Tracy_NM
08-18-2008, 03:36 PM
Hello, Tracy here, 46 year old CD .
One thing I have discovered is that I have no idea when the urge to CD will come, sometimes it will come when I have the freedom to dress up (I am married) and sometimes it will come when it's next to impossible for me. This summer I truly thought would be my coming out as a CD but instead seemed to go the opposite direction. My wife was gone for a month and live in a reasonably TG friendly community (Albuquerque, NM) and yet despite having a weekly TG support group that meets only 5 blocks from here every Friday night became too afraid to go during my month by myself. I dressed up every day, semicloseted in my back yard and even walked around the block once as a woman, yet doing so didn't propel me to go out more or be more adventurous, instead it made me ask too many questions of why and took two steps back for every step forward. In addition to being able to come out at home while my wife was away I went on vacation to visit my mom (in Oregon) for almost 3 weeks. She knows about me (told her last year) and even brought a set of women's clothes as I was originally looking forward to dressing up each day, in front of my mom and perhaps even out in public (figuring I would meet some people online in Portland). I'm still trying to come to terms that with all the opportunities I had to dress up, with more freedom than ever before that I hardly felt like dressing up at all!! I was kind of frustrated because I had planned it for so long, had the clothing, time, freedom and support out there to do it yet oddly enough didn't feel like it all! Perhaps because it seemed like it wasn't going to be as arousing of an experience as I thought. Then I get back to Albuquerque last week, back to my wife and within a day after coming back become completely overexcited about dressing up again back when suddenly I can't do it (because of my own fears, marriage, etcc....)
What a weird life this is at times, what a difficult way to deal with things! Just writing my thoughts out loud. Anyone else feel like this?
One thing I have discovered is that I have no idea when the urge to CD will come, sometimes it will come when I have the freedom to dress up (I am married) and sometimes it will come when it's next to impossible for me. This summer I truly thought would be my coming out as a CD but instead seemed to go the opposite direction. My wife was gone for a month and live in a reasonably TG friendly community (Albuquerque, NM) and yet despite having a weekly TG support group that meets only 5 blocks from here every Friday night became too afraid to go during my month by myself. I dressed up every day, semicloseted in my back yard and even walked around the block once as a woman, yet doing so didn't propel me to go out more or be more adventurous, instead it made me ask too many questions of why and took two steps back for every step forward. In addition to being able to come out at home while my wife was away I went on vacation to visit my mom (in Oregon) for almost 3 weeks. She knows about me (told her last year) and even brought a set of women's clothes as I was originally looking forward to dressing up each day, in front of my mom and perhaps even out in public (figuring I would meet some people online in Portland). I'm still trying to come to terms that with all the opportunities I had to dress up, with more freedom than ever before that I hardly felt like dressing up at all!! I was kind of frustrated because I had planned it for so long, had the clothing, time, freedom and support out there to do it yet oddly enough didn't feel like it all! Perhaps because it seemed like it wasn't going to be as arousing of an experience as I thought. Then I get back to Albuquerque last week, back to my wife and within a day after coming back become completely overexcited about dressing up again back when suddenly I can't do it (because of my own fears, marriage, etcc....)
What a weird life this is at times, what a difficult way to deal with things! Just writing my thoughts out loud. Anyone else feel like this?