A Week En Femme

[melissacd]

I am nearing the close of a week of vacation that I have spent 100% en femme. I have dressed every day and gone out into the public by myself doing all of my daily activities and it has been the most liberating experience full of self discovery. I have found that if you dress appropriately you are accepted into the landscape as another member of the public even though they realize that you are male. I have found everyone to be polite and friendly, sometimes they are startled but they get over that fast. I have found that there is a great sense of comfort in living this way and I can clearly see myself doing this full time if I can get past a few obstacles, the biggest being coming out at work. It seems that for the most part the world that I live in, the public that I interact with treats me just the same as it did when I was strictly in male mode. The people that I meet seem very understanding and open to this side of me. It is really quite eye opening to me. There have been many cases in fact where others have helped me, have gone out of their way to assist me when I was struggling with things like an armful of groceries. It really is quite amazing. All of the fears that I had about being in the mainstream public dressed en femme have rapidly evaporated. It has been replaced by a new confidence and sureness in this aspect of who I am. Rather than a novelty that wears off quickly once you can do this freely, it has instead become a confirmation of just how real this part of me is, the male who enjoys being a male but wants to present as a female. I see now that this is just another modality of living, a different lifestyle no less valid than any other lifestyle.

It has given me much to ponder over the coming months as I figure out what to do with this new found experience and the discoveries made during this week. It was especially nice because I minimized the use of makeup to a more practical and normal level and I did not use a wig but rather used my own hair styled in a femme way.

This has to have been one of the best summer vacations that I have had in a long time, perhaps ever.

[Joy Carter]

I totaly have to agree with the confirmation you felt Melissa. It's truly a good feeling.

[Angie G]

Looks like you have found a hole new world out there hun. so go get a pice of it. :hugs:
Angie

[Veronica 1]

You go girl. I am still lacking the courage to put on my game face and enter the world of public view but I can tell that the time is coming and I hope to have the same courage and good experiences as you have.

[Sam-antha]

That is so very true and so true that it is difficult for some of us to believe it let alone enjoy it.
Huggzzes for telling us about it,
~Samm

[victoriamwilliams1]

Everything is true about going out, people are startled but it wear off quickly when they see you are just minding you own business. Congrats on your week.

[StephanieF]

Hi Melissa,

I was reading your post thinking yeah, that's great, I'm happy for her, but if I lived in NY or SF I could do that too ... till I looked at your profile.

Cambridge!! I used to live in Guelph / Cambridge area and It's not the most liberal place in the world. Good for you. Especially with styling your own hair. That's what I want to do as well.

Excellent for you Melissa, there may be hope for me here yet.

Bye bye Steph

[vikki2020]

Sounds like a perfect week,Melissa.Good for you!Even if you decide to not go full time, you know you can get out when you want.Good luck!

[sandra-leigh]

I was reading your post thinking yeah, that's great, I'm happy for her, but if I lived in NY or SF I could do that too ... till I looked at your profile.

Cambridge!! I used to live in Guelph / Cambridge area and It's not the most liberal place in the world. Good for you.

Guelph is, though, a "university town", and although the university has a solid agricultural component, it also has a number of other strong programs.

My visits to the area were, though, <mumble> decades ago now, when I went to university in nearby Waterloo. That was somewhat hard on me, going from what was then the 4th largest city (Ottawa) to an area with a distinct small town feel, an area that felt like it would have been nearly dead if not for the two universities. I think I would have had a hard time being a cross-dresser in that time and place and that point of my life. Perhaps it was just as well for me that I had no idea I was a cross-dresser back then :straightface: I gather that the area has changed quite a lot, that a lot of high-tech industry has grown up -- and high tech workers tend to import a culture of laissez-faire individualism.

[erickka]

When I lived in Sarasota, Fl., it was no problem to go out in public. I now live in hicksville , middle Tennessee, and they take a real dim view of things that are not the "norm", so I haven't been out in public in over 2 years.:sad: I can only hope for a business trip to Atlanta, or some other large city!

[shannonsilk]

As you say, it is just another mode of living. People get over their surprise and things go on.
Sort of like the Y2K thing. there was a big build-up, it happened, and life went on as it did before.

[janexx]

Melissa,

What fun! I have only ever managed a whole day!

Is it all right if I quite green with envey?

Love your courage.

Bless,

Jane

[Paulette]

Dressing to fit in works every time to remove you from the freak show crowd which strikes fear common folks. Do you ever think what we would think about seeing a woman dressed as a man in a most outrageous manner. Your look is very normal and thus fits in with those around you.