Hypothetical Situation

[valenstein]

You are going to wake up tomorrow with something erased from your individuality. You cannot choose what it will be, but you can protect three things. Your loved ones will stay the same, this is about you. The thing erased will be gone forever from your individuality and those who know you.

Would you protect your crossdressing, or would you hope it is the thing erased? I don't have my answer yet, so I'll post it when I do.

[docrobbysherry]

To be honest, I probably have personality traits that r worse than CDing. And those that I would LOVE to get rid of a lot more than CDing!

[janet p]

I would difently protect my CDing and hope that what would change is my shyness.:love:

[Alice B]

My CD'ing stays. It provides to much pleasure to give up.

[Sandra Dunn]

I'm not sure what I would want to erase. Like so many other girls I'd keep my Transgenderess and hope that whatever I choose, or is choosen for me to be erased, would benefit my Transgenderness.
HUG Sandra

[Sarah...]

All bits of your personality are like Yin and Yang - you need both parts. However sometimes you need more Yin than Yang (or vice versa I suppose). So I'd protect about a third of my current shyness, a third of my current risk aversiveness and all of my transgenderness.

So that's one and two thirds, so do I get another one and one third other bits of my personality to protect?

Is that cheating? Lol!!

Sarah...

[Darlene Dippy]

OMG do I crossdress surely not! Sorry excuse me I had a bad nights sleep, can't remember much about yesterday.:eek:

Darlene

[Jenny J]

CDing wouldn't be one of them. This world is just openning up to me and I'm loving it. God knows there's more that 3 things I'd like to erase so it might take awhile to decide.

Crossdressing stays!

[Jocelyn Quivers]

10 years ago I would have answered yes, today it's too much a part of who I am to ever consider getting rid of it.

[Alan]

I wouldn't give up being a TG, if I had a choice. Sometimes, I think it would be easier if I considered myself female, but I think of all the things I know now because I'm TG. I have first-hand experience about things that I wouldn't've even know about otherwise.

Besides, Ben and I got to know each other because we're both FTM, and giving up being a TG would mean that I never met him.... and my friendship with him means a lot to me.

[Joanne Curl]

I would probably give up cross dressing. It would be the only way I could stop it. I'm not proud of being a cross dresser, it's just part of who I am, like having blond hair and blue eyes. I can't change who or what I am and being a cross dresser isn't always easy.

Joanne

[charlie]

Hello Valenstein!
Yes, I would hope that my addiction to crossdressing would be the thing that is erased. As much as I enjoy going out dressed to the nines and feeling feminine, it sure would be an easier life if I could just stop. I could end sneaking around when at work (in state and out of state). I could just be a normal guy that was not upsetting society at all. I would not have to plan trips, shop all the time, check out fashions and spend so much money!
life would be easier and if done by your method, I would not miss it.

[Celeste]

Nice question,I do like doing this way to much to ever give it up and most of all I'd worry about what I would miss in the future.Yes dressing would be one of the things saved.

[Shelly67]

My CD'ing stays. It provides to much pleasure to give up.


Girls bang on 100 % !

[Veronica 1]

The dressing stays, get rid of some of my other bad habits.

[susan fuller]

It would not be my CDing but I do have a temper at times and would really like to get rid of that. I love CDing and would do it 24/7 if I could no doubt.

[PamelaTX]

I'm with you Susan. My temper is definitely what would go.

[Samantha43]

If I understand your question properly, I can't choose what is erased and can only protect three individuality traits.

Cross dressing would not be one that I protect. It is very important to me, but other parts of my individuality are more important.

[StacyCD]

Crossdressing is part of what makes me who I am (and I think for the better). Also, the time I spent thinking that there was something wrong with me for crossdressing (over twenty years) makes me who I am. However, I certainly think that I would be a happier person if I had come to accept my crossdressing sooner! I'd probably also have a nicer wardrobe.

[Jonelle]

body hair, adams apple, and my entire male wardrobe

[IMJenn]

I wouldn't protect it. If it stays and something else is chosen to be erased, I would still be content with myself. However, I realize my life would be easier if CDing were to be erased.

Honestly, I would rather have my losing-my-voice-while-speaking-to-a-crowd-of-more-then-3-people be erased. Or maybe my tendency to evesdrop. Or perhaps my constant lying.

Or my insecurity and regrets...

There's a lot worse to me then CDing

[Ásfríðr]

could i erase my y chromosome? :D

[Maureen]

I pray the crossdressing goes. It would make everything so much simpler.

[celeste26]

I would like to have erased one knee injury that I had while I was young and little else. The major influences in my life are from my parents and you said they couldn't be erased. The CDing can stay or not given the change in other things but it is all tied together and hard to know what caused what.

[Sarah Doepner]

Three things to protect is all? This is a difficult question and requires some self evaluation that I usually try to avoid. Please, let me be superficial! Okay! I would protect my nurturing/forgiving nature. I've always been the one to let the kids know they've screwed up and we still love them. There just isn't enough room in life to carry a grudge. I would protect my sense of humor, hell if I couldn't laugh at this strange world we inhabit it wouldn't be worth sticking around. I would also protect my loyality to friends and family. They all know they can depend on me to help in any way I can.

That would pretty well leave my desire to crossdress open along with my desire to explore and a willingness to take risks and any integrity I may have left. I'd like to be able to keep a confidence, but that may fall under loyality, so I might be safe there. But they could take procrastination (please take me! take me!), my fear of confrontations and the need to not stand up for myself. That list of things that could go away gets longer the more I think about it. Maybe I should stop now.

[Charlena]

I would erase the mood swings about my dressing and try to be the best person I can be. I finally found myself and don,t want to give it up.

[Andi]

I would protect 1) My christian devotion, 2) My ability to think and reason logically and 3) My transgender nature. Having said that there are probably other more important things to protect but the transgenderness stays. It's not a curse for me and in spite of the difficulties in living a stealth life I absolutely wouldn't, couldn't give it up. :battingeyelashes:

[rosepowder]

As much as I luv to xdress, I'd have to agree with Charlie. If I could make the desire go away I would.
I was born male and I wish I could embrace that 100%
Don't get me wrong though...I have no intentions to stop dressing... I luv wearing my pantyhose way too much!

[Claire3]

Cding Stays!

[valenstein]

Wow! These are great answers. I could have rephrased it this way or that way, but I did leave it a little open so I could get these answers. When the question popped into my head, my first thought was, would I give up liking pizza? over CDing? Yes. Then I started to think where on the scale of things would I rank it? So, to answer my own question:

I would protect my love of music.

I would not protect my crossdressing, but I would protect "my female side", the part of me that makes me see the world the way I do.

Someone else mentioned this, and I'm glad they did, or I might not have thought of it:

My sense of humor.

That's my answer. Thanks!

[yms]

This says it all! Well put.


To be honest, I probably have personality traits that r worse than CDing. And those that I would LOVE to get rid of a lot more than CDing!

[GINA-CD]

Three things to protect is all? This is a difficult question and requires some self evaluation that I usually try to avoid. Please, let me be superficial! Okay! I would protect my nurturing/forgiving nature. I've always been the one to let the kids know they've screwed up and we still love them. There just isn't enough room in life to carry a grudge. I would protect my sense of humor, hell if I couldn't laugh at this strange world we inhabit it wouldn't be worth sticking around. I would also protect my loyality to friends and family. They all know they can depend on me to help in any way I can.

That would pretty well leave my desire to crossdress open along with my desire to explore and a willingness to take risks and any integrity I may have left. I'd like to be able to keep a confidence, but that may fall under loyality, so I might be safe there. But they could take procrastination (please take me! take me!), my fear of confrontations and the need to not stand up for myself. That list of things that could go away gets longer the more I think about it. Maybe I should stop now.

That's what I think. I would protect really important and universal things such as honesty, loyalty and forgiving nature and leave the rest to chance. If my CDing stays, then I'll accept it as I've done it so far. If it goes away... I won't remember right?

[Melissa A.]

I'd protect my sense of humor and perspective, my patience with people, and all parts of my personaliy that confirm my female-ness. I'm going to need them. Giving up being a transexual wouldn't be an option, in this scenario. I believe that's a medical condition, and not a mental thing.

Hugs,

Melissa:)

[Sweet Cindy]

This is a good one, Ivy.

Like some have already mentioned, I think there are more important personality traits to protect than crossdressing. The ability to love, sensitivity, open-mindedness, sense of humor, empathy, ease of forgiveness, etc. etc.

And having CDing wiped from my mind would certainly make my life easier and less stressful.

Still, I bet I'd always feel like something was missing and go my whole life searching and never feeling fulfilled.

[Nicole Erin]

My 3 -
I would protect my CD'ing. It is very calming and I love Erin.
I would protect my ability to stay calm and cool. I don't lose it easily.
I would also protect my ability to be nostalgic. I love looking back and trying to re-live good things from my past.

My bad ones, take any of them. My constant assuming, my apathy, my taking everything as a big joke, my bad physical habits, maybe my obsession with how clean my car is....

[CD Susan]

I would most definately protect my crossdressing! I would not want to live any other way. I would hope my shyness would be the trait in me removed.