Wierd feeling/question

[JennyS.]

I had to go to the doctor the other day. And, I've been thinking about it ever since. I've never professed to be gay... As a matter of fact, I love women. But, I had an "exam". My doc is tall and attractive for a man. After I dropped my shorts I was a little embarrassed because I shave everything. He didn't say anything to me as he's probably seen that many times. The wierd thing is.... I kinda liked his hands on me. This is the first time I have EVER felt this way. Now, don't get me wrong... He did nothing to arouse me. He was just doing his job. It was me that felt aroused.
Has any of you experienced this sensation? Or wondered about your sexuality? I know I am a crossdresser and I am desiring women.
Is this wierd?

[Julie York]

If you learn a bit about your body you'll be suprised what buttons are up there.

[tricia_uktv]

I have this crazy theory that we are all bi-sexual and that its society which forces us to choose, one way or another. But then that's wrong because I am making a generalisation and we are all different.

What the heck, don't worry about it and enjoy it if you want it!

[Joanna:)]

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There's surely no need to worry one way or the other. If you did turn out to enjoy men as well as women would that be so bad? It just means you've got twice the options!

I think people stress out too much about trying to fit themselves into boxes. Why do we have to be 'Straight' 'Bi' or 'Gay'?

Me, I just enjoy however I'm feeling on any given day. I'm more or less 'straight', but have the occasional thoughts about men when the mood takes me. It's all hypothetical for me anyway, cos I'm lucky enough to be in a monogamous relationship with a beautiful woman, but I've never worried myself about who I do or don't find attractive.

My advice to you is not to worry about homosexuality or heterosexuality, and just think about sexuality in general. Experiment; Have fun! That's what it's all meant to be about anyway right?

Fantasize, check out some porn, Explore yourself!
:cp:

[KarenCDFL]

It is said every girl is bi after two drinks. I guess we have enough girl in us to be like that too.

Don't worry about it, just enjoy it.

There is nothing wrong with you.

[Sophia KT]

I have this crazy theory that we are all bi-sexual and that its society which forces us to choose, one way or another.
But then that's wrong because I am making a generalisation and we are all different.

What the heck, don't worry about it and enjoy it if you want it!

I think you're right, and your second sentence does exactly what you warn against in the first.

but I am biased (if you will pardon the pun).

Sophia:hugs:

[AmandaM]

This has happened to me too. And I thought the doc was interested. OK, there is this one fantasy of mine with me as a doctor's wife and, er, nevermind! Seriously, there may be times when you are attracted to certain men. It's happened to me about 3 times in my life. But, I don't think it was enough to officially call me bi. Even then, if I was bi, so what. I just consider it a flirtation. With the inner woman in me, it might have been her looking, not my male self. So, I can't quite categorize it and tend to ignore it.

[epsxyblkm]

I sometimes get a urge for men when I am dressed. Maybe I am BI, or maybe I am just seeking some validation. Either way, it is confusing, but can be fun.

[linnea]

I think that it is perfectly natural and normal to wonder and to fantasize--nothing to worry about. I agree with those who have said, "Enjoy the feeling."

[JennyS.]

Thanks... And yes, I enjoyed the feeling. The thing is, do I want to experiment? I don't know. I'm not sure of anything right now.

[moses]

I have never considered myself lesbian or bi, and have NEVER had a sexual encounter with a (genetic) woman (not even handholding or kissing), but I find getting lap dances from women very erotic. I don't think that makes me bi. I think it just means I can appreciate the beauty of my own gender and be aroused by it, but I am then compelled to act out that arousal with the opposite gender. Does that help?

[Emily Anderson]

What we think doesn't really matter! It's more about what you think...

Obviously you had some kind of attraction to this guy, which may or may not happen again in your life. Just go with the flow and don't worry about what it all means. In the end, you'll know what you like and don't like... and how far you want to take it.

[docrobbysherry]

A psycologist friend, had a test for guys, to find out if they were gay/bi or not.
There was a meeting place, where lots of invited men and women got together for individual and group sex. One particular room, had many naked folks of both, (all?), sexes, and the lites were out. U entered thru a large changing room that was attended. U left your clothes/etc. there.
Once in that room, everyone was touching everyone, and so forth and so on. If u were gay or bi, u didn't care who was touching u. He didn't, and enjoyed all of his experiences there. He said it didn't matter to him, which sex was giving him enjoyment, or who he was giving it to.

He figured anyone that wouldn't enjoy entering that room was homophobic. I tried to imagine what it would be like. Just let myself go and enjoy the sensual experience. And not be concerned about what sex anyone was.

He talked about someone sucking on his toe for quite awhile. Which he enjoyed immensely, yet he never found out who it was. I'm not sure it was the mental picture of a guy sucked on my toe, or the possible uncleanliness, that turned me off the most. I couldn't do it.

I have used that as my "Sex test", ever since. I imagine THAT person sucking on my toe. If I think I mite like that, I'll consider having sex with them. If not, no way!

By the way, I'm NOT a toe/foot person. I think it would bais my test, if I was!

[Emily Anderson]

Doc, I was with you until the toe experiment. Feet are a very particular part of the body, and while I might enjoy being with the most beautiful woman on earth, I would not suck her toes if they repulsed me!

On the other hand, given a room of equally attractive women and men, without having to take feet into consideration... Well, I might just dabble with a few of the cuter guys around....

[Rachel Morley]

I agree with what Julie York posted. When you "learn about yourself" (CDing can be self discovery) you find out all sorts of new stuff that you like, that you didn't know that you liked.

For example, I did (in theory) know about the male G spot, but it wasn't until my wife encouraged me to "find my own" with the use of "toys" that she already had, that I discovered a whole new area that I like, and we now incorporate it into our love life.

I think what you are experiencing is fairly normal stuff. It feels nice to be touched in intimate places ...ok, (to me) it's a little bit unusual that it was your doctor that made you feel nice. I say this because I'd had "the exam" by my (male) doctor and it didn't do anything for me, however, with reference to my "awakening" as I mention above, I was in position quickly and my muscles were very relaxed during the procedure ... which wouldn't of happened before.

I'd say, don't worry about what is or isn't "normal". Just enjoy the fact that you are happy with it and that it feels nice. Think of it as feminizing. Being sensual and aware of your feelings is considered a female trait isn't it? :)

[joe552]

Are you saying that during the exam you became physically aroused, which concerned you because it was a male doctor? In which case, I would say, relax, us guys don't always have much control over what our 'bits' do. But if you're saying that you became aroused BECAUSE it was a male doctor, that's a different thing. Did you find the doctor attractive?
I'm just wondering if a) it's just a physical response to having an intimate exam, or b) an emotional response to being 'intimate' with another man?
I'm a gay man, so don't have a problem if you decide it's b) and that's a part of yourself you want to explore, but I would caution about getting ahead of yourself.
The bottom line, like other replies, whatever is the case, don't stress about it. Even if you decide you did find the doctor attractrive, it doesn't mean your about to totally change your life overnight and suddenly start hitting your local gay bars

[adelle]

i also sa we are all bi. sit back and enjoy what happens to you, you might learn a whole new side of your self that you did not know

[trannie T]

Certain parts of our bodies feel good when touched. Your physican found one. Because something feels good does not make you gay.

[finacarina]

sounds fun

[Jada Rose]

I've found myself pondering the same question alot lately. Upon closer scrutiny, I've come to realize that, at least for me, it's an attraction to the individual and not to their gender.

[Alana65]

Has any of you experienced this sensation? Or wondered about your sexuality?

It hasn't happened to me in real life, but have had similar experiences in some very vivid dreams. Afterward, I would question my sexual preference (had always considered myself hetero), but it still aroused me none the less. Maybe there's some latent bisexuality there that I may need to investigate someday.

[JoAnnDallas]

Has not happen to me. My doctor is a female.

[Heather_Marie]

I do not think it is weird at all we discover new things all the time about us I think we are trained to be men and women in this day and age however remember the Romans and what they did. I myself have never gone down the street of a same relationship because of my upbringing. However I have fantasized about it.

[shirley1]

i have always considered myself to be totally straight and never been attracted to men period - but recently i found literotica fiction stories about dressing and having various experiences like forced dressing sexual encounters with men whilst dressed ect - i actually do get turned on by the thought of having sexual encounters with men whilst either being dressed or fantasisng about being dressed - yet i still maintain i am no physicall attracted to men at all - strange isnt it - nothing to be ashamed of though !

[Dorisnycd]

This is real? Ugh! A gay test! I can't even consider dwelling on somehting so silly!


A psycologist friend, had a test for guys, to find out if they were gay/bi or not.
There was a meeting place, where lots of invited men and women got together for individual and group sex. One particular room, had many naked folks of both, (all?), sexes, and the lites were out. U entered thru a large changing room that was attended. U left your clothes/etc. there.
Once in that room, everyone was touching everyone, and so forth and so on. If u were gay or bi, u didn't care who was touching u. He didn't, and enjoyed all of his experiences there. He said it didn't matter to him, which sex was giving him enjoyment, or who he was giving it to.

He figured anyone that wouldn't enjoy entering that room was homophobic. I tried to imagine what it would be like. Just let myself go and enjoy the sensual experience. And not be concerned about what sex anyone was.

He talked about someone sucking on his toe for quite awhile. Which he enjoyed immensely, yet he never found out who it was. I'm not sure it was the mental picture of a guy sucked on my toe, or the possible uncleanliness, that turned me off the most. I couldn't do it.

I have used that as my "Sex test", ever since. I imagine THAT person sucking on my toe. If I think I mite like that, I'll consider having sex with them. If not, no way!

By the way, I'm NOT a toe/foot person. I think it would bais my test, if I was!

[deja true]

This is real? Ugh! A gay test! I can't even consider dwelling on somehting so silly!

I agree, Doris. It sounds like DRS's psychologist friend has a few probs of his own and needs some counseling.

Nobody needs a test for gay-ness or straight-ness or bi-ness or anything-ness when it comes to sexuality.

It's something we inherently know or come to find out through our own personal introspection.

[bgirl]

I think it is a sign of willingness to explore and accept yourself, including the surprises we find in our exploration, even the shocks. Denial is like wall paper and covers a multitude of things. I was viewing my friends friends the other day and one of their profiles was very provacative. Oh my god!!
I also know that my fantasys and reality are two different things. I talked this over with my friend and she said that some things read better than they live.
So it is ok to have these feelings and not act on them. On the other hand, if you do deciede to act on them, I can understand that also. You have my acceptance either way.

[Melinda G]

When you're completely shaved and soft and smooth, and then you're naked, or your pants are down, and you feel warm hands, the autopilot just takes over. I wouldn't worry about it.:heehee:

[AmandaM]

i have always considered myself to be totally straight and never been attracted to men period - but recently i found literotica fiction stories about dressing and having various experiences like forced dressing sexual encounters with men whilst dressed ect - i actually do get turned on by the thought of having sexual encounters with men whilst either being dressed or fantasisng about being dressed - yet i still maintain i am no physicall attracted to men at all - strange isnt it - nothing to be ashamed of though !

Me too. Then I went out and tried it. It was a big letdown. Probably because men don't turn me on, it was probably just the "thought" of being sexually female.