Would u cure yourself from CDing?

[nekrina]

I just recently read that it is possible to cure the need for CDing by attending psychoterapies with a high-motivation for change. I never before thought about that and didn't know it was possible.:eek:

I am very interested to hear from u people if u would cure yourself from CDing or are u too attached to it to get rid off, and feel it's a very important part of yourself.\

I personaly would never do it, cause I like it a lot.

[TGMarla]

I'd rather cure everyone else of their hang-ups with transgendered people. I don't want a cure....it's not a disease. And I enjoy it way too much to quit. But I could do without all the baggage that comes with it.

[Samantha43]

I have no desire to be "cured". Samantha is a very important part of my life. If it ever gets to the point where it is becoming an inconvienence or starts causing me problems, then I may consider it. But for now I am really happy with the joy crossdressing brings me.

[TSchapes]

There have been many claims in the past about cures. The research has shown they don't work. I would have to see independent clinical studies done before I would believe any snake oil salesman.

Besides why would I give up this gift?

Love, Tracy

[kym]

kym is an important part of my life just as taylor is, with out one the other would not be able to be the person they are, so no i would not cure myself

[jessicacd43]

Why be cured of something wonderful???

[Karen_Ski]

Very deep and interesting question Nekrina. I think at least for myself there was a time in my life I would have said yes. In my early days like most I thought I was the only one in the world like this, remember this way back before the Internet. Even maybe into my early 20's I would have said yes cure me, I feel like I don't really belong to either gender but that was before I embraced who I really am.

Now I have to agree with both Marla and Samantha. I would rather see the intolerance and ignorance of other people cured, not only in the area of transgenderism but many other issues in the world. Karen is a big part of who I am, how I think, feel, and interact with people. She gives me empathy, feelings, compassion, and even a lot of my sense of humor. Cure me? Why there is nothing wrong with me!

[Sarah_Knight]

I worked in psychological therapies for years ... I was an Occupational Therapist in psychiatry for my sins, and a trained counsellor.
While I know (from first hand experience!) how powerful some psychological techniques can be in changing cognitive processes (the way your brain is wired for daily life) ... I would say that unless a thing is hurting your life (you stay in all day and can't leave the house) then don't change it.
Frequently the when something becomes an obsessive or preoccupation, then it isn't the thing itself that is unhealthy, but merely a symptom of an underlying tramua/issue that needs addressing.

People can be obsessed with anything ... and if you are worried that your crossdressing is becoming an obsession because its taking over your life, then it could be you are simply using it as a tool to escape issues you don't want to deal with. Maybe escaping your male persona seems linked to escaping problems you have as a man ... (etc etc blah blah ...) if you go in for a whole mess of psychological therapy to get rid of your CD, you may well find that another "obsession" replaces your CD hobby. Say, dvds ... you stay in all day watching films. You are still in avoidance behaviour/mode.
So the CD isn't the issue ... its a deeper one!

Going in for deliberate work to get rid of an aspect of yourself is something you really need to think long and hard about. What is motivating this? Is it family/partner who want it gone? Then you aren't changing for yourself, but for other people .. and thats going out onto thin ice. I spent one long (and unhappy) relationship changing for a person I was crazy for ... and she was never happy. I finally had to conclude that I was a "piece of work" that would never be complete in her eyes. It took me sometime to really I feel ok in myself again. If you have come to terms with who you are, changing for someone else isn't healthy.

I also hate the use of the word cure when something isn't a diease. You can't cure something that isn't sick. I know that many people would argue that CD is a "sickness" ... but thankfully most of these people live in the 1930's ... and we can leave them there. For people who still believe this, well, once we perfect the time machine we can send them back to the 1930's to be with all the other [-]idiots[/-] people who agree with them.

[trannie T]

"Curing Crossdressing" makes crossdressing seem like some evil infliction.

Crossdressing is not bad.
Crossdressing is not evil.
There is nothing wrong with crossdressing.
There is nothing wrong with being a crossdresser.

I would like to be cured of those who would attempt to "cure" me.

[Melanie R]

Cured from what? I am gender gifted and only want to cure those in society who reject us and believe we need a cure or come to Jesus to rid us of our sinful lifestyle.

[Sarah_Knight]

we need a cure or come to Jesus
Who (according to all the movies/paintings) wandered around with long hair and a "robe" that looks very like a dress!

[Shayna2008]

I don't see it as something that has to be cured. I actually consider myself very lucky to have this side of myself, regardless of the drama that comes with it. I often think of what my life would be like without this side of myself, and all I imagine is emptiness and blandness.

[LoriFlores]

I would love to no longer CD but I would not seek a cure such as this. My ultimate cure/goal would be full transition in every way possible :)

[Amy Hepker]

NO, I want to be who I am inside and I am not sick or fixable, I am me.

[Veronica 1]

I do not need to be cured, CDing is what keeps me healthy and happy.

[Sarah_Knight]

This message is bringing out some great positive statements. I almost want the tune "Sisters are doing it for themselves" playing as I read it.

I loved Amy's
NO, I want to be who I am inside and I am not sick or fixable, I am me.

Right on!!! ... you can fix me dinner ... you can fix my car ... (you can defrag my hard drive if you must!) ... but you can't fix me!

[nekrina]

Thanks for all the replies, I pretty much expected that would be the reaction.

I do believe there probably are some people (maybe a lot) who want to get rid of their feminine side but in that case they probably wouldn't be part of a crossdressing comunity like this one. So I guess I won't get a "yes" answer from any member of this site.

It's nice to know CDers have such a positive attitude about their bi-gender.

Something else..

Did crossdressing ever give anyone of u any problems in real life progress?

I remember it did affect me. Like for example sometimes when I had to study for school but didn't cause I had too big of an urge to crossdress and so I got some very bad grades.
And the times when my parents left the house for a few day and I refuesed to go party with my friends just to be able to CD.
But every time I fell in love my need for crossdressing disapeared for as long as the love lasted? (anyone of u having same experiences?)

[Karren H]

Oh contrarr!!!

YES!!! In a heartbeat..... If and only if it didn't cost much... If it didn't require surgeory and if it didn't hurt.. Yeah.. I'm not into pain... To be all male or all female would be soooo much easier...

Now before you jump all over my a$$.......... I am NOT saying that I'm not having fun living in both genders... Cause I am.... But the stress on relationships... The cost and the complexity... Some days I just yern for the simple life... Lol.

Ohhh. And send all hate mail to me... Tina Dixon.. Somewhere near Clare Michigan!! :D

[Emily Anderson]

That would be like curing me of my taste in good food and wine!

Sure, I culd be cured, if I were vulnerable, but I'm not! :devil:

Pish, tosh... Nobody's gonna be messing with my mind any time soon.

[DeeInGeorgia]

To change, there would have to be some benefit. And the time for the cure was 45+ years ago. Now that I am allowing Dee to come out, I have a cause to live for. And I have something that makes up for what I am missing from life due to my beliefs and alien thought processes.

If I had not had crossdressing, and been of a more male thinker, I would have had girlfriends as a teen and gone to dances and the prom. The problem is that I would have probably flunked out of college, gotten some girl pregnant, be on my third wife, doing the wild thing with my wife, have a girlfriend on the side.

What would need changing are all the thought processes, get rid of the girl part of me, and then the CDing would evaporate on it's own accord. Can I be a "Real" man?

Where does it lead to? Well my opinion is that any program that leads to eliminating the CDing, is really only adding another layer of baggage to deal with, usually resulting in suicide.

Me, I have some real baggage from how I was treated when I was growing up different. Give me a male personality without doing a mind wipe and inputting a new reality would just leave the world with a very unhappy, dangerous man on the loose.

Dee

[donnasweetheart]

I certainly would hope that my CDing boyfriend would not try to "cured", I love him just the way he is, and I love the time I spend with him as Donna.

[Babette]

You can get my heels when you pry my cold dead fingers from them. Gee, that sounded rather profound, didn't it? Ask me this again and I promise that I won't hold back.

Babette

[girl_in_pantyhose]

who said we were messed up? I think everyone else needs the help more than we do! :2c:

[Kimmie]

the net impact of that would have to be greater than the pleasures of being a CD. IE loosing your family and carrear. Since I'm currently single I don't have to make that choice. But I'd imagine alot of t-girls have had to make that gut wrenching choice.

[Niya W]

Didn't know it was a diseases. Is it covered by insurgence ?? Will they pay for my make up, electrolysis, clothes and wigs ??

[AmandaM]

Oh contrarr!!!

YES!!! In a heartbeat..... If and only if it didn't cost much... If it didn't require surgeory and if it didn't hurt.. Yeah.. I'm not into pain... To be all male or all female would be soooo much easier...

Now before you jump all over my a$$.......... I am NOT saying that I'm not having fun living in both genders... Cause I am.... But the stress on relationships... The cost and the complexity... Some days I just yern for the simple life... Lol.

Ohhh. And send all hate mail to me... Tina Dixon.. Somewhere near Clare Michigan!! :D

EXACTLY! But, only if there's a pill or something. I don't want to fight an emotional stressful fight to try to purge my mind of these thoughts. If the cure is to be a mental basket-case, that's worse than the affliction!

[Maria2222]

Not for a million dollars. Being a CD is me and being me is being a CD. (I think, LOL)
I'm a CD and I love it. I wouldn't change it for anything.

[jennifer41356]

Not for a million dollars. Being a CD is me and being me is being a CD. (I think, LOL)
I'm a CD and I love it. I wouldn't change it for anything.

how about 1million and 1 dollars?....:D:D:D:D:D

[jeniinnylons]

Yes Iwish I could.

[bimini1]

I think it all boils down into what is the difference between me and someone like a Karen Hutton or a Melanie R. When you read their posts, you see a confidence, a happiness with it that you don't see in my posts.

In my posts you often see an anger, a resentment of some sort. I come on here and admittedly post alot of negative stuff. Same behavior. Different views on it I guess. If I could only turn that corner.

[Karen C]

I would rather see the cure for aids.

I would rather have the cure for alzhimers.

I would rather have the cure for M.S.

I would rather have the cure for cancer .

or any other cure. I dont feel sick and am not in pain and dont see any one hurting from me whereing a open toed sandles with polish that doesnt nessarley match my outfit . but thanks

[pamisme]

Might have jumped at it in my teens or my 20s when I that i was going nuts. When you have no one and every budy that you now says a man dos not were a dress over and over and over and over you think that you are not right.
But now THEY are not right.
1 I am male
2 I do were dresses
3 I do not care what other people think, ( to much).

Pam:D

[carolinoakland]

It sounds like that whole cure for being gay that the religous right has been spouting for years, and it didn't work either. Carol

[jill s]

I'm with Karren, I would love to have this go away permanently, life would be so much easier as a "real man", they all seem totally oblivious to emotional pain.

[Jonianne]

I was told once by an aspiring therapist that "curing" a crossdresser was not hard.
I wonder if he ever made it.

No, to totaly remove the femme part of who I am would, of necessity, take the procedure used on Jack Nicholson in the end of "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest".

[rachellenicole]

Absolutely Not!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Rach

[Kendra (Tx)]

I don't consider killing a part of who I am...And that's what a "Cure" would be ,..Kendra is a part of who I have become in life...( Yes...even the ugly brother owes who he is in part to Kendra...Funny as it seems..."He" is about as 180 degrees from me as a person can be...But I couldn't imagine life without Kendra in it...

http://kendra954.com

[nekrina]

Well after all it seems there is some members who would like to get rid of it. But nevertheless I guess u probably love to do it anyway. don't ya?

[Angie G]

I love it I lust for it I highly crave it. It 's not a part of me it is me. So I must say HELL NO ANGIE WONT GO. :hugs:
aNGIE

[docrobbysherry]

Take up golf? Not with my bad back!

And how else could an old fart like me be with a babe like Sherry? Oh, I guess I could always spend my dressing $$ on hookers! Lol!

No, I'm not ready to give Cding up just yet!

[whitelace]

always a great sense of humor niya



but then again it is a pre existing condition for all of us
and if we were all cured we'ed probably put a lot of clothing stores out of business
lets face it.... the world needs us hugs ....lacie:battingeyelashes:

[Stormgirl]

It's impossible to cure,the feelings just never go away but to answer the question yes I would cure it if I could.

[CD Susan]

I consider being a crossdresser a gift that I am fortunate to have. I could not imagine being any other way and would not want to be cured of the one thing that truely makes me happy. Cures are for sicknesses and I am not sick. In fact I have never felt better in my life.

[Jane G]

Not no never no way aint gona happen. My lifes just fine as me, there is no cure for that.

[Lidia_tv]

I would sooner call that BRAINWASHING than cure. What a horrible idea. At any rate, if offered, I would definitely say NO THANKS, I'M FINE

[suspender]

Why cure yourself from having fun?

[Joanne f]

For a start i would like to know why any physiotherapist would want to cure anyone of cross dressing as in my opinion a therapist with those types of thoughts should not be doing that work.
It reminds me of a program i saw on the television about the 1940s when they use to give gay people electric shocks to try and cure them , i thought we had moved on from that way of thinking .
What would it be next curing you of wanting the wrong make of car :doh:.





joanne

[Megan70]

In a heartBeat!!!!! But unlike Karen Hutton's reply or Amandachick, I am dead serious and its no lol matter. I never asked to be born a transvestite. I have no self pride in it.. Now before people jump all over my ar$$, I will tell the forum once again to the chagrin of 99% of those here. It is a curse and always has been.(to me!)

Sure I've had the fun, sexual, emotional and narcistic thrills that all have mentioned here. I'm very passable and have been going out publically for 40 years with both my wife and myself. But even with all of that... I wish I would have never asked for this as a young boy or adolescent this way,It has caused too much pain in others (i.e. my wife) due to my uncontrollable narcissim and selfishness.
Now before people jump on me or post replies, e-mails or PMs I just ask that you allow this as an expression of MY opinion of my life, and it is no judge for others;this forum is a support and open Op/Ed page for just such opinions. All of ours!

At age 14 I was a hairsbreath away from an adolscent suicide on a cold wet winter night as a result of this torment., a story written on one forum section months ago. So to answer the question directly SURE... give me the pill, the shot or the drink and make it happen instantly with no previous memory of it of unnecessary purging.
Ok,,, let the slings and arrows come forth......:sad: I have my chain mail on.
Megan

[Hilary]

"Curing Crossdressing" makes crossdressing seem like some evil infliction.

Crossdressing is not bad.
Crossdressing is not evil.
There is nothing wrong with crossdressing.
There is nothing wrong with being a crossdresser.

I would like to be cured of those who would attempt to "cure" me.

Also to add to your list
Crossdressing is not an illness
Crossdressing is not a diseases
So in my mind there is nothing there to be or that can be cured.

[Jonianne]

Hi Megan,

No slings or arrows from here. The feelings you have are valid. I am just glad you are a lovely femme person, and I would greatly miss your presence if you were "cured".

[vivianann]

When I was in my late teens and twenties I wanted a cure. now I have come to terms with it and it is who I am, my only regret now is that I did not transition at an earlier age, Being Vivian makes me feel better about myself, and it cured my depression. I am finally free to be myself. I do not want a cure from being a woman.

[Kate Simmons]

Using the term "cure" implies it is something out of our control. It depends mostly on how one views themself. If it is an over riding compulsion then maybe it is a problem, if a conscious choice then I see none. Only the person themself can make the call if they need to be "cured" or not.

[Joy Carter]

What would I do with all "HIS" clothes ?

[vivianann]

I think if we purged our male clothes then we might be cured. :D

[jenalex]

I just recently read that it is possible to cure the need for CDing by attending psychotherapies with a high-motivation for change. I never before thought about that and didn't know it was possible.:eek:

you can probably change any aspect of anyone's behaviour with extreme psychotherapy and sufficient motivation

I suggest we start by curing people of their need to drop bombs on each other

:thumbsup:

[tanya3]

this is easy for me NO WAY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Tina Dixon]

Lets see it's not a health hazard unless I go to a biker bar dressed and ask the boys to buy me a drink:battingeyelashes:, and I'm not hurting any one unless I have to smack some biker guy trying to get a feel so my answer is no!

[DAVIDA]

Yes! That way, I wouldn't have to wear any male clothing at all!

[Sarah...]

No, I wouldn't . I like who I am.

Sarah...

[Deborah Jane]

I would love to be "cured".....
But as i know i can,t be, i may as well accept and enjoy it!!

[Mary Morgan]

Cured of what? You mean there is something "wrong" with wearing women's clothing? Oh no, there is something very right about it. If "they" ever do come up wit ha means to stop one from dressing, I'll be the last one to go, kicking and screaming.

[Sara Jessica]

There have been times in my life (into my teens) when I thought this might just go away but the reality is that my being TG is part of my wiring, having been there from my earliest memories. So the answer is no, I wouldn't accept a "cure". I cannot imagine not having my feminine perspective. I look at "regular" guys and actually feel sorry for them, that they cannot even fathom the joy of having a feminine outlook on life. And I dare to say it has a positive effect on my personality and enhances what I bring to the table in my relationships, career and othewise.

Now would things be easier being one gender or the other without this extra baggage? You bet. It's just not someplace I could ever imagine going.

[Juanita O]

no no I am just starting to get used to Juanita and i don't want a cure. I am to old to change now.

[Kristen Kelly]

[QUOTE=Karren Hutton;1382275]Oh contrarr!!!

YES!!! In a heartbeat..... If and only if it didn't cost much... If it didn't require surgeory and if it didn't hurt.. Yeah.. I'm not into pain... To be all male or all female would be soooo much easier...

Now before you jump all over my a$$.......... I am NOT saying that I'm not having fun living in both genders... Cause I am.... But the stress on relationships... The cost and the complexity... Some days I just yern for the simple life... Lol.



I agree, but since I have embraced just who I am, and the life I have and even though complex it is full and rewarding. I have many friends I am very active, take so much better care of myself watching my weight, skin care, hair (too much takes alot of time for long hair ask any GG). If life were Icecream who wants just Vanilla, my life at times might be Rocky Road but thats because I'm hanging with a bunch of nuts, but thats what makes it so good.

[sparks]

For those who know me the answer is yes I would take the cure. I never asked to be a four year old constantly caught wearing bras and panties. I sure would never have asked for the confusing teen years which were bad enough having a real nasty acne problem to mix with the desires to wear a bra under my male clothes. Then throw in all the erotic turmoil of puberty in women's clothes. This led to many bouts of depression and suicide thoughts and one hap hazzard attempt.
Now lets move into the twenties and believing that once I thought dating and find the perfect women that I would stop dressing. And then further kidding myself that marriage would end it all. So yes I hid it from my perfect woman and each failed attempt to quit would drive me into further unhappiness. I finally told my wife a time when we were so close and such openiness in conversations. Yes for those guessing it means we were about to have our first child.
I couldn't even say the words myself I choked on them and each breath seemed to denigh me the strength. She finished the sentence for me and has hated a part of me ever since. Years later went I from acceptance to flat out hating cding and myself for not having the strength to quit. All I want is to be one way or the other.
Oh did I even mention the sexual attraction for other cd's and TS's oh yes. So now I'm bi-sexual as well. An no I never cheated on my wife.
Sure I love dressing. It was fun and alluring, Comfortable and beautiful. But does it outweigh all the baggage I've allowed myself to accumulate. To destroy my marriage that I was the most ever happy in.
This is the longest I've ever gone without dressing. I was given the ultimatum stop or it was divorce time. I chose to stop again. This time I've held out for a year.
The suckie part is that near the end I had support in my cding through friends and family just not in the most important person in my life. I've held out for a year now.
So yes I would take the pill or go back in time and learn to stop fighting all together and accept. A different path would mean another source of happiness.

[Kimberly Marie]

My therapist never said anything about needing being cured for cding. The only thing I needed help with was the depression I suffered with from my childhood that had nothing to with cding.

[Holly]

Cure from what? The term implies that there is something wrong to begin with. Nothing could be further from the truth. Would you cure yourself from being right (or left) handed? Would you cure yourself from enjoying the beauty of a sunset (or sunrise)? Would you cure yourself of sensitivity? Would you cure yourself from enjoying the sensuousness of soft things? Would you cure yourself from the ability to observe life from a perspective not normally available to you? Would you deny who you are to appease a misunderstanding and misinformed society? Would you purposely put to death a part of your being? Your soul?

[Mitch23]

Take a cure? No, no, no, no and no. I enjoy the lifestyle too much and have never felt more happy and fulfilled now that I am 'out'.

For the sake of my dear wife who struggles with it all and never signed up to it and the complications it sometimes causes perhaps but on balance no

mitch

[Jocelyn Quivers]

No, I've spent a little to much time, money, personal sacrifice, body changes etc, on CDing. It's a permanent road I've gone down with no going back. Now if a cure was available about 20 years ago I might have been tempted.

[Bernadina]

I can see the slogan now. "Dress for the Cure".

[Shelly Preston]

A cure sounds like a nice idea but it has one large flaw


I would not be who I am I would be someone different :sad:

I cant say being who I am is easy but at least I know why

[brandic]

I just recently read that it is possible to cure the need for CDing by attending psychoterapies with a high-motivation for change. I never before thought about that and didn't know it was possible.:eek:

I am very interested to hear from u people if u would cure yourself from CDing or are u too attached to it to get rid off, and feel it's a very important part of yourself.\

I personaly would never do it, cause I like it a lot.There's a cure for being narrow minded too. People can widen their minds with a .44. Seriously, why would I cure one of the most rare things about me that doesn't hurt anyone?

[valenstein]

It is hard sometimes, but it is only other people that make it hard for me. I dislike the word "crossdressing" on so many levels. If I was stranded on a desert island with a pair of men's shorts and a blue polo tee (for the sake of argument forget about fashioning a grass skirt...), I would still be a "crossdresser". I would still be the same person in my head, and to take some pill or some therapy to rid myself of the things that make me who I am, I would rather be dead.

[Susancd]

I agree with the majority above, there is nothing to cure!!!!!!!

[kateyliz]

No, thanks, not unless it includes wearing lingerie, skirts, and such 24/7. Hugs,Kathy

[muggsybear]

I don't think so. I've enjoyed the last forty plus years too much to stop and cure myself now. So many different phases and so many different experiences. And just when I thought I'd seen and done it all...I'm still finding out new and exciting things.

[TerriM]

Asking for the cure would be like me asking to cut off a arm or a leg. i have struggled on and off with my fem side since I was 12 or 13. The times of depression were many over the years. I came to the realization when I was about 50 that this was a part of me and that I would never change. If I had to do it all over again I wouldn't want to be a CD. I still struggle with the balancing of my femme and male sides. I think being a CD has caused me not to be what I could have been. My wife of 37 yrs will never understand my femme side, either would my children if they ever found out. I think life would have been easier, but these this all things we cant change.
Dont get me wrong, I love being dressed and going out and all the wonderful things about being a CD, but it was at a big price.

Terri

[Carroll]

No..short and to the point

[Alice B]

Not the least bit interested. It took too long to get to where I am today and am looking forward to what the future holds. I already know what it is like to not be a cross dresser. Not as much fun.

[Wendy me]

not at all then what????? .........being who you are ...........makes you who you are......

[boy2girl31]

I don't see anything to be cured of. I like who I am and do not see it as a problem that needs to be fixed. The attitude that it is a problem is what needs fixed.

[Megan70]

For those who know me the answer is yes I would take the cure. I never asked to be a four year old constantly caught wearing bras and panties......

Sure I love dressing. It was fun and alluring, Comfortable and beautiful. But does it outweigh all the baggage I've allowed myself to accumulate. To destroy my marriage that I was the most ever happy in....
This is the longest I've ever gone without dressing. I was given the ultimatum stop or it was divorce time. I chose to stop again. This time I've held out for a year. .....
So yes I would take the pill or go back in time and learn to stop fighting all together and accept. A different path would mean another source of happiness.

You are the Only other person on this thread Sparks that has the guts to to openly admit to wanting to take "a cure" besides me.
Thank you for your candor and sharing your heartfelt story of pain and sorrow, in spite of all the cutesy touchy- feeley dress up days of feeling pretty to ourselves. I've been there almost identically.There is the big picture that involves other peoples lives here besides our own sometime selfish ones. We are all inter-connected through life to the existence of someone else. Ala "Its a Wonderful Life" movie, and that connection of what we do and how we live it touches others as well. I wonder though how many are really being truthful with themselves here and not looking at the total big picture but seeing things through rose colored glasses:sad::2c:

[Brenda's Friend]

As I have said before on this forum, I wish that I never had the urge. I still wish the urge to go away. I know that I have not fully come to terms with my desire to dress. My hope is that when I do come to terms, I can choose to dress or not to dress with our all the internal pressure building up. I have chosen a lifestyle that doesn't include dressing, but still I wake up early in the morning and dress, take it all off and go about my day.

Life would be so much easier. Maybe, if I dressed 24/7 I would be less preoccupied with it? I don't know. I am always thinking about it. 90% of my non-work related internet time is spent on it. I risk so much for it. It is not a disease, it is who I am, but unlike many who are vocal on this forum, I do not believe that it is the best part of me.

BF

[Rachel E]

Why give up something that feels as natural as getting up in the morning. When i am dressed i feel at a personnel calm that i don't feel when i am dressed in guy mode. I have been dressing since i was about 14yrs old aND I AM NOW 76RYS OLD and i don't plan on stoping any time soon.

Richie, Spokane Wa:)

[Joanne f]

Yes i would cure myself from cross dressing by becoming a female.








joanne

[angelfire]

I hate the possibility of losing friends, of ruining a relationship, and all the other stuff that comes with being a CD. Sure, it feels right, but I wish it didn't, it would make life so much more simple.

I'd take a cure - in a heartbeat.

[Claire3]

Cured of what.Theres plenty of lunatics out there that need controlling and sorting out.Claires just fine,thankyou

[mlady]

If anyone is looking for a cure for this non-disease, it can be found in TRANSITION. A 100% guaranteed cure. Once in transition you will never have to crossdress again. AHHH Cured

[Cary]

HELL NOOOOOOOOOOOO:eek:

[Jessica212]

I wouldn't. There are many times where I wish I could, or that I wish I never had any desire to CD, but on the whole, I wouldn't. It is a part of me, and it is something that I greatly enjoy. Why take that away from myself?

[stevie b]

Some roots in CD come from sexuality which probably curable but other forms of CD are genetic rooted which I believe cannot be cured.
xx

[Bev06 GG]

Hi Nekrina,
I suppose the only time you really need to be cured of something is if its hurting you or somebody else. I guess if it isn't and you enjoy it then whats the point in curing it.
Take care
Bev

[osteph]

I worked in psychological therapies for years ... I was an Occupational Therapist in psychiatry for my sins, and a trained counsellor.
While I know (from first hand experience!) how powerful some psychological techniques can be in changing cognitive processes (the way your brain is wired for daily life) ... I would say that unless a thing is hurting your life (you stay in all day and can't leave the house) then don't change it.
Frequently the when something becomes an obsessive or preoccupation, then it isn't the thing itself that is unhealthy, but merely a symptom of an underlying tramua/issue that needs addressing.

People can be obsessed with anything ... and if you are worried that your crossdressing is becoming an obsession because its taking over your life, then it could be you are simply using it as a tool to escape issues you don't want to deal with. Maybe escaping your male persona seems linked to escaping problems you have as a man ... (etc etc blah blah ...) if you go in for a whole mess of psychological therapy to get rid of your CD, you may well find that another "obsession" replaces your CD hobby. Say, dvds ... you stay in all day watching films. You are still in avoidance behaviour/mode.
So the CD isn't the issue ... its a deeper one!

Going in for deliberate work to get rid of an aspect of yourself is something you really need to think long and hard about. What is motivating this? Is it family/partner who want it gone? Then you aren't changing for yourself, but for other people .. and thats going out onto thin ice. I spent one long (and unhappy) relationship changing for a person I was crazy for ... and she was never happy. I finally had to conclude that I was a "piece of work" that would never be complete in her eyes. It took me sometime to really I feel ok in myself again. If you have come to terms with who you are, changing for someone else isn't healthy.

I also hate the use of the word cure when something isn't a diease. You can't cure something that isn't sick. I know that many people would argue that CD is a "sickness" ... but thankfully most of these people live in the 1930's ... and we can leave them there. For people who still believe this, well, once we perfect the time machine we can send them back to the 1930's to be with all the other [-]idiots[/-] people who agree with them.

I was just browsing the forum over the past few days when i read this thread and in particular this response.
I just found myself saying out loud - "Hear ! hear !"
I liked the entire response but in particular the 2nd paragraph.
As someone who, I think, has his desire / need / compulsion / whatever / to crossdress in reasonable perspective, I still have feelings of guilt at times.
Your posting has greatly helped in prompting me to ask myself what am I feeling guilty about............and you are right ...........I am really using my crossdressing and /or reading about it as an 'easy' and 'attractive' way to avoid dealing with things that I found difficult or that I had allowed become difficult.
Thank you for sharing your uncommonly good 'common sense'.

[Carly D.]

YES I WOULD!!! ok no I wouldn't because there are things that are worse than cross dressing and that is a fear that if my want to dress up as Carly were to be removed that there would be a large opening for any other behavior to take over.. the mind can think of so many other things to do when not occupied with girly things...

[ann stef]

Never!!!, love to dress up, all the time now. Got rid of most of my male clothes, just a couple of male attireto go shopping if needed. Nice to be retired now, can dress-up all day now.

[curse within]

I go 70/30 on that one most of the time yes I would love to be cured but when I am dressed wouldn't change it for the world..Wonder if the Dr. would allow you to start therapy dressed?

[cd_britney_426]

CDing is not a disease and therefore there is no cure. Likewise, I don't believe what such "science" says about it. Some religious groups have claimed to have "cures" for homosexuality which is also equally bogus. You can pretend something to go away but that doesn't make it actually disappear. You could decide tomorrow that you will never crossdress again but that won't change who you are. Anyone can modify their behavior but you cannot change the true you. Exploring the true you without fear or manipulation by others helps you advance spiritually and intellectually in life. Trying to hide from your true self or covering it up because society disapproves of something may work as a band-aid solution in the short term but in the long term, you are shattering your soul and setting yourself up for chronic emotional problems. Crossdressing is not a problem and it is only society that makes it a problem. The disease that needs to be cured is society's narrow-mindedness. I would not be interested in a cure because actually there is no cure because there is no disease. Britney

[DAVIDA]

Wait! Would I get all the money that I spent dressing back? I could probably retire early! But then, what would I do if I didn't shop?

[kimmy p]

I don't think that I'm sick. Kimmy helps me to be a better person. Kinder, more sensitive, less angry. And she relaxes me.
Those who need treatment are the ones who think that everyone in the world needs to fall under the same umbrella of normal. Live and let live, and let me dress how I like dammit! :Angry3:

[KereeAnn]

Be cured??? Didn`t realise I had a disease!!!

Maybe all the "normal" people that want to cure us need curing themselves.

Lets all be "cured" ladies and see how many "real women" miss our fem side.

[DeeDeeB]

Would you cure a leopard of his spots? Or an elephant of her trunk?

[WildLotus29]

I enjoy it so I don't see the need to cure it. :D

[Valerie]

Absolutely not! Besides, something that is not a sickness cannot be cured!

Valerie

[Jaclyn NM]

No Way! I love the way I am, and the fact that I get extreme pleasure from dressing in my female clothing. In fact, I feel sorry for those that don't share my "affliction". The pleasure I derive from sliding on my silky stocking, slipping my feet into my 5 inch stiletto heels, and walking around in them is indescribable, and I wouldn't change it for the world.

[Maureen]

Of course I would. I wouldn't wish this curse on my worst enemy.

[_Sarah_]

well im TS but ill answer this anyway..

HELL NO!. its not a curse its a gift!

beside how can you cure something that is apart of you? it would be like willingly giving up a arm. (or two)

[Ciara]

Valerie took the words right out my mouth!! Geez, I've only started on my journey... Pink until the end!!!

[curse within]

I think if we purged our male clothes then we might be cured. :D
Tempting ........very Tempting:tongueout

[Paola Lobos]

If I was "cured" what would I do with all of my wonderful bras and panties?:)

[lisa_vin]

No......never! I love how I feel and I love who I am. I love the fact that I can think and feel in both gender realms. I love the variety, complexity and interests this gift gives me every day of my life. It would be like cutting off an arm or leg.....I could never be the whole me again!

[RobertaFermina]

Is there a cure for them ? Probably the same cure as for those Psychs who attempt to "cure" Gayness.....

SHEESH!

If, HOWEVER, by CURE, you mean a seasoning and deepening of flavoring and savoring CrossDressing....well I already have that Curing process going on..living CD and hanging out with folks who participate in this side of life !

This is my Clinic !

:rose: Roberta :rose:

[emmicd]

No I am not seeking a cure from my crossdressing. I rather love being emmi. She is a girl I admire and I feel wonderful when she is allowed to dress up. She is special and I am fortunate to be a girl on the inside!

I am however seeking understanding and exploring how far I can go with my crossdressing.

I am fortunate to be feminine and express my girly side when I can.

Very good question!

emmi

[Farrah]

Earlier in my life, i would have wanted to be cured, because I was so confused. Today, I love and embrace the woman within me.

[occdresser]

I pray all the time that i could just quit.