Buying Clothes ! Help

[Sally1979ct]

Hi All,

This may seem a little odd ( well maybe ) I have been CDing for a number of year's now and have been out a few time's when ive been away.

My Parnter sometime's buy's me stuff when im out with her shopping and i see something i like but that's when im at her's and she lives around 150 Miles from me !...

However when im on my own - I just cannot go out and buy ladies clothes from shops for some reason ( is this normal ? ) I really want to though and see some really nice outfit's

Or maybe i just need a boost in my confidence or just leave it to E-Bay or my Parnter !

Hopefully the fantasic members on the forum will give me a little advice please

Hope that above sound's ok ..

Sally

[Tomara]

Hi Sally , I think you answered your own question , confidence is the one thing that you need to shop on your own and once you have it there will be no stopping you . Try to start out slow , just go to a store and get one item or brouse in a couple of stores to see what you like and go from there , once you buy a couple of items on your own you will see that it isn`t as difficult as you think it is . I hope this helps you , and good luck to you . Tomara

[brit_cd]

i'm the same way. I see stuff i want but just can't do it. I have tried a few times but no success yet. I figure next time i am out of town on my own i will try again since nobody would know me.

[Daintre]

Sally, yes it comes down to building up your confidence. It took me ages to finally get the nerve up to enter a ladies store. At the mall, I would walk past the store, say to myself....this time for sure...and walk by...grrrrr...turn around and do this several times. It took my a while to get inside and then when a sales associate asked if she could help, I jumped.

I can laugh at all this now, so my long winded suggestion is to take a deep breath and walk into the store, it will all be good.

[Chari]

Hey Sally, When you have the urge or need to buy clothes, makeup, jewelry, or any item that you desire, go slow! Don't buy all you need all at once. Start with the basics of lingerie, a classic blouse and skirt, and of course comfortable heels. Measure yourself at home (waist, hips, bust, sleeve, shoulders, etc before you go shopping so you will have a general idea as to what will fit you and take a tape measure with you. However, there is no set standards for sizes. A size made by one manufacturer may be too large or small made by another brand. Ask for a gift receipt and what the stores return policy is so you can return anything that doesn't fit or look good on you when you try it on at home. Some SAs may ask "is this a gift for your lady, Mom, or Sis?" They need not know its all for you - unless you want to tell them, but some stores are CD friendly and only want to be certain you will shop again at their store. Shopping can be fun!

[Deborah Jane]

Hi Sally , I think you answered your own question , confidence is the one thing that you need to shop on your own and once you have it there will be no stopping you . Try to start out slow , just go to a store and get one item or brouse in a couple of stores to see what you like and go from there , once you buy a couple of items on your own you will see that it isn`t as difficult as you think it is . I hope this helps you , and good luck to you . Tomara

:iagree:...Nicely said Tomara..Confidence is the key.
Once you,ve got that, shopping becomes real fun!!

[DonnaT]

Since your partner buys you stuff, then buy her stuff, only make sure it's in your size.

And I agree, confidence is a booster.

Go to a town where no-one knows you. Then it won't matter what they may think. Note, however, that most SA think nothing of it.

Personally, I like some of the jovial banter resulting from telling them it's for me, takes the edge off.

So, get your head right, put on the parachute and jump. ;)

[Tina Dixon]

Thats a key word, I my self have had problems buying items but just go to the rack and pick some thing you like, suprise they don't even seem to care, heck last time I bought any thing it was a matching pink bra and panty set from Pennys.

[Karren H]

Its like riding a bike for the first time... Ya don't fall off and get killed so next time its easier... Its all in your head because the SA's could care less who buys what.. Try shopping at Kohl's.. Or any store where the mens and womens departments are on the same floor... Take a few dresses and skirts and place a male polo shirt over them and walk to the mens dressing room and try them on.. If they don't fit then just leave them there.. Take the ones you want to the checkout and ask for a gift reciept.. Makes it look like they are a gift.. At least that's what your telling yourself,..

After that it will come easier.. And easier.. I was just in Kohl's and Value City (on a business trip) and tried on everything... And bought a new dress and a top.. Yeah in Southern WV its not often you see a guy trying on a dress but hey... Its my hobby!! Lol

Just do it and make it fun!! Chat with the other ladies and SA's ... Impose your reality on then and act like its as normal as normal cane be.. Works for me!! :)

[mmandy31]

I will go a store with self service and my clothes there but lately i have just gone to a store and bought things nobody cares any more what you buy

[donnalee]

I was in a Salvation Army store, not too far from where I was working at the time. I brought several skirts to the counter and the elderly sales clerk asked "For your lady?" I told her yes; she didn't have to know the lady in question was me!

[Angie G]

The first 2or 3 time you go into a store for girl clothes you may feel you don't want to be there but do it and after a few time you won't even think twice about it hun so go shopping girl. :hugs:
Angie

[Sarah Doepner]

I've found that you can shop in guy mode just about anywhere and buy just about anything, so long as your money is good. Sometimes you can find a sales clerk who will help you and sometimes you will just have to be on your own. Thrift stores are great for finding things that may work and in many of them it is easy to find a changing room where you can see how things fit. With time you will be shopping any time you go into a store, it's fun.
Once you have your basic wardrobe and have been practicing your makeup and behavior at home, then going out, it's only one or two more steps to do your shopping en femme. Start slow and don't go beyond your comfort zone. It will get better.

[Emily Anderson]

Sally,

I'm with you on the buying thing, much as I hate to admit it. I find it quite easy to buy underwear, because one can always make pretend it's for a girlfriend or wife etc. but when it comes down to buying dresses, skirts and blouses, pants, etc. it just doesn't seem that simple.

The way I overcame this fear was by buying stuff far enough away from home that I was very unlikely to meet the store clerks in the near future, and secondly by buying online where there is no human interaction.

Call me a wuss, and it would be fair... There are much braver girls out there!

[Amy Hepker]

Don't worry they don't know who you are buying them for. Wife, Girlfriend, Mother, Daughter, Yourself, well they are not going to know unless you tell them. That can be fun too. To watch the expression on their face when you tell them it's for you. I told a girl at Goodwill one day and she did not believe me, I even took out a picture of myself dressed and she still did not believe me, she said it was my sister or wife.

[CD Susan]

I find it especialy easy to shop at the second hand stores like Goodwill and Salvation Army. Take a small tape measure with you and don't be afraid to use the dressing rooms. The people that work in these places have seen it all and do not care what you are buying or who it is for. I have been doing this for so many years that I am in total comfort doing it. I stopped careing a long time ago what other people think. Your confidence is the only thing holding you back so just tell yourself you are going to do it and then go for it.

[tricia_uktv]

Sally, Yes you can do it! If you tell the SA you're a crossdresser at the start its so much easier. Try it! and good luck.

[Sheri 4242]

I agree with what you are being told! Just do it and pretty soon you'll see that nobody really cares! Oh, you'll have some SAs say something like "gee that color will look good on you." Most of the time they are pretty much joking! I always tell SAs that do this, "yep, I think it is really a good color (or style) for me."

One thing I did was at a mall where I told this one SA that the skirt I had picked out really was for me! She ended up helping me for the next 30-45 minutes! (And in so doing, really got a great sale!!!)

[Veronica 1]

My first few times shopping, I had to make sure the SA knew that it was not for me but after a few trips, I just did not say who it was for and they never ask. Now, if they did I would probably tell them that it was for me. As said before, the more you do it the more confidence you will gain and from there out the world is your oyster.

[PhillyGuy2Girl]

I went online to Target.com yesterday and bought two nice dresses,some tops,panties and shorts shorts. I can't wait till arrives so I can try them on.


Its great that some of us can go shopping in the women's dept dressed but I just prefer to CD when just lounging around the house. I can't really go out femme because I know way to many people and I just wouldn't like explaining it.

[Sally1979ct]

I think ive just ansered my question on here on the clothing section.

I Did it :)

Sally

[brandy25]

I started by buying bras and panties and worked my way up to trying on shoes and dresses I love shoping know that i dont care what the clerk thinks hehe:D