I broke up with my bf....

[tgirlinva]

I was casually dating a guy that I met on the Internet. We finally were at a point where I could somewhat lower my barriers and enjoy myself as his "girlfriend". He even said he loved me. But due to distance and the fact that he is going through a divorce, that caused a lot of tension in our relationship. I guess we were exclusive, but I personally couldn't bring myself to say "i love you" yet, but was really looking forward to it. Anyways, we got into this huge fight and we stopped talking. Next thing I know, I go to craigslist and see that he posted an ad for this weekend, which was the weekend he was supposed to come see me. I cannot describe the pain I felt when I saw him casually solicit another girl on that site. I entrusted him with being non-promiscuous and embracing the whole exclusivity that all of a sudden, my defense went right back to the top. I think that deep down inside I was hoping that he would call me and apologize and everything would be okay, but now, I think that even if he did do that. I don't know where we would be on the trust issue. I am relatively young and have yet to experience this pain, which SUCKSSSS!!! I feel like my best friend betrayed me, that I was taken advantage of, lied to, betrayed. everything in a whirlwind of emotions. Yet somehow, I wonder if I handled the situation properly. I will admit that I am difficult and that my guards are always up (mainly due to being closeted and worrying about stds) and somehow I bring the blame to myself thinking that I want to give it a try. I want to call him or text him and say that I want it to work and go back to just 48 hours before.... ahhh, this hurts :(

[AmandaM]

As soon as you have a blowout he starts hitting on other chicks. I think you're better off moving on without him. Better than finding him doing this after you're seriously involved. If he wanted exclusivity, he wouldn't be posting on craigslist.

[tamarav]

I am sorry for your pain but realize that this is simply a step that all of us generally go through in our growing years. Love can really suck big time when it is broken. And yes, you feel like you can solve everything if you could just get back togather. Watch the responses you get from all of us "older gals" when we tell you to dump his ass and find a decent guy.

This guy was playing with you just like he is going to be playing with the next girl that he is already looking for. What a sleaze.

Don't work too hard at finding a guy, this should be a mutual thing, not driven by a clock or a need not to be by yourself. Take your time and you will find the right guy. (or gal) Good things come to you in time.

Your old sis,

Tami

[deja true]

"... I want to call him or text him and say that I want it to work and go back to just 48 hours before.... ahhh, this hurts..."


You better not! *she said loudly*

Craig's List? It couldn't be more public, could it?

It sounds like he did betray you and lie to you...You really want more of that?

Married and playing around? Sound like a trustworthy guy?

A few tears ain't gonna kill you...and you've learned a lesson in life.....

Doesn't mean you shouldn't keep looking though, but like the song says...not

"...in all the wrong places..."

[tgirlinva]

Thank you for all your kind words. My friend actually send the same exact thing. i guess the saying "blinded by love" does have its merit. i actually did text him afterwards, i don't know why. but i did. and then he actually insulted me even more. I guess I deserved it. only then did i realize that he was DEFINITELY not the person for me. thank you though. i appreciate it, it's always nice to know that you have friends. much love!

[Stacy GG]

i actually did text him afterwards, i don't know why. but i did. and then he actually insulted me even more. I guess I deserved it. only then did i realize that he was DEFINITELY not the person for me. thank you though. i appreciate it, it's always nice to know that you have friends. much love!

no one deserves to be insulted! you are much better off without him! Take this to heart and be more careful in the future:) just be greatful that is happened now and not down the line when you had become more serious.