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[Shelly18]

hi there ladies
well here is my deli ma, only being 19 and living at home makes it very hard to dress as i please. I have been dressing since i was approximately 6 and have done it in secret my entire life. My stash has been caught about 3 times and my parents suspected for a long time that i like to wear womens clothes. I get accused all the time that i wear my mothers clothes when they are gone but they have no way to prove that i do. I would love to tell my parents that i dress so that i can dress at home but i am sure that they will be unaccepting. I have my own panties and bras and me and my mother wear the same size everything else. They were gone for the weekend this weekend and knowing what they know they set traps to try to catch me going through things. Well having alot of free time this weekend i have been wearing fem clothes all weekend and been into alot of my mothers clothes. If this is a trap and they find out that i have been in there then would should i say when they approach me? and also if they do not how would be a good ice breaker for me to tell them???

thanks for reading
shelly

[vivianann]

Hi Shelly 18, you should not be wearing your mothers clothes, they are her personal things, and she may take offense to you wearing her clothes, when you were younger her clothes might have been the only things available, and we all have been there wearing mothers or sisters clothes, that I understand, but now that you are an adult you need to buy your own dresses and skirts. I notice that you have your own bra's and panties, that is a good thing, you need to put your mothers clothes away and go out and buy your own dress or skirt outfit, you can find them cheap at thrift stores, or spend alittle more and go to Walmart, you do not need to buy alot of clothes at firs, take your time and brouse through the merchandise, no one will care when you are in the womens department looking at clothes, start out with 1 or 2 outfits because you will have many months and years to build up your own wardrobe. since you have thoughts about coming out to your family it will be better that you have your own clothes anyway. when you do come out talk to your mother first, she might be understanding, however she already suspects or knows by now according to your post. As the saying goes mothers know whats up, she is not fooled in my opinion, if you must tell her do not be wearing her clothes, either be wearing your male attire, or your own female attire. Good luck with your parents girl. :hugs: Vivian

[kendra o'riley]

Shelly...
Viv is right about... well everything. This is about you being you. And that means letting your mom be your mom. They give up everything for us so let her have her tiny slice of the world (her own clothes for pete's sake!) all to herself. I feel one of the biggest mistakes we girls make is being selfish. We should be sticking together with all of our sistahs TG, GG or otherwise (did I leave anyone out girls?) The funny thing is, You'll feel the same way about your own clothes - they are the doorway to discovering who you are. It's more than a frock as out Brit girls would say - You already have a tough row to hoe - you've got a secret - so you don't need to add self esteem on top of that. How we all deal with the secret is how we move on this crazy, glorious, lace and lipstick path. You're young and though you might think you know who you are , you are in for some tremendous surprises - embrace them and enjoy the ride!
hugs!
keni

[Josey]

I don't post often but your situation prompts me to resond. Like yourself, I too did the same things when I first started CDing. But just as Vivian stated you need to go your own way by purchasing "your stuff". Doing so will make you more content and help avoid your mothers rath about wearing her clothes. One less hassel about your activities will be worth it!

[DanaR]

You mentioned, "what should i say when they approach me?" Maybe you should talk to your mom alone and apologize for wearing her things and ask if her would help you with your own things. Even if she won't help, you should get your own stuff and hide it if you need to.

[Mollyanne]

Hi, First off being that you still live at home I would abide by the "rules". Second I would try to address this issue with mom first and see where that goes, as you know cd'ing does not go away(not that I would want mine to) but people who do not know the facts tend to shun us for some sort of shame, beats me as to why but they do. Its a good thing that you have your own lingerie but you MUST buy your own clothes, this is your persona, your identity. You really should talk to your mom asap, if not for her then for you!!!!!


:love: Mollyanne

[Raychel]

Hi Shelly,

From reading soem of your previous post's. I see that you sister knows that you CD as well as some of your friends. I would guess that at least your mother also knows. You should definitly have a talk with her and STAY out of her stuff. That is her personal stuff and you don't beong there in my opinion. Get you own clothes. If you talk to your mother and she accepts, maybe she wil sugest a place where you can keep them.

If you talk to your parents or not get your own clothes and don't use your mothers.

:2c:
Raychel

[Joanne f]

Vivianann is right in that you should not be wearing your mothers clothes as they are personal things, and i would say that at least your mother knows about it as they can tell instantly if any of their clothes have been touched.
It can be difficult with a young person some times to know what exactly what is going on but if you think that you are and will remain a Cd the only thing that i can say is that the quicker you get it sorted out the happier and better it will be for you .
Why don`t you ask your mother if she would mind if you wear a skirt in the house some times or get your sister to ask for you as she seams to already know , i have a feeling that it will go down better that you think .



joanne