Difficult Steps

[Suzy Harrison]

As some of you will know, I plan to go full time as soon as possible. Before I do that I need to have several things in place.

So far I have:
Told my wife, she's known for years I'm TG and said she always knew I'd want to go all the way sooner or later.
Told my two close GG friends at work (a great move by the way, but I wasn't sure at the time how they would take it)
Told my HR Director at work - that also went well
Seen my doctor who has now referred me to a specialist

The next two things will be the hardest of all and that is to tell my son (29) and daughter (25).

I'm dreading it to be honest. I think they will be supportive but I know it will shatter them all the same ~ and I hate to do this to them. I've decided to tell my daughter first - tomorrow morning. We're meeting for coffee.

If that goes well, then sometime in the next few days I'll tell my son too.

Then when I see the specialist next Thursday everything will be in place..

[WildLotus29]

I hope everything goes well. Keep us updated.

[Sally24]

Good luck Suzi! You might be pleasantly surprised.

[renee k]

Wow, Suzy that's a large task. My best wishes to you for a successful outcome. In my case, my daughter, (30 years old) knows of my dressing, but probably not to the extent, I have gone. And my son, (28 years old) to my knowledge doesn't. At least it has never been brought up in any of our conversations. I've always been closer to my daughter, than my son and maybe this one thing that is preventing us from becoming closer. I'm really afraid of outing myself to him. He has followed my career path, mirrored my integrity in the way he has conducted himself. So Suzy please follow up with us. As I know one of these days I'll have to lay my cards on the table too.

Huggs, Renee

[Jilmac]

Suzy, I praise you for your courage. I know how difficult it will be to tell your adult children. I hope all goes well with your daughter and when the time comes to tell your son, you may have some insight on what his reaction will be. May God bless you girl.

[Edwina]

Good Luck Suzy
You are in my thoughts.
:love:

Edwina

[whitelace]

Hi Suzy,

I wish you much luck on your talks with your daughter & son. you have a lot of courage , it's very difficult to find the right words that children will understand I hope you find the right words you need to express yourself . hugs....lacie:battingeyelashes:

[Rachel Morley]

Good luck Suzy .... I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!

[Lidia_tv]

A great decision. I wish you all the best of luck all the way through.

[Bev06 GG]

OH Suzy,
How very brave of you. I really do hope that you get the desired response. If for any reason you dont, because lets face it, it will come as a bit of a shock, please dont lose heart. Often times people react to something they are not expecting without even thinking things through. It just might take some time. On the other hand they could both be fine with it so lets hope its the case hey.
Good luck and I will be praying for you and please get back to us on how you get on.
Bev

[gagirl1]

from the bottom of my heart i wish you the best of luck. i deeply hope everything works out for the best.

[Shelly Preston]

Good luck Suzy

I hope everything goes well

[Slip Affinity]

I hope it has a good outcome for you.

[Andine]

Best of the british mate!!
Hope it goes well!
if I hear of a mushroom cloud having blossomed in WA .. I coud expect the fall out to be vast and even reach here !! ( prevailing wind and all that)

Doing the whole transition is a very courageous step .... stay cool!!

[Donnadcd]

Just watching how you've handled everything so far, I know you'll make out just fine. You have everyone on your side, and this shouldn't be any different. We all wish you the best of luck. I'm using you as a gauge for myself and hope to do the same one day. You go girl!!!

[erickka]

Good luck, Suzy. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[MJ]

all the best suzy , i am here for you :hugs:

[Sarah...]

I have just told my daughter about the full extent of who I am, so I know how difficult this step is. I hope it goes well Suzy. My thoughts are with you.

Sarah...

[TGMarla]

Well, by now you've told your daughter, or you're about to. I sure hope it goes well for you. This audience is no doubt well in your corner. The rest of the world has some catching up to do. This kind of thing is very confusing to family members, so I imagine they will be a bit shocked by it all. I'm hoping all goes well for you. Whether it does or not, give them time. They'll need it.

[Sheena Pink]

Best wishes Suzy. Hope your conversations go well!:hugs:

[Suzy Harrison]

Well my daughter had to work today as someone phoned in sick. So we met this evening after she had finished - and talked for 2 hours.

She said she was really worried as to what the topic was going to be, as she knew it was important and things had been racing through her head all day. I think in the end she was a bit relieved that it was nothing critical or life threatening.

After telling her my history and where I am now - she was totally fine with it all. I told her everything, as well as my need to transistion and showed her photos.... ~ and she's okay with that too.

It was such a relief for me that she handled it so well.

The best was at the end, when she said:

"I always thought that every guy I ever met was unreliable, immature and too obsessed with drinking and sport... ...and why can't they just be like my dad, who is none of those.. ..now I know why!"

[Alana65]

Suzy,

I'm shedding tears of happiness for you (really). It's wonderful news to hear that things went so well with your talk between you and your daughter. Please keep us updated on your journey, hun.

BIG :hugs:

Alana

[Ashley1]

Hi Suzy,

Just a note to tell you that I hope all goes well with the two kids and the specialist and that everything turns out okay for you.:hugs:

:love:
Ashley

[sparks]

Wow. I'm so glad that everything is falling into place for you.

[Shelly Preston]

That is such a sweet comment from you daughter

It sounds as everything suddenly fell into place with her previous thoughts about you

I am delighted it all went so well :hugs:

[RobertaFermina]

Amazing !

What a blessing to see you take your steps and become more open and connected with your wonderful family !

:rose: Roberta :rose:

[Angie G]

I'm glad for you that you Daughter accepted it and is good with it. And I think you son will be also. A person like you they would have to love enough to get be this. :hugs:
Angie

[Katheryn]

"I always thought that every guy I ever met was unreliable, immature and too obsessed with drinking and sport... ...and why can't they just be like my dad, who is none of those.. ..now I know why!"


Yes, I have had female friends make remarks about them not realizing why I was different from guys they knew once I came out to them. The comments were similar in that they never could find guys who wanted to talk about things other than baseball scores and other trivial topics.

But then, once they knew I was CD, part girl, and how much more comfortable they felt with a less macho guy, they'd continue to date the macho jerks they'd continually complain about. Not meaning that they wouldn't date me, they were just friends, but that they couldn't apply the information that CD's in particular or less macho males in general, might be better relationship partners than the macho guys who spent their lives living up to what they or society deems to be male.

When asked, they replied that it was that sort of guy they were attracted to, and I'd ask why when it was that sort of guy they always complained about.

Maybe I'm just not enough of a woman to understand.

K

[Suzy Harrison]

Things just seem to keep slotting into place for me... I hope my luck holds out a little longer.

I was having severe difficulties in my marrage and felt we were on the verge of breaking up. However this weekend we've had some long heartfelt talks - and we're back together again.

I actually think that me transistioning is bringing us closer together. We've talked about the changes I'm about to go through and what it will mean when I go full time and everything is fine.

We're holding off from telling our son for a month or two as he is going through a difficult time himself with other worries. We'll wait a little while for a better time..

This Thursday I'll see the Gender Specialist.

[Stephanie Michelle]

Suzy,

I am totally happy for you and your daughter. It just show that you raised a great kid. I am sure that it is a big relief that she knows now. Good luck with you son. I am sure it will turn out just as well as you daughter.

StephaniE

[CD Susan]

Hi Suzy, I am so happy for you!! It is wonderful that your daughter understands and has accepted you and your decision to go 24/7. I wish you the same success with your son. My son knew about my dressing at the age of nine and we disscussed it at great length when he turned 16. He is now 25 and fully accepts this part of who I am. Although I am not full time the same principle is there in that our children will accept us if they truely love us. It sounds like you have raised your two children properly and you should be accepted by both of them. You have my best wishes that all goes well with telling your son.