A ? I was asked

[KimB]

I was asked why do I feel like a woman inside. and I could Not answer.
now If i was aked why do I like to dress I could answer that. so I pose this ? to you all. why do you feel like you are a woman inside or feel like you should have been born a female?
Kim

[Karren H]

Funnny but I don't..... I feel like me.... caught somewhere in between.... not quite male yet not quite female either... just me.....

[Emily Anderson]

It's a very interesting question, and I would love to see the answers.

For my part, it's a bit like asking why do I like certain foods, art forms, hobbies etc. One can always say food tastes good to me, I get visual pleasure from that type of art, or I like a hobby because I find it stimulating, but the "why" of any likes is very difficult to put into words.

In essence, for me it's mostly because I get a kick out of the creativity.

[xoAmandaxo85]

idk i guess its just been a part of me for a long time. it may have to be that i was raised by my mom and grandma and always did girly things with them and i used to hate it but then i would start to go to the places they were going.

[jennCD]

I'd guess the standard answer I've heard for so long is "feeling like a woman trapped in a man's body"....

In my case, it's more simply "feeling like a man with a woman trapped in his head".

:)
jenn

[Leann James]

Me too! Just like Karren

Leann :drink: :love:

[Kate Simmons]

Nope. Just myself in a full spectrum sort of way.:)

[TommiTN]

Funnny but I don't..... I feel like me.... caught somewhere in between.... not quite male yet not quite female either... just me.....


I'll go with Karren on this one. It's just a part of my psychology.

[tvbeckytv]

i would never say i feel like a woman. Not being one, how do i know what it is to be a woman, not to mention that i doubt any two women "feel" the same.
what i do say is that i am womanly, and that is easier to explain. i know ggs that are less "womanly" than i am, but they are "women" and i am not

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

I'm with Karen on this one, I am in between and loving it. The best of both worlds as Karen says but it would be a better world if it was more readily acceptable to be who we are.

[DeeDeeB]

In between as well. I enjoy aspects of both sides of my personality, and have no desire to push towards one or the other. I would like to be able to express myself in public however I choose, but I suspect that's more my hangup than anything else.

Dee :fairy1:

[Vieja]

The consensus seems to be in between and I have to agree with that. For me dressing is a great feeling, not sexual but a release or even a freedom not felt when in guy clothes. However it is something I am satisfied to take in small measure and then get back to guy mode.

Vieja

[Stephanie Michelle]

I also have the same feelings like Karen. When dressed I feel complete. It just feels right and has a calming effect. Everything seems to be better when I am dressed as Stephanie.
I just wish I could incorporate more of Stephanie in my everyday life.

StephaniE

[Sasha Anne Meadows]

There is a biological theory that partially explains this for some of us. All fetuses start out with female carachteristics and then hormones in the woumb make the final selection of gender. Thus some of us appear as males yet something in our brains make us feel female.

[SusanLaine]

I'm with Karen on this one as well...

[Sarah...]

It hurts my head to think about this too much!! So I'm with Karren - I just feel like me.

Sarah...

[AmandaM]

I've been drawn to all things female my entire life, physically, emotionally, intellectually, it's like some invisible force is pushing me there. Sometimes kicking and screaming!

[adelle]

wow what a question and i think there could be millions of answers to this one but for me id have to go with Jenn and Karen :hugs:

[VeronicaH]

Feel like a woman... Just what does it feel like to feel like a woman? I love to wear womans clothes and emulate women but inside I feel like me.

[KarenCDFL]

The answer is not a thing that can be put into words for me.

I know how I feel and what I feel does not match my physical body.

Thats the best answer I can give.

[sterling12]

You don't have to have a reason! Your Transgenderedness is based on feelings not concrete facts. You don't have to have reasons why you love someone. You don't have to have reasons why you like ice cream, instead of cauliflower....that's just the way it is!

Even if we try to come up with something, it's very individualized. If I ask a hundred of my Sista's, I would get 100 different vague statements, and I would be no wiser when I was done.

Next time someone asks, turn the whole thing around and answer them with a question: "Why do you feel like a guy inside your head?" It makes just as much sense.

It's called a "conundrum," an unsolvable question.

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Ruth]

I agree, again, with what Karren put so well.
It's good to affirm this because we need to remember what we are and not be pushed into pigeon-holes by commonplace misconceptions about CDing.
I like to wear women's clothes and to look, and feel, feminine, but it's not a case of a woman trapped in a man's body. It's a case of a particular unique person who can reach out and experience both sides of the gender spectrum. The physique, the plumbing etc. is male, but the personality partakes of either or both male and female.
If society wasn't so down on us we could easily regard it as a great gift.

[AnnMorgan]

No, not a Woman, just not complete until now.

[TommiTN]

I agree, again, with what Karren put so well.
It's good to affirm this because we need to remember what we are and not be pushed into pigeon-holes by commonplace misconceptions about CDing.
I like to wear women's clothes and to look, and feel, feminine, but it's not a case of a woman trapped in a man's body. It's a case of a particular unique person who can reach out and experience both sides of the gender spectrum. The physique, the plumbing etc. is male, but the personality partakes of either or both male and female.
If society wasn't so down on us we could easily regard it as a great gift.

Ruth, it is a great gift regardless of how society views it.

[Fab Karen]

It's like when gay people are asked: why did you "choose" to be gay? ( the best answer is: why did you choose to be heterosexual? )

[Valerie]

About the biological and psychological reasons I have no idea, nor do I much care, since I consider it a given, but perhaps I would consider answering starting from the difference most people make between masculine and feminine characteristics and things. I have no interest in power, war, toughness, or talking about sports endlessly with people who never tell me anything about what they actually feel. When it comes to fashion, I find masculine choices just pitiful, while the variety and creativity of women's clothes and accessories is dazzling and joyful. Not to be misunderstood: there is also beauty and happiness in what today we call masculine, but for me there is no question: I love all that is feminine!
Valerie

[Samantha43]

I always feel like a man....with an unexplainable urge to dress like a woman.

At least I think this is how a man feels......

Now you have me wondering........:thinking:

[jennifer41356]

I like everything associated with being female..I would have liked to been born female with all the good and the hardships that go with it

I have a lot of more fem traits, short, fem voice emotional, kind,I have never had that macho feeling, being the provider, being the strong one, having the crude traits guys tend to have

[RobertaFermina]

Why is a question for the head.

Feeling like a woman is an answer from the heart.

:rose: K.I.S.Sweetie:rose:

[sami1952]

I been feeling like women inside long since i can remember,never did know why i felt that until i started cding,that i realize that i was maybe suppose to be a women stuck in a men's body.I can't stop looking at myself when i dress up and i can't believe that i can actually look more like a women then a man or at least i think i do.

[CD Susan]

Funnny but I don't..... I feel like me.... caught somewhere in between.... not quite male yet not quite female either... just me.....

I have to agree with Karren all the way on this one!

[Dawn Marie]

For me it is not that I feel like a woman inside but that I relate more to women. I do have female tendencies and mannerisms and always wished that I could be change into a female. The clothes are just an outward expression of my femininity or the girl traped inside trying to get out.

[Heather_Marie]

I hate to be one of the followers however I have to agree with Karen. I am just me somewhere between male and female. I have female tendencies and mannerisms and really enjoy expressing my female side in dressing up in women's cloths. However I am just me and I am very happy with that.

[rachellenicole]

I don't know what it's like to be female, but we all have a good idea though. I enjoy both sides of my life sooo... I guess I'm going with the masses, "En La Media Chicas".

Rach

[Kendra (Tx)]

When I'm Kendra...I feel like a woman...:daydreaming:When I'm her "ugly twin"..I feel like a guy..Although I do prefer being Kendra most of the time...I still have a use for "what's his name"...He's a necesary evil...I'd never want NOT to be Kendra...She's as much a part of who I am as "he" is...A better part sometimes...:battingeyelashes:

http://kendra954.com

[victoriamwilliams1]

Funnny but I don't..... I feel like me.... caught somewhere in between.... not quite male yet not quite female either... just me.....

I agree

[Edwina]

I have to agree with Karren et al on this. I couldn't come up with anything else that made any sense.
:love:
Edwina

[NatalieBliss]

I honestly believe that if I was born female I would be on the other side of the isle in the FtM side. Destined to never be totally happy in one gender. I have, in the past, done much soul searching about SRS, but damn it all if I am not happy to be a dude most of the time. Understanding that binary is not necessarily a dichotomy in regards to me and gender.That is to say heads and tails are on the same coin. Maybe I'm blowing smoke up my own chimney, but it's been working pretty well for that last four years or so.

[nicky]

i love and practice philosophy and the best explaination i can come up with is we are who we are because this is who we are, many differnt answers are here and this is a very hard subject. physical being and mental being are very opposite but exactly the same.

[tamarav]

Karren is generally right and I agree with her.

So I asked my wife what it feels like to be a woman, she just looked at me and said "Well, you generally wear the wrong shoes so your feet hurt, cramps really suck, I have to keep having my hair colored to cover the gray,...." I think I asked the wrong question...

[Delila]

I would have to say that I don't know why I feel anything that I feel. I know what makes me feel feminine but I can't quite say why I feel like that.

[Faye56]

I agree with jennCD on this , I am more a man with a woman in her head , the beauty being I can think I am a woman despite all around me not seeing me as such.

[DawnRodgers]

I just feel so right, so natural, so good. When I look in a mirror or at my reflection in a window and I see myself fully fem, my hair blowing in the breeze, my purse on my shoulder, hear the click of my heels, feel the strappy, heeled sandals on my feet, my earrings dangling it just feels so good that I want to feel that way forever. Even sitting at my desk and typing or reading, my bright red nails moving on the keyboard or placed below a word, look over my "breasts" to read,well, I just am so at ease, so right. I just want it to last forever.

[Patty]

In a nut shell (same as Karen and others)

[Edyta_C]

I have done a lot of soul searching in the past and decided I was a guy who liked dressing in fem apparel. There was a time when I thought I might be a girl in a guy's body. But after much reflection, I am just expressing a part of me ( the feminine part). I personally believe in a spectrum of gender feelings (not sexual). From macho type A guys clear to the other end of very girly girls. All of of this without regards to sexual orientation or body gender. I am one of those guys who only likes women but expresses less "guy" traits and more fem traits. So Karren has it fairly well pegged. I am me. please take me the way I am!

Hugs Edyta

[KimberlyS]

Why do you feel like you are a woman inside or feel like you should have been born a female?

I struggled a lot with the man versus woman, male body with female brain, mixed man and woman, and many other options. Until one day it hit me that I was just a man with masculine and feminine attributes. And it was society that determined what was masculine and feminine and they were based mostly on the binary sex/gender scale of society. While physical body sex organs may be mostly binary, in general most physical and mental attributes, traits, personalities, and other masculine/feminine indicators are more of a spectrum than binary.

Just how I deal with it. :2c:

Kimberlys-CD
Joe in a skirt

[MJ]

There is a biological theory that partially explains this for some of us. All fetuses start out with female carachteristics and then hormones in the woumb make the final selection of gender. Thus some of us appear as males yet something in our brains make us feel female.

good question coming from a ts point of view i have felt like a female since i was a child so the only answer i can give is because i am ..

living as my " true gender " i just feel right ...this is who i am i just know it

Sasha Say's it best, but the real question would be is how does a woman feel ?

[Ásfríðr]

loads of interesting answers. the thing that bothers me about how i want to present is that its very obviously feminine, no question. but being as such has made me skeptical of anything i see as attributed to a gender role. i mean, all these gender specific 'role values' are arbitrary right?, and a little based on evolutionary properties, but really pretty arbitrary. so when someone asks, "why is it you feel like a woman?" its more of a case that i don't understand why i feel so close to a particular gender bias (namely one i don't physically belong to, argh lol) when, if i think about it rationally, there should be no difference between male and female roles. yet i want more than anything to be able to play the other one.
is it a product of societal norms (which doesn't make it any less real btw) or where there caveman transsexuals?

thats what i say to people that ask me that question now lol x

[tricia_uktv]

Really hard, but fun? I now pretty much dress like a man (Iain) during the week and a woman (Tricia) during the weekend. Iain lets Tricia totally be herself at weekends - sometimes not a good idea.

Guess what I feel like at weekends?

[StephanieF]

Long before I realized the significance of my desires to cd, I became aware of differences in myself. A heightened sensitivity to others feelings, being very compassionate and having a different type of understanding than my friends had. Even my friends noticed and some commented but nothing more. I was always a mans man in a mans world and people just thought I was a nice guy ... big, strong but easy going and nice.

I always knew it was more than that and was happy about the softer, almost woman like difference inside. I was competitive without being aggressive and manly without being macho. I always knew this made me different but I believed it was in a good way. Still do.

It's only in the last decade (since divorce) that I've been reading about the feminine psyche and the emotional & spiritual woman. And studies about the nutrition, illnesses, stresses etc the pregnant mother may have experienced and the effect on the chromosones / hormone wash etc, etc, etc, ad nauseum. There is so much info & theory out there. But the more I read the more it seemed to me that whatever the change was in my body's make up happened in the womb.

That's why I discovered cd at such a young age. I don't think nurtuing had anything to do with it, being the middle of three boys and brought up in a secure loving family. But getting back to your question, these changes do two things that make me more of a woman.

I look at shape and movement of a woman and yes, there is the obvious sexual appreciation but also an empathy and envy for the way she moves and a very powerful longing to emulate that movement and be like her ... doesn't that psychological longing per se make me a woman in part - at least from a mental perspective?

Add to that the emotional,
- I cry when emotionally overwhelmed and feel stroger for it, my feelings of compassion are strong, as are my need to nurture and help, to communicate on an emotional as well as a factual level, a need to not only feel pretty but be pretty, I feel an inner emotional and spiritual strrength I know my friends don't have and so many other female qualities.

By recognizing, accepting and embracing all these qualities I can look in the mirror and say (apart from the obvious physical differences), I am a woman.

I may sound dense, but it's only in the last ten years I've been able to put the whole puzzle together and discover who I am. I always thought of cd'ing as a separate activity, but it's not. I's just part of what deep inside allows me to honestly know that to one degree or another I am a woman and I wish I were more of one.

I'm sorry for such a long answer to a short question but that's where I've found myself at this point in my life.

[Farrah]

I don't really feel like a woman inside. I'm just a man that enjoys to dress in women's clothing. If that makes sense.

[morgan51]

always changing ,my awarness of how I feel is on a continuim progressing toward female but not likely to ever get there but who knows? I do enjoy being me today and feeling more fem every day is lovely. Morgan

[Janice1948]

I have to agree with Amanda on this one. I have never felt that I'm a woman trapped in a man's body, yet I love everthing feminine. I feel and think like a woman when dressed. I am constantly admiring females while in male mode, but it's mostly their clothing, makeup, jewelry, deportment etc. The kicking and screaming part is lessening each and every day however.

[Jillt]

Like Karen am me. A split personality. Personality tests show I have more female traits than male.