Pivotal moments in deciding to go out

[Emily Anderson]

This is a thread for those who have been out and about dressed "en femme."

At what point did you decide that you wanted to go out?

How long did it take between the initial decision and the first time you actually went out?

Where did you go for the first time?

Were you accompanied?

Did you get "hooked" on the experience?

[Marissa Mae]

I have been out dressed only to go to some thrift stores miles away from my home, so never out to any place more public, so to speak. But as it sits, I want to go out NOW more than anything, but I haven't anyone to accompany me :doh: To answer your question, the time it took me from being scared to go out to now, craving to go out, was... wow, I don't even remember anymore. I just know that one second I was scared, the next not :heehee:

I could argue that b/c I won't go out know, that I am still hesitant, which technically is true, but I know that if I had someone to go with me, I would go without question.

[TommiTN]

This is a thread for those who have been out and about dressed "en femme."

At what point did you decide that you wanted to go out?
I decided I wanted to go out years ago; it's just sort of the natural progression of CDing, I believe. The closet gets pretty boring after a while.
How long did it take between the initial decision and the first time you actually went out?
Years. And, other than my back yard and the occasional trip out to the street with the trash can late at night I haven't really been out. I did take a late night drive a few weeks ago, but I didn't stop and wasn't in much danger of being seen, so It doesn't really count.
Where did you go for the first time?
See above.
Were you accompanied?
Nope.
Did you get "hooked" on the experience?
Absolutely. Gotta do it again with a little more risk involved.

[tricia_uktv]

I suppose it depends what is meant by going out. Initially I went with my (ex) partner to a place I knew I could trust. More importantly is going in public, totally open and honest about myself. It took me about three months to get ready for it but I knew it was going to happen at some stage. I experimented by going out in drab with make-up and perfume, obviously showing what I was. Eventually I went out fully dressed but the first time was with two girls; one very experienced in this. Now I'm all over Manchester like a rash. Look how happy I am too.

[sandra-leigh]

At what point did you decide that you wanted to go out?


It was integral to my realizing that I was a cross-dresser. I had tried on some of my wife's clothes "to see how they looked", wondering what it felt like to wear clothes like those (are they uncomfortable? are they awkward?), but I hadn't thought of wearing anything as my clothes, hadn't realized that I wanted to do so. The initial thought that I could actually wear women's clothes, was continued (without pause) with "in public". My thought was not just that I could wear them "in secret" or "around the house": it was immediately that I could go out and be seen wearing them.



How long did it take between the initial decision and the first time you actually went out?


I don't recall precisely, but it was no more than 3 weeks. And I went out alone. I no longer recall the exact sequence of events, whether I did any evening or late night walks in preparation, but that "no more than 3 weeks" was "no more than 3 weeks until I wore something to a mall."

Some gals take years after they first "go out", building up confidence to go to a mall: me, it was pretty much the first place I went :)

[trannie T]

Halloween. After I bought my first panties, then a bra and hose it was a natural progression that I would finally accumulate an entire outfit. I went out on Halloween and was totally terrified but had a great time. Now I get out once or twice a month and enjoy most every moment.

[Nicole Erin]

At what point did you decide that you wanted to go out?

How long did it take between the initial decision and the first time you actually went out? Where did you go for the first time?

Were you accompanied?

Did you get "hooked" on the experience?

I wanted to go out pretty soon after I started dressing, like within days. I went out to a GLBT club.

I went by myself. It was not the first time I had been to the club so I knew it was safe, after all, they had drag shows.

Hooked? Of course.

[SweetCaroline]

I've been a crossdresser since childhood.

Since childhood I've been oppressed.

Oppressed no more!

[Tamasina]

Hi Emily Anderson,
I go out not like some here who go alone in a city or with friends. I do belong to group that has a mix of people from the transgendered cummunity there I am able to be my fem self and talk in person with other girls like me. The first time I went I was very nervus and almost left when I go I go in drab change and change before I leave back to drab. My first time for that was last Nov I can't say I am "hooked" in the way that I must go every month but when able to I do go. As for right now I don't see myself going out with other girls like me in public although I do say never say never just dont see it any time soon.
Tina1969

[vikki2020]

I was about 15, and it took a couple of weeks from I'm going to do it, to I did it!Just a walk around the block, and I think anyone that gets out is hooked.Completely!

[dominique]

I had been wearing womens clothes for years, so I had to take the next step which was to go out wearing them. The moment I had to go out it was when I was dressed and I had time to do something else and that something else was to go out. I go out on my own and usually a walk round my neighbourhood or if I've got the car up to the mall.

[CD Susan]

I have been a crossdresser for about 50 years and have always kept it to myself until three months ago. That is when I joined this website and decided to finally leave the closet and come out to the world. I do not regret making this decision and am so very happy that I did. I am still alone in this but have been searching for a friend that I can enjoy dressing with. Hopefully I will find such a friend and will enjoy this part of me more than ever.

[María José]

- At what point did you decide that you wanted to go out?

I went out fully dressed as soon as I learned to make up and had some nice dresses, when I was about 28-29. Than was a long time ago.

- How long did it take between the initial decision and the first time you actually went out?

Five minutes. I was looking myself in the mirror and I decided the world was there for that nice looking girl.

- Where did you go for the first time?

Just a short walk around the corner.

- Where you accompanied?

No.

- Did you get "hooked" on the experience?

Yes!

[Suzy Harrison]

The point that I decided that I was going to go out in public was when I first came across this forum just under a year ago.

..and there was TxKimme getting out and about, having all the fun ~ and I thought why should she hog it all ?...
.... if it's good enough for her, it's good enough for me :heehee:

Just a few weeks later, my first outing was to the mall, on my own ~ and it all took off from there.

Since then I been to shops, female fitting rooms and rest rooms, cafes, restaurants, casinos, movies, flew a 5 hour flight across Australia, been to my doctor, outed myself to my two GG friends and my HR manager at work....

..and with my GG friends we've gone shopping, to the movies and restaurants together as girlfriends...

... Was I hooked ??! ...Well I now plan to go full time......... Yes Kim has a lot to answer for.....:heehee:

:hugs: Suzy

[tamarav]

Although I had been out dressed a lot, to events and shopping and such, it was not until I was 55 that I made the decision to work dressed.

since I was sorta retired from Human Resources and I love the beauty indistry I went to beauty school in boi mode and worked in salons for about a years to get a feel for what went on. then I stepped out, advertised for a job as a cosmelologist and went to work dressed daily in a salon. I haven't looked back since.

Now I go out daily dressed, am considered a professional makup artist (by MAC no less!) and work on men and women daily. Yes, it took a long time but the results are well worth it!

If you are going to do something, practice until you stand out for the right reasons, overwhelm them!

Your sis,

Tami

attached are shots of me prior to going to work (did you notice how I seem to work at least one picture into almost every post??)

[victoriamwilliams1]

This is a thread for those who have been out and about dressed "en femme."

At what point did you decide that you wanted to go out?

How long did it take between the initial decision and the first time you actually went out?

Where did you go for the first time?

Were you accompanied?

Did you get "hooked" on the experience?

The point I decided that I wanted to go out was when I had started back dressing after a few years of not dressing. I had been practicing at home and thought it was time to get out.

It took me a few months before I worked up the courage so I made my first outing on Halloween of 1999 all by myself. From then I was hooked and wanted to do more, now 9 years later and changes in my look I go out almost every time I dress.

[Joy Carter]

Myself, I met another girl from here, Teresa Amina at an airshow in drab. We have a lot in common, so the next time we met was at a gender cookout. She was dressed, and I hadn't gotten out yet to buy a thing. everyone thought I was a tranny chaser, LoL. The next time was Halloween, I made up for it all right. I had a ton of makeup to experiment with, a couple of outfits, and more balls than brains. Teresa and I went to a private club in the Detroit area, where we met a newbie and her wife, also from here. We closed the club and went out to breakfast at a Denny's. Sadly, Teresa's and my new friends freaked out about being stared at, and have since quit the life style. Teresa is now full time, and I haven't looked back since.

[CharleneT]

{{ my answers assume that you do not count all the costume parties or Halloween's I went to in drag}}

At what point did you decide that you wanted to go out?

-- After a friends costume party in Nov. of last year, I had so much fun that I finally realized that it was more than fun and I wanted to do in when I wanted; rather than waiting for the next invite to a costume party !!

How long did it take between the initial decision and the first time you actually went out?

-- about a month, but that was all prep time, I had never done makeup at home, nor did I have a full outfit. It took a while to find what I wanted to wear. Also, I had picked out the event pretty far in advance ( concert ).

Where did you go for the first time?

-- a concert by a band called "Jack Straw"

Were you accompanied?

-- Nope, went alone

Did you get "hooked" on the experience?

Yes, very much!! I still do not go out to events, dinner etc in my own town. I go somewhere else, the closest is about 25 miles. I do go for walks at night here, sorta practicing for a time in the future when I *might* go out here.

Charlene

[renee k]

Well for me it was when I was living in California on my own and just after I joined a group in Walnut Creek, some-odd thirty eight years ago. With their help and encouragement. Renee was out in public and except for my married years, I've been out amongst the public. For me it really gets boring hanging around the house. "All dressed up and nowhere to go."

Renee

[NatalieBliss]

The fear of never doing it finally out weighed the fear of doing it.

It was about a 3 day turnaround. But that is because I got an invite from a CD I had been talking to on and off for years.

I went to a "gay" bar on drag night.

Though I haven't been out since (about 2 months, money the main issue) I am "hooked"

[Sarah Doepner]

At what point did you decide that you wanted to go out?

It was after I had been dressing in full, including makeup and a good wig for a couple of months. I had admitted to myself that I was a crossdresser and I had also been on line to discover that I was not alone in this.

How long did it take between the initial decision and the first time you actually went out?

It took a couple of months before I could get out the door of a motel room and look around. It was probably a year before I was able to actually do something in a public area and not at 3:00 in the morning when no one was around.

Where did you go for the first time?

My first time was in Las Vegas. I walked from the Travel Lodge across the street to the MGM Grand and back. It was a disaster!

Were you accompanied?

No, but I was afraid that I would be. It was not a good experience.

Did you get "hooked" on the experience?

Yep. I decided that I needed comfortable new shoes, a different skirt and a top that wasn't a generation old. I also decided to work on my makeup and get better breast forms. It didn't make any sense, but it hooked me good.

[Karren H]

February 2004... Price Utah... Just got tired of hanging around the hotel... Here's a photo take about 5 minutes before I exited out into the real world.... The rest is history... lol

http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2363/2431938343_c4ccc76dee.jpg

[sherri]

At what point did you decide that you wanted to go out?
The first time I shaved my legs and put on a miniskirt. Omg.


How long did it take between the initial decision and the first time you actually went out?
That weekend.


Where did you go for the first time?
A gay bar (after calling ahead first.)


Were you accompanied?
All alone, heart pounding and legs shaking.


Did you get "hooked" on the experience?Well, that was more than six years ago and I'm still doing it, so ...

[Nikki A.]

Coming to work dressed on Halloween was the catalyst. I enjoyed the attention and I saw that not everyone was going to read me.
Since then I have gone to one of the local clubs that caters to all spectrums with a fellow member.
The biggest step was recently going to a "wedding" all dressed up with two of my co-workers and her husband. I spent the whole day, night and next morning dressed and regretted having to change. I was treated well by everyone.
The only thing that stops me from going out more are my kids. They don't know about Nikki and with their mom just dieing in Sept, I don't really want to rock the boat. They are teens (18 & 16) and probably suspect or maybe even know (I've dressed for Halloween, they know that I wear support P/h when my knees act up, fem jeans and shorts) but have never said anything nor have I volunteered. I guess getting all dressed up to go to the club when they are home would let the cat out of the bag LOL.

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

Then dressed fully for halloween office party, not a hint of anything male on me Since then I've started walking in the park fully dressed and enjoying it, have taken long interstate drives for work fully dressed and gone to Renaissance meetings where other TG's meet oince a month.

Went to a grocery store with wig, miniskirt and fem t-shirt, no bra or forms. Was read once or twice but otherwise went okay. Now the only thing to do is fully dressed with bra & forms and go shopping.

When I went out there wasn't any long delay in going out, I made the decision and then you go. Sometimes the decision takes awhile to happen, but when it's made, damn the torpedos you just do it. :battingeyelashes: kim

[sterling12]

Pivotal Moment? For me, it was that moment of awareness when Joanie knocked on my frontal lobes and said: "Enough of this, I am tired of hiding." "I want to get out, be with other people, and do things."

All of this coincided with a chatroom gab one evening with a gal in The Las Vegas Tri-Ess Chapter. She hooked me up with the right connections, I did my interview, joined about 3 and a half years ago, and have never looked back!

For both of us, life has been a bit of a roller coaster ride. We seem to jump from one adventure to the next, but that's OK. The ride has been exhilarating, and I wouldn't trade these last few years for anything.

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Rachel Morley]

At what point did you decide that you wanted to go out?
I always told myself that I wanted to one day go out in public en femme, before I died. After I had been dressing fully en femme at home for about two years, I did. It was June 11 2005 and it was because of all the great posts on this website that made me feel that now was the time to do it! Here's my account of events (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=9796).

How long did it take between the initial decision and the first time you actually went out?
My wife decided. It was when she was comfortable as I wanted her to come with me.

Where did you go for the first time?
A short drive and a strip mall.

Were you accompanied?
Yes, my wife Marla drove and "held my hand".

Did you get "hooked" on the experience?
Absolutely! Once the genie was out of the bottle there was no turning back. The feeling was an intoxicating mix of fear and excitement! I will never forget it for the rest of my life.

[Pattie O]

I stayed with a beautiful woman in the countryside UK and spent 2 days dressing up .She took me to a friends place dressed and it was so scary but it felt wonderful.Im having hot flushes just remembering what it was like.Then I would arise in the morning and get into my maids outfit and bring her some tea and biscuits and run her bath.Wow ;wish i could teleport myself back!