Being submissive

[sybercom11]

I was just thinking:

I have always been submissive. In a sexual way, of course, but also in a general way. Submissive to just about everyone -- men, women, the other boys I knew growing up, and the girls I knew growing up.

I would always let other people go first. If there was one item of something left, I would offer it to anyone else who might want it.

I'm talking about going through everyday life this way.

If everyone left a function, I would stay to help clean up because I am submissive. I'd always be the one who would volunteer to go for coffee for everyone and often pay for it all too.

In high school, I was the manager for the baseball team. Part of my job was to pick up the jock straps and used towels and uniforms and launder them and pass them back out clean to the guys. I enjoyed doing that so much. (I also got to be around all those cute naked guys, but that is another story!)

I did anything my older sisters told me to do just because I felt girls were so much stronger than me.

I still act this way to this day.

Anyone else grow up this way and believe in being this way????

[Ashley Lyn]

I've often 'wanted' to be submissive.. I'm sure I could accept the part! My mother was the 'more dominant' parent.. Dad was kinda' laid back! :)

I always felt embarrased when a girl would take offense to me, or something I did... Guess I wanted so much to 'be that girl'... Then I wouldn't need to show my masculinity!! :battingeyelashes:

The fantasy of 'forced feminization' probably also shows a submissive side... Hmmm.m.m.m.......:daydreaming:

[Kate Simmons]

I'm not "submissive" per se but I do show courtesy to others.:)

[LilSissyStevie]

I'm submissive sexually and I'm married to a woman that is more than happy to accommodate that side of me.:D Outside of the bedroom I'm not submissive at all, but I'm not dominant or aggressive either. I'm more of a lone wolf, free spirit or curmudgeon depending on your experience with me. If anything my natural impulse is to go against the crowd. I do avoid conflict whenever I can but I'm not afraid to stand my ground when I feel I have to. The link in my signature explains me better than I could do it myself.:heehee:

[Stargirl]

I am somewhat subservient to a point. I like people around me to feel comfortable, but if someone tries to dominate me into doing things I don't like, and they berate me for not "bending to their will" and "submitting" then I show them my Aries stubbornness, and that can be legendary. They will never pull a stunt like that again. Sexual role playing is something else, entirely. Submission can also be a subtle domination. People are tricky. I am also the type to stick around, and help clean up after a picnic. It's in my genes.

[Karren H]

Not me girlie!!! lol I'm not agressive either... Just me... Get along with everyone...

[Samantha43]

I have never been submissive. I am the kind of person that will accept a leadership role when no one else wants it and will voice my opinions whether they are popular or not. I'm not overbearing or agressive though. I get along with almost everyone. Sexually I am mostly dominant although I do like to be submissive at times. My wife is mostly submissive, so it works out for us. I do enjoy it when she takes control. It's a refreshing experience for both of us.

[gennee]

I'm submissive sexually and I'm married to a woman that is more than happy to accommodate that side of me.:D Outside of the bedroom I'm not submissive at all, but I'm not dominant or aggressive either. I'm more of a lone wolf, free spirit or curmudgeon depending on your experience with me. If anything my natural impulse is to go against the crowd. I do avoid conflict whenever I can but I'm not afraid to stand my ground when I feel I have to. The link in my signature explains me better than I could do it myself.:heehee:

I'm more of loner and a free spirit myself. We're quite similar in lot of ways.

Gennee

[Dragster]

Karen Hutton? Hockey player? Not aggressive? Who are you kidding? Maybe a different story off the ice though!

Tony

[whitelace]

Hi Stevie,

During most of my life I have always been in some way or form in a position of authority I guess you would view someone like myself as a born leader . I am in so many ways like yourself and very happy and content with it. I find that at times being submissive greases the skids so to speak smooths the way and makes things happen but in our submissive roles we are very much in control. There were also various times in my life for example where I needed to be quite domineering and in your face and being the lead singer in a hard rock band ( usually my band ) my true nature as a submissive would not have done the band any good but once my my goals were attained I could then ease back and be a real sweetheart again and when I'm in a crowd of new acquaintances . I'm always the giving one easy going and never pushy I like being quite submissive and love being with the women
. some guys take my submissiveness for weakness and make the dreadful mistake of stepping on me ...they are quick to learn the rules
Sexually I carry myself in the same way I love being submissive and light especially with a guy i'm comfortable and glowing I'm on a roll now and I'll just share this with you I had a recent date with someone new ... well he was fine until the end of the night I left the motel room and found that I left my purse in the room I went back and knocked on the door for a good 20 minutes he finally opens the door and forcefully throws my purse againts the wall dumping the contents shouting "you stupid b..tch" .. oh boy!! bad mistake! on his part whack down he went . I pick up my stuff fixed my hair and calmly walked away It felt sooo good.... boy I am chatty tonight

and I'm curious about the cute naked guys .. perhaps another time ....lacie:battingeyelashes:

[SexyLexi_cd]

As a child growing up I was always a leader, very assertive and as a grown man I'm still the same. I own a business, still love gg's and am always dominant with women. I started dressing 9 mos ago, love it and will continue for some time I'm sure. Like many of the gurls here they have a "female inside of them" wanting to get out. I totally understand them and feel for them. I don't have that feeling. I never had a previous desire to dress until 9 mos ago, tried it and love it. I believe there might be some correlation between the two scenarios. By the way, I'm sub, a total bottom gurl when dressed. Go figure!

Lexi:D:tongueout

[Alex!]

Nope. Submissive definitely does not capture the essence of my personality :)

[triciaannmarie]

i was first and foremost submissive before i ever thought of crossdressing. Each of these two areas have their own set of problems in trying to be accepted. The problems associated with both are not insurmontable. i wouldn't give up on either, i like them both.

[Rachel Morley]

I always thought being submissive meant submitting to the will of another.

What you describe when you say you would always let other people go first. If there was one item of something left, you would offer it to anyone else who might want it. If everyone left a function, you would stay to help clean up. You'd always be the one who would volunteer to go for coffee for everyone and often pay for it all too.

That (to me) seems like you're just being a very polite, sweet and helpful person, not so much submitting to another (unless you were told to do it).

However, I do understand "where you are coming from" when it comes to making someone you care about happy. I'm like this wherever my wife is concerned. I guess that makes me submissive too - huh :)

[Ásfríðr]

i always fit nicely in the middle, not dominant or submissive. anything thats done in the way i like has to be from two parts together playing both roles. sexually and in general collaborative whatever (me likes to do free jazz with everything - sigh - not everyone wants to play like me :sad: lol)

[darla_g]

sometimes i think its not entirely one's own tendencies that dictate. It may be how your SO respons that determines whether you want to lead or respond to a lead. I think those terms dominant and submissive have such a heavy connation I don't know that i like sticking with those.

[docrobbysherry]

Those that give orders, and those that take them. I hated taking them, and refused to give them. No career there for me.

I've always gone my own way. As I CD, it appears I'm still doing that.

[Pamela Julie]

I am not a submissive type. I am not a dominating type either. I am polite and courteous always. Just don't cross me, you will regret it and I won't. Often others think I am a pushover and some have tried to take advantage of that, and regret their actions. Sexually I am the submissive type and need a dominating partner in bed; I like it that way.

Pamela:)

[Jolene]

I'm not "submissive" per se but I do show courtesy to others.:)

Courtesy and Respect toward others. It has to start somewhere.

Jolene :)

[AnnMorgan]

Submissive? I guess it depends on my mood and that's reflective by my choice of wardrobe. White means passive and black spells aggressive.

I'm still trying to figure out where red comes in to play, passive Vamp?

[kym]

i'm no where near submissive at work or at home, its too much fun being the head witch.:tongueout

[laura.lapinski]

I have never been submissive. I am the kind of person that will accept a leadership role when no one else wants it and will voice my opinions whether they are popular or not. I'm not overbearing or agressive though. I get along with almost everyone. Sexually I am mostly dominant although I do like to be submissive at times. My wife is mostly submissive, so it works out for us. I do enjoy it when she takes control. It's a refreshing experience for both of us.

I'm a lot like that. Sometimes its fun to be submissive in bed, but I like to be both dominate and submissive.

[christid66]

I have no problem taking the leadership role but like to be led 'upstairs'. I don't like to dominate in either position though.

[Toni_Lynn]

To begin, I have never understood the equating of submission with crossdressing, or equating it to femininity for that matter.

I am not submissive. I believe in embodying a silent strength that stands up for what is right at all times. I do believe in what others have said about courtesy and respect toward others.

Perhaps its because I was humiliated as a teen for being a crossdresser, I have been strengthen to stand up for me convictions.

I will state, however, that I only place I do submit, and this is willful submission, is to the tenants of my religious beliefs.

Huggles

Toni-Lynn

[tvbeckytv]

sometimes i think its not entirely one's own tendencies that dictate. It may be how your SO respons that determines whether you want to lead or respond to a lead. I think those terms dominant and submissive have such a heavy connation I don't know that i like sticking with those.

yes i agree there are heavy connotations to the term. When 'submissive' is used it fetish circles, it is a very different thing to being of a submissive nature outside of it.
I feel more comfortable as a submissive partner, but that certainly dosnt mean i will do as i am told. It means i like to have a partner who i trust to lead. It means i like the very traditional 'wife' role, with in my case a man, that always takes account of my feelings but takes the responcibility of being head of the house, so to speak.
That is how i feel comfortable, but it does rely on the other person being capable of the trust, it wont just happen with anybody.

[Angie G]

Not really.:hugs:
Angie

[Sarah Doepner]

Submissive? Maybe I am. What would you prefer me to be?

Actually, I've thought about it before and just never fell one side or the other. Occasionally I have to go along to get along and other times it's necessary that I be the heavy hand.

[sissycatherine]

To each her own. I've always been submissive inside and outside the bedroom and have often wondered whether it was because I had an overbearing father and submissive mother to whom I was more inclined to relate.

[donnalee]

I don't take orders; I do take requests. However, I reserve the right to process them in the manner I see fit. I don't look at this as masculine/ feminine, rather, as a matter of personality.

[ChrisP]

I am submissive to my SO (when I have one....currently alone), but in all other ways I consider myself appropriate to the situation (strong when necessary, yielding when it's right).

Chris

[Hotlegz75]

I can't say that I am submissive, but I am not real aggressive, I am a lady though, and I think I make men angry when they try to tell me to do something and I think it is rude and I tell them no.-----Denise

[CD Susan]

I sometimes fantasize about being submissive to another man while dresssed en femme but it is only a fantasy. I am straight so would never act on these fantasies. It is only a harmless fun way to add to the enjoyment of crossdressing for me.

[sterling12]

Neither one of us is submissive....and, we don't want to become submissive! Just ask the Ex-Wives.

Peace and Love, Joanie

[NoraTV]

What does it mean to be submissive? When I am out on a date, I love to let the guy take the lead. It's so thrilling to me to just put myself in someone else's hands for a while, to be taken care of, to be put up on that pedestal, to have doors opened, to have a hand extended when I step out of a car. That's not being submissive, at least I don't think so.

But I'm nobody's property. Just because I am a bi-sexual CD does not mean that you can work out your rape fantasies on me or that I am simply dying to do to you whatever you want me to. So just because you buy me a drink and you know that I'm a CD (it's not that hard to figure out with me) does not mean that we're going to end up in bed.

These are the same rules that GGs have (at least the healthy ones do). There is no reason why they should not apply to anyone, of whatever chromosome pattern, who is willing to stand up and declare her female identity.

Sorry for the diatribe, friends, but after so many years of guys thinking that I am an easy lay just because of what I wear, I just need to let you all know how I feel about this.