Should I tell my therapist?

[dianwb262]

A while back I started seeing a therapist due to anxiety and posted the question here whether I should tell her about my crossdressing or not? I got a lot of good advice here and thought I would give an update. Well I finally told her and you were right that it not not phase her a bit. It was the hardest thing I have evere done. She was gettng concern that I had done something terible (like killing someone), I kept telling her I had something I wanted to tell her but couldn't. She encouraged me to tell my wife, she said she probably suspected anyway. My worst fear would be if she told our 19 year old daughter. Then with her help and with her being there I recently told my wife. We have been married for 28 years (in fact it was on our anniversary that I told her). She did know, only because she saw some pictures recently, she said I looked good. The only reason I had the pictures was that I had bought the book, My Husband wears my clothes. My plan was originally to give her the book and if she was curious I had some pictures printed. I know it is tough on her and she does not want to see, but she says she is okay with it. Just thought I would give an update, sorry this is so long.

Thanks to everyone who responded to my previous post.

[kittypw GG]

I'm glad you finally fessed up. Now you can make even more progress in therapy if you are holding back things then you really can't move forward.

I'm glad you told your wife but dude on your anniversary??? Kind of insensitive if you ask me. Do something manly to make up for that ok? That would kind of hurt me, but she is your wife and you know her best.

:hugs:
Kitty

[RobertaFermina]

Well here you are. I'm so glad that you had a therapist to help you both as far as you have come. What a gift.

Even with such a good start, it is so important to remain sensitive to your wife as she assimilates the reality of your crossdressing, now that it is an open issue within your relationship.

Best of Love and Luck to you both !

:rose: Roberta :rose:

[Amy Hepker]

That is GREAT!!! I know it is really hard to tell someone like that and it is a big thing to us, but to a thearpist it is nothing. I mean for us to tell someone it's like we feel like we have done something so wrong that we will be cut down by GOD, but that is not the case, that is just how we were programmed when we grew up.

NO BIG DEAL, YOUR JUST A CROSSDRESSER!!!

[tvbeckytv]

i once went to see a therapist due to what was believed to be anxiety related illness.
I didnt mention i was a tranny. To be honest it didnt cross my mind to seeing as its one thing im very comfortable with.
anxiety can be a difficult thing to nail down. i never really found out. just put it down to the stresses of modern life. It can accumilate over years untill one day you find you have physical symptoms. it can take years to recover from it too.

[Jonianne]

I am so happy for you for telling both your therapist and your wife. I'm sure both were relieved you're not a serial killer. You must feel a lot more ease in talking with your therapist now. Give your wife lots of love and assurance and respect her space when she needs it.

Hugs,

Joni

[dianwb262]

I'm glad you finally fessed up. Now you can make even more progress in therapy if you are holding back things then you really can't move forward.

I'm glad you told your wife but dude on your anniversary??? Kind of insensitive if you ask me. Do something manly to make up for that ok? That would kind of hurt me, but she is your wife and you know her best.

:hugs:
Kitty

I know what you mean but it just kind of workout that it was on our anniversary. There was other issues involved that caused us to meet with my therapist that day. And yes I did try and makeup for it and will continue to do so.