Relationship

[pbm35]

Hey, i have been single for a while now and a friend of mine has shown an interest in me.
She is very sexy and curvy and we have kissed and it was electric..... only problem is that she doesnt know that i like to dress up in lingerie.

The feel of the soft silky fabric makes me feel so calm and relaxed.
I am frightened of telling her because of what she might think of me.

How do i tell her ?

Please help

PBM

[celeste26]

As casually as possible, as though it was just another "one of those things" dont make it such a heavy topic that needs a special separate timeout period.

[pbm35]

I get the feeling that if we were in the bedroom playing games i could get away with it once maybe twice but its the long term im worried about........
Yes it does relax me like nothing ive ever known, the thing is, being with her.... would it have the same effect ? I don't want her to walk in on me wearing a bra or thong if it is going to frighten the life out of her.

[Jilmac]

You want advise? All I can tell you is what I did when I became single after 26 ears of marriage. We both poured out our hearts to each other, we got to know and trust each other and became intimate. It was probably after three or four dates, I told her about my "dark side" that bieng a crossdresser. She didn't run off screaming, and she didn't look down on me as being some kind of wierdo. As a matter of fact, she is now a GG member of this forum.

I told the truth, almost from the get go, perhaps you should try that, if she runs off ranting, then a relationship with her wasn't meant to be.

[pbm35]

You want advise? All I can tell you is what I did when I became single after 26 ears of marriage. We both poured out our hearts to each other, we got to know and trust each other and became intimate. It was probably after three or four dates, I told her about my "dark side" that bieng a crossdresser. She didn't run off screaming, and she didn't look down on me as being some kind of wierdo. As a matter of fact, she is now a GG member of this forum.

I told the truth, almost from the get go, perhaps you should try that, if she runs off ranting, then a relationship with her wasn't meant to be.

In my heart....... i think that you are right. Thank you :)
From what i know.... she will realise that no matter what i wear, im the same person inside, the person that loves her to bits and so longs to make her the happiest woman alive.

[renee k]

In my heart....... i think that you are right. Thank you :)
From what i know.... she will realise that no matter what i wear, im the same person inside, the person that loves her to bits and so longs to make her the happiest woman alive.

Well I think you've answered your own question, you love her and you have to earn her trust.

Renee

[docrobbysherry]

Well I think you've answered your own question, you love her and you have to earn her trust.
Renee

I agree he may have answered his own question, if he loves her. But, I didn't read that in his posts!

My take would be; don't say a word about CDing until your relationship has developed some more. "Love" or not.

[paulaN]

I don't think I would be to quick to desclose my cd side. I have no idea when I would bring it up though. sorry I could not help more.

[Alice B]

Up front and honest if you want the relationship to truly grow. Secrets get stinky and moldy over time.

[Josephine 1941]

Hi pbm , The one rule that I put on my self was not to go to bed with a new GG before she knew. Once you hit the hay you will not be thinking with the right HEAD. Good luck :devil:

[AmandaM]

You want advise? All I can tell you is what I did when I became single after 26 ears of marriage. We both poured out our hearts to each other, we got to know and trust each other and became intimate. It was probably after three or four dates, I told her about my "dark side" that bieng a crossdresser. She didn't run off screaming, and she didn't look down on me as being some kind of wierdo. As a matter of fact, she is now a GG member of this forum.

I told the truth, almost from the get go, perhaps you should try that, if she runs off ranting, then a relationship with her wasn't meant to be.

Yeah, 3-4 dates is about right. Tell her then. Act like it's a non-issue. Don't make it some deep dark secret, she'll key off your mood.

[Stormgirl]

Watch your six, and be very careful because she might out you.

[Tina B.]

Just be sure how you feel about her, and of coming out, once you tell anybody, anybody at all, then you no longer control who knows, So you might want to be sure she is someone you care enough about to risk it.
Remember the Myth about Pandora's box, once opened it can not be closed again!
Tina B.
P.S. But if she is the one, then you owe it to both of you, rather than trying
to live a lie.

[Shelly Preston]

Please read the link in my signature

It will give you an idea of how to tell her when you feel the time is right

Just dont rush the decision

[Glenda]

Why would you even dream of being with someone new unless they knew? Girl up, boy!

[DemonicDaughter]

I always think... if Kayla had told me from day one, we would have been having all this fun from the get-go. But... I understand her hesitation. I happen to love the fact that she is a CDer. Best of luck!

[Tracii G]

I guess I got lucky I was freinds with a female bartender(she knew I was bi) and she was the one who got me wearing more girly clothes She said they fit me better than they did her.She talked me into going the full female route for one night at the bar just to see if I could pass.We had a blast.
She introduced me to this really nice looking guy he said hello Tracii look really nice tonight.I said thank you but I'm really a guy.
He looked at my legs and said you got some nice legs for a guy.
He is a real sweetie so far its a great relationship.
Tell her in your own time but not too soon.

[Jillt]

At some point you have to tell her otherwise you will have a most frustrating relationship trying to hide your fem side. Be honest