brandic
08-10-2008, 11:10 PM
Hi. I am pretty darn sure I am transsexual. That's not what this post is about. While my mental and emotional states are heavily feminine, my appearance and demeanor have a long ways to go. I am also into submission in the bedroom, and have several sub/TG fantasies I'd really like to entertain - including as a sissy maid.
I figured I might kill two birds with one stone, so to speak, by asking to be feminized by a mistress and made to serve as a maid. I met a woman online who chatted with me a bit and said she'd like to do just that. I figured it was a great chance for me to explore my boundaries by telling myself - "okay, this is an awfully girluy thing to do in public, but mistress commanded it." It has even worked to some extent.
I am feeling comfortable being dressed around the house 24/7. I know I am nowhere near passing, and I certainly have no intention of going out just yet, I am very confident that my gender issues are on a path for resolution. Mistress helped me with that. The problem is some of the things she has me do. She has been demanding I do heavy cleaning around my own home, by myself, in a full, formal maid's uniform including petticoats and lingerie.
I have come to the conclusion that I can't be a 24/7 submissive. My will and intellect are too strong. I simply can't bring myself to ruin hundreds of dollars worth of clothes for no apparent reason. Petticoats and satin Maid's outfits are formal wear, if servant's wear. No one with any sense, be they submissive or dominant, male or female, does heavy chores in formal wear. It just isn't done, and I can't bring myself to do it.
I think part of this is the fact I've never met Mistress, but the larger part is emotional and intellectual. I aim to be a woman - not some demeaned, damaged sissy. I mean to live a full, emotionally healthy life within my own gender expression. If I can spend a few nights along the way dressed in uniform and serving in a sexually charged scene, great. But I don't think I can even consider going into a 24/7 situation.
The money question: How do I bring this up with Mistress. She really is a fine and kind woman whom I respect and will always be grateful for knowing. I guess honesty is probably the best policy, but I'd hate to burn a bridge to be feminized by a gg - she's had a life's experience doing the things I need to learn. She already has taught me a great deal and could surely teach me more. I simply don't have in me what she is looking for.
Any ideas how to handle this?
Brandi
I figured I might kill two birds with one stone, so to speak, by asking to be feminized by a mistress and made to serve as a maid. I met a woman online who chatted with me a bit and said she'd like to do just that. I figured it was a great chance for me to explore my boundaries by telling myself - "okay, this is an awfully girluy thing to do in public, but mistress commanded it." It has even worked to some extent.
I am feeling comfortable being dressed around the house 24/7. I know I am nowhere near passing, and I certainly have no intention of going out just yet, I am very confident that my gender issues are on a path for resolution. Mistress helped me with that. The problem is some of the things she has me do. She has been demanding I do heavy cleaning around my own home, by myself, in a full, formal maid's uniform including petticoats and lingerie.
I have come to the conclusion that I can't be a 24/7 submissive. My will and intellect are too strong. I simply can't bring myself to ruin hundreds of dollars worth of clothes for no apparent reason. Petticoats and satin Maid's outfits are formal wear, if servant's wear. No one with any sense, be they submissive or dominant, male or female, does heavy chores in formal wear. It just isn't done, and I can't bring myself to do it.
I think part of this is the fact I've never met Mistress, but the larger part is emotional and intellectual. I aim to be a woman - not some demeaned, damaged sissy. I mean to live a full, emotionally healthy life within my own gender expression. If I can spend a few nights along the way dressed in uniform and serving in a sexually charged scene, great. But I don't think I can even consider going into a 24/7 situation.
The money question: How do I bring this up with Mistress. She really is a fine and kind woman whom I respect and will always be grateful for knowing. I guess honesty is probably the best policy, but I'd hate to burn a bridge to be feminized by a gg - she's had a life's experience doing the things I need to learn. She already has taught me a great deal and could surely teach me more. I simply don't have in me what she is looking for.
Any ideas how to handle this?
Brandi