How different would your life be......

[Deelite]

.........if you had this forum/internet when you were a child?

I am guessing the majority of you are 30 or over so would'nt of had the internet when you were a child?

It's just that since joining this forum, only a few months ago, i have discovered myself big time and had the courage to come out to my GF, and now want to dress fully and be a girl.

I am wondering if when i was a child (32 now) if i had the internet/these forums, to help understand what all the feelings/urges were, i would of come out much earlier?

It would of certainly helped if could of told my GF 10 years ago when i first met her, i wonder how different i would be now, and how my life would of changed as a result.


Luv
Dee.

[ronna]

It would have been a lot different, DeeDee, I wouldn't have had to "go it alone", if you know what I mean. I certainly would never have had the Deelite of your acquaintance without the net!

[Vivian Best]

Hi Deelite,

I can with certainty say my life would have been different if the internet had been around fifty years ago. I wouldn't have had to struggle with "why am I this way?", "am I the only boy that likes to wear women's?", "is there something wrong with me?", "should I have been a girl?" and you could just go on and on from there. Would it have answered these questions? Some probably. The thing it would have helped me most is there are lots of other girls just like me and I'm not alone in what I do.

Possibly it would or could have made a difference in marriage or at least changed the way I approached it. Probably most of all, it would have saved me years of turmoil and torment in my life.

Other than the things above it wouldn't have made much difference. ;)

Vivian :D

[Wendy me]

yes been doing this for a while now with no inter net to get started ...every thing from make up to tucking was learnd the hard way....any one rember the frist time you got that tucking thingy done right????i thought i like broke the twins............

yes the inter net has made things a lot better....see my thread i did a while aho from the closet to here...http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=6295

[Lois82]

It is funny how the internet has affected me to be honest. I remember my first time in a CD chatroom it was such a rush to talk with other sisters. If it weren't for the internet I am sure I would be more Jim :( than Lois :) and thanks sis for being my sister ;) Gawd if my sister knew about this side of me she would die/lol.

Hugs and Kisses,


Lois

[Lady Jayne]

I honestly can't begin to imagine but one word springs to mind


Better!

[Clare]

If only!

When I was a teenager back in the 70's, i was a confused perbuscent (spelling?) not sure whether i was a girl or boy!

In those days, no internet, no mags about cd/ts, not socially accepted, and no resouces on the topic.

I first got access to internet in 1998, and it wasn't until 2 years later that my curiosity on cd/ts sites got to me.

More recently, there has been so much information on cd/ts, i wish i'd had access to it 20yrs ago.

I sure i would be a better person for it - both as male and cd. Probably be trying to pass in public than wishing i could.

The internet has definately opened up a whole new aspect to cd/ts ppl.

Christine.

[Alie]

Yes, many questions would be answered. Fears and anxiety would have been delt with better.

Thank you everyone for your sweet comments!

[Sharon]

It would have made things simpler, that's for sure. When I was in my teens (early 70's), I spent hours at the library, reading everything I could find about this, and it wasn't much, at least until I went to college and had access to much more. But it's not the same as having the info at your fingertips, 24 hours a day.
Having access to the forum, and other sites, may well have changed things for me. No matter what I read those years, looking at statistics didn't help me fathom that I wasn't alone in this. Being one of many here may have prodded me to make other choices in my life -- but who knows? My life has turned out pretty well anyway, and my naivete may have benefited me.

[Melissa A.]

Things have turned out pretty well, and are always improving. So I guess all this would have happened sooner...

When I was younger and much cuter! But no sense crying over that.

Hugs,

Melissa :)

[Laura Jane]

.........if you had this forum/internet when you were a child?

I am guessing the majority of you are 30 or over so would'nt of had the internet when you were a child?

Not just this forum, but the whole interent would have made a great difference.

I loved cross dressing as a teenager, but around 16 years old I stopped and almost 18 years went by before I acted on my Cross Dressing urges again.

Thanks to interent shopping, e-bay and this forum I have had a great last couple of years exploring my female side.

[obsessedwithpantyhose]

i was not confused as a child, i knew i wasnt gay i just luvd the feel of pantyhose on me, i was 12 when i started and it was with my sisters pantyhose, she knew and was ok with it,, i would be less messed in the head today if my mom (who freaked out when she caught me in pantyhose) would have not made me feel guilt and shame for wearing pantyhose,,

some of the girls i knew while growing up knew i wore pantyhose because they noticed them under my pants :p

i also knew that i wasnt the only one who crosdressed,, i dont know why i knew this i guess i just felt it,,its been 30 yrs now,, the only thing the internet helpd me with is to meet others like us. :D

[Stephanie Brooks]

I'm 47. "What if" is always a dodgy game. Nevertheless, if I'd had this forum or the internet when I was a kid, I'd guess there's a high probability that I'd be living as a woman today.

The reality is that I didn't access any useful info until I hit age 34, 13 years ago and 31 years after wearing my first dress. Being information hungry doesn't get you information if it isn't even available.

[MarieTS]

In a word... transitioned."
The wealth of information now available regarding TS, support structures, medical options etc., would have provided the framework and confidence neccessary to for me to traverse the rocky and uncertain path to transition.

Are there any post-ops from both the "then" and "now" eras who agree or disagree?

[TaylorAB]

.........if you had this forum/internet when you were a child?

I am guessing the majority of you are 30 or over so would'nt of had the internet when you were a child?

It's just that since joining this forum, only a few months ago, i have discovered myself big time and had the courage to come out to my GF, and now want to dress fully and be a girl.

I am wondering if when i was a child (32 now) if i had the internet/these forums, to help understand what all the feelings/urges were, i would of come out much earlier?

It would of certainly helped if could of told my GF 10 years ago when i first met her, i wonder how different i would be now, and how my life would of changed as a result.


Luv
Dee.

I believe that things would have been very different for me. I believe that I would be living as a woman today. It would have given me the insight and courage to investigate my feelings, thoughts and beliefs at a time when I would have been willing to jump right into the thick of things. Youth certainly makes you look at the world differently and you are not weighed down yet by all the crap society tries to lay at your feet.

[norbie]

Oh yes the net makes a great difference. It would have been great if this Forum would be 20 years ago aviable.
Just think about all the advise which is now there for us on the net.
But also shoping for clothes and wigs is now on our finger tip. Yes the best ever happened to this world.
Love to all Norbie
B.T.W. Thanks Stephanie to change your Aviator back again, yesterday I thought you would like to hypnotise the whole Forum, just kidding, by!

[Katiegirl]

Hi Deelite

If the internet was around in the sixties I think I wouldn't have felt so lonely and confused and most likely now be unmarried and living as a woman.

I also think the transgender community would be more accepted in society.

:)

Mind of a Woman, Body of a Man, Life is a Bitch

[Katrina]

I probably would have accepted myself much sooner in life...maybe at a time when I could stop male hormones from doing their thang...and I would also probably be living as a woman now...

[tgirlkari]

Theres no doubt my life would be much different I would have known others were the same as me and I would have had people who actually understood wat was going on with me to help me understand it. I would proubly be a female by now!

[Jadeanne]

I'm 54 and spent my childhood in a relatively isolated rural area with very few people close to my age and left to make my own entertainment.

If I had access to the Internet then, I would not have been bored out of my skull most of the time.

I'm about to say something which might upset some forum members - I may NOT have tried dressing in my mother's clothes.

I would have been exposed to computers and programming much sooner than college and Bill Gates would be working for me :rolleyes: .

If I still tried on her clothes, I would not have felt as much a weirdo as I did.

Jadeanne

[Milla]

Gees my 20's were a living hell . I barried this so deaply , I drank heavily and smoked lots of pot (akk). I had no relationships (women), I was so damn lonely and confused why I couldnt get my life together . I perptualy felt unfortble that people might some how be able to read me and know my secret wish. When I entered my 30's I kinda began just to accept things as they were , and assumed it was some sort of mentel ilness from a messed up childhood .

Its only been the last year that I started to re-examine my life , in the 2 plus week I started coming here , wow big help . If only I had the currage in my 20's to accept who I was . The internet was a mearly twinkle then , if I had the resourse internet than as I do now . OMG , my life would have been so much happyier .

[Kimberly]

I AM of the internet generation, and can tell you girls that my experiences, and working myself out have been a whole lot easier with places like this.

At 18, I'm working out exactly who I am, and who I have always been... not who I am going to be, or what society is forcing me to become.

Real life experiences, imo, are as scary as hell though!! And for that kind of thing, the internet really doesn't help. I'm not really in a situation to order clothes online, so it's always face to face shopping for me. After coming out of a serious relationship, I've decided to spend some time, (and lots of money) on me, and so clothes buying for Kimberly is a must.

This thing, for me, is the scariest part of CDing - I wanna just spend hours looking around the shop... but when I get in there, I can't wait to get out. And right now, the internet just isn't going to help my gut feeling about that. Heh.

One day, I'll probably get incredibly bored and/or annoyed, and I'll just come out with it.
"Is this for your girlfriend, sir?"
"No... it's for ME!"

Lingerie shopping next....... I am not looking foward to it. :( But i need some.....

[Deidra Cowen]

I probably would have started dressing a lot sooner had the internet been around when I was young. Gawd I wish I could have see how I would have looked dressed in my twenties with no wrinkles and a young complexion! Not to mention I had not grown all this hair all over my body I have to shave now.

This sounds silly....but I really had no idea about transgendered women till I was in my 20s and I saw a porno magazine with ******** in it. I remember it absolutely stunned me! I loved those pictures and used to fantasize that I was one of those girls.

But I repressed that and some other feelings I had. After getting divorced and being in my 40s...I'm just gong with how I really feel.

[DonnaT]

I'll be 50 in a couple of weeks. When I first got on the Internet I didn't even use it to look up infor on Cding, because I was comfortable with myself.

But, if I had, back in the 60's-70's, I definitely would have been upfront with by gf before asking her to marry me.

But then again, I might not have had the desire to marry so young (20) either, and missed a wonderful opportunity.

Yet again, I might not have even joined the Army and met my future wife.

:confused:

[Kimberly]

I'll be 50 in a couple of weeks. When I first got on the Internet I didn't even use it to look up infor on Cding, because I was comfortable with myself.

But, if I had, back in the 60's-70's, I definitely would have been upfront with by gf before asking her to marry me.

But then again, I might not have had the desire to marry so young (20) either, and missed a wonderful opportunity.

Yet again, I might not have even joined the Army and met my future wife.

:confused:
It's one of those "what if..." paradoxes!! Stay well clear, we could be here for hours! :(

[Katrina]

Lingerie shopping next....... I am not looking foward to it. :( But i need some.....

Kimberly,
How can you say that??!??!?!? Lingerie shopping is more fun than regular clothes shopping and is as much fun as shoe shopping. For shame! I absolutely adore shopping for frilly, satiny, lacey stuff and have gotten quite comfortable going into that section of stores. If you keep up that attitude, I will have to have somebody take away your license to CD - you don't want that do you? :p

[Kimberly]

Lol. No... but:

There is the annoying, gut wrenching sense that someone will see me.

Someone did, whilst I was girly shopping, in my highstreet Debanhams store... I walked away quickly, and thankfully wasn't holding any girl clothing. I thought I'd avoided her, but guess what she said a few days ago??

"I saw you in Debenhams the other day, but then you walked away very quickly."
"You told me he ran away..."
"He didn't run away. just walked off."
(me) "Yeh.. erm.. heh. We got lost in there. Heh."
"How do you get lost in Debenhams?"
(me) "Just did! Hehe. Don't know how."

How worried did I feel after that!!? :p

So... to rephrase: I'm looking foward to the lingerie, not the people around me looking at me, whilst I buy a size 10 thong. "Is that for him?"

"YES IT'S FOR ME, YOU STUPID, HOMOPHOBIC, STEREOTYPED WOMAN!"
"Actually, my boyfriend's a crossdresser."
"Oh... terribly sorry."
(Didn't actually happen, but could.... woteva. I'm gonna shut up now.)

[Katrina]

...Someone did, whilst I was girly shopping, in my highstreet Debanhams store... I walked away quickly, and thankfully wasn't holding any girl clothing. I thought I'd avoided her, but guess what she said a few days ago??

"I saw you in Debenhams the other day, but then you walked away very quickly."
"You told me he ran away..."
"He didn't run away. just walked off."
(me) "Yeh.. erm.. heh. We got lost in there. Heh."
"How do you get lost in Debenhams?"
(me) "Just did! Hehe. Don't know how."...


Doh! Thankfully I have not seen anybody I know when I shop. We have 3 or 4 decent sized shopping malls in the area that I can go to and I have only seen people I knew in the one closest to my house - which is why I do most of my shopping at one of the other ones. I did go into one local shop that did sell lingerie and the old lady working there gave me the eye of scrutiny when I walked in. I thought for sure she was going to ask me to leave because she was circling me like a hawk, but when I told her I was looking for a garter belt, she was very friendly and helpful after that.

[Kimberly]

Being british, there is only one mall in the nearest city to me - and everyone flocks to it, so that's a no go area.

Basically, I think I can get some lingerie shopping done during my study leave just before my exams - so no one I know will be around. MWAHAHAHAAA!!