Asking a real girl for a date while dressed en femme

[Michelly]

My question is to all you CD's out there, how many of you have been out and dressed en femme and asked a gg to hook up with you? I have and been successful on a couple of occations. Once fully dressed as Michelly and other times just wearing nylons and acrylic nails.

[Angie G]

I don't think my wife would go for thet. :hugs:
Angie

[Cathytg]

Can't say that I have ever done that.

Really!! "just wearing nylons and acrylic nails"

[amy canada]

If we're all dressed up and we ask a girl out for a date, does that mean that she might be into girls as well? I'm guessing that would be great, since it might be a three-some or more-some later on, if you're into that sort of thing. :heehee:

[KateSpade83]

My question is to all you CD's out there, how many of you have been out and dressed en femme and asked a gg to hook up with you? I have and been successful on a couple of occations. Once fully dressed as Michelly and other times just wearing nylons and acrylic nails.

I've never tried this. Give us more details of your experience!

[marie354]

As I've come out full time, I have remained celebit. (Is that spelled right?) I'm not thinking of dating either way.
Although, as of this time, I'd still prefer to be with a woman.
Guess that makes me a "pseudo-lesbian"? (Hehe!)

[meg_dc_00]

I've gone out on several dates with gg girls I've met while en femme. Unfortunately, none of these turned out to be long term relationships, but maybe one day it will... ;)

[Sandra Dunn]

Since I'm married I do not go out looking foranyone to date. I have been out and some girls have asked me to dance with them, which I did. One girl I danced with kept getting really close, I think she was trying to figure me out. Thankfully about tucking and wearing clothes that accent my figure, she never did figure me out.
HUGS Snadra

[Genifer Teal]

A short while back on one of my train trips to the city I met a great woman. She sat with me the who ride and asked me to join her for a drink. Unfortunately her friend she met up with needed to talk about a serious problem and needed my new friend all to herself. We exchanged numbers and chatted once on the phone. Then we lost touch for a while.

Well, tuesday I (genifer) was invited to a benefit event in the city. I remembered this is a day she is available (kids with ex). I texted her and she called back right away. I told her about the event. She will go with me. When she asked what I was wearing I explained they invited Genifer. Great, she said. She has an outfit she was waiting for just the right occasion to wear.

Sounds like it will be fun. The side story to this is that I was randomly invited by the woman running the benefit. There were a few tickets purchased by senior memebers who are not attending. She invited me on Myspace becase I seemed interesting and would be fun to have at the party. Free cocktails and horderves (sp?), I'll drink to that!

Gen

[docrobbysherry]

But this is an interesting subject! Keep it going!

[Glenda]

Good for you Genifer! Good for all of us!

I have been asked out while dressed en femme on numerous occasions. Mainly because women like someone who is open and fun. A lot of my female friends love to go dance and prefer the lesbian bars because they don't get hit on all night long. Girls just want to have fun. Sometimes without the leachorus male stalking them.

The more people we come in contact with, the more people we find who will accept us for the person we are inside. Regardless of what we wear.

[PamelaTX]

I find this whole idea mind-boggling!

Of course, I would never consider dating anyone other than my wife of 30+ years, but the idea of starting a relationship where you can be yourself right off the bat without hiding anything -- that just sounds really beautiful!

I'm dying to hear more!

[boy2girl31]

Well since I started doing the drag show here I have been asked out by a few girls. I have yet to have one ask who was not drunk which is why I haven't gone out with them but if I find a sober one sure why not?

[Nicki B]

..other times just wearing nylons and acrylic nails.

Surely not a good look with goose pimples? :eek:


I find this whole idea mind-boggling!

Why? It's not hard to find yourself being chatted up by girls, IME.. Often they find the whole idea fascinating?

[Shelby]

A few years ago, I participated in an improve murder mystery show at a restuarant. I was in full drag and to some people, apparently convincing even though I only see a guy dressed as a woman (refer to my pic posted here). Anyways, this old classmate that I had gone to school with since Kindergarten worked at this place. At first she didn't recognize me, but thought she knew Shelby from someplace. When she was informed, she rushed over to me and was OMG. She was all smiles at me all night long.

Afterward, we (the cast finally got to eat), but my food came before I could change so I was still in costume. Too many women wanting to touch my breasts and talk to me. So while I'm eating, I'm visiting with this old classmate, catching up on time (it had been 12 years since graduation).

A week later, I returned to see her at work and asked if she would like to go out and she said yes. I got her number and she even was making hand contact, and the eyes giving the cute laugh. However, when I tried to make those plans she never returned my calls. I saw her a year later, but never asked her why she didn't return my calls. Still, she said yes after seeing me as a woman - not bad. I have a great pic of us together from that night even though it is a pic of Beauty and the Beast.

[Michelly]

You see gurls, by all these comments it proves that you don’t have to live with the fear of getting caught wearing women’s clothes indoors and lurking in the closet. Just get the hole outfit, look pretty as you can with some class go out and meet people, because it’s an exciting adventure you don’t have to pass as a GG.

If your gonna dress do it fully and in good taste, that way when others realize that you are a man they don’t find you and judge you as some kind of panty freak… and yes we are all panty freaks but so what.

Who knows you might even hook-up with the Gorgeous GG’s. That’s why I suggest you get out there. Once you overcome the fear factor you automatically start building confidence. This doesn’t mean that you have to go everywhere just make a plan, and be selective about where you expose your femme self. Most of the time people are just too busy with their own lives to take notice.

I on the other hand am looking for some exposure, so I will step out in one of those nice bright colored dresses that shows some legs and nice high heels or something that conveys a little sex appeal I find it fun when I can walk buy and other people turn their heads to grab a quick look of admiration. I am not suggesting that everyone try this and I don’t feel that I really pass ether.

As far as some of the other comments; while out in just nails and nylons, one girl was older that me and just didn’t see my nylon leg’s I guess she was blind as a bat, and cutting my hair to boot…Scary huh!!!

Another girl was doing my nails and I asked her out to dinner and she excepted. She still had a hard time out with a guy with black French tip nails on my hands and feet. You just don’t know…

Everyone should come out of the closet at their own speed, and with knowledge…Knowledge is Power!!! Get the facts, read books, make a plan, and use baby steps. It’s a exciting adventure!!!

[CharleneT]

I was recently out (dressed) with some gals from our local Tri-Ess group and met a woman at dinner. She came along with her brother for fun - just to get out for while. We hit it off quickly and I gave her a ride home (person she came with had a few too many to drive). We have been going out ever since. She is coming down to visit me tomorrow (I'm making dinner and then a movie). Said she is bringing some dresses for me to try on - if they fit and I like 'em, then I guess their mine :) I highly recommend meeting women when dressed, takes care of the whole subject right off. I think that many women are not bothered that much by CD's, definitely not like the men... so, if they find you interesting, they might just accept it. Just for the record, although she will go out with me when I'm dressed, we do have to choose a bit carefully in her town. She is concerned about what her employer would think, worried she could have trouble with him.

Charlene

[Tracii G]

This is a great topic keep it going so much to learn from people's experiences.
The girl that does my hair is a good example.
The first time I got my hair cut there I was dressed in the male mode and feeling I needed a new style.I asked what can I do with this mop.She got some books out and we looked for about 15 min and she pointed out this one picture and said you know this is a nice cut it fits your facial features quite well.I asked don't you think its a little too girly she said no not really you have a nice face and your features are very feminine for a guy.
So thats the cut I've been getting for some time now.
When I come in she's the only one that cuts it.She and I have had some long talks and she knows all about me.
We do go on dates from time to time and have had some nice kisses.Her brother thinks she's nuts.
I dress more feminine when I go in there now but not what you would call full femme.
But sure I would ask if in full femme mode for a date it makes life interesting.

[Genifer Teal]

Good for you Genifer! Good for all of us!

A lot of my female friends love to go dance and prefer the lesbian bars because they don't get hit on all night long.

Thanks!

I thought women get hit on less at gay bars. Isn't a lez bar for women who like women?


Gen

[Amy Hepker]

As most of you know, I am out at work now, well just this past week, I had a Lady talk to me that never would have before. She has noticed that I have blossomed and is talking to me like I never would have imagined. She is talking to me about me being brave enough to be myself, my inside self. Her saying this leads me to think that she knows more about CDers than I would have ever guessed. Anyway right now, we are just talking like good friends, but maybe someday.

[Empress Lainie]

I have both men and women dance with me. None of the guys know I am trans, but many of the women do and talk to me about it while we are dancing. I have had two girls (they are like 20+) act like they were in love with me. I am 24/7 woman.

[vivianann]

I get asked out quite abit by beautiful GG's while I am dressed as Vivian, and I have asked women out when I was crossdressed, most of the GG's say yes, however when the time arrives for the date, the GG's change their mind about going out with a crossdresser, even the ones who asked me out.:sad:

[marny]

Been approached by two girls. Asked if I WOULD LIKE TO DO A THREESOME WITH MY WIFE OR ANOTHER GIRL. / :tongueout :D NEVER TOOK IT UP:doh:

[Krystalyn]

I've had a CD'er flirt with me really bad in front of my Monica. At first it was cute, then she just kept on and I was like ok its not cute anymore. When we are out I see other Cd'ers looking at me. But I am very happy with my Monica. :love:

I think it's wrong of the gg's to say ok to a date and have you ladies sitting there and she change her mind or don't even call. Thats not right. Had it be me, I would've called them back and say why did you say you'd go out with me then?

[Sally2005]

I'm married and devoted to her, so no go on hookingup, but if I think back to the times I've interacted with people while fully dressed, I can't think of a single really negative from females, on the contrary, they seem to be either turned on by it or want to talk to you a lot. If I was to do life over again, going out in drag to meet girls might just be a great idea.

[Emily Faye]

Please tell us more - how did the gg react?

[erica12b]

i have not gone out dressed but i do use my ,my space. cd page to talk and meet gg's one i dated (did not work out)and still call friend,(we are going shopping this month.)

[lottarosie70]

shelby, i think you look lovely in that picture.

[deja true]

I like the idea of being chatted up by women while dressed, but so far the stories of being stood up are a little sad. :(

Is it possible that women are attracted to the CD you for the same reason that women often willingly make friends with gay men? They see them as potential non-threatening friends especialy for those occasions when they may need an escort or a shoulder to cry on but don't want the entanglements of a relationship?

It's definitely worth a try, though, IMO. And I wouldn't mind any kind of a relationship, platonic or otherwise, that started this way. After all, women that one would find in a venue that included CD's are obviously not going to be the disapproving, tight-a$$ types that we wouldn't want to know anyway, right? :D

[valenstein]

My best experiences have been out clubbing on girls night at gay bars. It's usually a lot of lesbians, some bi girls and a few straight friends. 1) The really tall GG's chat me up because we both have to hunt all over for clothes that fit and they're happy they're not the tallest gal there;) 2) No creepy guys However, the line at the ladies room is insane!

Back when my hair was down past my boobs, I was shopping in drab with my SO at Target and this absolute knockout GG walked by and said, "I love your hair sweetie". Boy, was my gf jealous, but I was thrilled!

[KATIE TV]

I find this whole idea mind-boggling!

Of course, I would never consider dating anyone other than my wife of 30+ years, but the idea of starting a relationship where you can be yourself right off the bat without hiding anything -- that just sounds really beautiful!

I'm dying to hear more!
I was not dressed when I first met my partner 2&1/2 years ago (on a sort of blind date)but she knew about my dressing as we had talked on the phone, She met "Katie" about a week later and love'd her, the rest as they say is history.

[Dalece]

I've haven't asked A GG out, but have and gone out with GG friends that have invited me to go out with them dressed as Dalece. You know a real girls night out and have had a great time.

[rickie121x]

... but the idea of starting a relationship where you can be yourself right off the bat without hiding anything -- that just sounds really beautiful! ...I'm dying to hear more! In the last ten years, I have only dated women whom I have met when I was "dressed". All have worked out well, and I am still friends with them all. Unfortunately, as with most dating partners, none of these have worked out into long term relationships - although one was for four years, which ain't bad!

As many have implied in this thread, it is truly wonderful to have opened an acquaintance in such a way as to have, probably, our most important secret clearly exposed, and to able to move forward in a very much more honest life style than in a conventional relationship. However when I am dressed, I go out almost exclusively to BDSM environs, where almost everyone is more accepting than in an everyday situation.

Bottom line: I really enjoy workin the "hookup" trail with GG's when I am dressed. The potential of a real relationship - for me - is much higher. It has worked out quite well!

Rickie :daydreaming:

[KathrynTX]

One time I exchanged phone numbers with a GG while shopping for heels at Electrique Boutique. Nothing came of it though, but it all worked out in the end (7 months now in my current relationship. :D )

[Krystalyn]

One time I exchanged phone numbers with a GG while shopping for heels at Electrique Boutique. Nothing came of it though, but it all worked out in the end (7 months now in my current relationship. :D )

Way to go Kathryn! :hugs: