Why Go Out?

[Cathytg]

Like most of you, I crave opportunities to go out dressed. I'll bet that you do, too.

Why is it so important for you to go out? Why is that so much better than staying in the house?

For my part, I get a thrill when I go out to a mall or whatever. I feel validated because I can do something so ordinary. I am not trying to fool anyone or trying to flaunt anything. I simply like to think that I can move with the rest of society. In some respects it doesn't even matter if I am made or not. I just want to be able to feel that I am OK. It is a huge release for me.

But, what is your motivation?

[Eileen]

Cathy going out is a natural thing for a girl to do. Girls go out to shop, eat and so much more every day. Like you, I just feel like going out is a natural part of life. Staying home would be so unnatural.

Eileen

[tamarav]

Because we are such social animals, we want to share our experiences and appearance with others. We seek validation of our demeanor and want to discuss all sorts of things (mostly femme stuff) with others.

I go out because I love to talk to others and be seen.

Your sis,

Tami

[Bev06 GG]

Hi Cathy,
I guess cos its what women like to do. No point in getting all dressed up with nowhere to go. Thats like putting a bunch of beautiful flowers in the attic where no one can see or appreciate them.
Take care
Bev

[Jonianne]

Hi Cathy,


I feel validated because I can do something so ordinary. I am not trying to fool anyone or trying to flaunt anything. I simply like to think that I can move with the rest of society. In some respects it doesn't even matter if I am made or not. I just want to be able to feel that I am OK.

I think you summed it up pretty well for me.

[Cathytg]

Eileen,, I guess that is my point - if I had one - ging out is simply so natural and normal. I have spent almost all my life in the closet hidden under shame and embarassment and to go out means I am in thew world and that there is no shame or embarassment any longer.

[Nicki B]

One of the gender differences so often quoted is the need to socialise and network...

But isn't it for us also about validation, i.e. being treated as the person you wish to be seen as?

[Niya W]

'd say why stay home. If I'm going to take the time to look pretty I'm going out.

[emmicd]

I have not had the opportunity to go out fully dressed recently. Years ago before I got married I went out fully dressed 3 times.

I went to the mall once which felt good.

I went to a support group meeting in CT which was a learning experience,

and I went to my therapist's office fully dressed once.

I have not gone out since I married.

I feel going out fully dressed is an attempt to see the world in a way we don't so often. I enjoy wearing womens clothes and like when I can wear them and what better way then to go out and be seen.

I feel I am trying to reach out and understand myself by dressing.

If only I could dress in public in the clothes of my choice.

I'm not sure when we will be able to freely dress and not be ridiculed for being our natural selves.

I have cried myself to sleep many times wishing tommorrow would be the day I am liberated and could wear a dress in front of family and friends.

That day has not come yet!

I want to be a flower!

emmi

[docrobbysherry]

Uh, I don't go out. I don't understand the need to. Unless u can pass, why take a chance?

[Alice B]

I know for myself and I think for many others there is the adrlene rush of going out with the risk of being caught, or at least perceived that we have been caught. Even venturing out into your yard, going for a drive or going to the street in front of your house offers a risk/reward element. Scared before you do it and thrilled once you do it. Those that freely go out and about do not necessarly get this rush, but I'm sure at some past point they did.

[Genifer Teal]

Because we are such social animals, we want to share our experiences and appearance with others. We seek validation of our demeanor and want to discuss all sorts of things (mostly femme stuff) with others.

I go out because I love to talk to others and be seen.

Your sis,

Tami


Similar to how I feel. I love the attention I get when I go out. As my male half, I don't talk to as many people or get any special attention or treatement. As my tag line says, "Life is more fun in heels" not "Life is more fun indoors". Why spend it any other way?


Gen

[charlie]

I take so much time getting all made up it just seems natural to go out and meet other people, see friends and yes I admit it, get compliments. I may be a man in a dress, but I love to get positive comments and chat with others. Prancing around just makes me feel more like a girl.

[just-me]

i dont feel the need to go out .its for me and me only

[carhill2mn]

I have several reasons why I like to go out. If I am "looking good" I want to have others see me; I enjoy the feeling of my skirt brushing my legs when a breeze blows; I enjoy hearing my heels on the sidewalk or mall floor; I enjoy being treated as a lady; I enjoy acting like a lady; I enjoy the giving and receiving of smiles (which rarely happens to me when drab).
In summary - I like it!

[Samantha43]

I went out a few times several years ago and was never comfortable. It wasn't as much fun as I thought it would be. I am happy being in the closet.

[KateSpade83]

I only go out in drag to shop for womens clothes so I try try them on for looks and size and avoid returns and exchanges. But I've gone to church in drag because I had to do shopping later. I pass about 95% to 98% of the time.

[LilSissyStevie]

I don't even go out in drab unless I have to. Once I retire in the next year or so, I don't intend to ever leave the farm outside of an ambulance. I don't "get" the whole "going out" thing, but I don't give it a lot of thought either.

[crusadergirl]

Its scary to go out in the world dressed so why do it. Ok back to being serious if i can. Its something i like to do and it better then just staying in your room or closet all day. I"m not trying to pass so thats not why i go out.

[Sallee]

Great Question. Short answer it is a great buzz Longer Answer I don't know it is just fun Why do people like skiing or driving cars really fast on race tracks. I guess it is just a thrill. I guess I am kind of lucky I can get such cheap thrills that are relatively harmless.

[windycissy]

Because I can!

[Sophia de la luz]

dressing up is lots of fun. being seen is fun too. it seems to expand the quality of real.
the challenge is fun too. the risk is a factor.
lately I've been wearing stuff that would be rated as androgynous but are clothes made for women. dressing up in dresses makes me want to be the star of the show.

I've driving on a long trip tomorrow and seeing friends (and friends of friends) for dinner in a restaurant. I will be dressed in tights, a skirt, and a beautiful marroon top. I'll be shopping at a food store and buying gas as well.

I'm doing because it feels thrilling. At first I felt safer going out at night. But after a run in with a drunk (who thought I was a woman), I'm finding my way in the day.

Sophia

[bimini1]

I went out a few times several years ago and was never comfortable. It wasn't as much fun as I thought it would be. I am happy being in the closet.




I did the same thing several years ago. Could never quite calm my nerves long enough to really enjoy the experience. Finally calmed down long enough focus on what I was feeling and it was euphoric. But that quickly vanished when I saw some people looking at me funny. I just could not get past that.

But it was an amazing feeling to be outside and I might do it again but it can be nerve-racking and there is too much risk involved vs. the payoff right now. I wish I could just be satisfied in the closet and not give it another thought but I do want to do it. Too risky.

[Karren H]

Because I can't shop at home!!! :):):)

[vivianann]

I go out because I am comfortable wearing a dress, and appearing as a woman in public, it feels so natural and liberating. I enjoy the positive reaction from peaple I encounter especially the GG's. I am happiest when I am dressed like a woman.

[paulaluvssz8]

Thrill factor..... That is why I do most of what I do...