What would you do?

[Robin Tree]

About 3 years ago I lost my older sister by 2 years to diabetes complications. My mom and sister were very close. Closer then I am with my mom. I will never replace my sister. But my mom misses her so much,and talks about her all the time. Should I come out to my mother with my crossdressing? Maybe in hopes that I could at least be the part time daughter she never knew she had? What would you all do? If this matters I'm 47 and my mother is 75. And that I do pass.

I think i will give her a bit more time to get over my sisters loss. But that I will eventually come out to her. I will post her reaction when I do. I'm looking at it as she will have the best of two worlds with me. A son and daughter she never knew she had. I hope she reacts in the same way I'm thinking she will.

[curse within]

I think it could go one of two ways.

1st choice the one I would perfer she would welcome you with open arms and help ease the pain of the recent loss

2nd, She will be playing bridge with her friends discussing her recent loss and adds to top it off my son told be about his desires to be a woman Im just waiting for number 3 because I hear these things happen in threes.

Tough call go with your instinct, me I would wait until she recovers from the loss.

Good luck and please keep us posted on how it went.

[Katrina82]

I don't think coming out as a cross dresser will help your mom think you'll replace your sister, well not replace but be better in a sense. Your sister was a completly different person than you. Dispite her gender, I bet that had a very small role in her closeness to your mom. She was older than you after all...dare i guess the first born? If you are going to come out to her, don't let your sister be the reason.