Need to express yourself?

[emmicd]

As a crossdresser do you have a need to express yourself with your clothing?

If you dress only at home in private do you feel you are missing out on being able to express this side of you?

Are you content with your level of crossdressing or do you feel you would like to push the envelope?

For me personally I feel the need to dress and express myself more but never can get past the front door. I am too afraid and probably need a good support group to open up more about it.

emmi

[Katheryn]

For me personally I feel the need to dress and express myself more but never can get past the front door. I am too afraid and probably need a good support group to open up more about it.
emmi

A support group can be one or two others to go out with. First time I went out with my sister and my SO to a mainstream restaurant I was as nervous, as they say, as a long tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs....

By the end of the night, I was relaxed and having a good time.

K

[vikki2020]

Getting dressed for an hour or two used to be satisfactory for me, and if I get the chance, of course I'll take it.But lately, I feel the need to get fully dressed,wig, make-up,etc. and get outside.It's harder to do for me, but "counts" a lot more.Check this thread:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=79361

[KayR]

In my drab world I wear sombre business suits, conservative ties and shirts and black shoes.
When dressed en-femme I can express the total extrovert trapped inside me!
I adore bright red - whether its lipstick, nail polish, shoes or dresses. I love cocktail dresses, and can't wait for the opportunity to get my ears pierced so I can wear all those gorgeous chandelier earrings. Then theres the stilletoes.....
Life is good......

[Veronica 1]

I cannot yet go out totally enfemme but I find that I am wearing more and more fem clothes while I am out in public in drab mode. Fem runners with pink laces, fem stretch denim jeans and T-shirts are becoming my normal look when out in public. Of course, there is always a cami and thong in the mix. Yes, I like to push the envelope but with a bit of reality thrown in. I cannot pass as fem and if they want to call me gay, well so be it.

[tamarav]

I got so fed up with my own fears of going out that I went overboard (not really) and now am out everyday. You have read my story before but I go out everyday and work in a beauty salon or my own transformation studio. I had to force myself to become at ease going out or I never would have gotten out of the car.

You cannot rely on others to make the decision to go out by yourself. I did start by going to groups and being with others, but they are not always available and not always at the same point emotionally so it is really hard to depend on others for your CD support. and I did spend untold hundreds of hours sitting in my car afraid to open the door and venture out.

I laugh now, on Saturday I had three clients, got off at about 3, went to a Nordstrom's and shopped shoes for an hour (bought 2 pair) and then walked the mall for about an hour buying some things and looking at people. Then down the street to a Nordstrom's Rack and tried on more shoes for an hour and finally to a local casino to dance for a few hours before heading home. Exhausting but wonderful day. This is the outfit I wore on Saturday, did change shoes a few times though.
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I totally expressed myself as a woman all day and will do the same on Monday, maybe less dancing...

Your sis,

Tami

[Nikki A.]

Thankfully I have latitude in that I can wear hawaiian, or polo shirts to work so that at least lets me be colorful in drab. Almost all of my after work casual clothes are fem but not very and I am pushing the envelope more and more. My sixteen yr old knows that my jeans are from the women's dept and this weekend I asked her opinion at Target on a pair of shorts I found while she was shopping. She says try em on and see. I think she knows but is waiting to see if I say it or she does. She shops better with me than she did with her mom (they always disagreed).

[Babette]

As a crossdresser do you have a need to express yourself with your clothing?

Oh most certainly this is my case. When I want to relax, I dress casual or conservative. When I feel special, I dress special. Another point to consider, my clothes fit my mood or expression even when dressing as a male.


If you dress only at home in private do you feel you are missing out on being able to express this side of you?

I dress privately for the most part. Note, I did not say always.


Are you content with your level of crossdressing or do you feel you would like to push the envelope?

I am content to stay within the parameters of my comfort zone. You must understand that my comfort zone tends to be dynamic.

Babette

[RobertaFermina]

I am not content, feeling starved for CD.
I am content that I starved myself for the right reasons.
Don't make it feel any better though.
Good news is that I will be CDing much more in the next Month.

:rose: Roberta :rose:

[PhillyGuy2Girl]

I always express myself when at home. I adventured out a little last Sat. night and tonight drove home dressed femme which was a real experience for me.


Felicity :)

[crusadergirl]

I feel i need to get out more so i could express myself. Staying in my room don't do much good.

[Bev06 GG]

Hi Emmi,
it sounds like you need a dressing buddy. Someone who will go out with you. Either another more experienced CD or a sympathetic GG who isn't afraid to support you if things do go a bit pear shaped.
I have taken lots of girls out on their first trip and needless to say I have only had to accompany them a couple of times before they have been confident enough to venture out on their own.
Is there anyone who lives near by that would support you through this. I can tell you the girls that I went with were thrilled to get out doors, it was like a new lease of life for them.
I wish you all the best and let us know how things go for you
Bev

[Bev06 GG]

Oh my Tamarav,
I love you as a Brunette, so classy.
Bev

[Sarah...]

Emmi, I'm the same. 99% of the time I dress only at home but I do need to get out and be me more often, I'm terrified though. And so, understandably, is my SO. This means I virtually never do it and I definitely feel I am missing out on expressing myself as Sarah.

I do need to dress more, pushing the envelope as you describe it and it's really stressing me out that I can't. I have too much respect for my SO to barge ahead on my own and in fact take my cues from her most of the time. I have rarely expressed myself through my male clothing and quite frankly have very little interest in doing so. As a result I end up getting distressed about feeling like I'm crossdressed in drab which just becomes utterly confusing.

My SO and I talk a lot but I too wonder if I, in fact both of us, need a face to face session(s) with someone who might be able to help us identify a balance that we can both work with.

This site helps me a lot, but I crave in-person chats and discussions.

Sarah...

[tricia_uktv]

Emmi, its easier than you think. You will be tolerated and in general treated with respect but you do need to build up an inner steel which takes time. I now love the comments i get and have worked out replies (they're all on the same lines) and I love to dress provocotively! Go out in a safe place first and things will follow, I promise

[gennee]

I dress at home and I go out in public. The latter I do quite a bit.

Gennee

:)

[Ruth]

I dress to express my femme side fully when at home in private (or with my wife), but I don't feel able to dress as I would like when I go out en femme because I am trying to fit in. I try to loook like every other woman on the street, which unfortunately is, to me, a rather subdued feminine appearance.
Still, it's better than drab. And I prefer the anonymity of looking like everyone else, rather than standing out and being pointed at as an obvious CDer. I guess I'm just a coward.

[FeliciaRivers]

I am most surely missing out. I want to express myself in the way I dress... Oh, so many styles and things to do! As a guy, I am so limited. But as a girl I can do so much more! Sadly my wardrobe isn't what I want it to be. So small, cause I need to hide it...

Although, I don't have the freedom a real girl would, because I need to take more careful precautions to maintain the illusion. So that really limits what I can wear.

[Emma England]

Hi Emmi,
it sounds like you need a dressing buddy. Someone who will go out with you. Either another more experienced CD or a sympathetic GG who isn't afraid to support you if things do go a bit pear shaped.
I have taken lots of girls out on their first trip and needless to say I have only had to accompany them a couple of times before they have been confident enough to venture out on their own.
Is there anyone who lives near by that would support you through this. I can tell you the girls that I went with were thrilled to get out doors, it was like a new lease of life for them.
I wish you all the best and let us know how things go for you
Bev

Bev, it's a shame that Grimbsy is too far away from Exmouth.
I would love to have a companion such as yourself.

Although I am a confident person anyway.

It is always that first initial step that is the hardest.

Like anything else in life, it gets easier with practise.

[justmetoo]

Yes, I want to express myself by the way I dress, but that self isn't 100% female, so I don't try to dress 100% female. I don't think of myself as a woman even when I wear a skirt or dress or sexy lingerie. I, too, prefer to blend in to and not be the center of attention (or even the off-center of attention). That's pretty hard to do if you look like a guy, but you are wearing a skirt (heck, even wearing masculine skirt-like garments such as kilts is uncommon enough where I live and work that it would certainly attract attention I'm not looking for). And trying to look like a girl/woman so I can wear a skirt in public won't work either (foremost, because that would not be expressing myself).
Ideally it would be no more remakrable or attention-grabbing for men to wear skirts (or dresses or nail polish, etc.) than it already is for men to wear their hair long or to wear earrings. Maybe some day... but until then I'm not going to be one of the envelope-pushers. It's just not in my nature. :o