i'm haveing problems

[lea21]

hi there i'm a 21 year old guy but i wanted to be a girl all of my life i don't know what i should do ?

[Empress Lainie]

The first thing you need to do is find a transgender group near you that you attend weekly. From them you can find a tg therapist and if you need it get counseling. For me, I never felt I needed any counseling, I know who I am and have no problems with it, but it is a variable thing. You can also obtain the name of a physician knowledgable about hormone treatment for transpeople. You do not want to use therapists or doctors who don't have experience with transgendered people. They don't have a clue how to treat you.

If you are planning ultimately to get sexual reassignment surgery you must have two letters from psychiatric workers to get the surgery. We have to be more "normal" than most people. At your age I would expect that you want this.

It helps to have the support of a site like this one and the group meetings tremendously.

To get the surgery you also have to live 24/7 as a woman for one or two years. This includes changing your name to whatever female name you want to be known by. Or you can choose an androgenous name if you prefer. It costs about 200 to 300 to change your name if you do the work yourself, it is not hard.

You can see from this site and the group you join what you have to face in the world as a transexual person.

It is sad, but some of us due to circumstances can never have srs or live 24/7 as women. Again your age is in your favor, no wife, no kids to contend with accepting your change.

Not a lengthy in depth answer but hopehttp://doctorbushong.com/ it helps you. Feel free to PM me or email me at [email protected].

One other thing you need to do is go to this site http://doctorbushong.com/ and
read the entire treatise on transgender care. It answered a lot of questions for me and I felt he could have been writing about me.


EMPRESS LAINIE

[GypsyKaren]

Let's keep the horse in front of the cart for now, just ask questions here and tell us how this has come about.

Karen Starlene :star:

[bijust4funjax1]

im in the same boat with ya, i have always had a part of me that wants to be a girl. in the way i act, look, speak even sex, i always wanted to be like a girl. some thing i have done so far have somewhat satisfied me, but now i want to become more of a women.

good luck with your problem

[Sharon]

I agree with Karen -- don't feel you have to jump feet first into the great unknown. Start by telling us about yourself and ask whatever it is you want to know. There are many of us here who were once where you are now, and are happy to share our experiences and advice.

[Kimberley]

Karen and Sharon both have it right in my opinion. There is not enough information here in your post to even begin to point you in the right direction and that is the key; the RIGHT direction.

Feeling you want to be a girl is not the same as being a girl. You identified yourself as a guy which sends up a red flag for me.

There are a lot of heartaches on this path and finding the right support system both virtual and in real life is critical to your mental and physical well being. You need understanding friends and a supportive medical community including a therapist.

You need to find out where you fit in for yourself, not to the standards of others and that can be a long and painful journey. Only then can you start to make decisions about your future.

I would suggest you do a lot of reading and ask a lot of questions here before running off on a tangent that you may not be prepared for. This isnt an easy process or even life before, during or after transition. That is why the medical safeguards are in place.

:hugs:
Kimberley

[thatgirl]

im also a 21 yr old wanting to be a girl, the only you can do is first see a gender theraptis, and really think this over. i have been in see one and currently undergoing laser hair removal, and soon be starting hormone.

[carolinoakland]

I'm late in life MTF and the dance steps are the same. First. seek a Qualified Gender Therapist. There are steps to doing this right, The hair removal is another good first step, I'm still doing baby steps myself. The other thing is to spend more time presenting in your new gender role. Not just going to clubs and stuff. Real world, shopping, eating out. For me dressing isn't about fetish, or performance. It's identity. And well, also the younger the better with the horemones. Good luck, we're here for you. Carol

[morgan pure]

Lea,
Start your hormones immediately. And use androgen blockers. get them from Mexico. Every day that you do not you are making man muscles, building masculine bone structure and toughening your skin. Look for a supportive shrink, and start the process. Start saving your money for the operation, if you're going to go all the way. But if you are serious, and I wish I'd known it was possible when I was 21, start as soon as you can.
The best is to start in your teens.
Morgan

[deja true]

Hey...hey...hey...slow down y'all!

Karen and Sharon and Kimberly are all giving out the most sensible advice....

It's not up to anyone to tell someone after their first one sentence post that they have to do this or they have to do that...

All they HAVE to do is start thinking for themselves, not buyng hormones and getting prices for SRS. this very minute.

For cripes sakes! Some of ya sound like high pressure used car salesmen!

This is a life changing decision...and you didn't make it on the advice of someone you didn't know and never met...

Calm yourself, Lea, and ask questions, do some reading here and LOTS of other places...

and for gosh sakes, speak to and question your inner self first.

We welcome you, dear one...

respect & love,

deja

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