Coming Out

[Maddie22]

As of this time last year I had told no one that actually knew who I was in real life that I am trans gendered. I was also starting to go further in my presentation behind closed doors. I had the same feelings all my life but at the time I was actually beginning to accept them more and explore them even more. Last July I had finally told one gg friend and I had actually gone out in public for the first time, a couple of times with her. It took me 27 years to do so.

Now I have been coming out a lot more. I was very depressed for much of the winter, and decided to seek counseling. I told my counselor after about 4 sessions about my dressing, which was only about a month and half ago. That was person number 2 and she has been totally supportive of me. That same week I told one of my best gg friends and she was very supportive as well. Well it started to fall like dominoes a bit. I told my sister last week who was amazingly understanding, it was the first time we said we loved each other in a long time, I told another very close gg friend of mine as well, and I told a guy friend of mine as well who was totally cool with it. And those 3 were all last week!!!!

Last Saturday I went out with one of the girls and my guy friend to a gay bar. Well as we are leaving we see one our friends show up. I didn't know how she would react, but she was surprised and totally cool with it. So now, 7 people know in totally and everyone is ok with and supportive, and want to help as well. It has been great, and a relief to have them. I know not everyone will have the same reactions that they have had, but it is nice to start out with a good core. I think I may slow down a bit on everyone that I have told and give it a while to see how this goes.

I am even thinking about changing my name since I've had some input on what they think. I think I may change it to Audrey.

Well I'll stop for a bit...let me know what you all think!!!

[pamela_a]

That's really great to hear Becca. It's good when you find that your friends are truly friends and accept you as you are. You go girl.

-Paula-

[Sonia Kiss]

Audrey, it's beautiful! So cool that you found such acceptance so quickly. You've got good friends! They're probably all wondering what you will do next...maybe you're wondering that yourself! No matter what it must feel really nice to know that you have some room to comfortably explore going further, and know that you have a few people you can lean on for support if you have to. Have fun, be safe, keep those friends!

[VirginiaX23]

I think it's fantastic that you have so many good friends who support you. It's a big weight off of your life now that others can share this with you, isn't it?

Oh, and I think Becca's a lovely name. My best friend besides my wife is named Becca and we named our daughter for her :D

[Eugenie]

Good for you Becca,

Coming out to people you like and value is indeed a marvelous experience. One feels so much relief not having to hide and lie to them. Even if those people have never met you "en femme", now they know and it makes one much more at ease with one's self esteem.

I've personally gone through that experience and that has also vastly improved my self acceptance...

All the best for your life as a free x-dresser.

:hugs:
Eugenie

[vivianann]

Good for you Becca, I have been comming out to everybody in the last several months, and so far peaple have been very supportive, and understanding. I wish you alot af happiness as you embrace your femininity.