. No travel but a nice big pay raise. :devil:

[susie evans]

KIM

that's sad but you will adjust and bounce back maby you can come out to ca and do the town again i no you have a lot of friends here

:hugs: susie

[Holly]

I think they have something different in store for you, Kimberly... US Sales Manager. If I were you, I'd start getting your business skirt suit wardrobe in order:daydreaming:.

[Shannen]

Hey Kim, I'm sorry to hear that you personal time will be cut into. With the price of gas doubling here in the states, I'm sure many companies are adjusting their travel strategies. It's a fine line right now between having 2 FTE's travel less, than 1 FTE travel 100%.

It kinda amuses me to see the "welcome to management" replies. I really don't mean to offend anyone, but if you've been in management, and been in the field, you would know who makes more $$$$. The only reason to do management is because your temperment fits it. (not that it happens like that all the time... but that's another discussion!)

I've always tried to have open, honest communication with my managers. So far it has worked out for me, I hope that your fears are not realized and you can continue to do what you like to do.

:hugs:Shannen

[Princess29]

Hang in there Kimberly, I hope things work out for you

[rachel_rachel]

I wouldn't say that they're about to give you the flick.. They're probably seeing that you spend so much time away from your family that you deserve to have your load lightened. As torturous as that sounds, it's probably a good thing and you may get the chance to what you want where you want for longer even. (say for example you cover the east coast and the new guy does the west coast or visa versa)

I wouldn't start feeling for the knife in the back just yet.

[Suzy Harrison]

Well, my company is in the process of hiring someone in the Detroit area to start "taking some of the load off" of me, and reduce our travel expenses. When they get him on board (like days from now), I'm supposed to take him everywhere I go and give him on the job training.




Didn't I tell you? - the new 'guy' is me!... It's going to be great, we can go out shopping together..... and you can show me the sights !... well I wish it was true..

I think in the long term things won't change too much for you as they will get this guy to cover the north areas and you the south. At the end of the day you will still be more experienced and that's what counts when it comes to problem solving. In that respect he will always be way behind you so I wouldn't worry about job security at all.

But I know what you mean, you won't be having too much fun while you're training him... lets hope he's a fast learner..

:hugs: Suzy

[Sally24]

Just remember that the new guy will know how to fix some things, but won't have your years of experience. And I agree about training someone too well! Don't train him badly, but don't train him to take your job either! If you come to Boston with him you can use me as an excuse to get together by yourself with "an old friend"!

[krisla]

Change can be a hard, but in the end you will work it out. You'll find a new balence for Kimberly and you may not miss the travel as much as you think. Seems like the company doesn't want to lose you by burning you out, that is not a bad thing. Kris

[Kristen Marie]

Spending time on the road with people is good and bad. I can clearly see the bad, but what if this person is really an amazing person who is very open. I just came back from a two week business trip with 12 people. We saw each other every day for hours. There was one person (granted a female) that I would be comfortable sharing my crossdressing with and even going out with. (in a social way) Maybe, just maybe, the person would be like us!!

Or maybe, when you come to Boston, we could hook him up with someone to visit the city while you hung out with the Sisters of Boston!

[Chari]

Hey Kimberly, Sounds like you are in a mixed emotion situation! As others have said it may all be a reorganization of territories to service the customers faster and more economically. Asking the corporate higher ups what their long term plan is for you wouldn't hurt. If they refuse to talk or give you a non informative answer, start redoing your resume! I've been there - awarded the companys best field rep many times, training others in all facets of my position, working many extra hours, and hoping to get a promotion but getting the "boot" instead. With all the many down sizings, mergers, and cutbacks, you must take care of YOU! Keep us posted as to what is happening.
Hugs, Chari

[Angie G]

What a bummer just when you get a good thing going it gets screwed up why would he let you go I'd die if my dressing time was cut way down maybe you can still do some travel time in.good luck Kimberly love ya hun.:hugs:
Angie

[kittypw GG]

This is gonna be awful. The only redeeming point in having a job that keeps me away from my family so much was that I DID get to be me so much.

Does this mean that you are not you when you are with your family more?

I find this very sad. I am sorry that you feel so disconnected from your family and you live a dual life or reality.

I don't have any answers for you because I could never figure out how to make it work with my CD. I would like to hear more stories of sucessful relationships with cd's.

Perhaps you have been given the gift of opportunity to reconnect with your family and a new satifactory balance will be found.

As far as losing your job to a new guy. Well one should always have a alternate career route or back up plan because nothing is ever for sure. High customer satifaction is making a come back in many industries because it is how you get an edge on your competition. This might be exactly what your company is doing by haveing more people who can provide this service. In my profession Service excellance is our number one goal corporation wide.

:hugs: Kitty

[CharleneT]

Kim, I hope that as you go thru this you will find the company wants you even more. I have been in a similar situation and in my case they did replace me with the new guy. BUT, I found out later it was because his new wife was needed badly and giving him my job was part of her negociations.... and she was very important to the company soo.... out goes C.

Yours may be completely different, likely it is very different. Right now it is not a surprise for a company to try and lower travel costs. They are rising very quickly. If it is possible I would consider trying to feel out your bosses on the why. It may be just the cost of travel and they are trying to save $$ in an economy where that is hard to do. Sleuth out the why if you can.

As for the lost dressing time, there is always a way, you'll just have to create it. I have to admit that I've been jealous in a way of your travel, simply because it gave you so many opportunities. But you created those opportunities by being creative and brave. There is no doubt in my mind that those qualities in you will find a way around the problem.

Good luck during this time of change, keep that wonderful smile on ;) ;)

Charlene

[jennifer41356]

My guess is they are going to split you into regions, If he lives in Det or up north, maybe he will handle those jobs and can do by driving and maybe only staying a day or two, as in the past , it sounded like you could be gone for a week., my second guess is they will hire some cheaper guys and they will report to you

Hopefully it wont cut into your girl time, if it does, make some trips to Dallas and I will show you around:drink::D

[Rachaelb64]

I usually get a lot of time to cross dress because I travel for a living as a Field Service Engineer. When my company sells some of the larger and more complicated systems, I go set them up and train the customer, and when our stuff breaks, I go fix it. Well, my company is in the process of hiring someone in the Detroit area to start "taking some of the load off" of me, and reduce our travel expenses. When they get him on board (like days from now), I'm supposed to take him everywhere I go and give him on the job training.
This is gonna be awful. The only redeeming point in having a job that keeps me away from my family so much was that I DID get to be me so much. So the next few months are out while I train him. After he's trained, I will presumably travel a lot less too, so I guess I better get used to being a guy! lol
Of course now I'm also scared because just why would they keep me around if they have someone to do all the work I've been doing?


Mmmm........ well Kimbley it depends on what kind of 'training', you want to give him... there is walking in heels training, sitting like a lady training, make-up training etc etc......... :)

[victoriamwilliams1]

Mmmm........ well Kimbley it depends on what kind of 'training', you want to give him... there is walking in heels training, sitting like a lady training, make-up training etc etc......... :)

I was thinking the same thing:) AWhat would be funny is the new person is a CD and whants to go out too. You could als make sure your on different sides and floors of the hotel with seperate cars so you can still get out.

The other option is to let them meet Kimberly.

[Niya W]

What if he use to sell Mary Kay :).

[bettysue6879]

I hope your schedule doesn't get too out of whack!

[Suzy Harrison]

Kim: The only redeeming point in having a job that keeps me away from my family so much was that I DID get to be me so much


Does this mean that you are not you when you are with your family more?

I find this very sad. I am sorry that you feel so disconnected from your family and you live a dual life or reality.


:hugs: Kitty



Hi Kitty... Let me jump to Kims defence here, as I think you might be missing the point.

She is saying the only redeeming point in having a job that keeps her away from her family ~ was that she did get to be the other side of her.

I have seen many posts from Kim saying how she misses her family while she's away doing her job. She is saying she doesn't like to be away, but at least she turns it around and makes the best of it.


:hugs: Suzy

[Sinthia]

As good as you look Kimberly, you could train him to crossdress and then they would probably fire him for that! Well, you could always hope.

[TxKimberly]

Kimber... I know some "people" in Detroit.. Just say the word.. everything will be taken care of.
Of course that wouldn't stop the company from hiring somebody else.
It all kinda sucks.. hope it all works out for you.

ROFL - Thanks Tedi! If i don't like the guy I may take you up on that!


I think they have something different in store for you, Kimberly... US Sales Manager. If I were you, I'd start getting your business skirt suit wardrobe in order:daydreaming:.

Nah, I tried the management thing once and didn't care for it. Since I was very young I've had an interest and a talent for fixing widgets. That's what I like, that's what I enjoy. I'll leave the babysitting . . .err . . . I mean managing to others.




. . . Didn't I tell you? - the new 'guy' is me!... It's going to be great, we can go out shopping together..... and you can show me the sights !...


Suzy, you have no idea how cool I think that would be! This would go from being a disaster to a awesome blessing!



. . . Does this mean that you are not you when you are with your family more? I find this very sad. I am sorry that you feel so disconnected from your family and you live a dual life or reality. . .
OUCH! I hadn't quite meant it that way but I do see how it might come across that way. It's not so much that I feel like a different person when I'm with my family. I think it's more that feel sort of . . . umm . . . truncated. Not quite complete - like a huge part of me is stuffed away and hidden. I don't know how else to describe it.

[Anita1day]

As the girls are implying, be innovative!

[MeraLehanga]

dont be so optimistic that the new guy will take your job. Yes, do train him. I know from experience that what all we may imagine gonna happen hardly turns out that way. Maybe your company is growing, they need more engineers / technicians, or maybe they are thinking of making you a boss to call your own shots and make your own trips to assure everything is in order. Dont you think it could happen that way?

[Carly D.]

Show him EVERYTHING.. and I do mean crossdressing as a means to relax.. maybe he'll do it as well...

["Mary"]

Didn't I tell you? - the new 'guy' is me!... Suzy



Darn - Suzy beat me to it!! Very funny!

[KimberlyS]

Kimberly, I hope the job situation goes to your benefit. More time with family can only be a plus IMHO.

As for fitting in CDing time around home it can be done. Chances will present there self. Also if you wife is like mine, she will know you need some femme time and between the two of you something can be worked out.

[scarlet]

Kim, I hope that as you go thru this you will find the company wants you even more. I have been in a similar situation and in my case they did replace me with the new guy. BUT, I found out later it was because his new wife was needed badly and giving him my job was part of her negociations.... and she was very important to the company soo.... out goes C.

Yours may be completely different, likely it is very different. Right now it is not a surprise for a company to try and lower travel costs. They are rising very quickly. If it is possible I would consider trying to feel out your bosses on the why. It may be just the cost of travel and they are trying to save $$ in an economy where that is hard to do. Sleuth out the why if you can.

As for the lost dressing time, there is always a way, you'll just have to create it. I have to admit that I've been jealous in a way of your travel, simply because it gave you so many opportunities. But you created those opportunities by being creative and brave. There is no doubt in my mind that those qualities in you will find a way around the problem.

Good luck during this time of change, keep that wonderful smile on ;) ;)

Charlene

as I was reading through the replys I was thinking the same thing Charleneis saying about you being creative andbrave making those oppertunitys happen Youll figure out a way And when you do youll love it cause youll be happy being Kim and youll benear your family

[fempsyche]

I would really hope that everything works out for the better with you and your dressing. I always dreamed of having a job like yours where travel was frequent and allowed time for dress. And another reason, I hope everything works out for you, is that you look so damn hot - it would be a crime for you not to.

Anessa

[lynnrichards]

I hope that this change works out for you and that you end up with some trips where you find a way to dress and go out. I really enjoy hearing about your adventures. And if you're ever in Philadelphia and need a base of operations, just drop me a note. I'd love to meet you and join you for an outing.

Lynn

[Kelli Ann]

Try talking to the boss and let him know that you are happier with being on the road and this makes you a more productive team member. If you are a valued team member your boss will take care of you.

[kellyann2012]

Kimberly,

I'm sure things are not as bad as it seems. Things have a way of working out for the best and I'm sure that after it's all said and done you will be a better woman for it all. Were always welcome with us.