Possible CDers?

[TommiTN]

Anyone have male friends/family members who you think are good CDer material, but don't CD (as far as you know)? I got to thinking about this last night and I can think of two guys right off the bat. One is a former co-worker who has certain fem traits. He's very careful about his looks and is a compulsive cleaner. That probably doesn't mean anything in itself; I've known more than a few GGs who are downright slovenly. He's also kind of secretive, never invites anyone over, doesn't like "droppers-in", and has a Havanese show dog (a self-propelled dust mop, certainly not a man's dog). Also has good decorating taste, masculine but no too much so. He is married, but many of us are. Hmmmmm!

Then there's my brother-in-law. Average height, trim build and my sister wears the pants most of the time. :D

[Kimberly Marie]

I have a co-worker that walks and talks and even sits and his wife definitely wears the pants......so I do wonder........:)

[Nikki A.]

Why worry about others do. Unless they slip up and show something it's a moot point.

[Sallee]

I wonder if people think that about me.
Not that I am paranoid.:heehee:
Actually I real would be surprised if they did and if it was asked I would admit it. It did happen once at my job but then a gg friend found some photos and though my wife and I were playing:D my wife knows but we weren't play. I admitted it to my gg friend and she wanted to go out with me. It worked out great :thumbsup:

[Karren H]

Actuallly my younger brother dabbled in crossdressing after I introduce it to him in High School, but I'm sure he's not into it like I am!! lol But i don't know if they think I'm good at what I do or not... Never asked them!!

[Sarah Doepner]

Oh my! That is the game I always play as I walk down the street. I look at some men and try to see what they would look like en femme, or I look at women and compare them to some of our more convincing CDs.

As far as reality goes, one of my sons dabbled a little in it in his teens, but I don't think he goes there now. Maybe when he gets older, like I did, it will have more of an attraction to him. Maybe one of my old friends, but I haven't seen him in several years. Beyond that, I don't really know anyone who may be hidding their dressing.

[deja true]

Oddly enough...was having this same conversation with a GG friend just the other day. All the points you mention in the OP are (more or less) giveaways to people like us who are paying attention. But most folks, male and female,are not, and CDing is the farthest thing from their minds unless they already have some experience with the phenomenon.

Most would think your friend gay, married or not, that's the first most obvious thought.

Then, of course, there are those acquaintances of ours who have done the full out drag thing at Halloween and New Years fancy dress parties (like many of us) while living our regular guy lives the rest of the year...

They're all candidates to be secret sisters. I know at least two where I live, but as I don't really like 'em all that much as friends, I'm not gonna risk coming out to them. Just in case I'm wrong.

(The congenital secretiveness is the main clue. Except for the fuzzy dog, that guy in the OP could be me. Hate fuzzy dogs. Gimme a good ol' mongrel any day.)

[Toni_Lynn]

When I was in high school I was involved in public speaking and debating. There was a guy there from another school who had a certainly girl-ish look about him. He didn't act particularly femme, but was slim and had long hair, and really didn't have too deep a voice yet not too high for a guy. I can remember being filled with envy over his great potential (knowing that he'd look great as girl), wondering if he was a crossdresser, and thinking what a shame it would be if he wasn't.

Huggles

Toni-Lynn

[TommiTN]

Why worry about others do. Unless they slip up and show something it's a moot point.

Perhaps I need to clarify my motive in posing this question. It was just a fanciful thought I had, nothing to do with worrying about if others do or don't CD. I couldn't care less. You just know certain people and the thought may pass through your mind, nothing more.

[Deborah Jane]

I,m pretty sure one of my friends c/ds, as he always goes to fancy dress parties dressed as a tart!!
So do i and i know i c/d :D

[Angie G]

Not that I can think of.:hugs:
Angie

[occdresser]

I dont know of anyone that sticks out right off the bat. I think it is to much of a risk to go around and keep your toenails painted-I would love to if I could get away with it.

[Patty]

Not off the top of my head

[Jonianne]

I've wondered about some, but you can never tell for sure. How a person behaves is not necessarly a solid clue. I've been told by close friends that they would have never guessed I did, if I hadn't told them. I do think many, if not most guys have either thought about it or dabbled in it at sometime in their lives. I've had some share that with me. However I think that there are very few on a level of crossdressing that would even read, much less sign up to this forum. So much guilt about it in our society.

[serinalynn]

I believe I am too wrapped up in my own CDing to worry about bringing someone else into it. If someone were courious about it and asked how to get started, I'd offer anopinion on where to start, the rest is up to that person.

[NicoleScott]

You are or you aren't. There are no indicators.

[TommiTN]

I believe I am too wrapped up in my own CDing to worry about bringing someone else into it. If someone were courious about it and asked how to get started, I'd offer anopinion on where to start, the rest is up to that person.

Another clarification is apparently in order. I have NO thoughts of trying to bring someone else into CDing. My OP was just an idle thought that I had and I wondered if anyone else had similar thoughts. In the case of my brother-in-law, I would have to out myself to my sister as well as him. Probably none of you know my sister, and, believe me, that is likely a good thing. She would would definitely go ballastic. My brother-in-law is completely kink-free as far as I know, and I've known him for almost 2 decades. He is the nicest guy you could hope to meet, almost to the point of being a bit boring.

[JamieDP]

I think i may have posted some of this previously but as a child I saw a picture of a friend in a full ballet/dance costume wth makeup, tiara and it was NOT for Holloween. His mother and sister helped him. Granted i never talked to him outside of that moment and his mother said HE wanted to dress up like that and spent all day like that so she let him. His Dad travelled alot i remember and wasn't around alot.

In high school, there was this one kid show started wearing lipstick alot and was very feminine in his manners, pierced ears but as far as i know was very into girls. The one kid we knew was gay was open about it swore they other kid was hetero. I should say my school was maybe 35 kids in a class (private schools you know everyone intimately).

In college I remember this one guy in our regular group who shaved every body hair. He was a swimmer, but he stopped swimming and kept shaving. He also had a close relationship with his sister but they were my like sisters than brother and sister. He would often disappear for stretches. There would always be some feminine item of clothing in his dorm room and every now and then some other womanly thing like a tube of lipstick or something. When you put it in on context possibly a normal college guys dorm room especially if ladies are coming over and had a girlfriend....which i did so I know that the an item left in front of male friedns was easily dismissed as some broads...but this dude never had a girlfriend he would claim his sister left stuff most of the time...

Now I have neighbor who is suspect!!!

[Laura_Stephens]

You are or you aren't. There are no indicators.


Exactly! Many CD'ers try to cover up/fool themselves by taking on ultra-masculine traits.