my friends invited me to an party

[michelle_2771]

Hi All,

Last night i was at a friends place and they said to me and my so that we are having a party and they said its going to be a a Transgender night...


the thing is my friends do not know that i like to crossdress

I now can not wait till this night as i will be able to go and feel comfortable and still be able to keep my identity...

[deja true]

What a fantastic and wonderful thing!

Be your best and have fun!

:)

[Joy Carter]

Being too authentic will definitely out you. Unless that's what you want.

[Stormgirl]

Proceed carefully here, enjoy it but don't enjoy it too much unless you want them to pick up signals.

[DAVIDA]

I say, leave them wanting more!!!!!!!!:D

[debbeelee1]

Have a great time Michelle and please take lots of pics!

[Megan70]

Being too authentic will definitely out you. Unless that's what you want.

Agree totally with Joy here. Don't play it too well or you will definitely give yourself away, again unless thats how you want to announce yourself to "come out:
I had this happen when I knew in advance of a cruise booking that one night would be costume night. I brought along my Saloon girl costume (see my album in profile) and went as that with my wife, who did not go costumed Do you know how hard it is to act like you don't know what you're doing or how to act as a girl? its Very.

Turned out through through a million to one chance that our table mate companions husbands was also a CD,( Casablanca movie..." Of all the ships on all the oceans in the world, I get another CD on mine!!!":eek:) we fessed up to each other 2 days before the party (which was a bust) only 4 couples on the entire ship dressed up in any kind of costume.
I felt so inhibited because me and the other guy/CD stood out like a couple of sore thumbs being goggled at by hundreds of people in the grand lounge nite club.And being brought out on dance floor to be interviewed on the mic by the cruise activities director in front of them all. I had to deliberately overly exaggerate high contralto voice and over exaggerate deportment. I was laughed and giggled act, Wanted to crawl into a hole. I had to act like a bumbling amateur,,and it was tough because I didn't want to, I was so much better than that. So play it very cautiously. I did not have a good time. as I thought I would .

[Amanda Shaft]

Go and have a great time! Just laugh off any comments, play to the crowd, even if you turn out to be the only one whose gone dressed! Happened to me once, had a blast!
Amanda

[Shelly Preston]

A lot will depend on the other guests at the party

If they are the competitive types then you can say you wanted to look as good as possible and had some help

If its more low key then you dont want to look as good

Only you can judge which option is best

[Mollyanne]

I say do it!!!! And by that I mean if you feel as if this is what you want pull out all the stops and become the girl thats buried in all of us!!! I wouldn't worry about "outed" just be the girl!!!
BTW, will your SO help you and does she know of your "girl self"


:love: Mollyanne

[Angie G]

Go with it Michelle and have loads of fun. And we need pics. :hugs:
Angie

[Amy Hepker]

I would say go for it. Have fun and enjoy!!!

[Randee]

You could ask a gg friend attending the party to help you prepare and do your makeup. Then you can give her the credit for you looking so authentic. Then when they find out you like dressing in womens clothing, they can tie it to that event. Even better if she is close enough in size to put you totally in her clothes.

[michelle_2771]

I am going to be keeping this as low key but to have fun and enjoy it whatever it leads to...i have to the end of september to organise what i am to wear and prepare for this......

as my so doesnt know about my otherside and when we were asked to do this i said well i am up for it and would be good to see the fem side..

Mind you my partner has to go as bloke she can wear my male clothes as they will fit her

i can fit into her clothes well some of them as i wear some of her dresses at times when she is out...so i let her decide on what ever she wants me to wear.. the only thing is she is going to have to find the right size shoes for me as i am a size 10 in male so this means i will get a new pair of shoes out of this

The other thing to this night party i have to drive from my place to about 20-30klms away as a female which will be achievement for me.. as the area i live in is a bit scary as it is known for its roughness

anyway the positive side is i will get to dress how i want for the evening in front of everyone and have fun

there will be pics of the night

[Randee]

And your SO can dress you up one or two times in advance for practice and give you some lessons in how to move.

[Jeremie]

And your SO can dress you up one or two times in advance for practice and give you some lessons in how to move.

Now that is a super idea!

[Alice B]

Can I come?

[vikki2020]

Go, dress your best, and play it by ear.Once your there, you will know how far to take it.

[Babette]

If you weren't half way around the world, I would be willing to crash the party with you. This opportunity sounds like too much fun.

Babette

[CD Susan]

You lucky girl!!! I wish I would get invited to a party like this. Dress looking your best and have fun.

[tvbeckytv]

the precedent has been set ..... you can all now hold your own transgendered party

[MJ]

thats great. i would go looking my very best ... after all how many times do you get to go out . have fun

[vivian33]

sounds like a gift from above....enjoy yourself there and have fun

[Rose01]

Sounds like a blast. I wish I could go to a CD/TG party but I owuld never be able ot get away with it...

- Rose

[Cary]

You lucky girl!!! I wish I would get invited to a party like this. Dress looking your best and have fun.

Me to:o

[Tracii G]

My one and only full femme outing was a stuation just like this.Go and have fun.I did have a girlfreind help me with the hair and makeup but cool thing none of the regulars and two close freinds never knew it was me.
A couple of GG that are regulars there followed me in the ladies room and asked are you new to the area?I told them I was Joni's(the bartenders) cousin from Atlanta.
I thought they had me nailed for a while.

[Sara Jessica]

Good advice so far. I'd add that you should go and have fun and when your friends discover you still like to dress up, blame it on the cruise!!! :battingeyelashes:

[jo_ann]

wished more people threw parties like this, would make it more accepted

[Nicole Erin]

You know, it was said about being too authentic.
Funny how among other CDs we tend to scrutinize each other's looks more than we will admit. However to the general public they have such a different view...

You may be suprised, what if one or more other guests are really authentic and you can tell they know what they are doing? :heehee: You know cause a CD will be careful with how she presents where a guy wearing femme clothes for the sake of ONE event usually looks pretty ridiculous cause they aren't really even trying.

So knock 'em dead!

We want updates of the party!

[Pamela Julie]

Sounds like your friend may also be transgendered, why else have a tg party. Have fun and let us know the details on how it all goes, and post some pictures.

Pamela:)

[bijust4funjax1]

You lucky girl!!! I wish I would get invited to a party like this. Dress looking your best and have fun.

x3

~Bailey

[Stephanie Michelle]

Several years ago I went to a Halloween party dressed as a female nurse. My wife was a patient. I am a taller girl at 6'3". I did my own make up and everyone at the party was amazed how I looked. I even had nails on. It took everything to get he courage to go out. But once I was there I was fine. I did have to ell everyone that my wife did all the make up and got the clothes. Little did they know it was all me. I even had a guy keep coming up to me and trying to start conversations. (a little uncomfortable)

ANYWAY, if anybody says you look a little too good.. tell them you went to a salon for help.

Relax and have fun some pf us don't get the chance too often.

StephaniE

[renee k]

Me to:o

ME THREE!! Go for it!!

Huggs,Renee

[tracigirl_tv]

OK Michelle, so when is the party??

And more importantly: what are you going to wear??

[DonnaT]

Being too authentic will definitely out you. Unless that's what you want.

I say don't worry about being outed. If it were me, I'd want to look my best. I'd prefer, wows to uhgs.

If they want to guess at your trans status, let 'em guess. You've no need to affirm or deny anything, unless you want to. Affirmation can lead to better things, sometimes.

Be yourself, don't hide behind a false front and have fun.

[Sallee]

I would go and do my best to fool them tell them you went to a salon or what the hey tell them your a closet CD just to see the reaction. I have told people that and generally they don't believe me. Whats the worst case? Is there one? really only to yourself worrying about what the others think you still have to live you life as they do too.
Have fun with it I would love get invited to a transgender party with non CD's what a hoot

[amy canada]

Sounds like your friend may also be transgendered, why else have a tg party. Have fun and let us know the details on how it all goes, and post some pictures.

Pamela:)


I was thinking the same thing, Pamela. Maybe you didn't know that your friend is also a CD/TG, just like he/she doesn't know that you dress up as well.

[Vanessa R.]

That is awesome that you get to go out dressed up, and to a party none the less.

As I writer I have been kicking around a story based on this scenerio for a while. Wife accidently catches husband cross dressing, but he doesn't know it. She's surprised how rather than feeling freaked out that she actually likes it. Decides to take it to the next step and suggests they should dress up in each others clothes for a halloween costume party coming up...

[marie354]

At the high school where my last girlfriend's son graduated, they had a "Womanless Beauty Pageant". It was a tradition, there, to hold this event for the grads each year.
The girls fixed up the guys and they competed for a trophy.

Your friends may have a good idea too. I say, go for it! Look sharp baby!

[Charlene Ogden]

You are SO lucky!!! SO LUCKY!!! Damn. My CD life (because of circumstances) is boring and uneventful.
I WISH I could go to a party all dressed up. The few times I've gone out have led to making a few friends who I hardly ever had the time to see afterwards.
Relish in this moment!!! If it works out, you'll have the time of your life. If not, then time to find new friends :-)

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

What a great idea for a party, is the next one at your house? I once went to a work halloween party dressed en-femme and everyone commented on how great and sexy I looked. They all talked about it for weeks afterwards and I always stated that I looked so good that I went home and had my way with myself after the party cause I just couldn't keep my hands off of me. It always got a good laugh.

[Cristi]

you might enjoy this 'tongue in cheek' guide I made to crossdressing on halloween I wrote in a thread last fall.

It is basically a primer on how to dress WITHOUT making your friends suspicious that you are a crossdresser :)

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=70235

[Cristi]

I've only been to two parties as a woman. The first one was a thrill (my public 'debut') but the 2nd one was a real experience.

I won't get into too many details here (I think I've posted about it before) but basically what happened was that it was a last minute party idea by a friend. She invited my wife and I along with 4-5 other couples.

My wife didn't do a costume, but I got fully dressed in a skirt suit, heels, makeup, etc.

So to make a long story as short as possible... We show up at the party and I am the ONLY one in a 'costume'. I guess the whole idea of a costume party had kind of flopped and it had evolved into a regular get together. So there I was fully dressed all evening, with everybody else in normal clothes.

I was going to change back into the other clothes I'd brought, but then thought 'what the heck, I'm already here and everybody has already seen me" so I stayed dressed throughout the evening (about 6 hours).

Looking back now, it was about the BEST thing that could have happened. Since nobody else was dressed, it stopped feeling like a costume to me and started feeling like I could dress like this all of the time.

I can't wait to hear how your party turns out. I hope there are plenty of photos taken!

[misty2smooth]

Tell your SO you want to do a good job. Let her take the reigns from there.

[Tasha McIntyre]

Absolutely go for it - have a great time :)

[Mya Summers]

You only live once in this lifetime, dress up in the most knock em out outfit you can find and have fun. Like some of the other's have said ur friend might be a cd/tg himself. I went to a dress up party 2 years ago and wore something I don't generally wear which is Jeans and every commented on me..lol it was so much fun. But go have fun and give them something to talk about for weeks on end, oh and Take lots of pics.:D

[Sally2005]

Do it. It can be a lot of fun. Check to confirm that the other people are dressing up too because everyone else might chicken out (you might want to encourage them or help them get ready, or at least let them know you think it is cool!). Not the most fun if you are the only one in a costume. I'll never understand the people who go to a costume party without a costume...very disrespectful in my opinion since the host and other guests have spend a lot of energy to participate.