What are Your Goals?

[Maddie22]

How many of you have certain short term and long term goals when it comes to your transgenderedism. (I use transgendered, since it is an "umbrella" that covers all gender identity types) For example, my short term goal for this summer, is to go out with all my gg friends that know a few times and maybe spend a whole day dressed, get some pictures on here, and tell at least 2 others (since the others I have told have went over so well) And of course finalize on a name that my gg friends thinks fits. Long term, I guess getting more comfortable with this side and knowing if I do want to have SRS.

So, my question to everyone, what is some of your goals if you have any at all?

[charlie]

Hello Becca!
I guess I really have no goals. I am just trying to come to terms with my new female self. Have just started wearing wigs, makekup and dressing totally just 9 months ago. I'm still confused by lots of things when I go out. Most of the time I'm still staring at... me. The heels, the long pretty legs and the polished nails are MINE! It is a mind altering experience that I'm just doing when I can. And I'm enjoying it enormously.
Charlie

[Nikki A.]

I've already accomplished alot in the last year. Coming out to some friends and going out with them as Nikki. This was a big leap for me.
Long term, I guess would be deciding on whether to tell my children and to continue getting comfy with this part of me. I'm past the point (responsibility and age and finances) of thinking of making drastic changes but I'm happy with my progress so far and we'll see

[Karren H]

Mine was retire early and retire rich but neither happened... lol But I have no real goals crossdressing.... Just continue on as I have.... finding time to get out enfemme...

[Tina Dixon]

Don't have any right now, maybe dress up a couple more times this year.

[Sally1979ct]

My Goal, I want to get out more this Summer and Dress as a women and not just in the house .

Im going to plan a few Holiday's and get out whislt im still Young :)

Sally

[Deborah Jane]

Just to carry on exploring my girly side now i,ve finally accepted myself after years of self denial :)

[Patti Girl]

No goals, just enjoy my femme side as I feel I want to.

Patti

[Veronica 1]

My goals are to get better at makeup and develop a fem sense of style (with more clothes, of course).

[Trisha]

my goal is to transition fully i flew in to london engand a few days ago to see the gender place and to talk to my doctors and yes i am going to get all the help i need i love my home town :)

[Leslie Foxx]

Lose that 20 pounds that snuck up on me over the winter.

[CowGurl Rachel]

Be able to go out into public again. It was such a disaster the last time, it has been almost...12yrs. :eek:

[Jilmac]

Short term: Dress and live like a girl today, because tomorrow may never come.
Long term: Dress as often as I can, enjoy my femininity to the fullest, and plan my wardrobe for my funeral so I can go out in style. :D Luv and :hugs: Jill

[Stephanie Michelle]

My short term goal is to get out dressed. I know I would not pass but would like to go to a monthly party with several TG girls that is near my home. Just have not gotten the courage yet.

[Jocelyn Quivers]

No goals as of now, I'm just going with wherever this takes me, whatever the end result might be.

[linnea]

I'm going to attend a church service, take more walks in the park during daylight hours, go on a hike (with a GG friend--but i still have to find that friend), find a GG friend, go to a couple of movies, and visit some of the other CDs who live in Washington state.

[Paula Rae]

Find a serious male to love me,
any race or color!
I'm a Lady in a Man's body.

Paula Rae

[Claire3]

Just to carry on as i am,be content with myself and be happy:)

[Patti Girl]

Just to carry on as i am,be content with myself and be happy:)

Claire,

sounds like wonderful goals! :)

[Angie G]

I'm pretty much there. Shooting to retire in 2 years that will give me a little more time to dress. :hugs:
Angie

[rian]

Yes my short term goal is the same as yours with addition to make it a weekly agenda ...yet the long term is to be part of my life style , yet up to this moment it is a very difficult long term goal...:love:

[Toni_Lynn]

Well, my immediate goal is to provide a good life for my wonderful wife Debbie.

Short term, I want to lose a few extra pounds that attached themselves to me, so that Debbie and I enjoy my crossdressing to the full extent that it can be.

Long term, to transition ..... to becoming a Canadian! I cannot wait until that day that I can stand there and pledge allegiance to Queen and country and proudly sing O Canada!

Huggles

Toni-Lynn

[Byllie]

Okay, now this may sound a tad hokey, but my goals are to discover who I really am, inside, and to allow the outside to reflect that.

Like I said, hokey. Bu there is truth in what I wrote. I mean, I know I do not want to be woman. I also know that I am uncomfortable being just a man. Yes, there are the gentic issues, I am an XY male, but gender goes so much beyond that.

In my head I'm both a woman and a man, and that's what I want the outside to show. Of course, this goal is no easy task to accomplish. Society does not look kindly on thos in the middle. We muddy the waters, making it s hard to categorize us. Tough! Who needs another label slapped onto her (or him). Even our use of pronouns (he/she, him/her, his/hers) are polarizing. Can't we do any better?

[TGMarla]

It's hard to say whether or not I actually have any goals. I definitely met one of them this week when I went out and attended the local TG support group. I'd never been out dressed before. But really, my goal is to just enjoy me femme side as much as I can while not letting it get in the way of the rest of my life. I'd like to steer this ship so that it doesn't crash into my wife, my marriage, my job, and all that I've built and nurtured with them.

[Patti Girl]

Okay, now this may sound a tad hokey, but my goals are to discover who I really am, inside, and to allow the outside to reflect that

Byllie,

Not hokey at all. It sounds totally reasonable to me. I think many of us are in the smae boat.

Best wishes for your success.

Patti

[Ruth]

It's always good in theory to have goals, but something like CDing is maybe too fundamental to treat like just another activity. And if you are in any kind of relationship, you have another person to factor in when you think about your goals.
So I don't have any goals in the usual sense. I have reached an accommodation with my wife as regards CDing around the house, so I am just going to hang on to that and wait and see what happens.
All the while I am finding out about my femme self and allowing it to infiltrate my male personality, which I regard as a good process, but I won't look at it in terms of goals.

[Cary]

1. Work on my wardrobe

2. Continue to be happy with myself

3. Since I've never gone out in fem only, maybe try a few night outings

[Melanie R]

My goal now is after 29 years of being active in the TG community to pass the torch to the younger TG's who I know will continue to represent all of us with dignity and excellence.

[Emily Anderson]

My short-term goal is to get a decent wardrobe of clothes, and get rid of all the old ill-fitting, bad-taste, and otherwise undesirable clothing.

My longer-term goal is to fully accept myself... but that's a longer road :daydreaming:

[Raychel]

My goals would be to someday be able to dressup in my house whenever I wanted, To give my kids a happy and healthy life, To make my wife happy at all times, And maybe actually make enough money to retire in this lifetime.

[KatrinaAshley]

No goals for me, just taking it one day at a time. Progress is slow but I would like to go all the way sometime down the road to see how well I could do. Leaving the house? That's a whole other ballgame.

[MalibuJenny]

I have two main goals around CDing: 1) Maintain an appearance that represents a good balance between my male and female personas and 2) integrate my dressing -- to at least a small extent -- in a loving relationship.