Purging

[Tammy266]

Hi all I did what we should never do PURGE. Yes I know we are girls at heart and can't change and that is soooo true. I am now spending a lot of money to come back. I need it all wig to toes. I live in Vancouver Canada and would love to meet someone to be with and dress and settle me down again.I am one of those in the closet and the wife does not agree at all with this.Thinks we are sick. Then I look around and see all the women wearing flat shoes, socks not nylons. Pants not skirts or dresses, and even ties,but we are sick. My fantasy is to meet someone like me shopping for heels,nylons etc. and then dress together and enjoy how I really feel. Tammy Hope to meet someone near me. Love you all.

[Jilmac]

Tammy, I can undrestand your frustration, I have purged so many times I can't even keep count. My ex was also against my dressing. Society has it's double standard when it comes to clothes. It seems ok for women to wear anything masculine, (I have seen many in mens jeans and flannel shirts), but a man in a pretty skirt and frilly top is perverted by society's standards. Good luck in your quest to find a crossdressing friend. Luv and :hugs: Jill

[tamarav]

Hey Tammy!

I fully understand and it is tough when your SO doesn't support or acknowledge your interests. I am just over the border in the States, if you ever get down this way let me know. I will be happy to shop and talk with you.

Your sis,

Tami

[Fleur]

Hi all I did what we should never do PURGE. Yes I know we are girls at heart and can't change and that is soooo true. I am now spending a lot of money to come back. I need it all wig to toes. I live in Vancouver Canada and would love to meet someone to be with and dress and settle me down again.I am one of those in the closet and the wife does not agree at all with this.Thinks we are sick. Then I look around and see all the women wearing flat shoes, socks not nylons. Pants not skirts or dresses, and even ties,but we are sick. My fantasy is to meet someone like me shopping for heels,nylons etc. and then dress together and enjoy how I really feel. Tammy Hope to meet someone near me. Love you all.

Hi Tammy, I nearly went through a sesh a week back. Its futile, as you say, we're all girls at heart and thats all there is to it. I have found with the urge to purge the best thing is to stash your treasures away immediately and forget about being a tranny for a few days. Eventually you should just calm down and resume where you left off, knowing deep down your true identity (works for me anyway) and ultimately saving the bank balance!! I know it's tough on your own, and if wifeykins doesnt support, it makes it even harder :sad: I'm one of the lucky ones and my gf supports it 110 percent (Id rather stay single otherwise). Remember though, you have a lot of friends here who support your lifestyle as well :hugs:

[lisa_e_love]

Just remember- when you get the urge to purge, think about your desires to dress. They're probably coming back even if you can't feel them now. And don't ever say never again. Even if you are right, you can just leave the clothes in a box. But if you're wrong, it really hurts to purge.

[TGMarla]

I'd hate to purge after all this time now! I've put way too much into it. God willing, I'll never purge again!

[Karren H]

Well I'm in a constant state of purge.... Not because I'm ashame of what I love to do... To get rid of those clothes I tire of.......... so I can go buy new ones!! The ultimate purge!! :)

[sterling12]

Well you can take one positive thing out of the experience. When you came on here and had the guts to write about it; you added one more account to the overwhelming reality. "It's a futile effort that wastes money and breaks your heart."

Maybe somebody else who is thinking about throwing things into a Salvation Army Dumpster will stop and reconsider.

Really sucks that your wife is so nonsupporting. The saddest part is that she probably fails to realize that by not trying to understand she will probably cause you to feel isolated and insecure. Those are not good things. They sure don't make a marriage get stronger.

Peace and Love, Joanie

[CD Susan]

Tammy, I know exactly how you feel. I have purged three times in my 40 years of cd'ing and know full well it is a useless thing to do. The urge will always return and to think about losing all your frillies is just almost unbearable. I too had a wife who would not accept the cd side of me so I understand how you feel about this. It is really sad to know that there are so many people that have closed minds and cannot accept or understand us. I hope that things turn around for you and you can have the enjoyment in life that you are looking for.