Dominatrix Visit

[marissagurl]

Has anyone ever visited a Dominatrix for a forced transformation or some form of feminization?

I enjoy dressing up by myself....however recently I have been thinking that it may be an interesting experience to visit a Dominatrix for a forced dressing session.

If anyone has been to visit such a service I would be interested to hear what I may expect....as well as any recomendations of who may be a safe Domme to visit.

Thanks in advance for any advice.

Marissa

[Donna Michelle]

I have some friends on MySpace that are Dom and Submissive crossdressers and transgendered people. Some do it as a job while others choose it as a lifestyle with one partner (at a time). One friend wears a collar with his Dom's name on it as his/her owner.

Many doms will describe what they like and if that appeals to you, you can ask them questions before committing to anything. Everyone has different preferences. It is best to make a list of things you like and don't like. This list may change as you experiment.

My wife wears the pants in this family, but I don't consider her a Dom and I am not a Sub or a slave. I never tried this personally, though I do know people who have. It has been years since I have been person-to-person with any. We often communicate online.

Forced feminization can be done by anyone, not just doms. It could be a few trusted GG friends or CD friends. You still get to dress up and be seen. And you can play adult games if you choose to do so. Start slow to find your (and their) comfort level.

I have never been forced to dress. I always wanted to dress. But I have friends who began crossdressing since they were forced to dress by female relatives or friends. It excites them.

Do you have any friends that know about your crossdressing? If they are supportive, they may enjoy dressing you. My wife admitted that she and her sister used to do things to their teenage male babysitter. He had long hair and they would do his hair as he watched cartoons. He didn't care as they put barrettes in his hair or braided it. Interesting.

[MJ]

this could be an interesting thread . i have never and will never experience this unusual type of behavior i just don't understand it any of it !

[Donna Michelle]

MJ, some people like to be "on top" all of the time. Some like to be "on the bottom". Some like to switch (from top to bottom). In fact, a person who can be a dom or a sub is called a switch. I have a friend who does that.

Some people like to be controlled while others like to be controlling. If my wife wore leather and I wore a sissy outfit, people would think she was my dom and I was her sub or slave. She can be bossy and controlling in a responsible adult (mom) way while I can be childish. I let her be in charge. But we never did things like people imagine for the dom/sub sex.

Different strokes for different folks.

[black leotards]

I have been to several dominatrixes over the years. At first, I just tried out the scene, playing a sub male but later I would crossdress so that I could get into the role of being the bad school girl or maid who needs to be punished. It was never cheap and sometimes the experience was better than others, but it was always a blast. The thrill of being made to undress or be tied up and gagged by a strong female, was to me, heaven. It was humiliating and a rush at the same time. Good luck if you try it. :)

[LilSissyStevie]

I'm married to mine.:dom:

[~Seana~]

Welcome to my playground. I cant go into too much detail on this thread but I've been active in SM and DS for 20 years publicly, and since age 6 non-publicly. I've organized munches andfetish nights and seen more latex and leather in a month than most will in a lifetime. There is a ton to learn, explore and experience, and the draw of a good Domme is undeniable I wasnt always Dom either I was in a strictly submissive role for 13 of those years) .
Some tips that dont break the forum rules that I can give you:

As someone already mentioned, all Dominatrix's arent equal. They will have different skillsets and on the professional side you'll find everything from the escort who carrys a cheap flogger and pair of cuffs to Dom/Dommes who have decades of experience and full facilities. So first rule of thumb....believe it or not...is ask for references. And make sure what you have in mind is compatible with what they do, some will have interests of their own.For your safety you want to avoid escort services probably.There are lists on the web where people discuss what is available from whom by geographic area, you can google them.You might also look into a munch group...many SM'ers hold them once a month or so in different areas and you might find someone who will be more than willing to help with forced feminization without paying several hundred dollars, but because they enjoy it.

Depending where you are, I might know someone, and really that's the kind of referral you are looking for, someone who has experienced it and can point you to the right people.
I cant stress this enough, READ and LEARN. Too many subs really have no clue what they are in for and try and do it an end up hurting themselves, and in the process ruining it for themselves in the process, in some cases forever.

NEVER EVER let anyone tie you up or do anything else to you unless you ave established a negotiation with them and you have knoledge of what might transpire during the session. Most Domme's of any worth are going to ask you first what experience you have, and get a list of your interests and wants. Remember it's too late to object when your spreadeagle and gagged and the Domme pulls out the knife for knifeplay or singletail to use on you. If you get hurt and didnt negotiating beforehand you more than likely will get hurt. Because if someone is playing with you with no negotiation, frankly you can expect anything except that they will play safely ( because they have already proven safety isnt top on their minds...the dollar at the end is)
READ READ READ and understand. If you think learning makeup techniques is tough, try understanding the ins and out of electrical play, of fire play, or even bondage ( yes people really do die or lose bodiy f\unction from bondage, and if you dont believe me try an overnight in a straitjacket and tell me your shoulders dont hurt for up to 10 hours afterward. )

Please Please Please play safe.

[gwendy]

Dear Marissa
I suppose the answer is yes: for the last 40 years I have (except the 10 years of marriage and the last 4 years as a happy sub to my beautiful Mistress) visited various Dominatrix specialising in ‘forced feminisation’, not that I needed much forcing of course.
I take it that you are also basically submissive, if not the Domme might not be the right answer?
There are, of course, lots of ‘dressing services’ (in the UK at least) where ladies will dress you, do your make-up etc and then relax with you, but I presume you are, like me, a sub at heart?
I was extremely lucky in that my first visit to a Pro Domme turned into a wonderful relationship, always ‘professional’ but we became good friends.
She would help me dress, do my makeup, talk about the sort of clothes ‘gwen’ should wear etc and then tie me up and beat sh*t out of me - heaven.
gwendoline

[MentalMercury]

I don't want to go hiring anybody or anything like that but you've definately caught my interest and my curiosity. I havn't even been to a fetish fair yet

[Suzy Harrison]

I'm married to mine.:dom:

So funny !:heehee:

[KandisTX]

RESEARCH, RESEARCH, RESEARCH!!!!!!!!!!!

Do you see a pattern here? ~giggles~

Seriously, S&M is NOT something you just "jump" into with both feet like that, you must do the research and know what you are getting yourself into. I myself have been involved in the lifestyle for the last 25 years myself in many areas as I have lived all over the world in that time. Do not just set an appointment and go and play without first discussing/negotiating with the Domme. Make sure you are safe not just in your play, but with others as well. Set yourself up with "safe calls" if you are unsure (a safe call is a way for you to make sure that others know where you are and if you are okay. If you don't call at a designated time, they can take appropriate actions. If you use a certain word on the call, they can take action if necessary).

I must disagree with kinkedamanda and the statement "Remember it's too late to object when your spreadeagle and gagged and the Domme pulls out the knife for knifeplay or singletail to use on you." Simply because any Domme worth her salt will have set up a safeword with you. IF there is no mention of a safeword.... GET OUT NOW. ;)

Just be safe and be careful hon.

Kandis:love::rose2:

[MJ]

interesting thread but i just don't get it . each to there own i guess .
some outfits are nice but ...well we won't go there

[Toni_Lynn]

My wife and I talked about this morning while waiting for the bus. Our advise is -- don't go there. Realising that you want to play and playing is fun it just seems to us that it worth waiting and finding someone and being in a committed relationship. Talk about real fun! Once there, its a whole new level because your partner WANTS to have fun with you and is doing it for reasons that are more intimately connected.

Past experience on yours truly's part back in some wilder more desperate days is that I came away from such experience feeling far less than fulfilled and, well, somehow cheap and dirty.

Just our two pennies

Huggles

Toni-Lynn

[KandisTX]

Anther question you really have to ask yourself is "How much can you actually be "forced" to do?"

Even under hypnosis, the human mind will not allow you to do something subcounciously that you would not do in a concious state of mind. If it is something you really want to do, there would be no inhibitions and therefore no real "forcing" of the issue.

Having tried to set up/play in a scene where I was being "forced" to wear women's clothing, I realized there is not much force needed as it is something I want to wear in the first place.

What you might look for is a transformation salon in your area and spend your money there having them give you a total makeover and maybe a photo shoot. ;)

Kandis:love::rose2:

[Bilinda]

Yes there is a whole sub culture of forced fem CDers. It's really close to the "plain" bondage, S&M and other stuff. At one time my two lesbian friends and I actually discussed making an adult site about forced fem, with me being the sub and one of them the dom, weeeee!!

But they backed out at the last minute, darn it! I have never done it, but I push some paysites about it. I'd love to try it once with one of my lesbian friends, but I guess that's just a wish! As others have said, be very careful. It may seem fun, but once your tied up you may suddenly think "hey, I don't even know this person, what the hell am I doing"!

[Ashley in Virginia]

this could be an interesting thread . i have never and will never experience this unusual type of behavior i just don't understand it any of it !


interesting thread but i just don't get it . each to there own i guess .
some outfits are nice but ...well we won't go there

You have posted the same thing twice...???

Perhaps it is because you are curious but don't want to come out and say it?

There is absolutely nothing wrong with S&M between consenting sane adults. To be curious of new things is very natural. You sould try something before you knock it. :)

[JessieB]

NEVER EVER let anyone tie you up or do anything else to you unless you ave established a negotiation with them and you have knoledge of what might transpire during the session.But how do you know the Dom can be trusted to honor the negotiated terms???


I must disagree with kinkedamanda and the statement "Remember it's too late to object when your spreadeagle and gagged ..." Simply because any Domme worth her salt will have set up a safeword with you. IF there is no mention of a safeword.... GET OUT NOW. ;) How do you use a safeword if you're gagged and can't speak???

[KandisTX]

How do you use a safeword if you're gagged and can't speak???

While a gag does inhibit your ability to hold a conversation, you still have the ability to say the safeword (although not as clearly as without the gag). In this instance, there are visual signals you can give (lifting your elbow or raising a finger or some other movement that you have prearranged with the Domme as your "safe signal" in lieu of a safeword when a gag is being used).

This is all part of the negotiation stage, and if the Domme says "You don't need a safeword or safe signal", get you butt out of there quickly because that person does NOT have your safety in mind.

Kandis:love::rose2:

[AmandaM]

Is it because you want to feel total acceptance for your CDing? Or are you really submissive? For me, the attraction would be that since she's making me be a girl, I am free to be as girly as I want with no guilt or shame. And no, I've never been to one and don't plan on it.

[Donna Michelle]

My late wife was a Dom for a while. She whipped guys for money. She did NOT have sex with them. They were usually married businessmen. We had a "dungeon" in the basement. One guy was tied to a cross and fainted! We had to dial 911 for his safety. He was overexcited!

She had a secretary named Pat who scheduled appointments for clients. My current wife was pregnant and at home overseeing a home addition when a man in a uniform arrived in a truck. She thought it was one of the workers and opened the door. He stared at her and asked to go in the dungeon. This is one of those secrets I kept from her that she discovered.

When I came home from work, she asked me who Pat was. I said I didn't know anyone named Pat. She said, "You know. The lady that makes the appointments for the guys who want to play in the dungeon.". Imagine your pregnant wife discover that while you are away. She was worried about answering the phone or the door for a while. (She was innocent until she met me.)

Anyway, it is great when you can get recommendations. We had friends in New York. They bought a lot of our cages, the cross, whips and other gear. Maybe someone will let you watch others at play! By the way, you can be forced to dress without being into S and M. It doesn't have to be violent. One of my friends likes to be tied and tickled after being forced to dress like a girl.

[KATIE TV]

This is very interesting to me as yes I have visited Doms. For dressing in the past, Let me explain, I did in my early teens raid the laundry basket of my aunt and dress, never my mothers though, (Froid would have a theory on this) I really got in to dressing with my fascination and love of CP. (spanking) A lot of Doms. Can be scary with dungeons and the like, so by dressing as a maid or school girl it made the sessions more “domestic” and light hearted, So I sort out Ladies who offered a dressing service with domination thrown in, I met some grate ladies, As the years went on I found that I just liked to dress and a spanking was not the reason. So now I dress most of the time. I now have a partner (female) who understands and love’s “casual Katie” but can Dom. and for fill my “other needs” I now run a dressing service with role play if required spanking ect. For men who have that need, I hope that the “girls” on this site understand that need to cross dress comes in many forms and will not be to judgemental on the subject, Katie,

[Donna Michelle]

Katie, I agree with you. Some people experiment to learn what they like or don't like. They don't even know why they have fantasies or the desire to try some things, but they sometimes decide to act on those feelings.

Spanking can be the most of some pleasure with pain for some people while others can enjoy more or less. My son enjoys being spanked by my wife and begs for it. She doesn't indulge him much, but he will try to find ways to get her to spank him! He is really weird.

My late wife did things to other people that I was never interested in trying. We don't have to understand why people like what they like. I don't judge people based on what they do privately. After all, I am a crossdresser. Some people think that is weird.

[KATIE TV]

Well said Donna and thank you, I knew an old soldier who used to say "We all go to the devil in owne way" to me nothing is weird, I may not like it, but we must all try and understand that everyone has their own desterny in life and if they fullfill there "fantasey" or live their life as they want to with out hurting anyone thats great, it's fine by me. Katie.

[~Seana~]

But how do you know the Dom can be trusted to honor the negotiated terms???


This one is easy. Rember the first thing I said? Ask for references. It may sound silly but the SM crowd are tight communities that last for decades, with lots of infighting generally. But they all know each other. This is one reasoni'd urge you rather than spending money to get involved in a local munch group or club. There are tons of em.If you ask for someone they have played with, most Dommes wouldnt bat an eyelash, in fact they might think better of you for it.

How do you use a safeword if you're gagged and can't speak???

This one is easy too. Most gags arent really all that effective( well many arent not all) so gagspeak is VERY possible most times. Aside from safe words...safe signals are also used. These sometimes involve a bell, ball or set of keys held in the hand. If they drop...it's the equivelent of a red signal ( in other words i want this scene to stop now). People use all kinds of things as safe signals.Of course it is possible you might have a scene where it simply isnt possible for the sub to communicate at all much during for example during certain forms of mummification. Such scenes are not for novices.
EDIT: I have no idea why my first comment looks like part of the original posters comments.

[MJ]

You have posted the same thing twice...???

Perhaps it is because you are curious but don't want to come out and say it?

There is absolutely nothing wrong with S&M between consenting sane adults. To be curious of new things is very natural. You sould try something before you knock it. :)

there different the first is i don't get it as in understand the concept

second was i love some of the outfits there is this cute black and pink outfit i like but ... it's like bike outfits are cool also but whats the point when i don't own a bike !!!

can't justify spending the money when i can't get use out of it .
i am not knocking it .. just don't get it i much prefer dinner slow dancing romance strawberry's chocolate and frank Sinatra in the background . hell of a lot better than having the crap beat out of you ..

[DemonicDaughter]

Some of you already know and some of you have already guessed. But yes, I've... well... played would be completely inadequate a word. Anyhow...

First, not all Doms/Mistresses are into humiliation. Not all of them are into causing pain. As a matter of fact, I know quite a few that just like the sissy idea far more than the hog-tied concepts.

Second, what most people think is the BDSM lifestyle is incorrect. Most people think subs are 'deprived' and 'mentally ill to want to be treated like that!' ... like what? Until you've been there, you're just assuming... and we all know what assuming does.

Third, I say check the scene out first. Go to a few fetish clubs and WHAT form of BDSM you are into, as there are plenty of expressions of this.

Lastly, just because there are those of us who have no issues expressing ourselves freely in whatever manner we choose, doesn't make us sick, deprived or mentally ill. There is NOTHING that any of us do that hasn't been being done for thousands of years in one form or another. We aren't afraid to indulge and no one should be.


I don't want to go hiring anybody or anything like that but you've definately caught my interest and my curiosity. I havn't even been to a fetish fair yet

"Yet" would be the key word. You may not have been to a fetish fair but if you've been to a 'goth' club in the city, you've most likely gone to a fetish club on a goth night. There is ssssoooo much to explore in vampirism. :D

[maggiecdva]

There does seem to be a correlation between CDing and D/S scene. I wonder why. It is an interesting thread.
hugs - maggie

[MJ]

You have posted the same thing twice...???

Perhaps it is because you are curious but don't want to come out and say it?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with S&M between consenting sane adults. To be curious of new things is very natural. You sould try something before you knock it. :)


***mj your mission is to admit you are curious and come out and say it !!!!***

like a lamb among the wolves
OK Ashley i am so interested in this culture / group that i am joining a group .
i met some at a munch **a get together to meet new people **they seam to be quite normal and they do bite ...
i needed a name so lady_mj works for me .. looking forward to my first meet .. i have no idea but like everything else i tend to do .. I'll jump in with both feet first ... since i can't find a good book on the subject .
I'll start has a sub and then maybe a switch hmm i wonder if this is going to hurt ? too bad you can't see my outfit :eek: .. i guess the only way to find out is to get dirty ...
why did i do this i don't know but it's got to be your fault

[curiously_c]

I'd love to find a Mistress willing to play with me in that regard. Being unemployed at the moment, and in a RED state, I would be hard pressed to find a Pro Domme.

I dated a Dominatrix some years ago when I was only 21, I wish I had known more about myself when that had happened.

[Ashley in Virginia]

***mj your mission is to admit you are curious and come out and say it !!!!***

like a lamb among the wolves
OK Ashley i am so interested in this culture / group that i am joining a group .
i met some at a munch **a get together to meet new people **they seam to be quite normal and they do bite ...
i needed a name so lady_mj works for me .. looking forward to my first meet .. i have no idea but like everything else i tend to do .. I'll jump in with both feet first ... since i can't find a good book on the subject .
I'll start has a sub and then maybe a switch hmm i wonder if this is going to hurt ? too bad you can't see my outfit :eek: .. i guess the only way to find out is to get dirty ...
why did i do this i don't know but it's got to be your fault

Add it to the laundry list of things that are already my fault. :D

Glad to see you are giving it a go. It can be lots of good fun. I hope you enjoy it. :)

[Lilith Moon]

We have been to a fetish fair several times this year. Last time we ended up at a nearby BDSM club and had a great time. The main attraction for me is the completely accepting attitude of everyone at these venues. My SO loves many of the outfits on display as well as those worn by us punters. Last time we went I spent part of the day wandering around vendors stalls dressed fairly conservatively and then changed into something more outrageous for the club. My SO (who has certain interests :dom::spank::bs: ) did persuade me to "play" (not that it took much persuasion) and our short session left me with a "happy glow" in my nether regions. But at no time were we pressured to do anything and we actually spent most of the evening chatting over drinks and dancing to great music surrounded by all sorts of "alternative" folk like us.

I can hardly wait until next time :daydreaming:

[MJ]

. My SO loves many of the outfits on display as well as those worn by us punters.

i am glad i am not the only one who love the outfits there so amazing ..



But at no time were we pressured to do anything and we actually spent most of the evening chatting over drinks and dancing to great music surrounded by all sorts of "alternative" folk like us.

I can hardly wait until next time :daydreaming:

and what i found was my new found friends seem normal .. and very nice ..

like joining a cross dressing group the first few times you'll be thinking what am i doing here but after that you just can't stay away

[Cinn]

this makes for interesting reading

[Kali]

My SO is hosting/moderating a monthly group meeting at a new BDSM club in the area for people in all places in the CD spectrum (not just those that are into BDSM).

The first meeting was last night; she had been in contact with about a dozen people who had contacted her about this and said they would be there. The whole point is to offer a non-judgemental place where people can talk, dress, express their interests in this part of our lives.

Ten people said they would be there

Zero showed up.

She'll keep trying.

She's not doing this in her pro domme persona, though there is no shortage of people who want her to do forced femme and various permutations and are willing to pay for it. I actually told her I didn't think that those people would show up atthis sort of group. The people that I know that are into "forced femme" are really into the "it's not my idea to do this so I can relax and enjoy instead of dealing with the fact that I'm a crossdresser"; pretty much the same as the "forced bi" submissive crowd.

It's all about acceptance; whene she was an active pro domme, she had quite a few CD clients who paid for her tiime to do nothing more than have her go shopping with them. She's not really cut out for that as a business model though; if she liked the person they ended up off the cliock pretty quickly.


I could go on for quite a bit on this topic, but I doubt there is really that much interest.

One closing comment though; we found that after being active in the local LGBT community for quite a while, a large percentage of the people we knew in that community were closed minded and unaccepting of the BDSM community. Some were aware of their prejudices and tried to be open mided., but were clearly uncomfortable with it. Others were just as unaccepting of it as the religous zealots felt about their own lifestyle (and never realized the hypocracy of their position and that their arguments against BDSM echoed those same arguments used against them).

people are people. everything else is window dressing

[yms]

But how do you know the Dom can be trusted to honor the negotiated terms???

How do you use a safeword if you're gagged and can't speak???


Sometimes the sub, when gagged, is given a object to hold. If the sub drops the object, that's like using a safe word.

[KandisTX]

There does seem to be a correlation between CDing and D/S scene. I wonder why. It is an interesting thread.
hugs - maggie

One of the reasons for this might well be the acceptance we all seek. Within the lifestyle/scene, you are more apt to find acceptance for your "kink" (CDing) as they see it as "just another fetish".

Some of us :o are more into the concept as a S/switch where we tend to play either the Dominant or the submissive. The CDing aspect is just a bonus. :D:devil::D

Kandis:love::rose2::dom::spank::dom:

[Bev06 GG]

Marissa,
Good advice from Kinkyamanda. I think a lot of CDs dream of the dominant woman thing. I know when I did my dressing service I was asked to extend my service in to this particular area and the CDs were willing to pay me anything I wanted.
For me that sort of thing only happens between me and my partner because for me it does have a sexual element to it and I know how far I can go with him without frightening the living day lights out of him.
Be careful though Marissa because honestly there are some rip off merchants out there who are very eager to cash in on somebody else's fetish and they will charge the ruddy earth. People who rip CDs off financially because they think they have a captive market make me very cross and like amanda says, establish the ground rules before you start. Some Dominatrix women or CDs get a kick out of being cruel and dont quite know where the barriers are.
Good luck
Bev

[Bev06 GG]

But how do you know the Dom can be trusted to honor the negotiated terms???


Tee hee, Jessie these people are mostly providing this service as a business, they are depending on you wanting to return for more, so not to honour your wishes would be a nail in their coffin.

Most places sit with you and discuss your needs, be they sexual, submissive, humiliation etc etc. They will or should also discuss how far you want to go and what indication you will give them if you feel out of your depth. They have to be careful to meet your needs and hit the nail on the head, not drive it so far in that you can't see it.
Bev

[Tina Dixon]

Oh my what a fun thread! Whens the fun start?
68357

[Mitch23]

i went from undie fetishist to out and out tranny as a direct result of visits to a lovely professional domme and her eforts to feminize me. I was a very willing student.

mitch.

[MJ]

Marissa,
Good advice from Kinkyamanda. I think a lot of CDs dream of the dominant woman thing. I know when I did my dressing service I was asked to extend my service in to this particular area and the CDs were willing to pay me anything I wanted.
For me that sort of thing only happens between me and my partner because for me it does have a sexual element to it and I know how far I can go with him without frightening the living day lights out of him.
Be careful though Marissa because honestly there are some rip off merchants out there who are very eager to cash in on somebody else's fetish and they will charge the ruddy earth. People who rip CDs off financially because they think they have a captive market make me very cross and like amanda says, establish the ground rules before you start. Some Dominatrix women or CDs get a kick out of being cruel and dont quite know where the barriers are.
Good luck
Bev

hi Bev
i am not paying for a service this is a group setting we get a date for play time and we show up . yes it's safe my big concerns were dealt with anyhow there's no harm in watching ...
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OK maybe a little fun . has i have said before i am trying to understand the culture ..there are some things you can't learn from a book ..that and it could be way more fun.

whats the worse thing that can happen i don't like it ..and end up with a cool outfit
now that would look way cool in the picture gallery

[Shadeauxmarie]

there different the first is i don't get it as in understand the concept

second was i love some of the outfits there is this cute black and pink outfit i like but ... it's like bike outfits are cool also but whats the point when i don't own a bike !!!

can't justify spending the money when i can't get use out of it .
i am not knocking it .. just don't get it i much prefer dinner slow dancing romance strawberry's chocolate and frank Sinatra in the background . hell of a lot better than having the crap beat out of you ..

In your opinioin.

[Amy Hepker]

This has always been a fantasy of mine to have a Lady of my own that would dominate me in ways to make us both happy. The thing is in relationships these days the GG does take command but it is not in a sexual dominating way, but to please her make her happy.

[Audrey34]

Third, I say check the scene out first. Go to a few fetish clubs and WHAT form of BDSM you are into, as there are plenty of expressions of this.


You're so right about that. I don't want to be dominated and I certainly don't like pain. I'm into kidnap fantasy rope bondage. Just as I like to tie up GG's I love it when as Audrey it's my turn to be bound, gagged and at the mercy of my "kidnapper". I'm just not into all that leather and other stuff.
-Audrey

[CD Susan]

I have never visited a dominatrix. The idea of forced feminization is one that is hard for me to understand. I could not justify paying someone to force me do something that I would be willing to do. The subject of bd/sm is one that I have always been curious about but have never acted upon. I would not object to experiencing this type of an encounter but would approach it with caution. I am very open minded and would never critisize someone elses chosen lifestyle. I think all of us have secret fantasies and I include myself in this context so if the situation presented itself I could see myself acting on my fantasy.

[Christinedreamer]

In the mid seventies I moved to LA from Maryland- real culture there for sure. I was already a budding CD and was looking for clothes and found a place called Ubas TV Clothing on Sunset Blvd. She was the second retailer (after Michael Salem) to cater to TVs and kinky lifestyles.

I got brave one day and asked her about any dommes she might know as I thought I might like to try it out. She connected me with the best of the best- Queen Adrena.
(aka Queen Kong in later years on TV in the GLOW shows)

She was 6'3 and all muscle and when she said jump you asked how high. She loved CDs and everything along that line. I yold her I wanted to try this and that I was a CD. She had me show up at her house wearing only a white peignoir and stand at her front door until she decided to let me in. Then after some more discussion, she dressed me in the clothes I brought. A full square dance dress, 3 full petticoats, sissy pants and a bra.

After I was dressed she took me and her live-in TV maid to a club on Santa Monica Blvd. and paraded us around the dance floor. After which we were sent to various tables to answer questions about our desires to dress this way by the various patrons. They were mused and we were thrilled/humilated.

I cannot explain the whys and wherefores, but we did enjoy it.

As mentioned earlier, if you want to be in a BD/SM scenario, be sure you trust the other person and have safe words.

Ours was just a domme session with no danger. We saw each other for many years and had a ball every time.

I think the hidden reason some of us like the domme idea is that we can pretend we have no choice in dressing and the Domme is a convenient excuse that we are being forced against our will to do this. (even so, it IS a turn on for many) IMO. Enjoy but be safe and sane.

[Ellie]

My GF is pretty Dom esp. when I'm all dolled up but I've never tried a pro or an online friend. BDSM requires A LOT of trust and that is not something that builds quickly with me.

Be careful out there :)

[MsJanessa]

Those who have been posting here awhile know that I'm totally domme---love the feeling of wearing silk, leather, stilletto heeled boots, and gloves--when coupled with the feeling of power that a submissives gives to Me, it's like being devine--when a submissive TV, all dolled up, gives Me that Look and I gaze back with a bemused, arrogant smirk on My painted lips, you know that the sparks are going to fly.

[gwendy]

From my early teens I had been fascinated by both my love of cross dressing and BDSM, but I was 21 when I picked up the courage to visit a pro Domme.
She asked me what I was ‘into’ and I told Her everything. She had a few bits of underwear that fitted me and I was soon tied to the bed wearing bra, panties, suspenders and stockings and gagged with Her panties: Soon my backside was glowing - this was heaven.
When the session was over I asked if I could visit again and we agreed a date and then the bombshell, I could only come again if I arrived fully ‘dressed’.
I had never really contemplated going out in my female clothes but this was the lever that I needed.
For the next 18 months, on a Friday every 4th week I would spend the afternoon shaving and bathing, painting my nails and putting on my makeup before getting dressed in my finest. After peeking through the curtains to make sure the ‘coast was clear’ I would scurry to the car and very nervously drive to see her.
I was always Her last client of the week so afterwards I was allowed to stay on for a drink and a chat when She helped me tremendously with hints on makeup and dress as well as feminine traits and mannerisms.

[harmony]

as adam said to god about eve-she made me do it!!its always nice to have others make decisions for you?!!if that is how you are -put together-there is nothing wrong with it just like if it werent for lust none of us would be here!

[karezza]

I have dressed and played with Dommes many times. I have been fortunate to have kinky partners and not have to go to pros, but I know one who I would gladly pay. In my experience, forced feminization can be a real turnon, especially when combined with verbal humiliation and encouragement. The SM part is optional, and as has been discussed, must be negotiated in advance. Although I enjoy bondage and moderate pain, for me the real thrill is in the psychological play. As an example, I was recently ordered to dress in a maid outfit and serve breakfast in bed to my wife and her lesbian lover. I had slept downstairs while they enjoyed themselves above me. In the course of the service, I was verbally teased by my Mistress/wife and her lover about how I looked and what a cute girl I was, but of course not a real girl, and how I could never give Mistress what she gets from a woman, etc. I was told to model different outfits while they cajoled me. The psychological affect was wonderful, a combination of praise and humiliation. I was overjoyed to be a good maid and servant to strong females.

Domme/sub play need not be all pain and suffering ... :) Some Dommes refer to themselves as "Loving Dommes" meaning they like to dominate in such a way that the sub is exalted and inspired to be as pleasing and lovely as possible, for the Domme's pleaure of being pampered and worshiped. The possibilities are really limitless. I think a key is knowing what turns you on and finding someone who has complimentary desires. That is what the Internet is for!

[abundantly_me]

Actually I would ask yourself what is cross dressing to you, a celebration of your feminine side, a part of you needs to be expressed,

or

do you wish to see this as something that is forced upon you, where the dom gets her pleasure by humilating you, by what she perceives a regular man would not want to do

before you go there, check out what it can be about, Think about it, would you like to have some woman carve her initials into your penis with a knife? or have your penis stepped upon with the heel of her shoe.

[Jilmac]

I don't think a dominatrix is for me. I don't want to be submissive to the demands of someone telling me how I can and cannot dress. For me the ideal situation would be to have a GG help me with my feminization, and critique me on the end results. Luv and :hugs: Jill

[BlkNYLONS]

It was the mid 80's when I met a pro-dom by total accident. I was her UPS driver and made many parcel deliveries often to her home. Never even had thought of seeing a dominatrix. I had no idea really what it was all about but I always thought it had something to do with pain so I knew it was not for me. Wow was I wrong....For me it was all about fetish. My fetish for nylons and heels has been a life long one. Truly my passion, my weakness, my fetish every since I was a small boy.

I had seen her wearing a pair of ultra sheer black classic full-fashioned seamed stockings with spiked heels as she came to the door one day. My compliment of her stockings and heels started the subject of fetish. She smiled and asked me questions of my interest in her nylons....I confessed my deep fetish for those stockings. She confessed to me her true profession and we talked in detail about my nylons fetish. I confessed to her growing up with it, and she asked me how young I was the first time I ever wore nylons. I was truly embarrassed but told all.

My first session with her was something I will never forget. Full role playing of her being my sexy Aunt forcing me to wear her open bottom girdle, garters FF stockings and spiked heels.

That was the start of many sessions wit her as well as her pro-dom friends always with the same fetish themes. The excitment of me standing in front of her wearing girdles, garters, RHT classic stockings and spiked heels I can't put into words.

[Stargirl]

I wonder why B and D are too often associated with pain, sadism and humiliation ? Aren't there simply varying degrees of what might turn us on ? I think the lines of separation can be wide or narrow. There are people who will gladly ask "Please ! PUSH me off the cliff. Do it NOW, Stuart. If you love me, kill me !" and then we have the little housewife who giggles when the handcuffs are snapped shut around her wrists by a special visitor who may be her sweet husband. Even at a young age, there were some movie scenes with a little B and D that turned me on. Not that I was "jollied" by the pain of another, but maybe it's similar to running around in the rain during a lightning storm ? So much takes place in the head, anyway. I can attest to that.