Role Models

[Jonianne]

Hi All

Who were your role models as a child and how do you think that affected your crossdressing?

My mother and grandmother were mine. The males in my life at an early age were mostly good, but hard drinking and hard living mountain men. I was a very sensitive and quiet child and I remember as if it were yesterday, vowing that I would never be like them.

I never wanted to be a girl, but I sure wanted to do the things they did and be like them and with them. And when I first tried on a dress at 7, I was hooked!

I have always perferred female role models in my life. They tended to have a gentleness and kindness that I needed as a child. I'v had good male role models as well in my life, but the ones I let in my heart were mostly female.

[Heather613]

I was raised by my mom, aunt and grandma and could not help but see them as my role models. The lack of any definitive male in my youth greatly influenced who I am today. I tried to do everything the way they did and its only logical that dressing would also soon make it into the mix.

Like most I started with wearing mom's stuff and I remember feeling excited but also very happy that I had been able to connect with mom on yet another level.

[María José]

My model was my mother. I remenber being at home with my mother and my four sisters and I loved that world of girls. I never had a close relation with my father. He wanted me to go to football with him, but I didn´t like it, or to go hunting with him, but I was afraid of dogs. He is a loving father but I always knew that I was not the boy, his eldest son, he dreamed.

Anyway, I don´t think that detemined my crossdressing. I have four more brothers (yes, we are nine, a big family!) and their relation with my father and mother is completely different. They went to football and hunting with my father, they dont´l like "that things of girls" and they hate crossdressers and transexuals. I think there was something that made me different, and that is the reason I looked for a different role model.

One of the things that makes me happy is when I look at some of my pictures en femme and I look like my mother. Sadly, it doesn´t happen often. And I know that my make up is not a success when I look like my faher :D

[gretchenD]

My adoptive mom and my Aunt Maureen are two female role models in my life.They told me never to give up on my crossdressing.My adoptive father is one too and told me never to give up on what I like to do.My wife Nikki is one too,she has been inspiring me to keep this up with her support.Finally,my friends whom are just like me,crossdressers and help me out if I need any advice.

[Andi]

I guess my Mom was my roll model. I grew up on the farm in Florida. She only had a couple of dresses and one pair of 3" red heels at the time I got my female urges. Not much "femininity" in that environment but that was my start. When I discovered Playboy magazine I had new role models - not the naked ones but the photos of the models with the beautiful dresses, makeup, jewelry and stiletto heels. Wow!! Those gals made my head spin and my desire to dress like them exploded. Sorry if any of the models felt used or abused but they had a positive effect on my "womanhood". :daydreaming:

[Rachel Morley]

As a child growing up ... I guess my Mom to some extent, but also our neighbor's daughter Trina. Trina and I were friends, she was 5 years older than me but I used to think she was so lovely and I totally wanted to be just like her ... in so many ways! :)

[Jonianne]

Hi Heather,
Yes, I needed to have that connection to my mother as well.